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randella
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
Posted by 3monkeys
Have you heard of The Moms Club ? its an international organization with many chapters all over, and I think Jersey is a very popular state for this club.
here's some more info. all the ladies Ive met through the moms club have been wonderful and down to earth.
thanks- I will check this out.
the local hospital here runs a moms group-- and most people in town go. There is a meetup.com group for local moms and I even started a group from that, with moms of babies of similar age with Sasha. Then there is this other thing-- BabyBites and they have events also, but didn't have any recently.
I guess I only started venturing out really, 5 weeks ago-- so, it's a little early to have any new BFFs.
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
Posted by mrsgafforio
I don't even have the courage to go to any mom groups!! How pathetic is that!!
Me too! I feel like no one ever likes me 
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MrsRbk
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
Randi - I feel the same way...I take Samantha to Music Together and there are only 4 other moms in the class with us, and two seem to have already known eachother, and the other two moms are also very friendly. The babies in the group are all older than Samantha, so I assume that's part of it (the other babies are 5-7 months). I'm much to shy though to strike up conversations which doesn't help.
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sunflowerjesss
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
I think we have all been there at one point or another.
I knew when I became a SAHM I needed to put myself out there. Gratefully an old High School friend reached out to me on myspace when she saw I was preggo. I joined a meetup mom's group she was in and that got me out of the house.
Then, my fellow preggo LIFers had their DC and that started a whole new circle for Ryan and I.
I am not sure where you live. But, if you ever want to hang out, drop an FM! 
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TLC1018
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
I don't go to any groups yet, but I have heard they can be a little rough if you don't know anyone. I give you credit for going!
Most of my mommy friends are friends I have had that have kids around Ashley's age...
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Katie111806
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
How about if you click with someone in a group you initiate doing something one-on-one? A girl did this with me (her DS is the same exact age as mine) and I'm so glad she did! We've been getting together often, and have found two other moms that also have same-age DS'.
This sounds silly...but if you have facebook and find out someone else does in one of your groups, send them a friend request. It definitely helps to get to know someone when you can comment on their pics and send them a hug or something if they are having a tough day. I've gotten to know quite a few of the moms in my meetup.com group this way.
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
Posted by randella
Posted by 3monkeys
Have you heard of The Moms Club ? its an international organization with many chapters all over, and I think Jersey is a very popular state for this club.
here's some more info. all the ladies Ive met through the moms club have been wonderful and down to earth.
thanks- I will check this out.
the local hospital here runs a moms group-- and most people in town go. There is a meetup.com group for local moms and I even started a group from that, with moms of babies of similar age with Sasha. Then there is this other thing-- BabyBites and they have events also, but didn't have any recently.
I guess I only started venturing out really, 5 weeks ago-- so, it's a little early to have any new BFFs.
Definitely check it out. I am now president of my local chapter (in Ga). I moved here with no friends or family. MOMS Club has been wonderful for my family and I. We have made friends with so many people and everyone in your chpater will be within 10 minutes of you. Good Luck. MOMS Club stands for moms offering moms support. There is a monthly calendar of events, etc. I sound like a freak now but this club saved me when I moved away from everything and everyone I knew.
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
Posted by dani731
Posted by mrsgafforio
I don't even have the courage to go to any mom groups!! How pathetic is that!!
same here.... I am even afraid to go to LIF GTGs because I am too shy & think no one would talk to me
Ive been to a couple of LIF Gtgs and Im so shy that I freeze up.. I get so scared that I dont even introduce myself and just stand there. Noone one can be more pathetic than me.. 
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Tine73
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
I work full time, so trying to meet anyone is close to impossible! And then I come on here and see all the cute GTG pics and I get so sad bc I wish I was there! 
Have you looked for any locla groups through meetup.com? I went to a few when I was on maternity leave and the girls were very nice.
Are you a SAHM or are you going back to work?
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shapla79
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
I have still yet to make a lot of mom friends. Between grad school, work, and taking care of DS I feel like I have little time to myself...let alone time to make new friends! My mail lady was actually the one who introduced me to my first mom friend. As much as DS and I like hanging out with her and her DD, our schedules never seem to match up. It took us both running into each other at the pediatrician's office to set up a playdate at the playground after both of the kids' appointments. I'll admit I'm a little envious of all the mom friends and kids I see spending time together. I guess my time will come at some point!
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2BEANS
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
Posted by Tine73
Have you looked for any locla groups through meetup.com? I went to a few when I was on maternity leave and the girls were very nice.
How is the meetup.com? I signed up and looked up groups.. and read a few stated something like "we meet you and then decide from there if we will ask you to be apart of our group" I dont remember the exact words but thats along the lines of what they were saying.. talk about a blow to the ego if you didnt get that asked to join.
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DomesticDeeva
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
Posted by dani731
Posted by mrsgafforio
I don't even have the courage to go to any mom groups!! How pathetic is that!!
same here.... I am even afraid to go to LIF GTGs because I am too shy & think no one would talk to me
Ditto to both lol
I found a local group on meetup.com, but I'm scared to go. They seem very established, and I don't want to be the outsider. 
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randella
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
Posted by Tine73
I work full time, so trying to meet anyone is close to impossible! And then I come on here and see all the cute GTG pics and I get so sad bc I wish I was there!
Have you looked for any locla groups through meetup.com? I went to a few when I was on maternity leave and the girls were very nice.
Are you a SAHM or are you going back to work?
yeah-- I started a newborn group with the local mom group on there, and I have met some nice girls. Everyone who comes doesn't know anyone else, so the playing field was level.
I am just impatient!!
oh, and I am taking the year off.
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Tine73
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
Posted by 2BEANS
Posted by Tine73
Have you looked for any locla groups through meetup.com? I went to a few when I was on maternity leave and the girls were very nice.
How is the meetup.com? I signed up and looked up groups.. and read a few stated something like "we meet you and then decide from there if we will ask you to be apart of our group" I dont remember the exact words but thats along the lines of what they were saying.. talk about a blow to the ego if you didnt get that asked to join.
I joined the Long Island Working Parent Group back in '07. I do remember the signup being somewhat obnoxious but I did it anyway. I only went to 2 outings and then I fizzled out. The girls were very nice for the most part but my DD was the youngest, so arranging playdates with them would not have made sense at the time.
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Ladybug3
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
Not pathetic at all!!! Most of my friends are not married and NONE with kids so it is really hard for me. I also wish that I could meet some mom friends. I have nobody to hang out with during the week. Hopefully as DS gets a bit older and we start taking more classes I will meet people....
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sugar-magnolia
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
Posted by randella
Posted by headoverheels
i've never gone to a mom group. all of my mommy friends, except for one, i met on LIF! we were pregnant together and it just blossomed from there.
where do you live? i know of lots of lovely women who would like to get to know you!
and i promise we don't bite
if I lived on LI, it would be easier of course! I live in Hoboken. Most of my friends are in Brooklyn or Manhattan-- so, I don't have any friends up the block here either. I barely know anyone in my town!
I understand completely. I moved to Westchester in Nov. DS is older and I am due w/ DD in early Sept. We joined the golf club, so hopefully sitting by the pool I'll meet a few people. I was going to prenatal yoga and had to stop b/c of placenta previa before I got to really know anyone.
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lbelle821
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
I am really not good at making new friends at all.
I can spark up small talk at the park or with the other daycare mothers but never have the courage to take it any further than that.
My only mommy friends in NJ are 5 girls that i met on LIF. But it took all the courage I could muster up to go to that first GTG and I'm so glad I did.
Come hang with us!
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msangel
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
i would love to do lif groups but i am from the north shore and i feel that all the gtg are so far out east from me. I wonder if there are any moms from north nassau area, that would like to meet up for play dates
It is hard meeting other mom's for example, i went out to the play ground today were there were about 3 other mom's and they were all having a conversation, i felt so left out...i did not want to be like "excuse me can i join your conversation". I felt a little like an idiot. but what has kind of worked for me is when i joined the local lib. and they have a mommy and me story time, which only lasts 3 sessions, and actually another woman reached out to me and initiated conversation later another woman joined and we all figured out that we live couple streets down from eachother, i exchanged numbers with them and called one this morning to see if she wants to meet up at the park she said she had to work today, but maybe another time. so we will see. but the whole process does feel a little high schoolish. when i am in a coversation with someone i try to include other moms who are just sitting there, cause i know how it feels.
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PennyCat
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
Sorry to crash but I happened to stumble across your post, and I can identify with you SO much!
I am not a parent yet, though I hope to become one soon! I just can REALLY identify with the way you described yourself and the experiences you're having with these mom groups. Like you, I consider myself outgoing, cool, funny, but when I am surrounded by a group of girls who seem to already know each other, I become so shy!
I completely know what you mean when you say it's like HS again. Only, for me, I have had experiences like that in HS, college, and even at my current job! I teach and all of the teachers on my grade are split into 2 cliques, and it's so hard to feel like a part of the group.
The point of this post, even though I don't have children yet, is just to say that you are not alone in feeling a little "left out" in these groups. It seems like you are really trying to put yourself out there, so I give you lots of credit! I hope you are able to find the mom group you are looking for! 
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
Posted by randella
I have been going to a variety of local mom groups, etc. and I always talk to people-- but, it never really gets to the next level. It seems like people at all these things are making friends, but no one wants to be my friend!
When I feel comfortable, I am totally outgoing, etc. But, inherently, I am a shy person and I have a hard time putting myself out there. I am fine one on one, but when there are a few other girls who seem like they are friends or cliquey, I just kinda feel like I need to wait for an invitation.
How do other people do it? I am starting to get a complex here!
OMG you put it perfectly . if I didn't know any better I would think I wrote it. ,lol
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junebride06
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
You are not alone, I agree it's hard to meet other moms to be friends with. It's almost like you feel like you are dating again right but this time for moms. DS is 6 months and we haven't joined any groups yet. Hearing how cliquey they seem to be I probably won't be joining one. I'm going to look into classes at my church and library. I'm the 1st out of my friends to have a baby so it's hard, I wish they would hurry up already and join me!!!
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MrsRbk
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
Posted by randella
Posted by 3monkeys
Have you heard of The Moms Club ? its an international organization with many chapters all over, and I think Jersey is a very popular state for this club.
here's some more info. all the ladies Ive met through the moms club have been wonderful and down to earth.
thanks- I will check this out.
the local hospital here runs a moms group-- and most people in town go. There is a meetup.com group for local moms and I even started a group from that, with moms of babies of similar age with Sasha. Then there is this other thing-- BabyBites and they have events also, but didn't have any recently.
I guess I only started venturing out really, 5 weeks ago-- so, it's a little early to have any new BFFs.
I've checked into The MOMS groups, unfortunately there is nothing in our parts of NJ, they seem to only have groups in Central and South Jersey.
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Ambersmom
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
I've been having this issue lately too. I wish I had an easy answer for you. I'm hoping that with her transiition to Kindergarten, she'll make new friends. I know at orientation, I ran into a little girl/Mom who she met while we were at Kohl's. I was sure to ask for the Mom's name/#. I'll see if I can arrange some playdates, etc. I know that a bunch of wonderful Mom's have reached out to me recently as well and I'll be in touch with them after the month settles down (two showers, a bachelorette party and two weddings is keeping me busy).
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Kotka
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
Posted by randella
I have been going to a variety of local mom groups, etc. and I always talk to people-- but, it never really gets to the next level. It seems like people at all these things are making friends, but no one wants to be my friend!
When I feel comfortable, I am totally outgoing, etc. But, inherently, I am a shy person and I have a hard time putting myself out there. I am fine one on one, but when there are a few other girls who seem like they are friends or cliquey, I just kinda feel like I need to wait for an invitation.
How do other people do it? I am starting to get a complex here!
SAME HERE!! I go to the Mommy and Me classes or to LIF GTGs and try to talk to some moms but I am shy, don't know what to talk about other than DS. Always wonder how these moms become such good friends and hang out outside of the groups, etc. I keep trying and hope I'll be able to click with someone.
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DmarieK
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Re: How do you make mom friends? Kinda pathetic question.
I have 4 close girlfriends. All but 1 have kids but they also work fulltime so I am still left alone during the week.
I try to get to as many GTG's on here as I can...for myself and Rylan. I also joined a meetup group and so far went on 2 playdates. I am unbelievably shy so it's hard but I force myself to do it...lol.
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