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chelle
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Posted by karacg
I honestly want to say
"Oh get over it!"
but I know I will get flamed for it.... but honestly, -- it's valentine's day, a day for lovers, not for grandchildren/grandparents...
My thoughts exactly
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yankinmanc
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Nah, its not such a big deal really. Valentines day is for lovers, so in my opinion its not necessarily appropriate for grandparents to be sending cards. Also, its a much bigger deal in the states than it is in the UK...
Let it slide, I would say be more upset if they forgot a birthday.
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| Posted 2/14/09 2:38 PM |
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missrock
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Everyone has to understand that Gemma is having a rough time right now and maybe she is feeling hurt becuase of the rough time she is having.
While I understand everyone's point that its just Valentine's Day, I just feel as though people are being a big rough on her.
Im sorry you feel hurt Gemma!!!!
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| Posted 2/14/09 5:40 PM |
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Posted by karacg
I honestly want to say
"Oh get over it!"
but I know I will get flamed for it.... but honestly, -- it's valentine's day, a day for lovers, not for grandchildren/grandparents...
I agree.
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Alex110879
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Posted by karacg
I honestly want to say
"Oh get over it!"
but I know I will get flamed for it.... but honestly, -- it's valentine's day, a day for lovers, not for grandchildren/grandparents...
I agree as well... and to be honest.. when my brothers wife had her first child we all did special stuff for each holiday... for the second we did alittle less... and by the third it was down to the major holidays only.... it is just how things are... that is how i think middle child syndrome comes about... first always gets everything because they are first... and the youngest is always the baby
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Not for nothing, but you are completely entitled to be upset by this. I did not get the impression that you were going to let it ruin your day, just that you were a little upset over it. And to be quite honest, I'd be a little upset, too. But then I'd think about how my parents were going through a rough time, and I'd probably go out and get THEM a card just sending good wishes because if my mom didn't send Ava a card, I'd definitely know times were tough. That's just how my family is. Maybe what your mom needs right is a card from you. Sometimes it's better to pay it forward then sit on it and feel badly.
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| Posted 2/14/09 6:56 PM |
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itsbabytime
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
MIL always sends DS cards for EVERYTHING including V-day - my mom - never - BUT my mom helps us out ALL the time and is always around to babysit or cook for us or play with DS - she just isn't into that kind of stuff - it doesn't bother me AT all in fact, i wish MIl would worry less about the stupid cards and focus more on us! 
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| Posted 2/14/09 7:03 PM |
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babybugsmum
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Posted by missrock
Everyone has to understand that Gemma is having a rough time right now and maybe she is feeling hurt becuase of the rough time she is having.
While I understand everyone's point that its just Valentine's Day, I just feel as though people are being a big rough on her.
Im sorry you feel hurt Gemma!!!!
thankyou for that i guess i should have known that some had to " SAY THEIR PIECE "
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dooodles
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Posted by babybugsmum
i guess i should have known that some had to " SAY THEIR PIECE "
But YOU asked for "their piece":
Posted by babybugsmum
am i being totally stupid about this ???
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I don't understand - the people that think you are gave their honest opinions. Were you expecting people to just give you hugs? I don't know, if you ask a question - expect people's HONEST opinions
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karacg
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
The title of the post is:
Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
I assumed she was asking if she was being totally unreasonable. Again, if you don't want other's opinions, don't ask for them.
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| Posted 2/14/09 7:39 PM |
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
I'm so sorry you feel hurt Gemma 
My Mom always got us cards growing up and I just figured she would for my DD but she didn't this year (she did last year) and I was a little surprised. I know the "firsts" are hard to let go and you just wanted acknowledgment and something for a keepsake. I absolutely understand that.
Just know that her grandparents love her to pieces.
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| Posted 2/14/09 7:42 PM |
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JandJ1224
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
I think that your feelings are hurt but I wouldn't let it bother me. Your dd will never remember.
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| Posted 2/14/09 7:42 PM |
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babybugsmum
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Posted by karacg
The title of the post is:
Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
I assumed she was asking if she was being totally unreasonable. Again, if you don't want other's opinions, don't ask for them.
whatever 
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babybugsmum
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Posted by dooodles
Posted by babybugsmum
i guess i should have known that some had to " SAY THEIR PIECE "
But YOU asked for "their piece":
Posted by babybugsmum
am i being totally stupid about this ???
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I don't understand - the people that think you are gave their honest opinions. Were you expecting people to just give you hugs? I don't know, if you ask a question - expect people's HONEST opinions
whatever
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karacg
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
um, ok.....
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Whew, my head hurts from seeing all the eyes rolling
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CookiePuss
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
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Posted by karacg
The title of the post is:
Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
I assumed she was asking if she was being totally unreasonable. Again, if you don't want other's opinions, don't ask for them.
whatever
If you just wanted hugs, why didn't you just ask for hugs instead asking for others opinions?
The "whatever and eye rolling" isn't going to win you any sympathy.
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babybugsmum
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Posted by karacg
um, ok.....
i dont expect you or anyone else to even begin to understand .....
and yes i respect your opinion and you have a right to it ....
that being said i am not 1 for drama so i will no longer say anymore in response to anything else you have to say as i feel them to be in distaste 
Message edited 2/14/2009 7:52:40 PM.
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dooodles
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Posted by babybugsmum
that being said i am not 1 for drama so i will no longer say anymore in response to anything else you have to say as i feel them to be in distaste
whatever
Please feel free to FM me with anything else you need to say because I didn't give you hugs
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browneyedgirl
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
you are COMPLETELY entitled to your feelings. i totally understand you being upset since this is something she's always done--i would feel the same way. maybe you could tell your mom that you're saving all of the first things and would love if she would continue to send them--even a 99cent card.
what's important to you is different than what's important to other people. my MIL sent DS a card and a small gift and i'm saving it for him. one day she won't be here, and he'll have the cards she sent to look back on.
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maybebaby
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
I don't think its unreasonable!! I felt the same way when my mom didn't call me on my anniversary...a lot of people told me that it isn't my moms job to remember my anniversary, its just between DH and I...BUT...she always did in the past and even sent gifts. ( I didn't want gifts, i was just a tad hurt she didn't call...you can't help feelings!!).
I wouldn't let it cause a huge tiff or anything like that....but I do understand being a bit sad when it happens, everyone has their "thing" that upsets them and people should remember that!
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Posted by karacg
I honestly want to say
"Oh get over it!"
but I know I will get flamed for it....
No "flames", but that was a little insensitive, no? Not saying you have to agree with the OP's feelings, but why pour salt on the wounds, whether you agree or not.
To the OP, I do agree with some that maybe just cut your parents a little slack considering what they are going through. I can say with 100% certainty that your mom had no intentions of hurting you by not sending the cards.
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SweetTooth
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
It wouldn't bother me in the slightest.
Actually my in-laws sent valentine's day cards with $10 in each to the babies, and I'm like, what am I supposed to do with this? Especially because, IMO valentine's day is for lovers, not for grandparents/grandchildren. They have no idea, she will not feel slighted at all.
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Posted by Summersalwaysinseason
Posted by karacg
I honestly want to say
"Oh get over it!"
but I know I will get flamed for it....
No "flames", but that was a little insensitive, no? Not saying you have to agree with the OP's feelings, but why pour salt on the wounds, whether you agree or not.
To the OP, I do agree with some that maybe just cut your parents a little slack considering what they are going through. I can say with 100% certainty that your mom had no intentions of hurting you by not sending the cards.
Kara is one of the nicest, most giving people on this board. And the reason she didn't just say "Oh get over it" is b/c she knew it would come off wrong, KWIM?
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Re: Im feeling alittle hurt and i being totally unreasonable ...
Posted by KateDevine
Posted by Summersalwaysinseason
Posted by karacg
I honestly want to say
"Oh get over it!"
but I know I will get flamed for it....
No "flames", but that was a little insensitive, no? Not saying you have to agree with the OP's feelings, but why pour salt on the wounds, whether you agree or not.
To the OP, I do agree with some that maybe just cut your parents a little slack considering what they are going through. I can say with 100% certainty that your mom had no intentions of hurting you by not sending the cards.
Kara is one of the nicest, most giving people on this board. And the reason she didn't just say "Oh get over it" is b/c she knew it would come off wrong, KWIM?
Oh, believe me, I'm not attacking ANYONE'S character...I don't know anyone here IRL...I would NEVER!!
I do understand what you are saying, truly. But the comment was made, even if she said something after it. If it were my post, it really would have hurt my feelings. That's all I was saying.
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