Is anyone scared of secondary infertility?

Not to be a total downer, and I know I'm nuts but I can't help but worry about having secondary infertility. I am so scared that it will take forever to conceive another child (if we can do so at all)

After how many months of trying with your second - do you think you need to see someone?

We are still really early in the game and this is only my third month of trying - and I'm not out yet but I was wondering if/when you see a specialist? Would you think 6 months? A year? I will be 32 in December.

Told you - I'm a total nutjob!!!!!

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We are also in our third month of trying. I saw my doc last month and he wants to see me after 6 months of trying if no pg yet.

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Oh, Diana My fingers are so crossed you and James this month!

I talked to Dr. H about this and she said to let her know after 6 months. I vented after a couple of months to her and she assured me how a few months of trying is totally normal. It's also sooo frustrating.

Wishing you and

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I was sooooo nervous about this. I am praying that you get PG very very soon

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Posted by Gatsbygirl

Oh, Diana My fingers are so crossed you and James this month!

I talked to Dr. H about this and she said to let her know after 6 months. I vented after a couple of months to her and she assured me how a few months of trying is totally normal. It's also sooo frustrating.

Wishing you and

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This is one of my biggest fears. I'm older (37) so I think I would talk to my OB after trying for approx. 6 months. I don't think you're a nutjob at all. If you are, then so am I. We haven't been trying very long, so I'm trying not to worry too much.

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I was extremely scared of this since I am 32, i have one ovary and I didnt "try" to get preggo with #1--but we didnt "prevent" and it still took about 5 months

with #2 it happened right away--but it was also Italy with lots of wine flowing

I think what I am trying to say is have fun, drink, dont worry and maybe if you let yourself calm down it will happen

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Posted by JenBenMen

I was extremely scared of this since I am 32, i have one ovary and I didnt "try" to get preggo with #1--but we didnt "prevent" and it still took about 5 months

with #2 it happened right away--but it was also Italy with lots of wine flowing

I think what I am trying to say is have fun, drink, dont worry and maybe if you let yourself calm down it will happen

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I have to put it out there and admit that this is a very humbling experience.

Josh was due to us saying for a few moments whatever happens happens...and he happened the first and only time.

I naively thought it was going to be that easy second time around.

Now, I have AF for the second time since trying.

I HATE not knowing if I should be planning summer vacations or not...

I am going to ride this out.
I had a really fun time BDing this month...(DH did not know we were BDing till night 3)
I did not test till day before AF...did not look on calendar.

I am someone who can be quickly consumed in all this.

I selfishly only really post on TTC and never really read anyones threads. I need to vent and confess to people where I am at, but I can't get into reading it all yet.



I am so glad Leo gave the okay to TTC again and we did not wait any longer.

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I am older than you so it's a total reality for me that I may not be able to have another one.

I know of one woman who had a 9 year boy. TTC for a while. Did the IVF, etc.... Nothing worked. She resigned herself that she would not get PG. She decided to get a puppy 1 year for Christmas. 2 days efore getting the puppy, she found out she was PG, just like that.

I don't think there is any rule of who or what.

You are not out yet!!!! It's "only" been 3 months. Since I am in the same mission as you, I know how it feels though. Once you are ready, you want it now.

6 months is your magic number before looking for other "options".

Hang in there!!!!!!!!

Did AF show up?

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I'm starting to get a little nervous about it. We've been trying for four months.

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Posted by smdl

I am older than you so it's a total reality for me that I may not be able to have another one.

I know of one woman who had a 9 year boy. TTC for a while. Did the IVF, etc.... Nothing worked. She resigned herself that she would not get PG. She decided to get a puppy 1 year for Christmas. 2 days efore getting the puppy, she found out she was PG, just like that.

I don't think there is any rule of who or what.

You are not out yet!!!! It's "only" been 3 months. Since I am in the same mission as you, I know how it feels though. Once you are ready, you want it now.

6 months is your magic number before looking for other "options".

Hang in there!!!!!!!!

Did AF show up?

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Yes, I am extremely scared about it
and unfortunately so far is is becoming a reality
and we just found out we are not covered for anything having to do with infertility

I am for you

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Posted by Marcie

Yes, I am extremely scared about it
and unfortunately so far is is becoming a reality
and we just found out we are not covered for anything having to do with infertility

I am for you

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Posted by Diana1215

Posted by smdl

I am older than you so it's a total reality for me that I may not be able to have another one.

I know of one woman who had a 9 year boy. TTC for a while. Did the IVF, etc.... Nothing worked. She resigned herself that she would not get PG. She decided to get a puppy 1 year for Christmas. 2 days efore getting the puppy, she found out she was PG, just like that.

I don't think there is any rule of who or what.

You are not out yet!!!! It's "only" been 3 months. Since I am in the same mission as you, I know how it feels though. Once you are ready, you want it now.

6 months is your magic number before looking for other "options".

Hang in there!!!!!!!!

Did AF show up?

Not yet - but I am crying at the drop of a hat so she is well on her way!

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i hear ya.

I found out that I have a blood disorder and 2 other mutations in my blood that cause miscarriages. For some odd reason, I had a perfectly normal pregnancy with my first and never had a miscarriage. thank GOD. I feel like I am blessed to have her but so scared that I will not be able to have another.

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i had my son at 21 during my first marriage..i was remarried at 26 (to the right one lol) and i couldnt conceive for a very lng time..i had major gynocological issues though, 2 leep procedures, and talk of a full hystorectomy by 28 yrs old...we tried for over a year...didnt get pregnant until we stopped trying, and it was pretty much accidental..we were told we wouldnt probably get pregnant without the help of a dr..
i always had a wierd vibe id have a hard time, and i did...
if you havent done so, and you feel like strange about it like i did...i suggest going for a full exam at your gyno..just to check up on things and prepare yourself..maybe go on prenatals etc..
sorry to be a downer, just wanted to give you an honest answer!

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It took 6-7 cycles for us to conceive the first time and that ended in m/c. Then 3 more for DS.

I debate when to start TTC for #2 b/c I wonder if it will takes several months again, or will it happen right away - b/c that's life!?

I try not to stress over it until it's necessary - but it's always a thought.

I hope you get your BFP soon. If I were you, I would give it that 6 months and then look into it unless you really believe something is wrong (but you said you were just going with the flow the first couple of months so it's probably nothing to worry about!)

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first off

I'm am 85% convinced I'm infertile. So yes, I worry about it every day. I thank god every night for having my son. But admit that I am scared that this could be the new reality. But I tend to be irrationale with things like this. I'm totally irrationale when I'm not in control and tend to go to the negative spectrum.

That having been said don't lose hope. She's not here yet. And even if this isn't your month you'll get there. If at 6 months still no BFP then you'll see an RE. It's going to be ok!!!

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Yes. Especially since I found out during my c-section that I only have one ovary. My cycle is all over the place. We are trying, but not that hard. I am finding it really hard to chart this time bc either I forget to or I wake up at different times....

ETA - I am going to be 35 in dec.

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Yes. I am pretty sure I am going to have trouble the second time around, because I had cycle and ovulation problems while TTC the first time. I have been monitoring my cycles (just to know, not TTC til DS is 1 at least) and am 99% sure that I am not ovulating. I was hoping pregnancy would fix things .

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I dont think you should worry until there is reason to.

That being said, I am 35 and got preggo on the first try with my 2nd. (No joke, we had sex once that month and it happened that day). I heard that you are more fertile the 2nd time around. Dont know if there is any truths to that.

We never had fertility problems so I am not sure what other people's stories are. Just try not to stress and have fund BDing and it will happen.

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i am definitely a little worried. I was told prior to having DS that i most likely had PCOS and that we were going to most likely have a hard time getting pregnant with him. Well we got pregnant the first month we tried. I really think of him as a little miracle. Me and my DH are already prepared that when we TTC #2 it prob wont be as easy or as quick.

I agree to give it another 3 months and if still nothing then maybe go see an RE I wish you guys lots of .

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I had issues when ttc ds so I know it will not be easy for #2. I have 3 genetic clotting disorders, 2 autoimmune antibodies and pcos . But with the right drugs we got pregnant and carried ds to term and I hope/pray we can do it again for #2 and maybe even a #3 . If you feel there is a problem talk with your doctor. Some doctors don't make you wait 6 months before doing basic testing.