Re: Is anyone scared of secondary infertility?

do u know you will have a c-section for sure? yes, mommy will have to take off

Re: Is anyone scared of secondary infertility?

Re: Is anyone scared of secondary infertility?

Re: Is anyone scared of secondary infertility?

Posted by Ang-Rich

Posted by Diana1215

I obviously wanted to control having a summer baby if possible - and with that thought almost out the window I am hoping to be more laid back as the fall due dates come around.

I will try to take that approach when AF gets here already -- it is waiting for her (and getting the BFN's) that is literally driving me insane!!!

I hear ya...boy do I hear ya! I was hoping for a May baby but we are far from that now. And I agree...it's waiting for AF, for the HPT all that waiting that gets to a person...it's get to me each and every time.

I'd love to say that I am laid back now about the whole thing...but that is so far from the truth. I think I sort of gave up a bit

Re: Is anyone scared of secondary infertility?

Posted by dm24angel

Posted by Sassyz75

we have been trying now for 10 months.
it's soooo frustrating.

Re: Is anyone scared of secondary infertility?

It happened to me

I had a csection with my son and after 6 months of trying for #2, we started to see a specialist.

To make a long 2 year story short, I had an HSG (as a last resort to IVF) to check my tubes and we got pregnant the next month. And this was AFTER 3 failed IUI attempts! Which never worked because something was clogging my tubes!!

My advice to anyone and everyone, have the HSG as early on as possible just to flush out those tubes! This is suppose to be one of the very 1st tests they run and for whatever reason it was never done on me in the beginning.

Re: Is anyone scared of secondary infertility?

Well, I guess I'm one of the LIF voices for secondary infertility.

First time around, I went off the pill and got pregnant the first month we tried. I miscarried at about 8 weeks and then got pregnant again a week later, with Alex.

So, going into TTC#2, at 31, we thought we'd have no problems, though I have to admit, there was this little nagging voice in the back of my head - instinctually, I knew something was wrong even before we started TTC#2. I don't know why, and what gave me reason to believe that, but I did.

So after about 6 months of really trying, with charting and an ovulation kit, I decided to consult with an RE. My husband though I was crazy, overreacting, everything, but my gut told me something was wrong.

I've been seeing her for a year now and am about to do my first IVF cycle after months of trying with clomid, hormone injections and inseminations.

Looking back, I'm just SO glad I listened to my instincts and contacted my RE when I did - there's no time to waste in this game, and I'm glad I got started as early as I did.

Re: Is anyone scared of secondary infertility?

It took 17 months, 2 unexplained m/c's and a chemical before I got pg with Joey. I spoke to my ob/gyn about a year after trying, she told me to "relax". I then made an appt with a RE in January of 08, I went for the consult and was told to call on the 3rd day of AF, which I never got because Joey was conceived.

DH & I plan to TTC #3 in July and are praying that it wont take nearly as long

Good luck to you

Re: Is anyone scared of secondary infertility?

YES, i'm 36 and just had my first in May.
We want to start trying for number 2 in June. I have to admit, i had a VERY easy time getting pregnant the first time (first try), but that doesn't mean that it will be easy the next time around..plus i'm a year older now. Keeping my fingers crossed.

Re: Is anyone scared of secondary infertility?

Posted by Diana1215

Posted by smdl

I am older than you so it's a total reality for me that I may not be able to have another one.

I know of one woman who had a 9 year boy. TTC for a while. Did the IVF, etc.... Nothing worked. She resigned herself that she would not get PG. She decided to get a puppy 1 year for Christmas. 2 days efore getting the puppy, she found out she was PG, just like that.

I don't think there is any rule of who or what.

You are not out yet!!!! It's "only" been 3 months. Since I am in the same mission as you, I know how it feels though. Once you are ready, you want it now.

6 months is your magic number before looking for other "options".

Hang in there!!!!!!!!

Did AF show up?

Not yet - but I am crying at the drop of a hat so she is well on her way!

Re: Is anyone scared of secondary infertility?

Posted by Diana1215

Posted by smdl

Posted by Ang-Rich

You know we are on try #4 and up to this last one I was very scared. With Lucas we said...let's try and boom I was pregnant.

But my reality bites...it's not that easy this time around and for a while I was scared, fearful and upset.

I just can't be that way...it's not who I am and it was making me more miserable. So for my own sanity I stopped. Weird as it sounds (and not at all easy) I just said enough. I have Lucas and I am so grateful that he is happy and healthy. I had a wonderful pregnancy and if that's all I get then I can truly say I am blessed to have had that.

So we're going with the flow. I am using OPKs but other than that no more stressing it.

I truly believe that Lucas was meant to be my son and I was meant to bring him into this world....if another child is in my future...they will come when they are ready. If not...I am okay with that.

Apart from my bad day last month, I am trying to NOT be obsessed with this. I want a #2 but I came to turn that I can't get upset if it does not happen.

I obviously wanted to control having a summer baby if possible - and with that thought almost out the window I am hoping to be more laid back as the fall due dates come around.

I will try to take that approach when AF gets here already -- it is waiting for her (and getting the BFN's) that is literally driving me insane!!!