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Lucky
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
No. I would ask when RSVPing.
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CrankyPants
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
Posted by wingsofsong
I would definitely ask because I think it's the right thing to do, but I can't imagine anyone having an issue with a 2 month old being there- it's not like they are doing anything at that age!
I agree-and honestly, if they told me I couldn't bring my 2 month old I would be shocked and it would factor into my decision to go-FF or EBF. How ironic that a baby shower would ban babies
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| Posted 6/1/11 8:06 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
Posted by CrankyPants
Posted by wingsofsong
I would definitely ask because I think it's the right thing to do, but I can't imagine anyone having an issue with a 2 month old being there- it's not like they are doing anything at that age!
I agree-and honestly, if they told me I couldn't bring my 2 month old I would be shocked and it would factor into my decision to go-FF or EBF. How ironic that a baby shower would ban babies
I don't know, I went to a shower last month where someone brought a 2 month old, and TBH, it did detract from the present opening, etc. She WAILED and was passed around to try to get her to sleep, but it seemed like no one wanted to take her outside  and it was that ear-piercing NB wail that gives me nightmares. I can't eat when a baby is crying. You'd think I'd be thinner.
I'd call and RSVP either yes with no kids, or say no because you need to stay w/ the 2 month old (and see if they offer that you should bring him). But since you were going to go away leaving him at home, I'd just go without him. More fun for you anyway,
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bethsiar
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
Posted by CrankyPants
Posted by wingsofsong
I would definitely ask because I think it's the right thing to do, but I can't imagine anyone having an issue with a 2 month old being there- it's not like they are doing anything at that age!
I agree-and honestly, if they told me I couldn't bring my 2 month old I would be shocked and it would factor into my decision to go-FF or EBF. How ironic that a baby shower would ban babies
ITA. Since I was forever either preggo or with a baby, I've always brought babies with me to baby showers. If the mom wants to spend the whole time outside the room quieting the baby down then so be it. Honestly showers are boring, at least its something to look at.
A baby crying for me is easier to stand than some woman who won't shut up. 
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| Posted 6/1/11 8:16 AM |
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BargainMama
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
Posted by CrankyPants
Posted by wingsofsong
I would definitely ask because I think it's the right thing to do, but I can't imagine anyone having an issue with a 2 month old being there- it's not like they are doing anything at that age!
I agree-and honestly, if they told me I couldn't bring my 2 month old I would be shocked and it would factor into my decision to go-FF or EBF. How ironic that a baby shower would ban babies
If they say your 2 month old cannot attend, I would probably not attend either to be honest.
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| Posted 6/1/11 8:16 AM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
I would never assume my kids are invited to anything, especially a baby shower.
I also wouldn't ask to bring my 2month old unless it was an absolute emergency and I didn't have a sitter - or it was really really close family member and everyone wanted to see my baby.
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| Posted 6/1/11 8:20 AM |
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A3CM
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
maybe i am the odd one out, but i don't even feel it's ok to ask.. you are then putting the hostess on the spot.
ETA: for my bridal shower... (yes its different but it still the same) i had 3 guests ask if they could bring their babies, 2,3 & 6 moth old... my MIL had already said yes to the 3 month old, so the other 2 called.. what was she supposed to say then, NO? sorry JMHO
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nycgirl
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
I'd say double check... but I had all the kids (toddlers and babies) come to my baby shower. I can't remember if they were on the invites.
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| Posted 6/1/11 8:24 AM |
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Linda1003
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
Posted by MrsPJB2007
No - not at all. I would never assume anyone is invited that isn't named on the invite. Babies or toddlers.
this!
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| Posted 6/1/11 8:29 AM |
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
Posted by sasha96
I would assume the kids aren't invited. I'd feel funny asking, unless it was a close relative or one of my closest friends.
agreed.
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| Posted 6/1/11 8:35 AM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
Posted by waiting4ablessing
Posted by sasha96
I would assume the kids aren't invited. I'd feel funny asking, unless it was a close relative or one of my closest friends.
agreed.
I asked and she did not respond. I guess that means they are not welcome. DH will just have to juggle the kids that day.
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| Posted 6/1/11 8:46 AM |
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leighla
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
Posted by Diana1215
I would never assume my kids are invited to anything, especially a baby shower.
I also wouldn't ask to bring my 2month old unless it was an absolute emergency and I didn't have a sitter - or it was really really close family member and everyone wanted to see my baby.
Same here. The day isn't about me and my baby, it's about the mom to be.
I wouldn't even ask because I would think the host would feel obligated to say yes.
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| Posted 6/1/11 8:55 AM |
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Michi
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
No. Way. I am shocked when people think it is ok to bring kids, toddlers..newborns etc.. If it doesnt say it ont he invitation you dont bring kids!!!
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| Posted 6/1/11 9:00 AM |
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BeachMom
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
I guess i'm in the minority here, but usually if they want no kids they specify it. And I can see bringing your 2 month old without a question as to whether it is ok or not. The toddler i would definitly check just because they dont always have space or things for the mobile children to do.
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| Posted 6/1/11 9:01 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
Definitely not.
If they wanted the kids there they would have specifed and to be honest I would be pizzed.
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Irishgrl13
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
Posted by headoverheels
No, definitely not! I thik it's fine to ask, especially if you are BFing, but my guess is that if they were invited it would have said so.
ITA I would definitely call and ask...just to make sure.
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| Posted 6/1/11 9:39 AM |
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bicosi
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
NO, that's RUDE
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| Posted 6/1/11 9:41 AM |
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Diane
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
Posted by janedoe
I would never assume. I would ask.
ditto
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BriBri2u
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
Definately not ok to assume. If they wanted kids there, they would have mentioned it.
I also think it is wrong to call and ask. You push the issue and more than likely put the host on the spot where they can't say no.
There may be a reason they don't want kids - like if they let one person bring their kids, than they need to let everyone bring their kids. That ends up being A LOT.
This happended at my baby shower - some people TOLD me they HAD to bring their kids. Even after we explanined why no kids.
I had to open it up to everyone at the party at that point. There were 15+ kids running around at my shower. All because a few had to call and push the issue. Regardless of the age.
If you can't make it because you are EBFing or can't find a sitter - i would say no.
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Goobster
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
Posted by Diana1215
I also wouldn't ask to bring my 2month old unless it was an absolute emergency and I didn't have a sitter - or it was really really close family member and everyone wanted to see my baby.
ITA. And what is fair for one is fair for all. So what if there are 5 other mothers with small babies, and they all came? That is not fair to the bride IMO. It's a bridal shower, that really is for adults to enjoy and for the bride to recieve all of the attention IMO.
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eroxgirl
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
It's never okay to assume your kids are invited to anything. You have to ask.
However, I don't think most people would mind a small baby being there.
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| Posted 6/1/11 9:56 AM |
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Sparrow
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
I have a shower coming up and DD is 2 months also. I'm not bringing her (although I was told I could) becuase I don't want her to take away from the bride to be. I would feel bad having people fussing over the baby (most of them haven't met her yet) instead of the bride to be. Also, I'd worry about her throwing a screaming fit and disrupting things.
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babybird2010
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
Im so surprised by everyone's answers. I dont see what the big deal is. The baby is 2 months old, not a toddler. My friend brought her 4 month old to my shower and i wasnt mad at all, I assumed she would and was glad she did. I also have 2 baby showers to go to this month and my one friend told me I better bring my DD or she would be mad at me 
Its not like they will be running around causing a commotion. And to be honest if someone told me I couldnt bring my 2 month old I wouldnt go! Maybe because I have a big family and always have kids around im used to it but thats JMO
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| Posted 6/2/11 5:17 PM |
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MomMom
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
You would be best asking if it is ok.
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| Posted 6/2/11 5:18 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Is it ok to assume that my kids are invited to the baby shower if they are not on the invite?
Posted by babybird2010
Im so surprised by everyone's answers. I dont see what the big deal is. The baby is 2 months old, not a toddler. My friend brought her 4 month old to my shower and i wasnt mad at all, I assumed she would and was glad she did. I also have 2 baby showers to go to this month and my one friend told me I better bring my DD or she would be mad at me
Its not like they will be running around causing a commotion. And to be honest if someone told me I couldnt bring my 2 month old I wouldnt go! Maybe because I have a big family and always have kids around im used to it but thats JMO
I come from a really big family too and I don't think it's necessary. There is a time and a place for little ones. A shower is not one of them IMO. I also think that it can cause issues...If someone sees a person with a baby there, they may ask "How come I couldn't bring my kid?!"
Unless it was an emergency where the person didn't have a sitter OR if it was extremely close family. Any other situation, I think the baby should be left at home.
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