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lululu
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Re: Making your child get a job
Posted by Hofstra26
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While every college is different, I do have a little bit of experience with the admissions process overall and what I have always understood is this: Unless a student is at an elite level in their sport or hobby, most schools are looking for accomplishment - or at least effort - in the volunteer/work area.
I am curious about this - I did not have a job at the time that I applied to any colleges and I got into almost every school I applied to, some of them elite. I was an above average student with very good math SAT scores and a LOT of extra curricular activities. My understanding way back then was that grades, SAT scores and extra curricular activities were most important. I have never heard of a college caring if the extra curricular was a job, sport, volunteer work or school club. My parents did not make or even encourage me to get any type of formal job and my only income was from babysitting, which clearly did not show up on any college applications.
My training on this (just so you know where I am coming from) actually came on two different fronts that concurred: I worked for a major test prep company that also did admissions consulting and I briefly worked in admissions as an undergrad when I was at NYU.
Admittedly, this is somewhat old information (attended college in the latter half of the 90s) but I can't think of any reason it would have changed much.
FWIW I think babysitting counts for a lot. College aside, it's also about the value of a dollar. Community service also brings something else to the table and it's nice to hear how many high schools require it. Mine did not. My friends and I were introduced to it through Catholic confirmation requirements.
Overall - and this is in general, not directed at anyone in particular - I can see how high school is a gray area but frankly college age students should be working for some type of pay, especially if they didn't in high school. No one should be getting their first pay check at 22 or later with everything handed to them prior to that.
I babysat from age 13-16. In high school I had part time jobs in clothing stores but my parents paid for my necessities and my car and insurance. I only worked a few hours a week and my money was for my entertainment. In college, I ONLY worked in between semesters. I commuted and had a busy schedule and like another poster mentioned, my "job" was school. I didn't have time to work in college and I didn't need the added stress of a job. My parents also felt that as long as we were in school, working was secondary to our education. As for volunteering, I never did that and I had no issues getting accepted into college but maybe that's changed over the years.
When my kids are older I'll encourage them get a job just for the responsibility aspect of it however, I'd be okay with them just working in the summers or between semesters once in college. Their schoolwork should come first before working IMO.
Yes I agree and honestly I did volunteer and had a lot of extra curricular activities but I don't remember one application asking about a job. I don't think colleges care if you have worked before in a formal job setting. If you want to have your kid work to teach responsibility that's great but there are other ways to teach responsibility too.
If your daughter is an AP student and in honors I don't know how much I would force the job issue. I would have her concentrate on keeping her grades up and getting into a good school. maybe even getting a scholarship would be worth a hell of a lot more than some crappy after school job at mcdonalds.
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Re: Making your child get a job
I think you would get a lot of different opinions about this. There's no one right way I think. My kids aren't that old yet so I don't have experience with this. As for myself, during high school my parents didn't want me to get a job, they wanted me to just do my school work & get good grades & also be involved in clubs at school & volunteer work. I can't imagine having time to go to a job as well, I wouldn't have been able to manage that. But, I also didn't get any luxuries in high school. I didn't have a car, a phone (well, beeper back then I guess lol), I never got my hair or nails done, etc. My mom bought me all my clothes (she'd go shopping with me), and occasionally give me a little bit of money to go to a movie or get food with friends, but it wasn't a regular thing. At the time, I wasn't too thrilled about it, but now I'm glad I was raised that way rather than being spoiled.
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Re: Making your child get a job
Posted by BargainMama
I dunno, she is still in High School, so I guess I'm in the minority in that I don't think she NEEDS to have a job, and it sure doesn't sound like she even wants a car. A Summer job, sure. But Summer is pretty much over now. I'm in the camp that I will support my kids fully until they graduate from high school, and I would rather them focus on their studies, extra curricular, and volunteering (which is actually required to graduate), rather than have an after school job. BUT, I also wouldn't be paying for highlights, and other trivial things like that.
. I fully agree. Grades come first and I would prefer if my DD got a job it would be more of an educational type internship.
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Re: Making your child get a job
I don't think I would make my kids get a job during the school year aside from weekend babysitting. But they will DEFINITELY be required to get a summer job. IMO idle hands are the devil's workshop.
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| Posted 8/17/16 9:22 AM |
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Re: Making your child get a job
Posted by evrythng4areason
I would only let her use the car if/when she has a job. If she loses the job, she loses the car unless she has money saved up to pay for gas, insurance, etc
This was our deal. My stepdaughter couldn't afford the insurance. She lost the car. A deals a deal.
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| Posted 8/17/16 2:56 PM |
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Eunyboo
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Re: Making your child get a job
Yeah, I was an AP student, in honors, and had a job from when I was 15 for the weekends. It taught me so much!!!!!!!!
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Jacquelina
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Re: Making your child get a job
I'm all for what works best for ones family, may be different than another...
But I am really surprised by those that say they didnt have to work or wouldn't want their kids to work.
I grew up in a middle class town - and pretty much EVERYONE in my graduating class had jobs in 11th & 12th grade. I honestly didnt know anyone that didnt...either you worked at a food store, a clothing store, mcdonalds, CVS - everywhere you went in our town, kids from HS worked there. I mean, I am not talking 40 hrs a week of course, but a couple nights a week and a Saturday or Sunday....
Even the top kids in the class worked mundane jobs throughout the school year, the Valedictorian worked at Rite Aid Photo Center...another that went to Yale worked at Stop n Shop...
I dont see how earning money a few hours a week would really interfere with ones grades...but JMO
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Re: Making your child get a job
Posted by Jacquelina
I'm all for what works best for ones family, may be different than another...
But I am really surprised by those that say they didnt have to work or wouldn't want their kids to work.
I grew up in a middle class town - and pretty much EVERYONE in my graduating class had jobs in 11th & 12th grade. I honestly didnt know anyone that didnt...either you worked at a food store, a clothing store, mcdonalds, CVS - everywhere you went in our town, kids from HS worked there. I mean, I am not talking 40 hrs a week of course, but a couple nights a week and a Saturday or Sunday....
Even the top kids in the class worked mundane jobs throughout the school year, the Valedictorian worked at Rite Aid Photo Center...another that went to Yale worked at Stop n Shop...
I dont see how earning money a few hours a week would really interfere with ones grades...but JMO
ITA
My town was solidly middle class but even my classmates who were on the upper end of the economic spectrum - with bigger houses and nicer clothes - worked.
To each their own!
OP: Sorry for any tangents and I'm glad she found a babysitting job!
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lululu
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Re: Making your child get a job
Posted by JennP
Posted by Jacquelina
I'm all for what works best for ones family, may be different than another...
But I am really surprised by those that say they didnt have to work or wouldn't want their kids to work.
I grew up in a middle class town - and pretty much EVERYONE in my graduating class had jobs in 11th & 12th grade. I honestly didnt know anyone that didnt...either you worked at a food store, a clothing store, mcdonalds, CVS - everywhere you went in our town, kids from HS worked there. I mean, I am not talking 40 hrs a week of course, but a couple nights a week and a Saturday or Sunday....
Even the top kids in the class worked mundane jobs throughout the school year, the Valedictorian worked at Rite Aid Photo Center...another that went to Yale worked at Stop n Shop...
I dont see how earning money a few hours a week would really interfere with ones grades...but JMO
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My town was solidly middle class but even my classmates who were on the upper end of the economic spectrum - with bigger houses and nicer clothes - worked.
To each their own!
OP: Sorry for any tangents and I'm glad she found a babysitting job!
I think it really depends on how many after school activities you are involved in. I was involved in sports all year which meant practice after school and the late bus so I wasn't home until 5:30 and then sporting events, sometimes all day on Saturday. In addition to this I volunteered at a nursing home one day a week and I was on Student Council. That really didn't leave a ton of extra time for a job. I babysat every Wednesday evening and most Saturday mornings/nights when I didn't have sports, but other than that I didn't have a ton of free time until after I graduated. Then I got a summer job. If my kid had the schedule I had I would not force them to get a job, and I would probably give them a car. I didn't get a car because we couldn't afford it and a minimum wage job a few hours a week wouldn't have changed that anyway.
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