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MrsRivera
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Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
DD has been starting to test her limits lately. She's a VERY good girl, but she's getting to that age...
The other day, we were out at a restaurant, and DD kept throwing everything on the floor--her sippy cup, the menu, the crayons, etc. etc. I told her in a firm voice not to throw things. She looked me right in the eye, took her fork, and threw it on the floor.
I slapped her hand and told her not to throw things. But I immediately regretted it--I didn't like the way I felt after I hit her 
I just don't know how to get the message across about what's acceptable and what's not. She does understand "no", because she'll do something that she knows I don't want her to do, and then she'll shake her head no 
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laurabora
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
I just say no with a slightly raised voice, looking her in the eye. If she does it repeatedly, I take away whatever she's throwing. They are really too little to do any more than that IMO.
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| Posted 4/11/10 10:05 PM |
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
At around 14 mts we started time outs at restaurants. DH would take Cailen outside and have him face the wall  it worked. By 18 mts he knew the right way to behave at restaurants!!!
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| Posted 4/11/10 10:10 PM |
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DomesticDeeva
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
Same here...I just take it away. Ethan also looks @ me and shakes his head. I'm like, if then don't do it if you know you're not supposed to.
He's also started throwing tantrums when he doesn't get what he wants. For that, we do time out, as per his ped. She said hold him in your lap, facing away from you, for a minute or 2, while explaining what they did wrong. I hope it starts to make an impact.
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| Posted 4/11/10 10:17 PM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
I take stuff away - or I leave it on the floor (as long its not in anyone's way) and ignore them.
At home I've started giving time outs- really just taking them away from whatever they are not supposed to be doing and sitting them in a corner of the room.
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| Posted 4/11/10 10:26 PM |
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Kelly9904
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
I started time outs at 14 months. At first I used to sit him in a chair in the middle of the room and just sit there with a very stern face telling him No if he tried to move. Within 2 weeks I didnt need to sit there. Now at 27 months I send him to his room.
I did the hit his hand a few times and it always backfired. IE, once I told him NO at dinner over something and he goes, "No mommy" and proceeds to hit his hand...I felt horrible.
So i reserve that for just really necessary times (like trying to touch the stove)
If we are out and he acts up I remove him from teh situation for a "time out"
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| Posted 4/11/10 10:33 PM |
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Jen2999
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
Really time outs at 14 months!??!!?
I don't know. DD never does anything so horrible that I would like put her in a "time out", nor do I think she would understand it yet.
If she throws stuff, shes a baby, I take it away or leave it on the floor.
If she gets mad and throws a tantrum, I leave her there and walk away and in less than 10 seconds she is done and laughing with the dog...
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| Posted 4/11/10 10:40 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
Posted by Jen2999
Really time outs at 14 months!??!!?
I don't know. DD never does anything so horrible that I would like put her in a "time out", nor do I think she would understand it yet.
If she throws stuff, shes a baby, I take it away or leave it on the floor.
If she gets mad and throws a tantrum, I leave her there and walk away and in less than 10 seconds she is done and laughing with the dog...
Same here.
I don't even attempt time outs.
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| Posted 4/11/10 10:46 PM |
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ReiRei13
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
Posted by Jen2999
Really time outs at 14 months!??!!?
I don't know. DD never does anything so horrible that I would like put her in a "time out", nor do I think she would understand it yet.
If she throws stuff, shes a baby, I take it away or leave it on the floor.
If she gets mad and throws a tantrum, I leave her there and walk away and in less than 10 seconds she is done and laughing with the dog...
ITA! and do the same thing!
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| Posted 4/11/10 11:07 PM |
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
Posted by monkeybride
Posted by Jen2999
Really time outs at 14 months!??!!?
I don't know. DD never does anything so horrible that I would like put her in a "time out", nor do I think she would understand it yet.
If she throws stuff, shes a baby, I take it away or leave it on the floor.
If she gets mad and throws a tantrum, I leave her there and walk away and in less than 10 seconds she is done and laughing with the dog...
Same here.
I don't even attempt time outs.
But that IS a time out. Time out from your attention! It doesn't have to be in a chair/corner/etc to be a time out. It has to be a time out from what she wants. And if it's your attention that she wants and you walk away, you just delivered a time out!
Time out for Cailen started at 10 mts old. If I said no (grabbing, throwing, etc) and he continue to do it, I would say "time out" and place him on the floor a few inches away from the scene of the crime and walk away.
As he got older - around 15 mts, we would bring him to a wall. DH put his hands o the wall to communicate time out. If he didn't stay, we would put him in a stroller or high chair. Time outs won't work if you interact with them or talk to them or give them any attention at all.
By 18 mts, the threat of time out stopped most bad behavior.
By the time he was 2, he would walk to a time out area by himself when we told him to.
Just yesterday at the park, he threw sand at DH. We told him to go to time out. He found his own time out spot next to the garbage can. It was  and at the same time.
If you think they don't understand consequences at a young age you are WRONG! They understand earlier than you would expect. The punishment has to fit the crime, it has to be immediate and developmentally appropriate, but they get it!
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pickles16
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
DD has been majorly testing her limits like crazy, she's also throwing tantrums when she doesn't get something she wants...usually I just leave her and let her get it out of her system and then come back..at a place at a restaurant I try to take things away she's throwing and try to keep her occupied ...saying NO and staring her in the face does NOT work with her, she literally smirks at me and does it again and then laughs
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
If she throws something on the floor once or twice I look her in the eye and sternly say NO..If she then continues to throw the item, I just take it away and tell her WHY I'm taking it away .
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| Posted 4/12/10 8:00 AM |
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MrsRivera
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
Posted by pickles16
saying NO and staring her in the face does NOT work with her, she literally smirks at me and does it again and then laughs
This is my problem, too...she thinks "no" is funny. 
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| Posted 4/12/10 11:55 AM |
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kerrycec03
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
hmmm, I never thought of starting time outs already. food for thought
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| Posted 4/12/10 11:58 AM |
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
at this age i really still use distraction...the only time i raise my voice is if DD#2 is hurting someone (she loves to pull DD#1's hair ), and i'll slap hands if it's something dangerous (outlet, stove, running into the street, etc.)
restaurants never took DD#1 at this age, will do the same for DD#2 if i can help it...too much of a PITA for me...
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| Posted 4/12/10 12:08 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
Posted by MrsRivera
Posted by pickles16
saying NO and staring her in the face does NOT work with her, she literally smirks at me and does it again and then laughs
This is my problem, too...she thinks "no" is funny.
So do mine. We deal with this lately with food and hitting me. They think it is hysterical to hit me so I tell them no we don;pt hit Mama, be nice. Then if they continue I put them on the floor and walk away. They cry I ggive it about 30 seconds and say we don't hit. Can you be nice boys? Mama will come play now. With food they get one stern warning and then we take the tray away.
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OOSMommy
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
Posted by MrsRivera
Posted by pickles16
saying NO and staring her in the face does NOT work with her, she literally smirks at me and does it again and then laughs
This is my problem, too...she thinks "no" is funny.
Here too. And half the time I have to turn away because I'm laughing too...
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| Posted 4/12/10 1:23 PM |
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JenBenMen
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
No real advice other than to tell u that this phase definately stops
Chris at that age and through 2 yrs 4 months was a nightmare in a restaurant
As we got closer to the 3 year mark he sits down and is easy to occupy---it took a while and we stopped going out as much but now he is better
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| Posted 4/12/10 1:25 PM |
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pickles16
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
Posted by JenBenMen
No real advice other than to tell u that this phase definately stops
Chris at that age and through 2 yrs 4 months was a nightmare in a restaurant
As we got closer to the 3 year mark he sits down and is easy to occupy---it took a while and we stopped going out as much but now he is better
thank g-d its a phase!!! DD used to be an angel going to a restaurant, now I'm just trying to occupy her so she doesn't scream bc she wants something..Yesterday she wanted a tall glass filled with water, and no not to drink, but to play with and a 16 month old playing with a glass of water is just not something I want to try out...
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MrsRbk
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
I put my finger up and in a firm/stern voice say "no, we don't throw things" Of course she does it again, and I tell her again in a firm voice "now it stays on the floor" She will then throw a tantrum and I will walk away and do something else in the kitchen and ignore it. She will usually stop after a minute or two.
I'm not sure if this has any impact or not. Hopefully as she gets older it will.
I know at 14.5 months she would not understand a time out.
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| Posted 4/12/10 1:35 PM |
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maybesoon
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
we tell DS (18 months) no, but he doesn't take it seriously. we always have to distract him, or take him out of the restaurant. it's not fun going out to eat with him
I think If I tried to do time out with him he would laugh in our faces. if I'm home and he throws a tantrum I leave him. but then he gets up and either throws something or hits the cat. so the best thing to do is try to distract him and give him something else to do.
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| Posted 4/12/10 1:52 PM |
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SweetTooth
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
Posted by Jen2999
Really time outs at 14 months!??!!?
I don't know. DD never does anything so horrible that I would like put her in a "time out", nor do I think she would understand it yet.
If she throws stuff, shes a baby, I take it away or leave it on the floor.
If she gets mad and throws a tantrum, I leave her there and walk away and in less than 10 seconds she is done and laughing with the dog...
ITs not a time out like on supernanny where I say you are going to time out and have to stay here for 1 minute.
If they repeatedly do something I told them not to do, I remove them from the situation and sit them next to the ottoman (corner). I say "time out" and then walk away.
They start to cry so I definitely know they get they having consequences.
They know they are testing me, and they know what they should or shouldn't be doing because they look right at me before doing a bad behavior, then do the behavior, then look at me again to see what my reaction is.
I used to also have the attitude of they won't understand it, they are only being babies, but then I realized the discipline needs to start at some point, and the earlier I show them who is boss, the earlier they will learn to respect that.
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LeShellem
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
So funny this topic came up. I was just thinking if I should do some sort of Time out for DS. He is 13.5 months and knows when he is doing wrong. He will do wrong and when I say don't do such and such, he will shake his head no. I like the just walking away. I sometimes do that, but now I need to be consistant. I totally agree, they do understand. They are just using thier title of "babies" to put one over us.
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CaseyGirl
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
My DS is only 8 months but I can tell..he's gonna be a piece of work...I keep thinking how am I going to keep a straight face when I have to discipline him!
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| Posted 4/12/10 3:20 PM |
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Octobermom
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Re: Moms of young toddlers (14-16 months). How are you disciplining your DC?
Posted by Jen2999
Really time outs at 14 months!??!!?
I don't know. DD never does anything so horrible that I would like put her in a "time out", nor do I think she would understand it yet.
If she throws stuff, shes a baby, I take it away or leave it on the floor.
If she gets mad and throws a tantrum, I leave her there and walk away and in less than 10 seconds she is done and laughing with the dog...
ITA They don't have words so they are just trying to communicate what they want. I say NoNo and take whatever it is away or remove him from the situation.
With restaurants,we try to go to places that have space for him to move around without getting hurt. For example, just recently with the weather getting better we sit outside to eat or when he was younger we would take him around bedtime so he would sleep while we ate.
She'll get the hint if you say no and take whatver it is away and replace it with something else. Distracting also works wonders.
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