Re: new moms -- how many date nights have you gone on so far?

Re: new moms -- how many date nights have you gone on so far?

I'm NOT a new mom but can probably calculate how many date nights we've had since March 2008

Honestly, we probably go out alone for dinner, MAYBE every other month. I would say 5x/yr.

But date night doesn't necessarily have to be "out". Taking in dinner and designating it a date night (what does that meal - food, alcohol and sex??) can happen without looking for a sitter

ETS: I have spent the night away from my kids ONCE. Our 5-yr anniversary (this past October) we went to a hotel in FL while the boys we're with the ILs (literally like 10-minutes away). We're a couple of crazy kids, I know

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Re: new moms -- how many date nights have you gone on so far?

This is really sad, its actually my resolution that has to change....
DS is 14 mos old and we've gone out 0 times!!!

Part of the reason is that we really don't have anyone to watch DS. The only ppl that we're comfortable with my IL's live 1.5 hrs away

Re: new moms -- how many date nights have you gone on so far?

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Posted by Tilde

Posted by MeeshMosh

wow! is it weird to go out on date nights a lot??

all of our friends with kids have always gone out on 2-3 date nights a month... i thought that was the norm?

maybe not?

I spend 45 hours a week away from her at work so I really don't feel like leaving her yet. Makes me sad and DH feels the same way

i know i know, its not healthy blah blah blah but for us, we are happy with it!

That is sort of how we feel. I work anywhere from 45-60 hours a week so any time I have free I want to be with her. My DH feels the same way. Actually for his birthday we had my mom all lined up to babysit her so we could go out and he called and said he wanted all of us (baby and my mom included) as he did not want to spend time away from her. I told him "people" say we should have time alone and his response was you know you want her to come with us. Which I did. I know we should spend more time alone but I am sure that will come with time. She is great when we take her out so its not bad at all.

To answer the question DD is 5.5 months and we have been out 5 times (2 were weddings, 1 was a concert and 2 were date nights). Actually not that bad when I count it.

Re: new moms -- how many date nights have you gone on so far?

my parents have watched him twice for us and said that they would try and do it at least one weekend night a month

they are the only ones I really trust at this point- so thats it for the short run

Re: new moms -- how many date nights have you gone on so far?

DS is 5 months and we've gone to 2 weddings and 1 concert without him. So 3.

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Posted by Carolyn

We've also been on vacation alone.

can i ask you when you felt like you were ready to vacation alone & how did you know you were ready?

DH and i were talking about this a while ago & i said i think i could def get there (to the point of vacationing alone) but im not there yet

We went away for our anniversary when the boys were 11 months old. I NEEDED a vacation. I needed to sleep in, have lots of sex, go out to dinner every night, read a book...all the things you do on vacation that I hadn't done since they were born. Honestly, I just needed to get away from them (who I love more than life, by the way) for a few days and recharge, and spend quality time with DH.

I won't lie, I knew I wanted to get away but as soon as I clicked "purchase tickets" I started panicking that we were going for too many days and that I would miss them too much. BUT, it was the perfect amount of time, my parents stayed at my house with the boys and they all had a blast. It was great for all of us and we plan to continue doing it every year.

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my mom kidnaps DS, and makes DH take me out

eta:
We went on a mini vacation when DS was 2m, left him with my mom. I was miserable and cried the entire first day. The second day I had some fun. (I pumped BM the entire time)

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Re: new moms -- how many date nights have you gone on so far?

My twins are 5 months old and we have only had 2 date nights! My in-laws live close by, but they usually watch them when I have important meetings or go to my PT job.

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Re: new moms -- how many date nights have you gone on so far?

Not a new mom (DS's 2 & 10mnth) but we've only been out may be 4 times. Twice was a date night and 2 times 40th bday party & wedding.

We have a lot of family but they have their own children and can't really help out. So we finally broke down and hired a babysitter last week. We will be making a point to have 1 date night a month

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Re: new moms -- how many date nights have you gone on so far?

Um, none... is that bad? DD is five weeks old. I don't want to leave her yet. I know I could, but I'm not ready to be out and about without her.

Re: new moms -- how many date nights have you gone on so far?

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Posted by MeeshMosh

wow! is it weird to go out on date nights a lot??

all of our friends with kids have always gone out on 2-3 date nights a month... i thought that was the norm?

maybe not?

I spend 45 hours a week away from her at work so I really don't feel like leaving her yet. Makes me sad and DH feels the same way

i know i know, its not healthy blah blah blah but for us, we are happy with it!

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The only place DH and I have gone out to alone is shopping at BJ's b/c I want to get back asap...

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Posted by Linda1003

well not a new mom but DS is 13 months and we only went out 2 times without DS since he's been born!!
that's actually our resolution!!

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Re: new moms -- how many date nights have you gone on so far?

We take DS everywhere with us, but this Friday will be the first time we are leaving him with a sitter and going out with a large group for dinner.

Sooooo nervous, but I know it's something we have to do and it's healthy for DH and I to get out alone.

DS is 3 1/2 months.

If it works out, I think we will make it a habit and go out once a month or so alone.

Re: new moms -- how many date nights have you gone on so far?

The boys are 7.5 months and we went out 2X (both for weddings). We have not gone out on our own yet. We've had the chance to, but still prefer to have the kids w/ us.

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Posted by newroctransplant

Posted by Tilde

Posted by MeeshMosh

wow! is it weird to go out on date nights a lot??

all of our friends with kids have always gone out on 2-3 date nights a month... i thought that was the norm?

maybe not?

I spend 45 hours a week away from her at work so I really don't feel like leaving her yet. Makes me sad and DH feels the same way

i know i know, its not healthy blah blah blah but for us, we are happy with it!

That is sort of how we feel. I work anywhere from 45-60 hours a week so any time I have free I want to be with her. My DH feels the same way. Actually for his birthday we had my mom all lined up to babysit her so we could go out and he called and said he wanted all of us (baby and my mom included) as he did not want to spend time away from her. I told him "people" say we should have time alone and his response was you know you want her to come with us. Which I did. I know we should spend more time alone but I am sure that will come with time. She is great when we take her out so its not bad at all.

To answer the question DD is 5.5 months and we have been out 5 times (2 were weddings, 1 was a concert and 2 were date nights). Actually not that bad when I count it.

LOL same exact thing happened to us - we took his mom and DD to his brithday dinner!

But I wasnt so nice for mine, it was just the two of us!

Re: new moms -- how many date nights have you gone on so far?

DS is almost 16 months and we've gone out a lot. My parents watch him at least one full weekend each month with the occasional night thrown in here or there.

It's a nice, much needed break sometimes. Usually after those wekends, DH and I feel reconnected, rejuvenated and reuinted.

Re: new moms -- how many date nights have you gone on so far?

DS is 11 months old and we haven't been on too many date nights. Our schedule makes it hard some times. We wanted to go out to dinner for DH's birthday in December but there literally was no free night to go. We had 2 Christmas parties and a wedding - all of which we went to without DS.

Re: new moms -- how many date nights have you gone on so far?

DS is 13 months and I could count on one hand the number of times we have gone out without him. We went to the city to see a show once. My in-laws kept him overnight a few weeks ago because we had an adults-only cocktail party at our house. That's about it.

We probably should try to get out alone more, but we are both full-time working parents and enjoy spending time with DS. We bring him everywhere with us, on vacation, to restaurants. We brought him to Vegas at 10 months and we are doing Hawaii in March with him.

To be honest, I feel like going out 3 times a month without him would be excessive for me. I am a parent now. We were married for 6 years before having DS. We had our time to be a couple alone and we enjoyed it. Now we need to be a family.

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DS Is 14 mo. we were away in october just before his 1st bday for SIL's wedding. we were gone 2 days w/o DS. He was traumatized for a few days..LOL.

before that I think we went to the movies 1x by ourselves.

this year, its our goal to go out 1x a mo now w/o him. We're looking for a sitter (im hoping one of DS daycare teachers babysits) for a few hours on a sat. evening.

we will also be taking a boston trip labor day weekend without DS.