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Bridex100
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OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
I want to throw a pre-k graduation party. Struggling with not inviting DS's entire class. I want to invite about 2/3 of the class. I just prefer not to invite the ones we have no relationship with. There are about 15 kids in the class. Want to invite about 9 families and expect 7-8 families to be able to come.
OK to invite 2/3 of class only?
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
I am throwing a pre-k graduation as well and invited the entire class. I didn't feel right otherwise but it was more of a class celebration then a celebration for my DC.... so it seemed weird to not invite the whole class. I am also having it at a party place and not my home though.
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| Posted 5/28/14 9:03 PM |
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InShock
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
For pre-K and 15 kids, I would invite the entire class, or just a very small amount (no more than 5 kids). Inviting 2/3 just seems like a set up for hurt feelings. 
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| Posted 5/28/14 9:09 PM |
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MrsG823
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
Posted by InShock
For pre-K and 15 kids, I would invite the entire class, or just a very small amount (no more than 5 kids). Inviting 2/3 just seems like a set up for hurt feelings.
I agree.
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| Posted 5/28/14 9:19 PM |
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blue11
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OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
I would invite whole class if you want to invite the majority anyway.
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| Posted 5/28/14 9:20 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
I would either invite the whole class or either just boys or just girls.
Personally, I think it's a little hurtful to single anyone out and not invite them...........especially when the class is so small and it's for a graduation for the class and not just your kids.
Message edited 5/28/2014 9:27:53 PM.
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| Posted 5/28/14 9:26 PM |
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MrsA1012
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OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
I would invite the whole class. 2/3 will definitely lead to hurt feelings,IMO.
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| Posted 5/28/14 9:46 PM |
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hope316
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OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
I would invite the whole class and you would probably have at least 1/3 decline and then no hard feelings
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| Posted 5/29/14 7:35 AM |
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mlny
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
You have to invite the whole class. They are all celebrating the same thing so why shouldn't all of them be invited to celebrate together?
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| Posted 5/29/14 8:21 AM |
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MrsSpring
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
invite the whole class.
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| Posted 5/29/14 8:35 AM |
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nycgirl
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
Posted by MrsA1012
I would invite the whole class. 2/3 will definitely lead to hurt feelings,IMO.
ITA.
Also, when DS is invited to parties in which I don't know the kid (or he doesn't really), I politely decline.
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| Posted 5/29/14 8:46 AM |
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MrsT809
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OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
Like others said, I would just invite them all. You may not know that last few families but the kids have all been together for the year and I'm sure have played and worked together so why not invite them all to celebrate. I would also think the parents that don't know you will be less likely to attend anyway.
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| Posted 5/29/14 8:52 AM |
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ml110
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
Posted by InShock
For pre-K and 15 kids, I would invite the entire class, or just a very small amount (no more than 5 kids). Inviting 2/3 just seems like a set up for hurt feelings.
this is what I was gonna say. I would either invite just the 2-3 kids your DC is closest to, or invite the whole class. Its a small class, and if you're already planning to invite 2/3 of the class anyway- I would just invite the other few to avoid hurt feelings. especially at this age, they are too young to really understand why they might not have been included, ya know?
and like somebody else said, the ones who don't really know you well might not come anyway.
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| Posted 5/29/14 9:02 AM |
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BriBri2u
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OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
I would invite the whole class or no one at all.
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| Posted 5/29/14 9:13 AM |
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Aries14
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OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
invite the whole class. I would be so upset if my DD was left out of something like that. And she would be really hurt too.
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| Posted 5/29/14 9:18 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
Posted by mlny
You have to invite the whole class. They are all celebrating the same thing so why shouldn't all of them be invited to celebrate together?
A. You don't "have to" do anything
B. If you're doing this as a family thing, then no, I don't agree that you 'have to invite the whole class' ........
My son has been in Daycare since he was 8 months old - I have become friendly w/ a lot of his classmates parents, and we get the kids together outside of school
For his birthday parties, I always include the whole class (not b/c I HAVE TO, but b/c I think at that age, it's just the right thing to do)
But if I were going to have a celebration in my home, and invite the kids AND their respective families, I wouldn't feel the need to include the whole class. I'd just invite those I had a relationship with. Frankly, some of the kids my son doesn't particularly like, and some of the parents I don't particularly like - so I don't see any reason to invite them into my home. - Again, a 2 hour birthday party is different.
But, if you do that, you can't give out invitations in class ......
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JDubs
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
Posted by BriBri2u
I would invite the whole class or no one at all.
ITA.
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| Posted 5/29/14 9:56 AM |
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ali120206
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OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
I would invite the whole class - only a few would be excluded and since it's a graduation party, it seems like the whole class should be invited IMO.
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| Posted 5/29/14 10:47 AM |
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Pray4Baby2010
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
your party, invite whoever you want
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| Posted 5/29/14 2:45 PM |
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Sparrow
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
I am on the side of invite the entire class. I think people would be hurt if excluded in this case. Of course you can't count on this but maybe the ones you're not close with just won't come? If it's too many people to have at your house, why not do it somewhere else? It's warm enough to have a party at a park if you need the extra room.
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| Posted 5/29/14 3:10 PM |
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lynnd126
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by mlny
You have to invite the whole class. They are all celebrating the same thing so why shouldn't all of them be invited to celebrate together?
A. You don't "have to" do anything
B. If you're doing this as a family thing, then no, I don't agree that you 'have to invite the whole class' ........
My son has been in Daycare since he was 8 months old - I have become friendly w/ a lot of his classmates parents, and we get the kids together outside of school
For his birthday parties, I always include the whole class (not b/c I HAVE TO, but b/c I think at that age, it's just the right thing to do)
But if I were going to have a celebration in my home, and invite the kids AND their respective families, I wouldn't feel the need to include the whole class. I'd just invite those I had a relationship with. Frankly, some of the kids my son doesn't particularly like, and some of the parents I don't particularly like - so I don't see any reason to invite them into my home. - Again, a 2 hour birthday party is different.
But, if you do that, you can't give out invitations in class ......
I mean yeah free country blah blah but in my book you have to invite the whole class to not be viewed as a jerk. I mean, I get the inclination to have a closer group of people over but imo it's really mean. So I agree you don't have to do anything but there's still a moral compass of right and wrong.
Would be different if it was a family graduation party and you were just inviting 2 or 3 close school friends, but to invite 9 of 15? Sorry, it's terrible imo. Those other people are going to see it on fb etc.
I would invite all and expect those six kids to probably not come anyway.
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Maybe-Baybe
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
Posted by Aries14
invite the whole class. I would be so upset if my DD was left out of something like that. And she would be really hurt too.
I agree.
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| Posted 5/29/14 10:18 PM |
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Lillykat
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
You asked or I would not say this. I get what some said your party you do as you please. But I think you will come across as kind of a jerk (as someone above phrased it) or at least insensitive if you only leave a few out. I think it would be hurtful to invite all but a few. Look a bday party you are celebrating a single person/achievement, but a graduation, you are celebrating a shared celebration/achievement. I could see if you invited like 5 out of 20 families but inviting the majority in a class all celebrating the same thing seems hurtful to leave a select few out. I would in this case invite the entire class, or only one gender. You expect only 7 or so to show, so most likely the ones you are close to might not show as well but I would extend the invite.
Etd to add... I frequently see a lot say oh well I don't know them etc. in my area you might not be close but you see the same people over and over. They are in camps, town sports, older grades. You might not want to burn bridges if you might work or be social with those select few later on. Around here people do talk, and they would tell others. Just something to think about...IF it matters to you, some care some don't.
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| Posted 5/30/14 7:31 AM |
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LSP2005
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Re: OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
You have asked this question many many times for birthday parties and other events that you have held. You seem to want permission or validation from other people that it is ok to exclude some members of your social circle when you host parties. IMO it is NOT ok to exclude less than 1/2 of the graduating class from a graduation party when the class is so small. Do your children receive invites to every class party for all of the other children? I am betting that they do. In a small class, it is just the thing that is done.
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| Posted 5/30/14 8:17 AM |
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M514
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OK to not invite entire class to graduation party?
If it's a graduation party for the class, then invite the whole class. You could get to know the families that you arent familiar with. I just feel like you'll cause some tension or bad feelings towards you/your son if the families you dont invite find out. Especially if your son will be in class with these same kids next year.
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