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mommyIam
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by MrsDrMatt
I love the use of grievance! I am going to use it tonight!
Thanks what I'm thinking.
But that tone, like "what is YOUR problem?" is disgusting, because its not really a question but a statement that's saying to the child "I'm annoyed with you"
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by MrsDrMatt
I love the use of grievance! I am going to use it tonight!
Ditto.
I alway say to DD- what is your issue?
But I am going to use grievance from now on.
It sounds much more intellectual!
I prefer what is the conundrum my dear?
Are you hvaing an issue finishing that slurppe?
If its such a grievance than just eat these chips!
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| Posted 7/15/11 3:17 PM |
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by mommyIam
Posted by MrsDrMatt
I love the use of grievance! I am going to use it tonight!
Thanks what I'm thinking.
But that tone, like "what is YOUR problem?" is disgusting, because its not really a question but a statement that's saying to the child "I'm annoyed with you"
Maybe the kid has had 75648 other issues that day and the mom snapped a little and her tone wasn't nice. So sue her. It happens to the best of parents
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| Posted 7/15/11 3:17 PM |
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mrswask
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by Straightarrow
Posted by mommyIam
Posted by MrsDrMatt
I love the use of grievance! I am going to use it tonight!
Thanks what I'm thinking.
But that tone, like "what is YOUR problem?" is disgusting, because its not really a question but a statement that's saying to the child "I'm annoyed with you"
Maybe the kid has had 75648 other issues that day and the mom snapped a little and her tone wasn't nice. So sue her. It happens to the best of parents
Maybe I will sue her
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| Posted 7/15/11 3:18 PM |
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by 2boys1girl
I honestly think these "I overheard" posts are getting to be too much....
Things we learn as kids:
Never ASSume
Dont judge others
Mind your own business
Until you've walked a day in their shoes
You dont know what goes on behind closed doors...etc.
This posts are now making me wonder if I should just sit in the house with my kids in fear someone is going to post a thread that they just saw me leave mcdonalds and I bought my kids not only a happy meal BUT the 3 for 1 cookies or they just overheard me ask my 8 year old and 5 year old during another one of their fighting/tattling episodes "whats the situation"?
My thoughts, exactly. I am sure all of us at one time has said something that came out wrong or could be misconstrued by a stranger. Give the Mom a break.
The other thing that bothers me is I personally think that Motherhood is the hardest job out there. We should be sticking together to make each of our jobs easier instead of tearing each other down. If it doesn't concern you, mind your own business (unless of course, the child was in danger)
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| Posted 7/15/11 3:26 PM |
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mrswask
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
When it's screamed in my ear as it was being screamed at her child, it sort of became my business.
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| Posted 7/15/11 3:30 PM |
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by mrswask
When it's screamed in my ear as it was being screamed at her child, it sort of became my business.
Why? She came up to you and asked you what your grievance was?
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| Posted 7/15/11 3:30 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by 2boys1girl
Posted by mrswask
When it's screamed in my ear as it was being screamed at her child, it sort of became my business.
Why? She came up to you and asked you what your grievance was?
 You know exactly what she meant.
What exactly is wrong with the OP coming on here and saying she felt bad for the child because of the tone of voice her mom was using? It's not like she went up to the mom and gave her what for. She just expressed to US that it upset her. Lots of us do that, all the time. Christ 
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| Posted 7/15/11 3:32 PM |
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2boys1girl
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Because its obviously getting a little ridiculous the accusations that keep coming about other mothers, fathers, caregivers, etc.
I think this post was just another  to go along with a slurpee and some chips.
When someone sees another parent actually doing something wrong to their child then thats another story but all these post as my mother would say are just cockamamie bullsh*t
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| Posted 7/15/11 3:34 PM |
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TripletMom
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
 I wonder if that is along the same lines as me asking my 2 yrs old triplets What their issue is???
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| Posted 7/15/11 3:37 PM |
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mrswask
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Then don't read it and keep responding if it's such bs. You, my dear, are the one who is continuing to Unless I knew it was someone on here, how is it potstirring to say that someone's tone towards a little one upset me. Get over it and stop resopnding if you don't like it.
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| Posted 7/15/11 3:39 PM |
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2boys1girl
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by mrswask
Then don't read it and keep responding if it's such bs. You, my dear, are the one who is continuing to Unless I knew it was someone on here, how is it potstirring to say that someone's tone towards a little one upset me. Get over it and stop resopnding if you don't like it.
You know what I'm not even gonna respond becasue obviously the reactions is why this post was started in the first place...Obviously you have some sort of grievance here.
Message edited 7/15/2011 3:46:02 PM.
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Totally get the tone & the shouting makes it something different...
but why is everyone taking issue with the word "grievance"
My kids knew what "non-negotiable" was when they were toddlers. The daycare teachers told me my son comforted another kid throwing a tantrum with "It's non-negotiable" and a hug.  They understand whatever word translates in their mind to "what's wrong?"
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| Posted 7/15/11 3:43 PM |
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mrswask
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by 2boys1girl
Posted by mrswask
Then don't read it and keep responding if it's such bs. You, my dear, are the one who is continuing to Unless I knew it was someone on here, how is it potstirring to say that someone's tone towards a little one upset me. Get over it and stop resopnding if you don't like it.
You know what I'm not even gonna respond becasue obviously the reactions is why this post was started in the first place...Obviously you have some sort of grievance here.
Only with you.
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| Posted 7/15/11 3:48 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
This is really getting to be a bit too much.
Until you are in the situation you don't know what went on.
I use a "tone" with my kids. That is how I get them to listen to me. To know that I'm serious. If I didn't use my "tone" they would walk all over me. A parent needs to set boundaries for a kid. IMO - if Jack was acting whiny at the park I would say to him "What is your problem and do you want to go home" -- There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that.
If we see someone beating a child, pulling them, kicking them, etc. That is something to worry about and be concerned over. Slurpees, chips, and the tone they use to discipline their kids --- not something to worry about IMO.
ETA: Michal, I love you so this isn't just at you. It's everything lately. With all of the horrible things going on in this world right now these things are not something that be of concern to us. I promise you that as kids grow up things get harder. You are basically negotiating with a terrorist (or at least I am) --- I do whatever I need to do/say for my boys to be well behaved, polite, and most importantly kept safe.
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
We all have our days and while it might make me take pause so what...you don't know the situation. I get posts about child saftey and so on but this is the 2nd one like this and while I get it's frustrating...I really really do I just don't understand it. There could be a million reasons why this happened and I know, for my self, I am not always perfect, polite, and correct in how I deal with my DD, BUT that doesn't mean I would deserve to be "critiqued" by another mother. I have said it before and i'll say it again.....Being a mom is fantastic, but being in the "Mom Club" suckss asss crack. You can't win no matter what you do. If I heard or saw something that REALLY offended or alarmed me I would approach the parent and ask if I could help in some way or whatever would pertain to the situation. I WISH as parents sometimes we would step back, take off our judgey pants, and maybe offer a hand instead of a snide face or remark.
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Karen
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by 2boys1girl
I honestly think these "I overheard" posts are getting to be too much....
Things we learn as kids:
Never ASSume
Dont judge others
Mind your own business
Until you've walked a day in their shoes
You dont know what goes on behind closed doors...etc.
This posts are now making me wonder if I should just sit in the house with my kids in fear someone is going to post a thread that they just saw me leave mcdonalds and I bought my kids not only a happy meal BUT the 3 for 1 cookies or they just overheard me ask my 8 year old and 5 year old during another one of their fighting/tattling episodes "whats the situation"?
Well said!!
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Diana1215
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by mommyIam
Posted by MrsDrMatt
I love the use of grievance! I am going to use it tonight!
Thanks what I'm thinking.
But that tone, like "what is YOUR problem?" is disgusting, because its not really a question but a statement that's saying to the child "I'm annoyed with you"
No offense, but this is very easy to say when dealing with someone under the age of 18 months. As they get older everything is a negotiation. It's easy to say you won't do or say certain things - but until you are faced with the actual situation you really don't know what you will do.
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memi7206
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
how about everyone parents their own children and mind your own d@mn business about what everyone else is doing with theirs???? As long as no one is being harmed or in harms way......get over it. Unless you are the perfect parent all the time.
This is such utter BS. Im sure she is the ONLY mother EVER to have yelled at, taken a tone with or been frustrated with her child. Good lord, worry about yourself and cut other parents some slack - you have NO IDEA what is going on.
Just mind your own business.
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by mrswask
Posted by 2boys1girl
Posted by mrswask
Then don't read it and keep responding if it's such bs. You, my dear, are the one who is continuing to Unless I knew it was someone on here, how is it potstirring to say that someone's tone towards a little one upset me. Get over it and stop resopnding if you don't like it.
You know what I'm not even gonna respond becasue obviously the reactions is why this post was started in the first place...Obviously you have some sort of grievance here.
Only with you.
what happened to flame away?
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| Posted 7/15/11 3:58 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
I once told my kid that if she didn't do XXX she wouldn't get any food.
I didn't mean it, I don't use starvation as a form of new age discipline, some how it just came out.
Don't judge me
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hazeleyes33
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by memi7206
how about everyone parents their own children and mind your own d@mn business about what everyone else is doing with theirs???? As long as no one is being harmed or in harms way......get over it. Unless you are the perfect parent all the time.
This is such utter BS. Im sure she is the ONLY mother EVER to have yelled at, taken a tone with or been frustrated with her child. Good lord, worry about yourself and cut other parents some slack - you have NO IDEA what is going on.
Just mind your own business.
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| Posted 7/15/11 4:00 PM |
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mommyIam
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by Diana1215
Posted by mommyIam
Posted by MrsDrMatt
I love the use of grievance! I am going to use it tonight!
Thanks what I'm thinking.
But that tone, like "what is YOUR problem?" is disgusting, because its not really a question but a statement that's saying to the child "I'm annoyed with you"
No offense, but this is very easy to say when dealing with someone under the age of 18 months. As they get older everything is a negotiation. It's easy to say you won't do or say certain things - but until you are faced with the actual situation you really don't know what you will do.
Your right, I take no offense, and I don't guarantee I'll never say it, but even if I do, it will still be disgusting to me.
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jessicamd
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
I always swore I would never speak to my kids that way, but sometimes what I REALLY want to say doesn't come out quite right. That being said, I am still upset with myself and embarrassed almost immediately afterward. :(
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by Diana1215
Posted by mommyIam
Posted by MrsDrMatt
I love the use of grievance! I am going to use it tonight!
Thanks what I'm thinking.
But that tone, like "what is YOUR problem?" is disgusting, because its not really a question but a statement that's saying to the child "I'm annoyed with you"
No offense, but this is very easy to say when dealing with someone under the age of 18 months. As they get older everything is a negotiation. It's easy to say you won't do or say certain things - but until you are faced with the actual situation you really don't know what you will do.
Took the words out of my mouth....
Pre-schoolers and up are a whole 'nother animal
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