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Ophelia
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
I dont' get this either. is it not totally known in a general sense that not everyone is going to like or agree with what we do...parenting or otherwise...
I don't get why people get so twisted or act so surprised that they are "judged".
of course people judge. every day. SO WHAT. do you REALLY care that some woman on a chat board thinks your tone is too harsh? I mean REALLY care. everyone is entitled to have an opinion, and YES, that means even about YOU.
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InShock2011
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
how do you know for sure she was even the parent? I was a nanny for a family and could still be working for them. I have asked the kids whats the problem now? and I'm pretty sure I said it with attitude.
I don't have an issue with you thinking what she did was wrong. I have an issue that you come on and posted about it. that's judging someone elses reaction to a situation.
How do you know that her mother didn't just pass away and she's at the park with the kids to burn off steam? I could go thru a million more what if's.
Every parent parents differently. they do what they feel works. it might not be what you want to do so you think in your head, wow, that's not very nice. and IMO it should be left at that. to come on a public forum and judge them publicly, is wrong.
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| Posted 7/15/11 4:28 PM |
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jgl
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by mrswask
Like I said, it was the tone more than anything that just made me sad. Very nasty.
It is very possible that this kid is just a "complainer" or just continued to complain the entire time they were there and the mom had enough! I can see myself doing this after being irritated by constant complaints. You will definetly hear me in my annoyed voice loudly telling my 13 month old to stop hanging in my leg. Yes I get that he wants mommy and doesnt understand this annoys me but after hours of trying to walk and having DS hanging on my leg and nearly stepping on him, it gets to you.  So im sure the mother was just at "that" point
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| Posted 7/15/11 4:28 PM |
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BellaRock
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by CrankyPants
I once told my kid that if she didn't do XXX she wouldn't get any food.
I didn't mean it, I don't use starvation as a form of new age discipline, some how it just came out.
Don't judge me
Last week my oldest decided he was going to complain w. the worst attitude about everything I made to eat that day and refused to eat any of it. I got so frustrated I told him fine don't eat it. I wont make you anything to eat ever again. You can eat that attitude of yours for dinner.
I didn't mean it either. I promise you ALL that I did make dinner that night and he ate it.
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| Posted 7/15/11 4:29 PM |
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Erica
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
I had to yell at my kids in the car on the way to the beach this week. They were hitting each other and teasing... typical, but I had enough!
I got to the beach and softly, but sternly spoke to one of them again (who dumped sand on me). I was never so happy to hear another mom next to me yell at their child a little bit later. I wanted to put up the horns and say "I'm there with you momma!"
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| Posted 7/15/11 5:14 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
I dont see the big deal honestly at all.
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| Posted 7/15/11 5:20 PM |
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Tine73
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
I think from now on when I'm in public with my kids I just won't speak.
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| Posted 7/15/11 5:38 PM |
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Ready4aBaby
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
What exactly is wrong with the OP coming on here and saying she felt bad for the child because of the tone of voice her mom was using? It's not like she went up to the mom and gave her what for. She just expressed to US that it upset her. Lots of us do that, all the time. Christ 
LOL.. I'm scared to cross over to the parenting board from pregnancy because I'm afraid I will vent and get a zillion people throwing rocks at me.. 
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| Posted 7/15/11 5:58 PM |
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Ever-After
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
I have to agree with the other girls who said that you just never know the situation. Although I will admit that it DOES make me a little sad when I hear harsh tones, I try not to judge, because after working with children, I get the frustration. lol.
The only time I ever felt upset with overhearing a stranger was when I heard a mom yelling at her 9 yr old daughter "You'll probably turn out to be a screwed up just like your father"  That gave me a little pain in my chest when I heard it. Please don't talk crap about that girl's daddy right in front of her - no matter what the situation.
But when it comes just to the TONE I try to cut the mom a little slack, because I know that I am likely to use tones too. lol.
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| Posted 7/15/11 5:59 PM |
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Kidsaplenty
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
God, I hope none of you ever overhear me asking one of my kids what the fluck their problem is
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| Posted 7/15/11 6:11 PM |
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Kidsaplenty
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by Diana1215
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Posted by MrsDrMatt
I love the use of grievance! I am going to use it tonight!
Thanks what I'm thinking.
But that tone, like "what is YOUR problem?" is disgusting, because its not really a question but a statement that's saying to the child "I'm annoyed with you"
No offense, but this is very easy to say when dealing with someone under the age of 18 months. As they get older everything is a negotiation. It's easy to say you won't do or say certain things - but until you are faced with the actual situation you really don't know what you will do.
Exactly, if any of you get to the point that you have 2 or more kids of talking age that annoy each other day in, and day out, you just might be surprised to hear yourself using the same tone when one of them walks up to you for the bajillionth time complaining about their sibling touching, breathing, looking, or whatever other grievance, you could have the same.exact.tone as this mother. Cut it with the holier than thou bullcrap.Everyone of us is human, and we are all allowed to lose or tempers sometimes.
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| Posted 7/15/11 6:17 PM |
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Serendipity
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by 2boys1girl
I honestly think these "I overheard" posts are getting to be too much....
Things we learn as kids:
Never ASSume
Dont judge others
Mind your own business
Until you've walked a day in their shoes
You dont know what goes on behind closed doors...etc.
This posts are now making me wonder if I should just sit in the house with my kids in fear someone is going to post a thread that they just saw me leave mcdonalds and I bought my kids not only a happy meal BUT the 3 for 1 cookies or they just overheard me ask my 8 year old and 5 year old during another one of their fighting/tattling episodes "whats the situation"?
OMG! ITA! I have to say I usually dont get annoyed bu come on! Are we all that perfect! Now if someone would have overheard me 10 min ago in Stop and Shop parking lot telling my DD that was standing on the cart seat (in the parking lot) that she was in trouble and I wasnt talking to her right now someone would have had a comment!
We are all moms trying to do our best with whatever else we have going on in our ives at the current moment. I think we need to start giving eachother some slack
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| Posted 7/15/11 6:31 PM |
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Ever-After
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by mrswask
Posted by CrankyPants
I actually like that she is expanding her DD's vocabulary-though I could do without the sarcasm.
Yes, I was actually impressed by the use of the word grievance
lol. me too. A friend of mine, rather than telling her children to 'cut it out', would always say "Cease and desist!" and it always made me laugh
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| Posted 7/15/11 6:51 PM |
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missrock
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Really who cares. I dont. Im not a perfect mom...far from it actually.
And there are time i curse at my kids. Its terrible that people judge others especially when it involves children. I have to say that since being on these boards I am super paranoid that someone will give me looks for giving my 4 year old soda or mcdonalds.
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| Posted 7/15/11 6:55 PM |
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Michelle1123
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by Tine73
I think from now on when I'm in public with my kids I just won't speak.
This is how I'm starting to feel too 
But then again, I could care less what anyone thinks of me. My kids are usually good and whatever I'm doing is working.
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| Posted 7/15/11 7:36 PM |
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maymama
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
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KennysMommy
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by Michelle1123
Posted by Tine73
I think from now on when I'm in public with my kids I just won't speak.
This is how I'm starting to feel too
But then again, I could care less what anyone thinks of me. My kids are usually good and whatever I'm doing is working.
I have to say, I overheard you the other day at the GTG and I was very impressed at how you spoke to B and G! You were firm yet kind and caring. I took note and hope to be like that with Kenny one day! 
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| Posted 7/15/11 7:41 PM |
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Michelle1123
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by KennysMommy
Posted by Michelle1123
Posted by Tine73
I think from now on when I'm in public with my kids I just won't speak.
This is how I'm starting to feel too
But then again, I could care less what anyone thinks of me. My kids are usually good and whatever I'm doing is working.
I have to say, I overheard you the other day at the GTG and I was very impressed at how you spoke to B and G! You were firm yet kind and caring. I took note and hope to be like that with Kenny one day!
Thats just bc I knew there were a lot of LIF'ers there and didnt want someone to post about me
Just kidding, but I do really lose it sometimes. Anyone that has a 5 second phone call with me usually heres me screaming
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| Posted 7/15/11 7:43 PM |
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by Tine73
I think from now on when I'm in public with my kids I just won't speak.
Me too.
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| Posted 7/15/11 7:46 PM |
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hotsauce345
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by 2boys1girl
I honestly think these "I overheard" posts are getting to be too much....
Things we learn as kids:
Never ASSume
Dont judge others
Mind your own business
Until you've walked a day in their shoes
You dont know what goes on behind closed doors...etc.
where's the like button for this one?
i mean...i've heard moms say "STFU" to their kids or "i'm gonna beat your ***..." those kinds of things are completely inappropriate and uncalled for and I'd TOTALLY judge anyone who said it as a POS parent...but some other things i think get too read into. It's so east to look at someone else and pick apart the things they do wrong as a parent...i could only imagine what it may look like to someone else looking back on us.
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KartveliT
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she sounds like a horrible mother, how dare she! someone should have called the cops, or maybe even CPS....
Ahhhhow I want to be a perfect mom like some of the posters on here, so jealous ....
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| Posted 7/15/11 9:23 PM |
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Jazzyt
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by 2boys1girl
Posted by SweetTooth
I don't really see the big deal. I may not use the word "grievance" but I do say to my kids "what's your problem" when I am frustrated and having a bad day.. is there really a parent who hasn't?
I do a "whats the issue"?
"whats the situation"?
I do what's the issue?...I DON'T see the big deal
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| Posted 7/15/11 9:32 PM |
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Alli06
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by Jazzyt
Posted by 2boys1girl
Posted by SweetTooth
I don't really see the big deal. I may not use the word "grievance" but I do say to my kids "what's your problem" when I am frustrated and having a bad day.. is there really a parent who hasn't?
I do a "whats the issue"?
"whats the situation"?
I do what's the issue?...I DON'T see the big deal
I don't see the big deal either. I ask DS " What is the problem" all the time. He just went through 3 weeks of tantrum Hell!!! 5-6 tantrums a day over nothing. I snapped quite a few times. It is not easy being a parent and you don't know her situation.
Now if I heard that parent curse at the kid or tell them they where going to get beat later, then I would be really disgusted!
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| Posted 7/15/11 10:47 PM |
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
Posted by Tine73
I think from now on when I'm in public with my kids I just won't speak.
Seriously... this site is starting to make me paranoid.
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Sassyz75
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Re: Overheard at the Sprinkler Park today...
I am convinced that one of these days there is going to be a post with something I said to my daughter.
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You know exactly what she meant.
