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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
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ETA- to the poster "Seaside" (I believe). What TV shows are you watching that depict those SAHM's that are out "manicuring" and "lunching" every day?? You must introduce them to my group of SAHM friends, because we don't get out to do ANY of those things without 3 months of prior planning. 
I think people are missing seaside's point - I also know a lot of women who 'call' themselves "Stay at Home Moms, or Home makers" - They are anything but!! - They're days are filled with shopping and lunch and day spas while the nanny or Grandma watches their kids - THESE women, seaside is saying, are NOT true SAHM's .....They're Mom's that don't do ANYTHING, they don't work outside the home, they don't care for their kids - they care for themselves and that's about all .........ALL the time (Not to say that any Mom doesn't need and deserve some "me" time) But there's a difference between a SAHM who's spending her days at the park or shopping or lunching WITH her kids, and the woman who's dumping her kids off on a daily basis to go about her social life ...........
MarisaK said it perfectly. & the difference between dropping your kids off to shop and dropping your kids off to work is the title/label SAHM. If you're gonna use the label, it should be accurate.
So wait...if you are a SAHM, you can't shop alone? EVER?
But if I was a working mom, I could go shopping, by myself, during my lunch break or after work.
That seems fair. 
Of COURSE not and if you read what I wrote I SAID that EVERY mom deserves and needs some "me" time -
The DIFFERENCE seaside was tyrying to point out was in defense of SAHMs saying that a a woman who spends her days shopping and at the spa has no right to call herself a SAHM when she's NEVER caring for anoyne but herself, while a REAL SAHM who ACTUALLY stays with her kids and cares for them during the day is busting her arse !!
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
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It depends on the mom. If you're (not directing this toward *you*) a SAHM, who sits around watching soap operas & Oprah, sitting on the computer all day or parking your kid in front of a TV all day, no your child will not benefit from being with you. If you're going to do laundry & teach your children colors by helping them sort socks, bring them on playdates, go for walks, then yes, your child benefits.
I couldnt agree more
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
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ETA- to the poster "Seaside" (I believe). What TV shows are you watching that depict those SAHM's that are out "manicuring" and "lunching" every day?? You must introduce them to my group of SAHM friends, because we don't get out to do ANY of those things without 3 months of prior planning.
I think people are missing seaside's point - I also know a lot of women who 'call' themselves "Stay at Home Moms, or Home makers" - They are anything but!! - They're days are filled with shopping and lunch and day spas while the nanny or Grandma watches their kids - THESE women, seaside is saying, are NOT true SAHM's .....They're Mom's that don't do ANYTHING, they don't work outside the home, they don't care for their kids - they care for themselves and that's about all .........ALL the time (Not to say that any Mom doesn't need and deserve some "me" time) But there's a difference between a SAHM who's spending her days at the park or shopping or lunching WITH her kids, and the woman who's dumping her kids off on a daily basis to go about her social life ...........
MarisaK said it perfectly. & the difference between dropping your kids off to shop and dropping your kids off to work is the title/label SAHM. If you're gonna use the label, it should be accurate.
So wait...if you are a SAHM, you can't shop alone? EVER?
But if I was a working mom, I could go shopping, by myself, during my lunch break or after work.
That seems fair.
Of COURSE not and if you read what I wrote I SAID that EVERY mom deserves and needs some "me" time -
The DIFFERENCE seaside was tyrying to point out was in defense of SAHMs saying that a a woman who spends her days shopping and at the spa has no right to call herself a SAHM when she's NEVER caring for anoyne but herself, while a REAL SAHM who ACTUALLY stays with her kids and cares for them during the day is busting her arse !!
You say every mom needs "some" me time.
What is "some" for you (which, I have no idea, but are you a SAHM?) and "some" for a SAHM might be totally and completely different.
Who are you (in general) to judge what qualifies and constitutes a "REAL" SAHM??
Are there limits and perameters to the amount of time actually spent at home as opposed to time spent as "me" time???
If so, I need to see that rule book to make sure I can still hold my title as SAHM.
For myself, I can say, my "me" time is from 8pm until 7am...when my kids are asleep.
At which time I clean up from dinner, straighten up the playroom, plan events/ playdates (not manicures) for the next day, work on favors (a SAHM "job" I have that I do when my kids are asleep), etc...
So does this entitle me to my SAHM position?
If I told you that I got a manicure weekly (which I don't, but wish I did
), would I be LESS of a SAHM??
It's VERY easy for people to critique what they don't know.
From the outside looking in, being a SAHM looks cushy. But trust me when I tell you, I had time to burn before I became a mom and worked every day as a second grade teacher to 30 students.
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| Posted 9/2/08 11:15 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
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ETA- to the poster "Seaside" (I believe). What TV shows are you watching that depict those SAHM's that are out "manicuring" and "lunching" every day?? You must introduce them to my group of SAHM friends, because we don't get out to do ANY of those things without 3 months of prior planning.
I think people are missing seaside's point - I also know a lot of women who 'call' themselves "Stay at Home Moms, or Home makers" - They are anything but!! - They're days are filled with shopping and lunch and day spas while the nanny or Grandma watches their kids - THESE women, seaside is saying, are NOT true SAHM's .....They're Mom's that don't do ANYTHING, they don't work outside the home, they don't care for their kids - they care for themselves and that's about all .........ALL the time (Not to say that any Mom doesn't need and deserve some "me" time) But there's a difference between a SAHM who's spending her days at the park or shopping or lunching WITH her kids, and the woman who's dumping her kids off on a daily basis to go about her social life ...........
MarisaK said it perfectly. & the difference between dropping your kids off to shop and dropping your kids off to work is the title/label SAHM. If you're gonna use the label, it should be accurate.
So wait...if you are a SAHM, you can't shop alone? EVER?
But if I was a working mom, I could go shopping, by myself, during my lunch break or after work.
That seems fair.
Of COURSE not and if you read what I wrote I SAID that EVERY mom deserves and needs some "me" time -
The DIFFERENCE seaside was tyrying to point out was in defense of SAHMs saying that a a woman who spends her days shopping and at the spa has no right to call herself a SAHM when she's NEVER caring for anoyne but herself, while a REAL SAHM who ACTUALLY stays with her kids and cares for them during the day is busting her arse !!
You say every mom needs "some" me time.
What is "some" for you (which, I have no idea, but are you a SAHM?) and "some" for a SAHM might be totally and completely different.
Who are you (in general) to judge what qualifies and constitutes a "REAL" SAHM??
Are there limits and perameters to the amount of time actually spent at home as opposed to time spent as "me" time???
If so, I need to see that rule book to make sure I can still hold my title as SAHM.
For myself, I can say, my "me" time is from 8pm until 7am...when my kids are asleep.
At which time I clean up from dinner, straighten up the playroom, plan events/ playdates (not manicures) for the next day, work on favors (a SAHM "job" I have that I do when my kids are asleep), etc...
So does this entitle me to my SAHM position?
If I told you that I got a manicure weekly (which I don't, but wish I did
), would I be LESS of a SAHM??
It's VERY easy for people to critique what they don't know.
From the outside looking in, being a SAHM looks cushy. But trust me when I tell you, I had time to burn before I became a mom and worked every day as a second grade teacher to 30 students.
Oh for God's sake are you actually READING what I'm writing ???? - Or are you just going into autopilot defense mode?
First of all, I'm NOT a SAHM nor do I want to be -
Secondly, I am SAYING that BEING a SAHM is a DIFFICULT and extremely time consuming and exhausting job (is it ok for me to make THAT assumption w/o actually having experienced it??) so it's an INSULT to SAHMs who are doing what you are doing and caring for your kids and your home to be lumped together with the 'socialites' who put their kids in daycare or with a nanny on a DAILY, ALL DAY basis so they can spend their days at the spa and the mall and at the country club .........- I'm not saying these women are BAD mothers either BTW, I'm just SAYING they shouldn't be calling themselves SAHMs when they are obviously NOT the ones caring for their kids on a daily basis -
Are THEY doing what YOU're doing every day? Would you sit across the table from Paris Hilton's mother and relate to her life as a SAHM?
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
Posted by MarisaK
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I saw seaside's comments & thought "Where does she live?"
The SAHMs I know aren't living in the lap of luxury, lunching at the club with the girls while the nanny has the children.
They are working hard at keeping their house clean from children who wreck it. They are doing the bills, making mom friends, going to the park & reading "Pat the Bunny" for the gazillionth time.
Their moms may watch their kids so they can get their nails done or run to a store to try on new clothes because their body has changed from having kids & they don't want to bring their 4 year old in the dressing room because he'll comment loudly on Mommy's butt.
There are moms that neglect their kids; there are moms that don't neglect their kids. You don't need a country club or spa to do it, nor do you have to be a SAHM.
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
Posted by MarisaK
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Oh for God's sake are you actually READING what I'm writing ???? - Or are you just going into autopilot defense mode?
First of all, I'm NOT a SAHM nor do I want to be -
Secondly, I am SAYING that BEING a SAHM is a DIFFICULT and extremely time consuming and exhausting job (is it ok for me to make THAT assumption w/o actually having experienced it??) so it's an INSULT to SAHMs who are doing what you are doing and caring for your kids and your home to be lumped together with the 'socialites' who put their kids in daycare or with a nanny on a DAILY, ALL DAY basis so they can spend their days at the spa and the mall and at the country club .........- I'm not saying these women are BAD mothers either BTW, I'm just SAYING they shouldn't be calling themselves SAHMs when they are obviously NOT the ones caring for their kids on a daily basis -
Are THEY doing what YOU're doing every day? Would you sit across the table from Paris Hilton's mother and relate to her life as a SAHM?
OK...I can't sit on here all day and go back and forth with you, cause guess what...I have to get my children and myself ready to leave for a playdate! Seriously...what timing.
First...yes I read what you wrote. And I answered.
I have been a SAHM mom for YEARS and never met, or knew anyone that met, the SAHM's you describe.
I've seen them on TV, but don't give them or their lifestyles much thought. Nor do I care.
And I don't ever recall Paris' mom referring to herself as a SAHM.
To get back to my FIRST response to this thread, and that answered the OP...there is no "should".
Every parent (not just mom), has to do what is right for THEIR family.
Who are we to judge?
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
MarisaK's doing a pitch perfect job of explaining my point. 
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| Posted 9/2/08 11:36 AM |
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
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Posted by MarisaK
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I saw seaside's comments & thought "Where does she live?"
The SAHMs I know aren't living in the lap of luxury, lunching at the club with the girls while the nanny has the children.
They are working hard at keeping their house clean from children who wreck it. They are doing the bills, making mom friends, going to the park & reading "Pat the Bunny" for the gazillionth time.
Their moms may watch their kids so they can get their nails done or run to a store to try on new clothes because their body has changed from having kids & they don't want to bring their 4 year old in the dressing room because he'll comment loudly on Mommy's butt.
There are moms that neglect their kids; there are moms that don't neglect their kids. You don't need a country club or spa to do it, nor do you have to be a SAHM.
Amen, sista! 
Seriously...where do those chicks live?
I was gonna trade in my old "boring" SAHM friends for THOSE ladies. They seem to know how to live the high life! 
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MarisaK
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
Posted by seaside
MarisaK's doing a pitch perfect job of explaining my point.
Yeah, I'm SO done !! Defend yourself !!!  
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MarisaK
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
Posted by nrthshgrl
Posted by MarisaK
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I saw seaside's comments & thought "Where does she live?"
The SAHMs I know aren't living in the lap of luxury, lunching at the club with the girls while the nanny has the children.
They are working hard at keeping their house clean from children who wreck it. They are doing the bills, making mom friends, going to the park & reading "Pat the Bunny" for the gazillionth time.
Their moms may watch their kids so they can get their nails done or run to a store to try on new clothes because their body has changed from having kids & they don't want to bring their 4 year old in the dressing room because he'll comment loudly on Mommy's butt.
Just b/c YOU have not encountered these women doesn't mean they don't exist - I know a few ....and while I don't think they are bad or neglectful mothers at ALL, that is not what I was saying - It's their lifestyle, it's what they know, how they were raised - it's like a different world .........
I still want to  when they claim to be SAHMs .......
A SAHM is what YOU described above, someone who's doing everything you've said and going for a manicure or shopping for themselves is a BREAK for that ........a much needed and deserved break, but a BREAK -
I just don't think a socialite mom can call herself a SAHM any more than a working Mom would call herself a SAHM -
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
I think we're both done. Barb's whole scenario just underscores my point. Lots of women are great SAHM's--a very noble choice-- who get a little bit of help. I know too many people passing themselves off as sahm's when they actually log as much "me" time as the working mom's they look down on log at work! I agree with Barb, and my only issue is the hypocrisy of calling yourself a sahm when you're absent as much or more than a working mom.
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
I am a full time working mother to my 6 month old DS. My DH also works full time. I think it would be a disservice to my DS if I didn't work b/c god forbid something happened to my DH, where would we be? My DH works in finance and as everyone knows, things are a little shaky now. If he lost his job, what would we do? Forget the salary, how about the benefits (insurance, etc.)? We do not live extravagantly by any means. My DH has his MBA, I have my JD. We have old cars, live in a small cape cod and rarely take vacations. We save our money - not to give our DS "$200 sneakers" or video games or a brand new car. Primarily the money will be saved in case of an emergency, then, it will all be going to his college education so he doesn't have to take out loans. Both my parents worked - my mom actually got her PhD when I was in grade school. They are government employees and saved every penny to put me and my 2 sisters through private colleges and graduate schools. We have no school loans. When I asked my father how I could pay him back , he said "do the same for your kids" and i intend to do just that. I am extremely close with my parents and I am so proud of my mother for working. Alot of my friends had mothers that didn't work and it made me more proud that my mother did. My parents have a wonderful relationship and that is key.
My DS unfortunately is sick today and can't go to daycare....my DH stayed home to take care of him today - a father is just as important as a mother!
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| Posted 9/2/08 11:47 AM |
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
I don't have the time or patience to read this whole thread...nor do I want my stomach to turn so if this was said I apologize in advance.
my answer to this question is simple
it matters more the QUALITY of time your spend with your kids than the amount, I think.
If you are a SAHM that sits on your tuffet all day watching Oprah and Days of Our lives while your kid is in the other room watching Barney....I don't see how that is better than
a mom who goes to work, comes home, cooks with her children, does homework with her children, has reading time with her children and puts them to bed before having a nice drink of wine and a bit of time for herself and her husband.
obviously these are two of an infinite number of scenarios...but the basic principle is the same....
staying at home doesn't necessarily = nurturing and being at work doesn't = un nurturing (or non nurturing...whatever the negative may be)
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MrsR
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
Seaside and Marisa,
I think what bothers us SAHMs is that you are putting very specific dimensions on what is considered a proper stay at home mom? My question to you is what makes you the authority?
You can certainly define what YOU want out of being a SAHM - and what works for you and your family...but really no one has a right to determine what makes someone else a SAHM.
I will tell you this...I am a SAHM. I try to always look presentable. I get my nails done, I drive a nice car, I have a cleaning lady, and there are sometimes weeks that go by that I haven't cooked a hot meal for my husband. OH and the kicker is my child is in school 5 days a week - so I actually have some of my own time that I am not using to work.....so I guess by your definition I dont deserve the title...but I will tell you this.....
I am a D@MN good stay at home mom, and a D@MN good mom period. I love my family, I nuture them, and provide for them, and I am raising my daughter to be an admirable member of society who is well adjusted and empthatic, loving, etc....
Just because I might not "fit the mold" certainly doesn't mean that I am less than - and I certainly don't need YOU determining what a SAHM SHOULD be...that is just ridiculous!!!
eta: Edited to correct the spelling of ridiculous for you ophelia 
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seaside
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
I don't know you at all. I think you need to figure out what you can call yourself and how you feel about it, just as we all do. My point was merely that society seems to have set up two camps-working moms and sahm's, whereas, in reality, there is a spectrum, and it is egregious to me that people (who I do know very well)--call themselves sahm's when, in actuality, they have more childcare and spend less time with their kids and on their families than the working moms. Some of these people also have the audacity to "look down" on working moms--clearly by virtue of their "sahm" title alone. Where do you, personally, fit into all of that? I have no idea.... My whole point was that there are not two neatly defined camps.
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MarisaK
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
Posted by MrsR
Seaside and Marisa,
I think what bothers us SAHMs is that you are putting very specific dimensions on what is considered a proper stay at home mom? My question to you is what makes you the authority?
You can certainly define what YOU want out of being a SAHM - and what works for you and your family...but really no one has a right to determine what makes someone else a SAHM.
I will tell you this...I am a SAHM. I try to always look presentable. I get my nails done, I drive a nice car, I have a cleaning lady, and there are sometimes weeks that go by that I haven't cooked a hot meal for my husband. OH and the kicker is my child is in school 5 days a week - so I actually have some of my own time that I am not using to work.....but I will tell you this.....
I am a D@MN good stay at home mom, and a D@MN good mom period. I love my family, I nuture them, and provide for them, and I am raising my daughter to be an admirable member of society who is well adjusted and empthatic, loving, etc....
Just because I might not "fit the mold" certainly doesn't mean that I am less then - and I certainly don't need YOU determining what a SAHM SHOULD be...that is just rediculous!!!
I'm sorry if you're offended by my opinion - but that's all it is, I'm not passing judgement on ANYONE as far as being a 'good' or 'bad' parent - I'm not claiming to have any sort of authority - I'm just giving my opinion of what I see in front of me .......I could be wrong, I could be right - Does it really matter to anyone but me?
I see working Moms turn their noses up at SAH Moms, I see SAH Moms turn their noses up at working Moms .....- I'm sure plenty of people will have plenty of opinions about me ........And although I'd NEVER voice my opion to someone's face re: what I think of their decision, I will have my opinions about it - as will everyone. No one is void from OPINION - Part of me can understand a SAHM's opinion of what SHE is doing vs. what a working Mom is doing, and part of me can understand the working Mom's opinion of what SHE is doing vs. what the SAHM is doing - EVERYONE is hopefully doing what THEY think is best, and unless everyone has the exact same idea of 'best' then there are going to be differing opinions -
IMO it's ridiculous for a woman who spends her days at the spa, on the golf course, in a restaraunt etc. to turn her nose up at a working Mother for "leaving her kids in dacare" or "not raising her own kids" -
I don't think I ever implied ANY of those scenarios or stereotypes are BAD mothers or bad people ........And if I came off that way I sincerly apologize .........
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
I wish the United States gave us the CHOICE to either stay at home, work full time with the OPTION to do both.
We no longer have that option
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Posted by Janice
but you have to believe that people chose a certain lifestyle. Not everyone has the choice to sah...but a lot of people could if they had planned on it before having their kids.
this is what I said and quoted...you said not everyone can sah...I agree...but if they wanted to, they may have to alter their lifestyle choices and that could give them the extra money to sah if they want to...
I think that it is truly an individual choice. I think it's great if a family can afford to have one parent stay home. But I don't think it is detrimental to the child if both parents work.
My DH and I both work and DD was in daycare for a while (which she got a LOT out of) and is now with my Mom...that is the only way DH and I can afford to live.
As for "altering our lifestyle"...we currently live in an 1100 sq ft apartment, we both drive modest cars, I clip coupons and shop sales and clearances all the time and we scrimp and save wherever we can. We still can't afford for me (or DH) to stay home...the only way we *might* be able to do that is if we moved south...and then DD would have none of her friends and no family around like she does now...and how would that be more beneficial to her?
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MrsR
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
Thank you guys for hearing me out....
I want to say that IMHO a good mom will always be a good mom - working, home or otherwise...
and a bad mom will always be a bad mom - working or otherwise.
In my day to day life I truly believe that the judgements that are made are based off of ones own insecurities. I see it often..when I meet a working mom and tell her I am a SAHM a lot of times working moms fumble for an excuse of why they have to work....I guess I never understood it because me, personally - I don't judge. If you are a good mom who works - you are a good mom FIRST!!
I also see SAH moms make excuses or list what they do all day so that someone else can respect them - even though they are home.
I think we just get a bad rap as women sometimes - we can't win, we can't have it all because WE hold ourselves and eachother back!!!
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IrishLasss334
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
I think it's none of my business what another woman does. Who am I to say what is right for another family.
If God ever blesses me to have a child, I would love to be a SAHM. I don't know if I financially could, but I'd see when the time came. Regardless of what my decision would be at that time, it's not anyone else's business what we do.
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
Posted by MrsR
Thank you guys for hearing me out....
I want to say that IMHO a good mom will always be a good mom - working, home or otherwise...
and a bad mom will always be a bad mom - working or otherwise.
In my day to day life I truly believe that the judgements that are made are based off of ones own insecurities. I see it often..when I meet a working mom and tell her I am a SAHM a lot of times working moms fumble for an excuse of why they have to work....I guess I never understood it because me, personally - I don't judge. If you are a good mom who works - you are a good mom FIRST!!
I also see SAH moms make excuses or list what they do all day so that someone else can respect them - even though they are home.
I think we just get a bad rap as women sometimes - we can't win, we can't have it all because WE hold ourselves and eachother back!!!
Perfectly said!
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| Posted 9/2/08 1:11 PM |
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Domino
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
did it again...nm
Message edited 9/2/2008 1:18:52 PM.
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| Posted 9/2/08 1:18 PM |
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Kara
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They call me "Tater Salad"
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
Posted by jxnoscar
I wish the United States gave us the CHOICE to either stay at home, work full time with the OPTION to do both.
We no longer have that option
I don't understand this post. Can you clarify please?
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| Posted 9/2/08 1:21 PM |
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Rlivings
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
I think this debate is so funny....really I do. It is a timeless topic and no one ever "wins"...like religion...politics....
What ever happened to the old adage "to each their own"
I do NOT believe a woman SHOULD be home with their kids and I do not think SAHM is a "cushy" job as one lady put it in an earlier post. Far from it.
We can all point to examples of children who were raised by SAHM or working moms that ended up great....others not so great.
Im sure that we all do the best we can. Why isn't that enough?
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| Posted 9/2/08 1:23 PM |
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saraH
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Re: Poll: Do you believe a woman should be at home with her kids?
I don't think anyone has any right to judge what any mom does.
It's so easy to say "you should stay home with your kid" but most couples cannot afford to do that. We are one of those couples. And it sucks that I can't be with her 24/7, but what I'm doing now is going to help her in the future.
What's worse to me is the judgement that comes from those with no kids. That is what sets me off when I read these threads.
And I see and hear it all the time, next time you have to start your sentence with "when I have kids.." stop for a second and think of who you are speaking to.
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| Posted 9/2/08 1:33 PM |
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