Re: Pregnant or TTC in your 30's

I got pregnant with my son when I was 36. Having a baby before that was not an option for me because I did not want to have a child until after I was married, and I did not even start dating DH until I was 30.

I am glad that I waited to get married and to have a baby. When it happened I felt really ready. I had done a lot of traveling and partying and I was ready to settle down. Some people are ready earlier. I was not.

I was nervous about getting pregnant because I also heard that as you get older it gets harder, but I was very lucky, and got pregnant with my son the first very month that I we tried.

DH and I are now trying for baby #2. I am 39. I am going into my second month of trying. I am hoping that I will be lucky again and not have any trouble conceiving.

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I have wanted kids FOREVER. All I've wanted my entire life was to be a mom, But i didn't meet DH until I was 30

I am now 34 and just got my bfp. We were TTCing for exactly a year. I don't think there is too much "bad" about waiting.

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I probably will have a baby before I turn 37. I hope to anyway...l

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I'm 29 and TTC for the first. For me, the time is NOW.

ETA: If I could have, I would have started trying sooner. I have issues with patience I suppose.

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I am 34 had my first DC at 33. Trying for #2 and will be 35 in November. I wish I could have started earlier but I didn't get married till I was 33. I kind of feel now that I have to get a move on things because time isn't on my side.

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I'm 40 & had my first DD at 37 (2 days after my bday). I didn't get married until 36.

I had at 38 & we'll be (hopefully) TTC this fall for #3.

I got pregnant w/ both our 2nd month trying. I was initially afraid b/c I was older; but thankfully had no issues getting pregnant & had very smooth pregnanies, no issues.

30 is definitely not old.

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Posted by SweetCin

I'm 40 & had my first DD at 37 (2 days after my bday). I didn't get married until 36.

I had at 38 & we'll be (hopefully) TTC this fall for #3.

I got pregnant w/ both our 2nd month trying. I was initially afraid b/c I was older; but thankfully had no issues getting pregnant & had very smooth pregnanies, no issues.

30 is definitely not old.

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For me personally - i wish i would have started earlier. Unfortunatley I didnt meet DH until i was 27 - but in hind sight i wished we would have gotten married sooner instead of waiting 4 years and then waiting another 1 for TTC.

Now im almost 35 and with frustrastions over TTC - we might still have had trouble TTC earlier but at least have some time to get things right instead of now where we feel very pressured due to time

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I wish I had my dd at a younger age. I was 34 when I had her but I wanted to wait a year after being married to start ttc and I got married at age 32.

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DH & I are 33 & we got married a little over a month ago. We agreed to wait for the New Year TTC. I def dont think that the 30's is a late start. I agree that medical proof shows it becomes harder w/age but I am the last of all my friends to have a kid (some of them started in their early 20's) and about 30% of them had fertility issues.

Honestly until DH came back in my life (we knew each other when we were younger) I didnt really want to get married or have children (rough childhood) but I did want to have a family.....not quite sure how I was planning on making that work

Anyway I def wish DH & I got married right away. I knew w/in 3 months I wanted to spend the rest of my life w/him and he says he knew shortly after but was "scared" I think getting hitched @ 29 & then pop out the 1st @ 32 would of been cool but it didnt happen that way so in the end, I have no complaints.

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I had DS when I was 28, (turned 29 a month later) DH was 31 when DS was born.

A part of me wishes we waited longer, not for financial stability but honestly once you have kids they are your life. Its harder to do things for yourself and for you as a couple. I kinda wish we had of traveled a bit more or splurged a bit more.

But I dont regret it at all, my DS is amazing and I am now TTC #2 and I am so excited about my family. And I figure for the next 18 years our travel is different and our splurges are generally for the kids, but we will be in our early 50s when our kids are in graduating college and we can splurge more on ourselves then as we will still be young enough to enjoy it!

There is no right or wrong time!

ETA: I never had baby fever. I knew I wanted kids but didnt know when I felt kinda ready when I got pregnant with DS, but I could have waited longer and felt okay with it. With TTC #2 the switch went off but there wasnt baby fever, it was like okay I am ready lets do this. But I also feel if I never have #2 I am okay with that. I told DH if we dont get pregnant on our own, I have no intention of seeing an RE, etc I feel complete now with just #1 and if thats what is meant to be well so be it.

Message edited 8/17/2010 2:51:21 PM.