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MrsPowers
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Posted by Gertyrae
I've been on these boards a long time...and I just don't get it. It always amazes me.
I know the truth hurts, but jumping on someone who speaks it isn't the answer either.
I totally agree. If people can't take what others might say, then don't say it.
Not every response is going to be nice and what you want to hear.
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Posted by MrsPowers
Posted by Gertyrae
I've been on these boards a long time...and I just don't get it. It always amazes me.
I know the truth hurts, but jumping on someone who speaks it isn't the answer either.
I totally agree. If people can't take what others might say, then don't say it.
Not every response is going to be nice and what you want to hear.
I agree with that and I wouldn't do it for that reason...
BUT, if you posted something that hurt the OP, do you think they should just "suck it up" b/c they put themselves out there?
this is just a question in general...
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| Posted 8/8/07 10:57 AM |
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mrswask
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
IMO, there is waaay too much blowing smoke up people's azzes under the guise of support. When someone goes against the popular opinion, or does not blow smoke and raises a valid point, they are a b1tch, mean, nasty, what have you.
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| Posted 8/8/07 11:13 AM |
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steph4777
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
I truly believe it's not what you say, it's how you say it.
There are a lot of things that people say on here that make say  but I usually choose not to say anything especially if it truly will not help solve the problem or offer any insight to the situation.
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| Posted 8/8/07 11:33 AM |
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MarisaK
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
I don't believe in blowing smoke up anyone's a$$ -
That said, although no one can see your face or hear your words, your written words can still hurt people -
I only type what I would actually be comfortable saying to a person's face. -
And I have seen so really rude, judgemental comments made by people saying "Well, you ASKED for my opinion" .........Yes, maybe someone asked for an opinion, but there is a way to give a negative opinion without being nasty -
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| Posted 8/8/07 12:22 PM |
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
my motto on here, is that if I have nothing nice to say, I won't post
same here. I find that people open themselves on this board, but they don't want any criticism or for someone to disagree.
If I do disagree, and I think I have something valueable to contribute, I try to do it nice and respectfully.
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| Posted 8/8/07 1:15 PM |
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Posted by mrswask
IMO, there is waaay too much blowing smoke up people's azzes under the guise of support. When someone goes against the popular opinion, or does not blow smoke and raises a valid point, they are a b1tch, mean, nasty, what have you.
ITA there is a LOT of smoke blowing of azzes here.
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Posted by melijane
Posted by mrswask
IMO, there is waaay too much blowing smoke up people's azzes under the guise of support. When someone goes against the popular opinion, or does not blow smoke and raises a valid point, they are a b1tch, mean, nasty, what have you.
ITA there is a LOT of smoke blowing of azzes here.
oh yeah - absolutely - different little groups here and there
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| Posted 8/8/07 1:45 PM |
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Message edited 11/10/2011 5:02:26 PM.
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
I am all for truth. I am all for calling people out on their inconsistencies - diplomatically. I agree there is entirely too much sunshine being blown around here from time to time.
I am NOT all for someone throwing back into someone else's face something they said (and quote it) during a vent that took place during a very, very, difficult moment in their life. It changes the whole feeling of this community. If we can't come here to vent during a difficult time without fear of having words that were probably incredibly difficult to even type at that time thrown back in our faces later, it takes away alot from the community I thought we had here.
You (general you) can certainly disagree with someone and post your honest opinion. You should also be prepared to accept that some others may be of the opinion that that is mean.
There's a huge difference between pointing out someone's inconsistencies and throwing back in their face something they said in a moment of utter despair.
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| Posted 8/8/07 2:26 PM |
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Posted by BabyAvocado
I am all for truth. I am all for calling people out on their inconsistencies - diplomatically. I agree there is entirely too much sunshine being blown around here from time to time.
I am NOT all for someone throwing back into someone else's face something they said (and quote it) during a vent that took place during a very, very, difficult moment in their life. It changes the whole feeling of this community. If we can't come here to vent during a difficult time without fear of having words that were probably incredibly difficult to even type at that time thrown back in our faces later, it takes away alot from the community I thought we had here.
You (general you) can certainly disagree with someone and post your honest opinion. You should also be prepared to accept that some others may be of the opinion that that is mean.
There's a huge difference between pointing out someone's inconsistencies and throwing back in their face something they said in a moment of utter despair.
very eloquent, well said 
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Posted by neenie
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
or, if they introduce a little bit of REALITY to the conversation, they're mean and insensitive? 
I've said it before, and i'll say it again... this is the REAL world.. not a montessori school! You don't get pats on the back just because you know how to wipe your a$$ correctly 
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Posted by BabyAvocado
I am all for truth. I am all for calling people out on their inconsistencies - diplomatically. I agree there is entirely too much sunshine being blown around here from time to time.
I am NOT all for someone throwing back into someone else's face something they said (and quote it) during a vent that took place during a very, very, difficult moment in their life. It changes the whole feeling of this community. If we can't come here to vent during a difficult time without fear of having words that were probably incredibly difficult to even type at that time thrown back in our faces later, it takes away alot from the community I thought we had here.
You (general you) can certainly disagree with someone and post your honest opinion. You should also be prepared to accept that some others may be of the opinion that that is mean.
There's a huge difference between pointing out someone's inconsistencies and throwing back in their face something they said in a moment of utter despair.
this is the crux of it.
no one is saying you can't voice a differing opinion (I do it like it's my job) but just as you are commenting on what someone else said, the same can be done in return...even if it's to say it could have been said in a gentler way.
BIG diff bet. speaking tactfully and blowing sunshine.
ETA: in case it wasn't clear, I completely agree with the aguacate.
Message edited 8/8/2007 2:51:46 PM.
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Goldi0218
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
There are MANY times when I don't respond to a thread/post because I have nothing nice to say. I have that sort of restraint. I am also not a smoke blower and I never wear skirts so most be hell bent to be able to blow any up my arse.
I think we all articulate our thoughts differently. Some come across as abrasive and some come across in a much softer way. A lot of it has to do with writing style AS WELL AS writing in haste. There is always an alternative to being nasty and still get your point across even if it is negative. A person can be critical and not cruel.
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
I think a lot of the time, people don't want to hear the truth.
I'm not one to pussyfoot around when it comes to a varying opinion, so I've learned to keep my mouth shut (or fingers off the keyboard), especially when the boards consist mostly of women. Women seem to take differences in opinions personally.
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Ophelia
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
I also think that the subject matter/topic plays a role in how people take things.
I can say that I chose my words/advice more carefully on the relationship board b/c usually the person asking for advice is already upset/saddened/worried/anxious/hurt/etc.....my intent is to tell what I think but not ADD to what he/she may be already feeling.
on the other boards I let my fingers fly in general, b/c like my daddy always says...my mouth works faster than my brain  (eh, what does he know...my brain is REdiculously fast )
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Michelle
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Some people can not handle the truth and get ****** for others when they point it out to them.
Also there seems to be a real issue with people trying to keep up the Jone's, it is really sad.
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Posted by Michelle
Also there seems to be a real issue with people trying to keep up the Jone's, it is really sad.
Yes! I see this more and more on these boards lately. People have to accept that everyone has a different situation and what works for one person does not always work for another.
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Posted by BabyAvocado
I am all for truth. I am all for calling people out on their inconsistencies - diplomatically. I agree there is entirely too much sunshine being blown around here from time to time.
I am NOT all for someone throwing back into someone else's face something they said (and quote it) during a vent that took place during a very, very, difficult moment in their life. It changes the whole feeling of this community. If we can't come here to vent during a difficult time without fear of having words that were probably incredibly difficult to even type at that time thrown back in our faces later, it takes away alot from the community I thought we had here.
You (general you) can certainly disagree with someone and post your honest opinion. You should also be prepared to accept that some others may be of the opinion that that is mean.
There's a huge difference between pointing out someone's inconsistencies and throwing back in their face something they said in a moment of utter despair.
Very well said and ITA!
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jellybean78
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Posted by neenie
Posted by Gertyrae
Why is it that if someone says something negative about someone else are they considered to be mean, nasty, b*tchy or some other negative?
Does it ever occur to people that the negative thing may either be true or just that persons opinion?
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
or, if they introduce a little bit of REALITY to the conversation, they're mean and insensitive?
I've said it before, and i'll say it again... this is the REAL world.. not a montessori school! You don't get pats on the back just because you know how to wipe your a$$ correctly
ITA!!!!
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Posted by Gertyrae
Does it ever occur to people that the negative thing may either be true or just that persons opinion?
Love the title..this answer is not intended to create drama, but it will.....
1 - people hate to hear the truth & in the end just really want their egos stroked
2 - people hate an opinion that does not confirm their previous thoughts.
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Posted by Ophelia
.my brain is REdiculously fast )
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MrsPowers
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Posted by Goldi0218
There are MANY times when I don't respond to a thread/post because I have nothing nice to say. I have that sort of restraint. I am also not a smoke blower and I never wear skirts so most be hell bent to be able to blow any up my arse.
I think we all articulate our thoughts differently. Some come across as abrasive and some come across in a much softer way. A lot of it has to do with writing style AS WELL AS writing in haste. There is always an alternative to being nasty and still get your point across even if it is negative. A person can be critical and not cruel.
I totally agree
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Re: Question - specifically to create drama...
Babyavocado, what happened yesterday doesnt have to do with inconsistancies and throwing it back in someones face it had to do with inconsistancies and asking for an explaination. i never threw anything in anyone face. i never name called or said anyone was a bad person, bad mom/dad, dumb none of that. i reiterated posts for the last week and asked for clarification becuase to a person who reads the posts lately from this poster would make you want to scratch your head and say what the heck
when is it wrong to ask for clarification? when is it wrong to ask why a post keeps changing to make me look like im the idiot? drama is when there is name calling and people say things to hurt people. no one realized that i was trying to say to this person look im not understanding why you are making certain choices when i personally would being doing this. and some moms agreed and some didnt. but the original poster didnt like what i had to say and took it personally as if they were being attacked. whats the point of posting if the person doesnt listen to other posters and take the criticism. I did not make up the personal information it was given to everyone and i put the information together and asked a simple question about clarifying.
since when is public opinions on a topic considered throwing it a persons face?
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