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Re: Question for SAHM's...
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ahahah unfortunately I love both friends dearly its just getting annoying to listen to when I am juggling my own work /life balance. I try to help them through it and encourage them to go back to work if they feel strongly about it and it will make them happy and just get excuses thrown back like-- well I want to be there for my kids or I don't trust nannies etc.. and its like ok well then that's why you chose to stay home, that's the choice you made so now quit ******** about something you can change but choose not to!
I completely get what you are saying but are they really complaining as much as you think they are? I can see myself having a conversation with someone about the hardships of staying home, venting about the sacrifices I've made, but still never wanting to give up what I have gotten in return. I can see the perception being that I am complaining even though I am not complaining about being a SAHM but more complaining about some of the sacrifices that I've made - and there is a subtle difference.
It's kind of like when I complain to my mom about ANYTHING her response is always "Well there's someone that has it a lot worse off than you." Well thanks Captain Obvious, there's pretty much someone worse off than everyone - does that mean no one should ever complain or vent? Complaining (within reason) is human. Sometimes people just need to let off a little steam....
I totally understand. And you're right - everyone needs to vent- which is why I listen to them because even though I made a choice to work I still complain about how hard it is to manage work and mom. But I think what I grapple with is yes with one friend its all the time and her insistence that they don't have a choice when indeed they do. Its like do you really think one side is so much better? you must realize that each side has its pros and cons which is why you chose one sidoe over the other-- not bc you didn't have a choice. I get that you don't want "strangers " watching your son-- but it is an option- I mean millions of other people do it!
Maybe they just want to let off steam. By trying to encourage them to change when they obviously don't want to, they're having to come up with lame excuses about why they can't. Let them vent, let them feel heard, and then try to change the subject. I get your frustration but I think maybe their complaints bother you more than them. Some people just don't know how to socialize without complaining, regardless of the topic.
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Honestly, though you stated in your OP that your issue is with SAHMs complaining, from some of your other posts in this thread, it seems you have little respect for and even some resentment towards SAHMs. No one's life is easy and everyone is entitled to vent a little. This ridiculous battle of the SAHM vs. the Working Mom is so obnoxious. If you want to throw out the word luxury, think about all the women who would do anything to be a mom, working or otherwise. Step off your high horse and take a second to recognize that your friends just need to blow off a little steam. If you truly love them as you say you do, you would just listen and offer support without silently judging them and belittling their complaints.
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
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ahahah unfortunately I love both friends dearly its just getting annoying to listen to when I am juggling my own work /life balance. I try to help them through it and encourage them to go back to work if they feel strongly about it and it will make them happy and just get excuses thrown back like-- well I want to be there for my kids or I don't trust nannies etc.. and its like ok well then that's why you chose to stay home, that's the choice you made so now quit ******** about something you can change but choose not to!
I completely get what you are saying but are they really complaining as much as you think they are? I can see myself having a conversation with someone about the hardships of staying home, venting about the sacrifices I've made, but still never wanting to give up what I have gotten in return. I can see the perception being that I am complaining even though I am not complaining about being a SAHM but more complaining about some of the sacrifices that I've made - and there is a subtle difference.
It's kind of like when I complain to my mom about ANYTHING her response is always "Well there's someone that has it a lot worse off than you." Well thanks Captain Obvious, there's pretty much someone worse off than everyone - does that mean no one should ever complain or vent? Complaining (within reason) is human. Sometimes people just need to let off a little steam....
I totally understand. And you're right - everyone needs to vent- which is why I listen to them because even though I made a choice to work I still complain about how hard it is to manage work and mom. But I think what I grapple with is yes with one friend its all the time and her insistence that they don't have a choice when indeed they do. Its like do you really think one side is so much better? you must realize that each side has its pros and cons which is why you chose one sidoe over the other-- not bc you didn't have a choice. I get that you don't want "strangers " watching your son-- but it is an option- I mean millions of other people do it!
Sounds like your friends left careers they liked and made a sacrifice because they couldn’t get comfortable with the other options. It’s understandable that they may have regrets or feel conflicted. Leaving a career is like losing a part of your identity. My working friends and stay at home friend all complain sometimes, that’s just the way it is, being a mom is hard no matter what.
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Don’t SAHM moms get a break when their school aged kids go to school? I never understood the working moms get breaks but SAHM don’t.
Anywho I wanted to point out the hardest is the working mom who is home with their kid, during a snow storm. I did that sh!t yesterday and it was harder than being a SAHM and a working mom. You’re technically doing double the work. I know there are some moms who work at home and have kids to tend to.. that ish is crazy.
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
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Don’t SAHM moms get a break when their school aged kids go to school? I never understood the working moms get breaks but SAHM don’t.
Anywho I wanted to point out the hardest is the working mom who is home with their kid, during a snow storm. I did that sh!t yesterday and it was harder than being a SAHM and a working mom. You’re technically doing double the work. I know there are some moms who work at home and have kids to tend to.. that ish is crazy.
Oh I agree that is a nightmare. I did that last snow day and this time said s*rew that. Talk about the worst of both worlds!
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by amac27
Honestly, though you stated in your OP that your issue is with SAHMs complaining, from some of your other posts in this thread, it seems you have little respect for and even some resentment towards SAHMs. No one's life is easy and everyone is entitled to vent a little. This ridiculous battle of the SAHM vs. the Working Mom is so obnoxious. If you want to throw out the word luxury, think about all the women who would do anything to be a mom, working or otherwise. Step off your high horse and take a second to recognize that your friends just need to blow off a little steam. If you truly love them as you say you do, you would just listen and offer support without silently judging them and belittling their complaints.
I actually find your post rude and offensive. What high horse do you think I am riding, my dear? I do listen and offer support and suggestions for change to which I get excuses that make no sense. I'm "resentful" and tired of listening to people complaining about situations they have control over. You can love someone but still be annoyed at listening to them complain-- do you have a husband, children? I love both of mine greatly and still dont want to listen to them complain! And I'm sorry but what does this have to do with woman who want to have children but cannot...
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by MrsT809
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ahahah unfortunately I love both friends dearly its just getting annoying to listen to when I am juggling my own work /life balance. I try to help them through it and encourage them to go back to work if they feel strongly about it and it will make them happy and just get excuses thrown back like-- well I want to be there for my kids or I don't trust nannies etc.. and its like ok well then that's why you chose to stay home, that's the choice you made so now quit ******** about something you can change but choose not to!
I completely get what you are saying but are they really complaining as much as you think they are? I can see myself having a conversation with someone about the hardships of staying home, venting about the sacrifices I've made, but still never wanting to give up what I have gotten in return. I can see the perception being that I am complaining even though I am not complaining about being a SAHM but more complaining about some of the sacrifices that I've made - and there is a subtle difference.
It's kind of like when I complain to my mom about ANYTHING her response is always "Well there's someone that has it a lot worse off than you." Well thanks Captain Obvious, there's pretty much someone worse off than everyone - does that mean no one should ever complain or vent? Complaining (within reason) is human. Sometimes people just need to let off a little steam....
I totally understand. And you're right - everyone needs to vent- which is why I listen to them because even though I made a choice to work I still complain about how hard it is to manage work and mom. But I think what I grapple with is yes with one friend its all the time and her insistence that they don't have a choice when indeed they do. Its like do you really think one side is so much better? you must realize that each side has its pros and cons which is why you chose one sidoe over the other-- not bc you didn't have a choice. I get that you don't want "strangers " watching your son-- but it is an option- I mean millions of other people do it!
Maybe they just want to let off steam. By trying to encourage them to change when they obviously don't want to, they're having to come up with lame excuses about why they can't. Let them vent, let them feel heard, and then try to change the subject. I get your frustration but I think maybe their complaints bother you more than them. Some people just don't know how to socialize without complaining, regardless of the topic.
You are so right- thank you.
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
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ahahah unfortunately I love both friends dearly its just getting annoying to listen to when I am juggling my own work /life balance. I try to help them through it and encourage them to go back to work if they feel strongly about it and it will make them happy and just get excuses thrown back like-- well I want to be there for my kids or I don't trust nannies etc.. and its like ok well then that's why you chose to stay home, that's the choice you made so now quit ******** about something you can change but choose not to!
I completely get what you are saying but are they really complaining as much as you think they are? I can see myself having a conversation with someone about the hardships of staying home, venting about the sacrifices I've made, but still never wanting to give up what I have gotten in return. I can see the perception being that I am complaining even though I am not complaining about being a SAHM but more complaining about some of the sacrifices that I've made - and there is a subtle difference.
It's kind of like when I complain to my mom about ANYTHING her response is always "Well there's someone that has it a lot worse off than you." Well thanks Captain Obvious, there's pretty much someone worse off than everyone - does that mean no one should ever complain or vent? Complaining (within reason) is human. Sometimes people just need to let off a little steam....
I totally understand. And you're right - everyone needs to vent- which is why I listen to them because even though I made a choice to work I still complain about how hard it is to manage work and mom. But I think what I grapple with is yes with one friend its all the time and her insistence that they don't have a choice when indeed they do. Its like do you really think one side is so much better? you must realize that each side has its pros and cons which is why you chose one sidoe over the other-- not bc you didn't have a choice. I get that you don't want "strangers " watching your son-- but it is an option- I mean millions of other people do it!
Sounds like your friends left careers they liked and made a sacrifice because they couldn’t get comfortable with the other options. It’s understandable that they may have regrets or feel conflicted. Leaving a career is like losing a part of your identity. My working friends and stay at home friend all complain sometimes, that’s just the way it is, being a mom is hard no matter what.
Thank you this is really on point and helps me gain perspective. I guess its similar to my complaining about juggling both demands-- someoone can say the same to me-- don't complain bc you chose - but I guess choices don't always come without some internal conflict and this is the manifestation of that internal conflict.
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by Budjeg11
Posted by amac27
Honestly, though you stated in your OP that your issue is with SAHMs complaining, from some of your other posts in this thread, it seems you have little respect for and even some resentment towards SAHMs. No one's life is easy and everyone is entitled to vent a little. This ridiculous battle of the SAHM vs. the Working Mom is so obnoxious. If you want to throw out the word luxury, think about all the women who would do anything to be a mom, working or otherwise. Step off your high horse and take a second to recognize that your friends just need to blow off a little steam. If you truly love them as you say you do, you would just listen and offer support without silently judging them and belittling their complaints.
I'm resentful and tired of listening to people complaining about situations they have control over. You can love someone but still be annoyed at listening to them complain-- do you have a husband, children? I love both of mine greatly and still dont want to listen to them complain! And I'm sorry but what does this have to do with woman who want to have children but cannot...
Why not just point out to them that this sacrafice is only temporary because once their children go to school full time it will be very easy for them to go back to work, if they so desire. Maybe try to emphasize the fact that this problem is a relatively short term problem in the whole scheme of things?
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by Budjeg11
Posted by Sash
Don’t SAHM moms get a break when their school aged kids go to school? I never understood the working moms get breaks but SAHM don’t.
Anywho I wanted to point out the hardest is the working mom who is home with their kid, during a snow storm. I did that sh!t yesterday and it was harder than being a SAHM and a working mom. You’re technically doing double the work. I know there are some moms who work at home and have kids to tend to.. that ish is crazy.
Oh I agree that is a nightmare. I did that last snow day and this time said s*rew that. Talk about the worst of both worlds!
I legit wanted to hang myself today.
My DD was sooo bored and literally following me around the house like a tail. As I tried to work.
I actually felt anxiety rising in my chest.
I need to get to the office ASAP
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Budjeg11
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by lululu
Posted by Budjeg11
Posted by amac27
Honestly, though you stated in your OP that your issue is with SAHMs complaining, from some of your other posts in this thread, it seems you have little respect for and even some resentment towards SAHMs. No one's life is easy and everyone is entitled to vent a little. This ridiculous battle of the SAHM vs. the Working Mom is so obnoxious. If you want to throw out the word luxury, think about all the women who would do anything to be a mom, working or otherwise. Step off your high horse and take a second to recognize that your friends just need to blow off a little steam. If you truly love them as you say you do, you would just listen and offer support without silently judging them and belittling their complaints.
I'm resentful and tired of listening to people complaining about situations they have control over. You can love someone but still be annoyed at listening to them complain-- do you have a husband, children? I love both of mine greatly and still dont want to listen to them complain! And I'm sorry but what does this have to do with woman who want to have children but cannot...
Why not just point out to them that this sacrafice is only temporary because once their children go to school full time it will be very easy for them to go back to work, if they so desire. Maybe try to emphasize the fact that this problem is a relatively short term problem in the whole scheme of things?
Ya I have tried that too-- or suggested to maybe try consulting or freelance or working part time--I get the same excuses.. "not worth it" " what about x, y,z,"...
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Budjeg11
Posted by Sash
Don’t SAHM moms get a break when their school aged kids go to school? I never understood the working moms get breaks but SAHM don’t.
Anywho I wanted to point out the hardest is the working mom who is home with their kid, during a snow storm. I did that sh!t yesterday and it was harder than being a SAHM and a working mom. You’re technically doing double the work. I know there are some moms who work at home and have kids to tend to.. that ish is crazy.
Oh I agree that is a nightmare. I did that last snow day and this time said s*rew that. Talk about the worst of both worlds!
I legit wanted to hang myself today.
My DD was sooo bored and literally following me around the house like a tail. As I tried to work.
I actually felt anxiety rising in my chest.
I need to get to the office ASAP
I work from home now and since February break I have not had one full week to get sh*t done without at least one snow day or kid home from school sick. And when it's a snow day and they are all fighting and I am trying to get work done I sometimes break down and cry.
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Budjeg11
Posted by Sash
Don’t SAHM moms get a break when their school aged kids go to school? I never understood the working moms get breaks but SAHM don’t.
Anywho I wanted to point out the hardest is the working mom who is home with their kid, during a snow storm. I did that sh!t yesterday and it was harder than being a SAHM and a working mom. You’re technically doing double the work. I know there are some moms who work at home and have kids to tend to.. that ish is crazy.
Oh I agree that is a nightmare. I did that last snow day and this time said s*rew that. Talk about the worst of both worlds!
I legit wanted to hang myself today.
My DD was sooo bored and literally following me around the house like a tail. As I tried to work.
I actually felt anxiety rising in my chest.
I need to get to the office ASAP
This X3 kids following me around 
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by Budjeg11
Posted by lululu
Posted by Budjeg11
Posted by amac27
Honestly, though you stated in your OP that your issue is with SAHMs complaining, from some of your other posts in this thread, it seems you have little respect for and even some resentment towards SAHMs. No one's life is easy and everyone is entitled to vent a little. This ridiculous battle of the SAHM vs. the Working Mom is so obnoxious. If you want to throw out the word luxury, think about all the women who would do anything to be a mom, working or otherwise. Step off your high horse and take a second to recognize that your friends just need to blow off a little steam. If you truly love them as you say you do, you would just listen and offer support without silently judging them and belittling their complaints.
I'm resentful and tired of listening to people complaining about situations they have control over. You can love someone but still be annoyed at listening to them complain-- do you have a husband, children? I love both of mine greatly and still dont want to listen to them complain! And I'm sorry but what does this have to do with woman who want to have children but cannot...
Why not just point out to them that this sacrafice is only temporary because once their children go to school full time it will be very easy for them to go back to work, if they so desire. Maybe try to emphasize the fact that this problem is a relatively short term problem in the whole scheme of things?
Ya I have tried that too-- or suggested to maybe try consulting or freelance or working part time--I get the same excuses.. "not worth it" " what about x, y,z,"...
Yeah, sounds like they just want to complain. As some others have said, some people just like to complain. I've actually had the opposite happen to me. Some of my working mom friends complain to me about how hard they have it while pointing out how EASY things were for me. Meanwhile they are teachers and their kids were in daycare or after care. They were able to run errands or get mani pedis prior to picking their kids up and had husbands that helped out around the house and were home at 5 o'clock. Meanwhile I would be in my pajamas at 5 o'clock with spit up all over me, having gotten 3 hours of sleep the night before trying to take care of three kids on my own until my husband walked in the door at 8 - right after all the kids went to bed! I always loved those phone calls! Ha!
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by luvmykids8
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Budjeg11
Posted by Sash
Don’t SAHM moms get a break when their school aged kids go to school? I never understood the working moms get breaks but SAHM don’t.
Anywho I wanted to point out the hardest is the working mom who is home with their kid, during a snow storm. I did that sh!t yesterday and it was harder than being a SAHM and a working mom. You’re technically doing double the work. I know there are some moms who work at home and have kids to tend to.. that ish is crazy.
Oh I agree that is a nightmare. I did that last snow day and this time said s*rew that. Talk about the worst of both worlds!
I legit wanted to hang myself today.
My DD was sooo bored and literally following me around the house like a tail. As I tried to work.
I actually felt anxiety rising in my chest.
I need to get to the office ASAP
This X3 kids following me around
Seriously why do kids to this-?! I trip over my own feet trying to not step on them they follow me so closely sometimes.
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by Sash
Don’t SAHM moms get a break when their school aged kids go to school? I never understood the working moms get breaks but SAHM don’t.
Anywho I wanted to point out the hardest is the working mom who is home with their kid, during a snow storm. I did that sh!t yesterday and it was harder than being a SAHM and a working mom. You’re technically doing double the work. I know there are some moms who work at home and have kids to tend to.. that ish is crazy.
This is, without question, the hardest situation of all. I did it for 3 months while we waited to get DD into daycare. I feel your pain. Hell on earth. That’s the only way to describe it.
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
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Posted by Sash
Don’t SAHM moms get a break when their school aged kids go to school? I never understood the working moms get breaks but SAHM don’t.
Anywho I wanted to point out the hardest is the working mom who is home with their kid, during a snow storm. I did that sh!t yesterday and it was harder than being a SAHM and a working mom. You’re technically doing double the work. I know there are some moms who work at home and have kids to tend to.. that ish is crazy.
This is, without question, the hardest situation of all. I did it for 3 months while we waited to get DD into daycare. I feel your pain. Hell on earth. That’s the only way to describe it.
My kids are older now. And it drives me crazy when other moms with infants and toddlers say they are working remotely. I am not judging but BTDT - youre not working productively. Separate the 2, use your PTO days etc. I get the case when the office is closed due to storm but other than well, no.
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
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Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by Sash
Don’t SAHM moms get a break when their school aged kids go to school? I never understood the working moms get breaks but SAHM don’t.
Anywho I wanted to point out the hardest is the working mom who is home with their kid, during a snow storm. I did that sh!t yesterday and it was harder than being a SAHM and a working mom. You’re technically doing double the work. I know there are some moms who work at home and have kids to tend to.. that ish is crazy.
This is, without question, the hardest situation of all. I did it for 3 months while we waited to get DD into daycare. I feel your pain. Hell on earth. That’s the only way to describe it.
My kids are older now. And it drives me crazy when other moms with infants and toddlers say they are working remotely. I am not judging but BTDT - youre not working productively. Separate the 2, use your PTO days etc. I get the case when the office is closed due to storm but other than well, no.
Damn straight I wasn’t. I wasn’t working or momming productively. It was a disaster.
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by Budjeg11
Posted by LSP2005
Being a mom, managing everyone's schedules, making sure the house is running, and taking care of everything is difficult if you are a full time, part time, work from home, or stay at home mom.
I have worked full time, part time, and now I work from home, but occasionally have to drive to the office or to meet clients out of my home. Social planning, keeping the house, all of it falls to me as I am sure it does for most women.
No one person has it easy. Someone might have health problems, or family problems, or a special needs child.
I don't know any parent that has it all and certainly not all at the same time.
True, health problem, special needs and other extenuating circumstances certainly play a roll. However, all other things being the same.. assuming same child(ren), same spouse, same family, same spousal and outside help-- do you think that the SAHM has it just as hard as the Working mom, who has to work and then still has to do the keeping of the house, social planning, and the general mental and lets face of physical load of raising children?
This I just will never get
I totally understand that some will
Work a 12 hr day and come home and have chores etc
But what’s his fantasy where bc you stay at home you do a chore once and it’s done for the day
Bc it does not happen that way
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by stinger
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by Sash
Don’t SAHM moms get a break when their school aged kids go to school? I never understood the working moms get breaks but SAHM don’t.
Anywho I wanted to point out the hardest is the working mom who is home with their kid, during a snow storm. I did that sh!t yesterday and it was harder than being a SAHM and a working mom. You’re technically doing double the work. I know there are some moms who work at home and have kids to tend to.. that ish is crazy.
This is, without question, the hardest situation of all. I did it for 3 months while we waited to get DD into daycare. I feel your pain. Hell on earth. That’s the only way to describe it.
My kids are older now. And it drives me crazy when other moms with infants and toddlers say they are working remotely. I am not judging but BTDT - youre not working productively. Separate the 2, use your PTO days etc. I get the case when the office is closed due to storm but other than well, no.
Damn straight I wasn’t. I wasn’t working or momming productively. It was a disaster.
Omg when I was pregnant and stupid I thought I could work from home for a few months since I had no maternity leave. It will be great I said. Newborns just sleep all day I said.
Yeah. Right.
I ended up with a colic newborn that cried 24/7 for months.
I ended up RUNNING back to work like my ass was on fire at 8 weeks. I could not wait to get back to my peaceful office!
One day I had to work from home due to a childcare issue.
Omg it was the biggest disaster ever. I ended up cowering outside my back door on a call with a client emergency while she screamed in the house. I had no choice.
I came inside and bawled my eyes out from the stress of dealing with a huge work ordeal and a screaming baby.
Never again!
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| Posted 3/22/18 6:07 PM |
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luvmykids8
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by stinger
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by Sash
Don’t SAHM moms get a break when their school aged kids go to school? I never understood the working moms get breaks but SAHM don’t.
Anywho I wanted to point out the hardest is the working mom who is home with their kid, during a snow storm. I did that sh!t yesterday and it was harder than being a SAHM and a working mom. You’re technically doing double the work. I know there are some moms who work at home and have kids to tend to.. that ish is crazy.
This is, without question, the hardest situation of all. I did it for 3 months while we waited to get DD into daycare. I feel your pain. Hell on earth. That’s the only way to describe it.
My kids are older now. And it drives me crazy when other moms with infants and toddlers say they are working remotely. I am not judging but BTDT - youre not working productively. Separate the 2, use your PTO days etc. I get the case when the office is closed due to storm but other than well, no.
Damn straight I wasn’t. I wasn’t working or momming productively. It was a disaster.
Omg when I was pregant and stupid I thought I could work from home for a few months since I had no maternity leave. It will be great I said. Newborns just sleep all day I said.
Yeah. Right.
I ended up with a colic newborn that cried 24/7 for months.
I ended up RUNNING back to work like my ass was on fire at 8 weeks. I could not wait to get back to my peaceful office!
One day I had to work from home due to a childcare issue.
Omg it was the biggest disaster ever. I ended up cowering outside my back door on a call with a client emergency while she screamed in the house. I had no choice.
I came inside and bawled my eyes out from the stress of dealing with a huge work ordeal and a screaming baby.
Never again!
Yep all this...colicky baby and all. It was a disaster. I couldn’t wait to go back to work. Getting dressed, putting makeup on, I finally felt myself again.
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PennyCat
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Oh for goodness sakes, 3 pages??? OP, I’m sorry your friends who are venting are getting under your skin. Maybe they should choose a more understanding audience or maybe you should just tell them you can’t relate and to complain to someone else. All these posts ever do is bring out the judgmental in people.Yes, some moms have it good. Really good. Some have it tougher. That’s life! Next time your friends complain, just tell them to blog about it with whatever time they don’t have.
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| Posted 3/22/18 6:12 PM |
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Budjeg11
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by luvmykids8
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by stinger
Posted by LuckyStar
Posted by Sash
Don’t SAHM moms get a break when their school aged kids go to school? I never understood the working moms get breaks but SAHM don’t.
Anywho I wanted to point out the hardest is the working mom who is home with their kid, during a snow storm. I did that sh!t yesterday and it was harder than being a SAHM and a working mom. You’re technically doing double the work. I know there are some moms who work at home and have kids to tend to.. that ish is crazy.
This is, without question, the hardest situation of all. I did it for 3 months while we waited to get DD into daycare. I feel your pain. Hell on earth. That’s the only way to describe it.
My kids are older now. And it drives me crazy when other moms with infants and toddlers say they are working remotely. I am not judging but BTDT - youre not working productively. Separate the 2, use your PTO days etc. I get the case when the office is closed due to storm but other than well, no.
Damn straight I wasn’t. I wasn’t working or momming productively. It was a disaster.
Omg when I was pregant and stupid I thought I could work from home for a few months since I had no maternity leave. It will be great I said. Newborns just sleep all day I said.
Yeah. Right.
I ended up with a colic newborn that cried 24/7 for months.
I ended up RUNNING back to work like my ass was on fire at 8 weeks. I could not wait to get back to my peaceful office!
One day I had to work from home due to a childcare issue.
Omg it was the biggest disaster ever. I ended up cowering outside my back door on a call with a client emergency while she screamed in the house. I had no choice.
I came inside and bawled my eyes out from the stress of dealing with a huge work ordeal and a screaming baby.
Never again!
Yep all this...colicky baby and all. It was a disaster. I couldn’t wait to go back to work. Getting dressed, putting makeup on, I finally felt myself again.
On the occasions I had to take a conference call on a day i was "Off" at my old job-- I used to mute the phone , entertain my kid, then run into another room and unmute it to speak lolol
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| Posted 3/22/18 6:24 PM |
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justbeachy
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by Budjeg11
True, health problem, special needs and other extenuating circumstances certainly play a roll. However, all other things being the same.. assuming same child(ren), same spouse, same family, same spousal and outside help-- do you think that the SAHM has it just as hard as the Working mom, who has to work and then still has to do the keeping of the house, social planning, and the general mental and lets face of physical load of raising children?
Wow.
Why even start a thread?
It's clear where YOUR opinion falls. Did you just want others to agree with you?
This is a totally obnoxious post.
Can't we- as women - all be on the same team instead of comparing and criticizing each other??
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Sash
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Re: Question for SAHM's...
Posted by Budjeg11
Posted by luvmykids8
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Budjeg11
Posted by Sash
Don’t SAHM moms get a break when their school aged kids go to school? I never understood the working moms get breaks but SAHM don’t.
Anywho I wanted to point out the hardest is the working mom who is home with their kid, during a snow storm. I did that sh!t yesterday and it was harder than being a SAHM and a working mom. You’re technically doing double the work. I know there are some moms who work at home and have kids to tend to.. that ish is crazy.
Oh I agree that is a nightmare. I did that last snow day and this time said s*rew that. Talk about the worst of both worlds!
I legit wanted to hang myself today.
My DD was sooo bored and literally following me around the house like a tail. As I tried to work.
I actually felt anxiety rising in my chest.
I need to get to the office ASAP
This X3 kids following me around
Seriously why do kids to this-?! I trip over my own feet trying to not step on them they follow me so closely sometimes.
Yesterday was such a nightmare. Idk my son is usually good and entertains himself in his room. However, yesterday he was being such a little jerk and I had so many calls I couldn’t move.
They do video conferencing at my job and for one call he comes down in the middle of it and is crawling on the floor playing with the dogs and looking at me with weird faces. I couldn’t react because of the video. Then another call he is jumping off his bed and getting the dogs all riled up and being loud even though I said go upstairs and be quiet. He was extra needy yesterday too, maybe the never ending winter is getting to him as well.
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