S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?

If you were throwing a birthday party for your preschooler, would you rather have the classmate decline or bring their toddler sibling?

I know I welcome all siblings but I have a younger one. I personally would rather have DS's classmate there.

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I guess it depends on what kind of party. I was pretty frustrated when my child had a boot camp birthday party at a gymnastics place and his classmates brought siblings without asking. I had to pay for more children and the toddlers were really not old enough to participate. The parents didnt really watch them and they were holding up the other kids, created longer lines etc. It really took time away from the kids who were supposed to be there. Call me a crank LOL but Id rather them not bring them. Id try to work something out with the parent where maybe theyd drop them off and I bring them home or something so they could come but not bring the sibling KWIM?

As a mom myself of 3 children of different ages, this happens often, but I always work it out. I would NEVER EVER expect a parent to pay for my child or children who were not invited. I actually thought it was quite rude that people did that to me.

Sometimes you need a head count for goody bags, food, prizes and whatever too. JMO :)

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I would rather the classmate decline. Im having DS party at Little Gym and would have to pay for the sibling.. so I would be annoyed if someone brought a child who wasn't invited to the party.

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Re: S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?

Bring a sibling!

Re: S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?

Re: S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?

Re: S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?

Re: S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?

Bring the sibling! I would ask first of course

Message edited 7/23/2012 3:18:16 PM.

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S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?

bring the sibling. without a doubt. my kids aren't old enough to attend a party alone where I could just drop my child off and come back to pick up. so, where i go with one kid, my other has to come along, or we don't go. I would offer the same to other parents without question.

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I would rather they bring the sibling (but say something first to me so I can have a goody bag for the sibling too).

S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?

To be honest (and I am not there yet I have one 9 month old son) I would feel uncomfortable bringing a sibling to a party where they were paying per child bc I know those can add up. I think I would insist on paying for the sibling, that way I wouldn't feel like a burden.

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Unless it was a close friend (ie that I am close with the parents) I wouldn't bring the sibling, so decline or be upfront and ask on the phone if its ok to bring the sibling.

Personally, kids only get so much "me" time when they have siblings so a special thing like a bday party I'm ok with just having the one.

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I think it depends. If you are hosting a party on a weekday then, chances are, siblings will come because most moms would not have someone to watch their other children so they really have no choice. On weekends it's a different story. Regardless, I always offer to pay for he sibling.

I think it is crazy when people have weekday parties and don't want siblings, and despite the fact that she is 5, I do not feel comfortable dropping DD off.

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I would rather them decline. Its incredibly rude to ask to bring a sibling as well!

S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?

It would depend where the party was. A party at home or a park where they're not paying per kid I wouldn't think it was a big deal BUT of course I would expect the parents to tell me when they RSVP'd so there would be enough food and favors. If it's a pay per child place I think it's rude unless you're very close.

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Bring the sibling. My dd was invited to a party for a time when I had no child care. I let the host know dd could not come because I had no one to watch ds. She then said it was ok to bring ds, she didn't want dd to miss the party.

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Re: S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?

I think it depends on a number if variables. Where the party is, age of siblings or sibling, are they just showing up with a sibling or was there notice? Are they good friends with the host?

We did a party at Nunleys and it was for 25 kids in that case I welcomed siblings and told some parents to bring their child along and so each kid had a cupcake and a favor. With the other 2 parties I paid for every child past 10 or 13 kids. So if I was under that number I would have been okay with it. Had several people wanted to bring siblings I wouldn't have been happy but again it depends on the circumstance. I never minded babies because they weren't counted and I didn't have to worry about favors or food. A home party I wouldn't mind as much but again I would feel bad if I didn't have a favor or whatever was needed for the child to participate.

I would never bring one if the girls to a party they weren't invited to. I did decline once and the mom asked why so I told her I had no one to watch DD#2 she insisted I bring her and even told her to participate.

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I have no problem with the sibling coming however I think the parent should pack a snack and sit with the sibling on the side. I think it's rude to just bring a siblin or ask for them to participate.

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I would be fine with a sibling attending. I have not done the kids party thing yet. I'm pretty sure we are having one this year, and I was expecting siblings to attend.

I would call and ask the host first of course.

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Message edited 7/31/2012 2:57:15 PM.

Re: S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?

I've never done a party at a place so so far, siblings/entire families are always invited.

I think as the kids get older and if we have parties out, it'a more likely that we will start inviting specific kids as opposed to whole familes.

I wouldn't ask to bring another sibling-not unless it was a good friend.

Message edited 8/20/2012 4:18:54 PM.