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jpamama3
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Re: S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?
Posted by Janice
i worked siblings into budget, if they did not attend, then was just even more under budget.
as a parent who's job it is to entertain and keep my kids busy, it is weird to leave one at home while the other has 2 hours of a fun experience. then i have to go home and entertain the bored kid?
So your saying I should have invited all of the siblings of her 18 classmates and more than doubled my cost because you don't want to entertain your child that wasn't invited after the party?
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Re: S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?
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Posted by Janice
i worked siblings into budget, if they did not attend, then was just even more under budget.
as a parent who's job it is to entertain and keep my kids busy, it is weird to leave one at home while the other has 2 hours of a fun experience. then i have to go home and entertain the bored kid?
So your saying I should have invited all of the siblings of her 18 classmates and more than doubled my cost because you don't want to entertain your child that wasn't invited after the party?
yes. it is a child's bday party. i would invite children.
if i invited all 18 classmates, then i would have i in a cheaper place. i had found a make your own pizza place for 7.00 a kid. that is where i would have a big party like that.
his 3rd bday i invited 15 of his friends, with siblings added on. not everyone came. some siblings stayed home. it was at an art place....the owner saw how many under 2's i had and cut me a deal.
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| Posted 7/27/12 10:41 PM |
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S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?
As a kid, I haaaaaaattted younger kid siblings at parties. I remember just wanting to play with my peers and the little kids would get in the way, someone would always throw a temper tantrum, etc.
I feel it's the kid's birthday and should be about him/her and their friends. It's a party, not free play or a babysitting service.
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fdnywife
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Re: S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?
Forgetting about money for a minute...If its my sons special day he should be surrounded by HIS friends. He should not have to share his party, time with an entertainer or whatever with younger siblings he has never ever seen before. If someone chooses to INVITE siblings thats fine. The question was should you decline if you had to bring an uninvited child.
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CrankyPants
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Re: S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?
I invite families, not individuals. Yes, I think your kid should be able to celebrate his day with his friends. But honestly, I'm trying to teach my kid to be inclusive. My kid has siblings who will always be included. We have friends who have kids of varying ages.
We cut the list of classmates to accomodate the families, not the other way around.
My oldest is almost 5 and starting kindergarten this year. Maybe things will change as she gets older. THis year we invited 4 friends from her daycare plus their siblings. The rest of the guest list is families that we know. We have about 10 families on the list, each with 1-3 kids.
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| Posted 7/28/12 1:33 AM |
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S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?
Siblings are a part of life. I honestly never remember being bothered by them at parties. Quite the opposite...I always enjoyed pushing a stroller or holding a bottle. A day were my kid's special day includes keeping others out of the fun is the day the partying will stop. Maybe that is why when I watch super sweet 16 and the bday girls wastes 30 mins of her glorious party to hunt down uninvited guests makes me cringe.
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| Posted 7/28/12 8:33 AM |
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lcherian
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Re: S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?
Posted by mamabear
I'm clearly in the minority here. I don't know- I see what everyone is saying, but I just look at it differently. I look at it as a family invite, especially for young kids. I don't expect to split families up on a weekend. For me, my DH and I really like our family time on the weekends. We don't like to say you go here with DD1, and I'll go here with DD2. We go everywhere as a family on the weekends. So, when I invite one of my DD's classmates to a party, I really consider it an invitation to the family. I'm throwing the party because I want to have a party for my kid to be happy. As much as a kid has fun attending a party, I know it's a burden on the family to carve out the time, arrange their day around it, buy a present, wrap a present, etc. I don't think they are greedy if they show up as a unit, siblings and all. I see them doing me a favor by coming to my party to make my child happy. I wouldn't want them to pay extra to get a sitter. And I wouldn't want my child to miss out on having classmates they like at their party because the family doesn't want to or can't split up for the party.
i tend to agree with you. what happened to the days where birthday parties were at your house, no one had fancy decorations or food and entire families were invited? i just think birthday parties these days have become so extravagant, stressful and have somewhat lost their meaning.
at least where i grew up, birthday parties included the entire family. no one would even think about inviting only one sibling.
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BeachMom
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Re: S/O: Would you rather a classmate decline or bring the sibling to your DC's birthday party?
As long as they asked or let me know in advance, i would say bring the siblling. Most parents, in my experience, if they show up with the sibling, either offer to pay for the sibling if they want them to attend, or keep the child occupied themselves and don't let the sibling into the party, if its at a my gym place or something like that. Usually I always offer if the sibling is there, but they usually decline. i don't like to leave a kid feeling left out.
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