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annoyedTTCer
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Re: Skipping church part of a wedding...
Posted by Katareen
I never miss the ceremony--that's when the couple actually gets married!! Its the most important part of the day!!!!!!
Actually the church part is really just a show, you aren't really married till you sign the license which few guests are ever part off.
We often skip the church if we know it will be long ceremong like the Roman Catholic Churchs are famous for.
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Re: Skipping church part of a wedding...
Posted by annoyedTTCer
Actually the church part is really just a show, you aren't really married till you sign the license which few guests are ever part off.
The church or civil ceremony is absolutely not just a show. You aren't married in NY until TWO things happen -- the license signing AND the marriage ceremony (civil or religious). So really the ceremony IS when the marriage happens. The license is usually signed before the ceremony. The officiant signs it after the ceremony. At least, that is how it worked for everyone in my family.
If the couple is religious, the ceremony has even more significance.
Message edited 8/23/2010 9:59:02 AM.
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| Posted 8/23/10 9:56 AM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Skipping church part of a wedding...
Posted by annoyedTTCer
Posted by Katareen
I never miss the ceremony--that's when the couple actually gets married!! Its the most important part of the day!!!!!!
Actually the church part is really just a show, you aren't really married till you sign the license which few guests are ever part off.
Not in the eyes of God.
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| Posted 8/23/10 9:58 AM |
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photoshopbabe
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Re: Skipping church part of a wedding...
im so bad but i never go to the church part-honestly, im always getting ready at that hour.
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| Posted 8/23/10 9:59 AM |
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Re: Skipping church part of a wedding...
Posted by CrankyPants
Posted by annoyedTTCer
Posted by Katareen
I never miss the ceremony--that's when the couple actually gets married!! Its the most important part of the day!!!!!!
Actually the church part is really just a show, you aren't really married till you sign the license which few guests are ever part off.
Not in the eyes of God.
Or the law.
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| Posted 8/23/10 9:59 AM |
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mka06
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Re: Skipping church part of a wedding...
i do think the ceremony is a very important part of the day. that being said, i think there have been about two times where i have skipped the ceremony for one reason or another.
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| Posted 8/23/10 10:06 AM |
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MrsA714
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Re: Skipping church part of a wedding...
Posted by annoyedTTCer
Posted by Katareen
I never miss the ceremony--that's when the couple actually gets married!! Its the most important part of the day!!!!!!
Actually the church part is really just a show, you aren't really married till you sign the license which few guests are ever part off.
We often skip the church if we know it will be long ceremong like the Roman Catholic Churchs are famous for.
Well, as someone who had a long Roman Catholic ceremony (I believe it was a whopping 45 minutes  ), we actually signed our license during the "show"  , so I'm sure our guests who made it were probably thrilled they got to see that!
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| Posted 8/23/10 10:09 AM |
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MrsFrizzle
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Re: Skipping church part of a wedding...
Personally I dont like when people skip the church part. That's the important part to me, when they actually get married- the reception is the fun part afterwards. I think it's rude to skip the part that matters the most, I always go to the church even if we're not extremely close to the couple.
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| Posted 8/23/10 10:11 AM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Skipping church part of a wedding...
Personally, I feel the ceremony is the most important part of the wedding.
Unfortunately, we have missed the church when it was on a friday and we had work. If it is in my neighborhood or close by I can usually make it bc I get out of work at 3 but DH is not home from work until 6:30 or 7 so unless he were to take the day off(which he has for family and close friends who have friday weddings) he misses it.
I always feel terrible if I miss the ceremony, but I think that people understand that on a Friday at 3pm many people are not out of work yet. Saturday and Sundays ceremonies we have never missed as neither DH or I work weekends.
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| Posted 8/23/10 10:15 AM |
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Re: Skipping church part of a wedding...
I skipped the ceremony of a wedding yesterday.
The ceremony was over an hour away (going west) and then I would have had to go 45 minutes east for the reception. I had to attend a large family function immediately following the reception - an hour back west, toward where the ceremony had been.
Sometimes time/travel/schedules don't allow for you to get to the ceremony. Call it rude if you'd like. It's not that I didn't want to GO to the ceremony - it just wasn't going to work.
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| Posted 8/23/10 12:07 PM |
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Re: Skipping church part of a wedding...
Personally I wouldn't skip a church part for a wedding, (or Christening) bc it's the most important part of the day. But I guess if I had no choice I would (as long as it wasn't close family)
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guitargirl
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Re: Skipping church part of a wedding...
There was a gap between our ceremony & reception, and most people skipped the church part. As a bride, when I saw so many people skipped the ceremony, I felt really hurt & disappointed. Plus we go to a really big church, so even though there were 40-50 people there it looked kinda empty in the pictures.
To me, the couple goes through all the trouble of planning not just the reception, but the ceremony too...it costs money to use the church, hire the officiant, hire musicians, decorate with flowers, make programs, etc. If you can make it I think it's just as important to the couple for you to go to that as the reception.
That being said...did this couple go to your ceremony? I hate being like this but because so many people skipped my ceremony, from now on when a friend or family member is getting married if they skipped my ceremony, I skip there's. I feel guilty doing that, because I think the whole point of the wedding is the ceremony. But if mine wasn't important to them, then it's only fair, you know?
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KittyGags
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Re: Skipping church part of a wedding...
Posted by guitargirl
There was a gap between our ceremony & reception, and most people skipped the church part. As a bride, when I saw so many people skipped the ceremony, I felt really hurt & disappointed. Plus we go to a really big church, so even though there were 40-50 people there it looked kinda empty in the pictures.
To me, the couple goes through all the trouble of planning not just the reception, but the ceremony too...it costs money to use the church, hire the officiant, hire musicians, decorate with flowers, make programs, etc. If you can make it I think it's just as important to the couple for you to go to that as the reception.
That being said...did this couple go to your ceremony? I hate being like this but because so many people skipped my ceremony, from now on when a friend or family member is getting married if they skipped my ceremony, I skip there's. I feel guilty doing that, because I think the whole point of the wedding is the ceremony. But if mine wasn't important to them, then it's only fair, you know?
They did but my ceremony was attached to my reception (at the RH) and it was 15 minutes long. Very different if you ask me.
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| Posted 8/24/10 2:18 PM |
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Re: Skipping church part of a wedding...
The ceremony starts at 3pm. So it's at least 20-30 minutes. So now it's a 3 hour gap.
Where is the reception?
How far do you have to drive from the Church to the reception?
Where are all the guests going between the church and the reception?
They all have to do something.
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