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nov04libride
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So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
This was my first week back at work.
DS is barely awake when I leave him, and by the time I am home he is cranky and tired and nearly ready for bed. I put him to bed, make bottles, and go to bed myself.
Repeat. 
How do you get through the weeks? Just live for weekends? 
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
I thought I would die during my first couple of weeks back. I know that heartache. But everyone told me it gets better and it DOES, I promise! You will make the time you spend with him such quality time that it will get you through 
ETA: it's never actually gets easy but you do get used to it.
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| Posted 10/30/09 10:23 PM |
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eddiesmommy
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
Posted by nov04libride
This was my first week back at work.
DS is barely awake when I leave him, and by the time I am home he is cranky and tired and nearly ready for bed. I put him to bed, make bottles, and go to bed myself.
Repeat.
How do you get through the weeks? Just live for weekends?
You never miss them any less but it does get easier to deal with! I know how you feel.
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| Posted 10/30/09 10:27 PM |
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snowflake08
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
we all know how you feel
it doesnt get "easier" as the other said, you just learn to deal with it and YES
totally LIVE for the weekends!!!
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| Posted 10/30/09 10:44 PM |
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steph4777
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
When DC is an infant it is hard, I promise that it does get easier as DC gets older. It will take a few weeks for you to get the hang of it and get a routine. You will become more efficient and will find a little more time in the evenings to spend with DC.
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| Posted 10/30/09 11:08 PM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
It does get easier, I promise - they start to get older, and are awake longer after you pick them up. Now when I get Alex from school we have a good 2-3 hours of playtime and we make dinner together, and eat together as a family - it's really nice  And seeing her with all her friends at school and when she talks about what she did all day with this person and that person, it always brings a smile to my face 
It will get better... it just takes some time
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| Posted 10/31/09 8:32 AM |
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Michmouse
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
I've been on both sides of the fence...and you are right it does suck! I worked with DD and have been home with DS (17 months)
I will say that my DD is an extremely social, bright and motivated young lady and I do attribute part of this to her upbringing. I always worked when she was a baby....You know the expression "It takes a Village?" I think it does and there are numerous benefits to having a mother who works. Sometimes they are hard to see though!
Hang in there!
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MrsPowers
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
Oh I am so sorry! It does get easier but yes I do live for the weekends and days off. DS is asleep when I leave for work as well. I am fortunate to get home at 3 pm and have about 4 hours with him until bedtime. Hang in there! I am here if you need to chat!
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| Posted 10/31/09 8:53 AM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
I guess I'm in the minority, I've been back to work since July and also switched to PT from FT and I still cannot get used to it. 
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| Posted 10/31/09 10:00 AM |
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dawnygirl25
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browneyedgirl
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
Posted by MrsRbk
I guess I'm in the minority, I've been back to work since July and also switched to PT from FT and I still cannot get used to it.
you're not the only one. i HATE HATE HATE working with a passion and am very bitter about it each and every day. it doesn't get easier for me, it actually gets harder each day i'm away from DS.
to me it is 1000 times easier and better being home with my son than seeing him for an hour each day. being a working mom s**ks.
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| Posted 10/31/09 10:25 AM |
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jaysee00
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
It definitely gets better. I always go back and forth about how I feel about it. Personally, I think what I REALLY hate is the juggling. I am a teacher and I feel like I am constantly giving, giving, giving, at work and at home.
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| Posted 10/31/09 10:53 AM |
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
Posted by MrsRbk
I guess I'm in the minority, I've been back to work since July and also switched to PT from FT and I still cannot get used to it.
I've been back at work since January and still hate it with a passion, it is a constant daily struggle.
Hang in there and yes, I LIVE for the weekends
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| Posted 10/31/09 11:23 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
Posted by browneyedgirl
to me it is 1000 times easier and better being home with my son than seeing him for an hour each day. being a working mom s**ks.
this is how i feel too. i go to work and listen to people whine, and if i am going to listen to anyone whine, i'd much rather it be my own DS!
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| Posted 10/31/09 11:36 AM |
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mosh913
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
It's very hard. Basically, I live for weekends and days off (I'm a teacher). I also remind myself everytime I get my paycheck that I have no other choice so it's pointless to sulk. I just have to make the best of it because I HAVE to work.
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| Posted 10/31/09 12:05 PM |
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maybesoon
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
This was my DS too, miserable for the whole hour and a half I got to see him!
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| Posted 10/31/09 12:26 PM |
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maybesoon
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
Posted by browneyedgirl
Posted by MrsRbk
I guess I'm in the minority, I've been back to work since July and also switched to PT from FT and I still cannot get used to it.
you're not the only one. i HATE HATE HATE working with a passion and am very bitter about it each and every day. it doesn't get easier for me, it actually gets harder each day i'm away from DS.
to me it is 1000 times easier and better being home with my son than seeing him for an hour each day. being a working mom s**ks.
I was the same way getting more and more bitter every day.
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Michmouse
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
Posted by browneyedgirl
Posted by MrsRbk
I guess I'm in the minority, I've been back to work since July and also switched to PT from FT and I still cannot get used to it.
you're not the only one. i HATE HATE HATE working with a passion and am very bitter about it each and every day. it doesn't get easier for me, it actually gets harder each day i'm away from DS.
to me it is 1000 times easier and better being home with my son than seeing him for an hour each day. being a working mom s**ks.
You are so right! When a SAHM complains how hard it is I think that they may not have been on both sides of the fence like I have. I do kn ow being a SAHM can be tough, but it does not compare in most situations. For me, the working mom life is far more difficult. It is emotionally draining to want to be home with your LO and need to work. Ughhhhh. I dread having to go back to my teaching job.
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krwm
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
Posted by nov04libride
This was my first week back at work.
DS is barely awake when I leave him, and by the time I am home he is cranky and tired and nearly ready for bed. I put him to bed, make bottles, and go to bed myself.
Repeat.
How do you get through the weeks? Just live for weekends?
Yup it totally s u c k s, but you learn to make the time you spend with them on the weekends quality time. DS is 2 1/2 and it still sucks. It doesn't easier it just becomes routine. I would love to spend 24/7 with my little guy but its not possible. Hang in there, us working moms know exactly what you're going through!
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MrsRivera
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
Posted by maybesoon
This was my DS too, miserable for the whole hour and a half I got to see him!
same here
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Michelle1123
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
Yes it really does suck. I remember when Genevieve was first born I felt the same way! I made sure to really take advantage of the weekends and do lots of fun stuff with her (even though she was only a few months old)
But I DO think it gets easier as they start getting older. They stay up a little later and will adjust to your schedule. My kids stay up to about 9:30, sometimes even 10:30 every single night. We lay on the couch and cuddle or play games until bedtime.
I still hate being a working mom and dont like it any more than I did when I first went back, but we make it work simply because we have to.
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Lucky09
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
Posted by maybesoon
Posted by browneyedgirl
Posted by MrsRbk
I guess I'm in the minority, I've been back to work since July and also switched to PT from FT and I still cannot get used to it.
you're not the only one. i HATE HATE HATE working with a passion and am very bitter about it each and every day. it doesn't get easier for me, it actually gets harder each day i'm away from DS.
to me it is 1000 times easier and better being home with my son than seeing him for an hour each day. being a working mom s**ks.
I was the same way getting more and more bitter every day.
I am pretty bitter too. However, I have recently been working 4 days / week (my boss told me I looked terrible and needed to take some time to get some SLEEP) and that has helped me IMMENSELY.
It also helps to think of it like this: being with someone else is mostly FUN for your DC. When my Nanny or my Mom come here to watch him, DS's face lights up! They also teach him things that I would never have thought to... My Nanny teaches him baby sign language, my Mom plays the piano with him... etc. So you have to look at it like he is benefiting from you working too! That is what gets me through most days. Hope it gets better for you soon.
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Charly
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
Posted by Lucky09
Posted by maybesoon
Posted by browneyedgirl
Posted by MrsRbk
I guess I'm in the minority, I've been back to work since July and also switched to PT from FT and I still cannot get used to it.
you're not the only one. i HATE HATE HATE working with a passion and am very bitter about it each and every day. it doesn't get easier for me, it actually gets harder each day i'm away from DS.
to me it is 1000 times easier and better being home with my son than seeing him for an hour each day. being a working mom s**ks.
I was the same way getting more and more bitter every day.
I am pretty bitter too. However, I have recently been working 4 days / week (my boss told me I looked terrible and needed to take some time to get some SLEEP) and that has helped me IMMENSELY.
It also helps to think of it like this: being with someone else is mostly FUN for your DC. When my Nanny or my Mom come here to watch him, DS's face lights up! They also teach him things that I would never have thought to... My Nanny teaches him baby sign language, my Mom plays the piano with him... etc. So you have to look at it like he is benefiting from you working too! That is what gets me through most days. Hope it gets better for you soon.
ITA with all of this. I'd give it some more time, but if you find things aren't getting better do you have an option to work with your employer to work flex time? When DD was born I couldn't adjust. After 2 months my boss said I had to start focusing and get through this. I couldn't. They actually let me work 2 days from home (honestly they never did this for anyone before and I never thought they would.) My point is, if you get to the point where you just can't get used to it, ask. I eventually left because with 2 kids it was too hard to work from home and I decided to pursue a part time job. I know not everyone can do that and I wish you this best of luck
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babyonthebrain
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
I'm with you. I hate my job now. I would do anything to be home. It's been almost 3 months back for me.
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| Posted 10/31/09 3:17 PM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: So, this whole working mom thing sucks...
In the beginning you just try to get it all done...but as they get older they sleep better at daycare which gives you some time on thr drive home together...and soon that turns into some extra time before bath and bed...minutes but to a parent that has been away from their child they are precious minutes.
I try to get what I can done around the house during the week nights and naptimes on the weekend. We try to do something as a family at least one day of each weekend.
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