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Smileyd17
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
I never get it, nor do I care either way.
My story is that I choose to work (well i cant afford not to) but If I didnt have to, I still would.
I need my independence, my income, and interaction with others.
I also have my mom provide daycare and Im happy with the situation. I couldnt be a SAHM. Just not for me to do and give credit to the ones that are.
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hope07
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
Posted by lorimarie
Being able to stay home - definitely my generation. A good amount of them think I'm rich and yes, I've gotten that comment more times than I would like to count. And the nasty undertone that comes with it ....... wowza.
Just wanted to add to this! Ive gotten the same thing now that Im staying home and hear it said about others that stay home... RICH... HA! Its funny how the people that say it usually have expensive cars, designer bags, lot of clothes, starbucks everyday! Im home ... but im wearing my $4 old navey tank top everyday, the same flip flops and sharing a car with DH! Its amazing how you can acually get by with one salary sometimes if you live differently? Anyone else see that?
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| Posted 9/2/08 1:42 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
I get the sahm comments from my generation....
EVERYONE usually has something to say though when it becomes known that I never want to work again, even when kiddies are in school.
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| Posted 9/2/08 1:50 PM |
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Annie91606
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
My neighbors- all of them stay home with their kids.
I went to a cookout in my town the week before my maternity leave was up, and the reactions ranged from pity to disdain.
One lady told me "you are brave, I could never leave my son with a stranger". I told her my Mom was watching him so she said "Oh, okay". Like that made it acceptable.
One husband told me he does not "let" his wife work, and that he didn't understand how my DH could "let" me.
I have not encountered any judgement from family/friends.
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| Posted 9/2/08 2:14 PM |
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
I work with a lot of moms, so no one in my immediate surroundings - and my family always knew I was a workaholic so they never questioned what I would be doing....
Usually from older moms who stayed at home - they don't give me crap, they just gave me the "pity" look when I told them my 2 mt old would be going to daycare.
If they pushed it, I asked them if they wanted to pay for me to stay home. That shut em up!!! 
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| Posted 9/2/08 2:20 PM |
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
I have not noticed a pattern. However, I did once strike up a conversation with a woman who was much older. She was telling me that her daughter in law was pregnant. She then asked me about my child care situation. She said that she felt that her daughter in law should quit teaching to raise the kids. She felt that day care is an absolute last resort for people who have no family. She did not understand the fact that I have family nearby but I use daycare. She asked some inappropriate personal questions and gave an opinion on every answer. Whoever her daughter in law is, I feel bad. There was no satisfying this lady. It seems like some people think that a daycare center is like a place where they stick kids in cages.
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| Posted 9/2/08 3:16 PM |
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johnsae
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
I have never had any comments about being a SAHM. All of DH's friends (none of mine have kids yet) are also SAHMs. I got more sh*t about choosing to use formula after I was finished pumping
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| Posted 9/2/08 6:38 PM |
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CkGm
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
I really only have found judgement about my parenting decisions here on this site. Pretty funny considering its supposed to be a supportive place. I wish we all just back each other up and not tear people down.
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| Posted 9/2/08 6:41 PM |
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Moehick
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
Never get any comments
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| Posted 9/2/08 6:43 PM |
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Porrruss
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
I've never had comments, although there were a few eyebrows raised when I told work that I would be returning after #2 gets here. I guess they figured with 2 under 2 I'd be inclined to stay home.
I do at how DH is made into a saint because he watches her on the days that I work. Like he's the miracle worker because he too can change diapers, make a bottle, and feed her on a schedule. So, when I tell people I work part-time, they assume that it's so cute how I "let" DH be a "mommy" every so often.
I DO have to admit (but he can NEVER know) that he's actually a better SAHD than I am a SAHM.
I know how incredibly lucky I am that I am able to have the best of both worlds.
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| Posted 9/2/08 6:48 PM |
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chelle
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Isn't it obvious?
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
Posted by Moehick
Never get any comments
me neither. Not to my face anyway! 
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| Posted 9/2/08 6:51 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
relative - older generation
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| Posted 9/2/08 7:10 PM |
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
Posted by chelle
Posted by Moehick
Never get any comments
me neither. Not to my face anyway!
Yeah same here. I can't imagine who would say anything (again, to my face). 
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| Posted 9/2/08 9:01 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
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I never got it at all....
that is until it was time for my kids to go to school...you get it at that darn PTA...
ITA with this.
This is what I have been told, so I am bracing myself for it.
I am a SAHM for DS's first year - then I will be going back. I haven't really gotten too many comments either way, but I think most people who know me know I wouldn't appreciate it. My one brother asked if I was going back because I changed careers and was in school for a LOONNGG time to do it. He just said he thought it would be a shame that all that education would go to waste. My response was "education is never a waste" - something my dad told us 
My standard comment when this discussion comes up is that until you are paying my bills and know exactly what goes on in my household, you really can't say what I should or shouldn't be doing. Same answer for the "when are you having another one?" question.
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| Posted 9/2/08 9:29 PM |
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rojerono
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
My mother understood that I had to work. And she took it as an opportunity to have the boys all to herself!
Most of those who have had a problem with me working have been the ones who have 'non- career' jobs. I don't mean that to denigrate anyone, but it is the common thread I have noticed. For example - my SIL was a job hopper - generic office work. She had no challenge quitting once she got pregnant. My girlfriend (who constantly finds ways to tell me what a lousy mom I am because I work) - ALWAYS KNEW she was going to be a SAHM. She will tell you that she went to college and grad school to meet a man who could take care of her. Despite a degree in elementary ed - she never intended to work. In fact - outside of doing her student teaching - she worked at Macy*s part time and as a waitress on weekends.
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| Posted 9/2/08 9:41 PM |
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DmarieK
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Re: Sorta spinoff to Stef's post......
I only get it from my mom but untill she or anyone else who says it wants to pay my bills I don't want to hear it!!
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