Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

i have also never been to one and don't really like the idea of them

as a few people said a small backyard thing for family and bridal party to meet is okay but ones with almost 100 people in a hall seems a bit much

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

Well, we had one. We didn't register.

Friends of ours actually call them fund raisers

Since we were waiting over 2 years to get married we felt like we really wanted to celebrate getting/being engaged. His parents wanted it more then anything and they really threw it for us. I don't think it was over the top. We rented out a KofC, had his brother cater the food from his deli & got a DJ.

I think there should be a time edict rule. A friend of mine is having an engagement party in March, her shower, btch pty over the summer and her wedding in Nov.
I think 9 months is a little too close for all this but I'm her friend, I support her and will have a great time at all her events!

I think if people don't "like" attending engagements parities they have the option to not go.

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

we didnt have an e-party

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

We had one in my parent's backyard. I believe in celebrating every chance you get. Life's too short and any chance to get friends and family together is important.

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

Looking for $$ IMO

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

I think it depends on how it is done. How soon after the engagement ( I know a couple who didn't have an engagement party until 8 months later )
How big it is, where it is held, etc.

If it is a mini wedding then I think it looks pretty money hungry

Message edited 1/25/2007 9:49:21 PM.

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

It depends on how it's approached. A party to have the families meet is fine. I consider an engagement party for everyone under the sun a fundraiser.

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

Message edited 1/25/2007 10:57:08 PM.

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

We had one. Both sets of parents gave it and it was at a restaurant. It was very close friends and family. It was very nice.

I guess I was shamelessly grabbing for gifts.

Message edited 1/26/2007 12:12:18 AM.

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

We had one because it was the only thing about our wedding his parents were willing to pay for. It became their "mini" wedding although the same people were invited to the wedding anyway. We had it in a nice Italian restaurant.

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

We had an engagement party but both sets of parents did make sure to tell all the guests that we are not accepting any gifts or any money. Fortunately, for us everyone abide by that.

I am okay with engagements party to celebrate the engagement but it should not be about receiving gifts.

Message edited 1/26/2007 7:39:15 AM.

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

I'm not into them personally, but whatever. I don't like anything that makes ppl feel like they need to somehow give you more...esp. with a wedding, there are so many events where gifts are given, like the shower, the actual wedding. I mean, we got a lot of engagement/congrats in the mail, which was lovely and thoughtful, but we didn't have a party where it was "expected." Instead, my parents hosted a nice dinner for his immediate family when we got engaged.

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

I don't care for them. I feel like the wedding is when the entire family & friends should celebrate.

We did however go out to dinner with both sets of parents & siblings. It was a celebration but nothing over the top

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

i voted they're ok, but we did have one. my il's wanted to have one for us, both parents spilt the cost. ours was a few months after we got engaged and 2 years before our wedding. yes we got cash and gifts, but my shower wasnt' for another 2 years at that point. i don't see the harm.

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

Def. not a fan. weddings are already expensive, why is there a need to add more $$ into the mix for the guests?

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

I had one, but it was 2 years before my wedding and we had it in my parents backyard. I think if its like a mini wedding - thats too much

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

I loved having mine.

I love going to them.

And, I love when people send out engagement announcements (I did as my XMAS cards!).

For example, I"m going to one in a few weeks -- for a great gal and I love her but never met her fiance. I'm so glad I'll meet him before the wedding.

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

backyard bbq, dinner out at a restaurant with CLOSE family and friends - fine.

a mini wedding - NOT fine.

and we had friends who sent out announcements and inserted their registry cards! and they didnt even have a party

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

I had one at my sisters house and it was a blast....

BTW: I had my engagement party, shower, bachelorette party and wedding all within 9 months .......

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

i wasnt allowed to have one pretty much

if its a long engagement i think its OK

(meaning engagement party and wedding are over a year apart)

if its all happening in the same year

engagement party, shower, bachelorette and wedding, its a little much

Message edited 1/26/2007 8:39:58 AM.

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

Posted by babybug631

We had one. Both sets of parents gave it and it was at a restaurant. It was very close friends and family. It was very nice.

I guess I was shamelessly grabbing for gifts.

Re: Spinoff to engagement parties - how do you feel about them?

Posted by Meaghan729

we had friends who sent out announcements and inserted their registry cards! and they didnt even have a party