Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

I am a working mom and love my life the way it is. I don't think I am cut out to be a SAHM.

In an ideal situation, I would work 3 days per week and stay home 2 days as long as that scheduled allowed me to be able to move up in my carreer as well.

If i also had the money, I would get a nanny for a few hours the day I am home so i could go out solo to get the food shopping and all the other shopping done.

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

yup! money is an issue and we have still found a way to make it work. if money wasn't an issue, i would at this point ideally like to perhaps work PT maybe one or twice a week. i do plan on going back to work when DD#2 is in school full time, but i am hoping to land a gig that will still allow me to be at home when they come home from school...

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

Fortunately, money is not an issue for us, and I will be returning back to work full-time, putting DS in full time daycare, and will have no guilt about it (at least I hope).


I could never be a stay at home mom, it's not in my nature. Everyone has different feelings about what is right in their lives and for their own sanity, this is the right choice for me.

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

Prior to having DD I would have sworn up and down that I would never want to be a SAHM. My mom stayed home with us and I always thought it seemed boring. However, everything changed after she was born and no one was more surprised than me. I started to realize that my parents made a big sacrifice in having my mom home with us. I would give anything to spend my days with my DD. Even when I think it (all day, everyday!!!) I am still shocked that I feel that way. I too worked hard and have a job I love (thank god) but I just would love to be home with my little girl (and the little person coming in April!).

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

I am taking a year off... with my job, I just couldn't handle working and being a mom. I would burn out. I was burned out without a child, I have no idea what the demands of a child would add to that. I think it will be hard not being in the workforce, but I won't know til I experience it completely.

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

If money weren't an issue...I would LOVE to be a SAHM. I plan on returning back to work 4-6 months after is born. When I have more children, I will probably opt to be a SAHM at that point because in couple of years DH will be making more money to support us.

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

i work pt and like it this way just b/c the days i work dh is home with dd.. so it gives them their time alone to bond. I wish money wasnt an issue.. I really need to work f/t but we dont want to do daycare.

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

I was always very into my career, but when I became pregnant with my DS I decided to be a SAHM. Now I am expecting #2 and will still be a SAHM. I am really happy with my decision. I love being with my son every day and could not imagine someone else taking care of him.

Eventually I will return to school and hopefully pursue a PHD. If not a PHD then I will definitely take classes in something to pursue another masters. I have also debated about teaching once or twice a week at night.

I think it is a very personal decision about whether a woman decides to SAHM or work. My mom was a SAHM until I was 8 years old and then she returned to work full time. Honestly, I remember being upset about it and missing her. I always wished she would have been a SAHM mom longer, but circumstances would not allow it.

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

I would not be a SAHM for an extended period of time (I would not like being home all the time/giving up my career)
but I would take off from work for a few years- Right now we could manage it with me staying home- but we would not be able to give our child the lifestlye we want to be able to give her.

Message edited 10/23/2008 4:18:29 PM.

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

Yes. We didn't have a lot of money growing up because my mother stayed home with us. She felt it was important. She was our class mother, she sewed our Halloween costumes, and because we couldn't afford a lot, she taught us how to have fun in other ways like arts and crafts and the library.

My SIL is doing the same thing right now. She decided to stop working after she got injured at her job because my 18 month old nephew was finally on a bedtime routine (they wouldn't pick him up at my parents' house until midnight some nights and he refused to sleep). He also would cling to my mother, and my mom would feel so guilty.

I'm envious that my husband and I will probably never be in a position to do that. They're only young once and I feel like it is going to pass me by. On the other hand, I am also not the type of person to not work, so I probably would work part-time if the possibility were to arise.

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

I would definitely stay home, but I would need to find something else to do with my time as well. I could never JUST stay home...I would go out of my mind.

Part of the reason we moved to NC was so that if I decided to stay home, it would be tough, but definitely doable. But I would definitely do something else on the side, such as volunteering at the hospital.

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

No, I need to work for my own sanity.

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

In a heartbeat. I stayed home for about 9 months when DD was born & then I went to work part-time. I now work part-time & go to school part-time. I am still home more than if I worked FT, but I would definately stay home if I had the option.

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

I would like to be a SAHM for the first year and then return to work.

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

I would with out a doubt...no questions asked

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

Yes, I would be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue.

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

I am a SAHM as of 2 months ago and will be for at least the next 5 years and I will say this, staying home is a LOT harder then working.

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

Although I spent a lot of time and energy and years to get where I am in my career, if we could afford it, i would stay home in a heartbeat!!

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

Although I take pride in my career, I would be a SAHM in a second! Then, I would probably choose to work part-time when my kids were in school. Yeah, I can keep dreaming!

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

In a heartbeat! If I could stay at home and still be able to see my dh bc he wasnt working around the clock...absolutely

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

I'm going to be staying home. Dh and I knew this would be our goal so we moved to CT for a better cost of living to prepare for it. I left a high level position in the city to do so and haven't worked since I got pregnant since I was also caring for a sick family member. I'm not going to lie - its been a tough adjustment and at times I miss my job and hustle bustle of the city. It can also be tough to not have my "own" money but I still would choose this path either way. Being at home is important to us both and am glad I have opportunity to do so. In the meantime I am pursuing a small business on the side that keeps me busy but also allows me to be home. I will likely go back eventually when our kids are in school or may even get some PT work before then if I feel like I need to get out of the house.

My mom stayed at home and like Hofstra said it was a great experience for me and I actually remembering feeling blessed at a young age that she was there. I've always wanted the same for my babies.

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If $$ weren't an issue I would def. be a SAHM FT. As it is right now, I am able to be home with DD 5 days a week and I just love those days and hate when it is time to go back to work. I am also one who put ALOT of money and time into my career, but I'd give it all up in a heartbeat if we could make ends meet without my salary. And don't get me wrong, we don't live an extravagant lifestyle, but we couldn't even pay the mortgage without my money.

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

I am planning on being a SAHM for the first year, I really haven't decided about after that.

I feel very lucky to have grown up with my Mom being at home, it was great. I could see myself going a little crazy without any adult interaction, I have been thinking about find a work from home or at least 1/2 from home job. Right now, it saddens me to think of my child going into daycare, but that could change after being in the house for a year!

Re: Spinoff to Granny/Nanny: Would you be a SAHM if money wasn't an issue?

I would stay home for at least a year if I could.. I agree with some of the previous posters.. that I would go crazy staying at home forever.. but I would love to have the experience of staying at home for a year... unfortunately, we bought a house last year (really not unfortunate... its wonderful) BUT, it means I can only take the time that my school provides me with so I dont lose any pay... luckily for me, if this little bugger is late, by even a week.. I will be off for may, june, and the rest of the summer.. but I am envious of all of you who get to stay home.. I know I am going to miss a lot with my dc.. but we just cant do it... and as I said in a post yesterday, people at work make me feel guilty about not being home for the first year!