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dajc23
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Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
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carissa1643
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holy sh!t dana! i was just going to post the same thing!
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| Posted 2/28/11 7:18 PM |
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Mommy2Boys
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17 months here and I am with you
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| Posted 2/28/11 7:22 PM |
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dajc23
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by carissa1643
holy sh!t dana! i was just going to post the same thing!
Seriously today was the breaking point. IDK what the hell happened! she just whined, threw tantrums, wanted to be held, did NOT want her diaper changed the ENTIRE DAY. I gave her a bath before bed and she threw a fit when i tried getting her dressed. It was like she was possesed!
omg i'm so glad she's sleeping now. idk where the hell she came from today
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| Posted 2/28/11 7:23 PM |
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carissa1643
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
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Posted by carissa1643
holy sh!t dana! i was just going to post the same thing!
Seriously today was the breaking point. IDK what the hell happened! she just whined, threw tantrums, wanted to be held, did NOT want her diaper changed the ENTIRE DAY. I gave her a bath before bed and she threw a fit when i tried getting her dressed. It was like she was possesed!
omg i'm so glad she's sleeping now. idk where the hell she came from today
omg the up and down up and down and mini tantrums in between and no nap, i feel like i've been threw a war today! 
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itsbabytime
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
My DD is like this right now and it is driving me crazy. She barks orders at me like I am her servant. I think she learns this from her brother. She sees what she wants and repeatedly asks for it as her voice elevates to screaming. Then, I give it to her, she throws it on the floor and does it all over again. Add this to the fact that I cannot put her in anything - car seat, high chair, changing table etc. etc. w/o her screaming and fighting me oh and her 3 yr old brother who talks back like a teenager and it all makes for a very pleasant day
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Shelleybean11
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I am there with you guys. He's almost 18 months now. I didn't think I was going to make it through today. He had a gazillion tantrums about everything under the sun. How the heck am I going to survive the 2's?!! 
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| Posted 2/28/11 7:55 PM |
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carissa1643
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Posted by Shelleybean11
I am there with you guys. He's almost 18 months now. I didn't think I was going to make it through today. He had a gazillion tantrums about everything under the sun. How the heck am I going to survive the 2's?!!
thats what i was thinking today! What am I going to do next year when he's bigger and meaner! 
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Shelleybean11
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by carissa1643
Posted by Shelleybean11
I am there with you guys. He's almost 18 months now. I didn't think I was going to make it through today. He had a gazillion tantrums about everything under the sun. How the heck am I going to survive the 2's?!!
thats what i was thinking today! What am I going to do next year when he's bigger and meaner!
Seriously, this kid is SO strong already!! I couldn't get him to sit down in the shopping cart, he wiggles his way out of my grasp when I am holding his hand I am really scared for what's to come!!
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4PsInaPod
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Atlast07
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This makes me feel so much better that I am not the only one experiencing this. DS is a beast and he is not one until Saturday! Everything that you described, Dana is my son to a "t"! FML!!!!!!!
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Michelle1123
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So far Charlie has been terrible since, well day 1. "2" cant be any worse 
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OMG im going through the same thing with DS!!! Hes just about 17 months and he'll be fine one second just playing and then suddenly will be laying on the floor screaming and throwing a tantrum! I'm so glad its not just my kid lol! Babycenter says this is the age where they want to make their own decisions...but if this is what age 1 is like then im terrified of the "terrible 2's"!!!!
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maymama
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i think the terrible 1's hit our house 2 months early...
holy screaming fits batman
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kabo0831
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omg yes my dd too!!
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KrisT
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We had a half hour tantrum at my house today because I wouldn't let a certain 1 year-old "play" with the computer
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| Posted 2/28/11 9:07 PM |
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dajc23
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by KrisT
We had a half hour tantrum at my house today because I wouldn't let a certain 1 year-old "play" with the computer
oh the computers, cell phone and remote tantrums i know those well. I even have old remotes or cell phones we dont use anymore and she REFUSES to even look at them. She knows they arent "ours"  so she gets nothing! and boy does she let us know she's ****** lol
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Peainapod
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
umm..yeah..right there with you. DS is 16mo..starting the temper tantrums.
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4PsInaPod
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by dajc23
Posted by KrisT
We had a half hour tantrum at my house today because I wouldn't let a certain 1 year-old "play" with the computer
oh the computers, cell phone and remote tantrums i know those well. I even have old remotes or cell phones we dont use anymore and she REFUSES to even look at them. She knows they arent "ours" so she gets nothing! and boy does she let us know she's ****** lol
yes, yes, yes!!!! I thought this was only my child!
I love this thread, makes me feel normal!
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KrisT
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Posted by DPerotti
Posted by dajc23
Posted by KrisT
We had a half hour tantrum at my house today because I wouldn't let a certain 1 year-old "play" with the computer
oh the computers, cell phone and remote tantrums i know those well. I even have old remotes or cell phones we dont use anymore and she REFUSES to even look at them. She knows they arent "ours" so she gets nothing! and boy does she let us know she's ****** lol
yes, yes, yes!!!! I thought this was only my child!
I love this thread, makes me feel normal!
Same here!!!!! We did the same thing with old ones and he has no interest in them!
I feel better now too because I was ready to have a complete meltdown tonight after his!!
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mommyIam
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
one word RIE
Lucky me, I had terrible 8 months!
No one would believe it, but DS was throwing himself on the floor arching his back, kicking screaming and hitting. Over every little thing. He's pretty normal developmentally, but I have to say he's advanced in tantrum throwing
I starting seriously reading "Happiest Toddler on the Block" and tried to apply the methods, they sort of work. You basically confirm the feelings of your child, using the same tone your child is using, and in a way they can easily understand in their state of crazy tantrum.... he calls it "toddler-ease" .. Keep doing this till they calm, when they do, explain and distract. It was sort of working, but I didn't like doing it, it felt weird, and it was so embarrassing to do in public when the tantrums seem to hit hardest.
I later found "Your Self Confident Baby" and RIE - I know I almost promised myself to cool it posting about RIE so much, but honestly RIE was magic on tantrums for us.
Respect your baby as you would another human, sounds silly, but honestly, its just a matter of communication and boundaries. RIE handles this beautifully and so gracefully. Similar in principle as Happiest Toddler on the Block, in that you come to the child's level, but in RIE you only ever speak to the child as if they were another intelligent adult. You distract, but not "oh quick! look over there!" kind of way, you basically say
"this is not for you, but you can choose do this or this" given the choice empowers the child and when your child trusts you, its like magic, its unbelievable how well it works for us.
Just tonight in the bath, "Noah, please sit down" "Noah, I really don't want you to stand, you will fall and get hurt, but you can sit down and play with the cups or you can splash" He sat down and splashed and all was calm. At 8m when I plopped him down to sit, he threw himself backwards into the water, submerged, scared the crap out of me and I cried all night over it, and was trying to think of how I can get away with never giving him a bath again.
At 11m, I rarely see tantrums anymore since started following RIE, my mother who insists on just distracting him with a cookie or a toy, see's them all day long and calls me to tell me to tell me my 11 month old has ADD, and is too demanding
"he's just a baby, he doesn't know better"
I sincerely disagree, he knows a hell of a lot!
More info read this:
http://www.janetlansbury.com/2011/01/baby-discipline-person-to-person/
But the entire site is full of great articles that I think just gives great parenting advice.
Or, ignore me, and just go with what they say "Its just a phase"
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4PsInaPod
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by mommyIam
one word RIE
You're really pushing for this RIE method.
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mommyIam
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by DPerotti
Posted by mommyIam
one word RIE
You're really pushing for this RIE method.
I know I'll cool it I promise, I'm just super excited how well it works for us.
I know all babies all mommies are different, not all shoes fit, but I'm utterly impressed with it and enthused... sorry 
Its not a cult, promise
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carissa1643
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
This doesnt work every single time. Not when his back is arched, his eyes are shut and he's whining, he doesnt listen to what I'm saying.
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mommyIam
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by carissa1643
This doesnt work every single time. Not when his back is arched, his eyes are shut and he's whining, he doesnt listen to what I'm saying.
Its more about how you take something away, he's whining for a reason, what happened prior?
for example, "This is a computer/phone/thing. But this is not your computer/phone/thing" "You have toys, you see your toys, you have X and Y" "The computer is not yours, you can't play with it, but you can play with X or Y, which one do you want?"
I have cheated RIE, and played a youtube video or two for DS, so its not like he's immune to this behavior I love the philosophy but I've never been the religious type.
oh and don't tell the RIE cult leader he'll have my head
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