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MarathonKnitter
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touchy/sensitive question
now that you've discovered the unlimited joy/wonder/love of having a child:
*when you do something simple and you're their hero.
*when all they want to do is sit on your lap
*when they giggle that infectious giggle that fills your home
would you ever consider carrying a baby for someone who can't carry their own?
this question goes out to dad's too... having your wife carry the baby or to be a sperm donor.
for whatever reason, this has been on my mind A LOT, lately
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hbugal
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
If pregnancy wasnt so hard on me I most defintely would..
I was approached as an egg donor in the past. B/C I already have a child with Down Syndrome Im not really a candidate for such things..
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| Posted 5/5/08 11:34 PM |
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ABCiverson
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
I love pregnancy and I hope that one day (when I am done having my own kids) I am lucky enough to be a surrogate mother. That being said I wouldn't use my own egg.
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| Posted 5/6/08 1:40 AM |
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shellybean
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
Posted by hbugal
If pregnancy wasnt so hard on me I most defintely would..
I was approached as an egg donor in the past. B/C I already have a child with Down Syndrome Im not really a candidate for such things..
I agreee but i KNOW for sure my hubby would never go for this idea, he was too attached at 10 weeks preggo, talking to my belly etc....it would be hard to ignore it
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| Posted 5/6/08 2:51 AM |
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ckdk
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
I honestly don't think I would... I don't have a sister but if I did that would probably be the only person I would consider doing it for...
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| Posted 5/6/08 6:02 AM |
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yankinmanc
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
A former work colleague of mine is currently 25 weeks pregnant with a child for another couple. I don't know if I would do it, but I completely have one million percent respect for her for doing it.
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| Posted 5/6/08 6:20 AM |
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partyof6
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
This was posted a week or two ago--my nswer is still the same...without thinking...10000000% yes...
Their sperm,their egg of course.
Tht being said...
you can carry a child and have it not be yours and still be their hero...
they can still just want to sit on your lap when you see them, and when they visit..their great laughter will still my home.
Sometimes...things do not go easy...and the chips fall as a higher power sees fit.
I think...if I could give someone I know the greatest gift there is....
even such as a babyor even a kidney...I am there faster then you can say go.
My attitude is...if I was to do it...I am the lucky one...
I am chosen to care and hold that child for 9 months..
I am a babysitter. it is not my child...it is not my dh's sperm, not my egg.
A babysitter has the most important job in the world...I think up there with a mom.
Question usually asked..."Well, what if you bond with the baby?"
I will certainly bond with my baby sisters baby when shes pregnant...of course I will feel deep love for that baby.
The love knowing that I helped somewhat in them existing, that I gave something precious to someone soooooo deserving and special.
Hands down 10000000% yes...without a doubt, and I can honestly say...if I ever did...i would hand that baby over with the greatest upmost joy in my heart...
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| Posted 5/6/08 6:44 AM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
Posted by lastchance1222
This was posted a week or two ago--my nswer is still the same...without thinking...10000000% yes...
i'm sorry, i didn't know it had been asked so recently.
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| Posted 5/6/08 6:55 AM |
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rojerono
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
I think that people who do this are wonderful and selfless and heroic.
That being said - I am none of those things and I don't think I could do it.
Being pregnant was such an intense experience for me from the SECOND I found out that there was this little cluster of cells growing inside of me and becoming a human - a person - my child. I cannot imagine being able to disconnect myself enough to hand that life over to anyone else once the child is born. I am selfish in saying that THIS may just devastate me.
And I am aware that not being able to have a child is a devastating thing to so many women. Women who I know would be WONDERFUL parents. So if it were one of my sisters or friends - I would go with them to explore EVERY single option available. I would be at every appointment, I would do research and pray and light candles and wish and yell at doctors and demand answers. But I d not think I would be capable of actually carrying a pregnancy - knowing that at the end I would be handing the baby to someone else.
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| Posted 5/6/08 7:00 AM |
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partyof6
b nice like u want ur kidz 2
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
Posted by libby2595
Posted by lastchance1222
This was posted a week or two ago--my nswer is still the same...without thinking...10000000% yes...
i'm sorry, i didn't know it had been asked so recently.
oh silllllllllllllly! who caresif its asked a million times...I didn'tcare!I meant myanswer would be the same now as back then...I hope I didnt sound mean! Im sorry! 
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| Posted 5/6/08 7:03 AM |
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munchkinbugs
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
Only if it were for my sister if she NEEDED it. Other than that, I don't think I would.
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| Posted 5/6/08 7:18 AM |
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chelle
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
Posted by libby2595
would you ever consider carrying a baby for someone who can't carry their own?
Absolutely. I had told a friend of mine that when I was through with having my own, if they were stil trying/having trouble, I would most certainly do it. I even discussed it with DH.
(side note - They just adopted a little girl  )
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| Posted 5/6/08 7:25 AM |
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emilain
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
yup, my bestfriend is single and has PSO and we are discussing me possible carrying her baby, it is a real honor IMO
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| Posted 5/6/08 7:27 AM |
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BigB
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
Absolutely 100% Yes.......
After my 5 year struggle with IF, I had the most boring uneventful pregnancy, so that makes it a lot easier for me to decide!
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| Posted 5/6/08 7:29 AM |
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Diane
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
Posted by babybug631
Only if it were for my sister if she NEEDED it. Other than that, I don't think I would.
same here, I think I would be too attached emotionally.
Message edited 5/6/2008 7:32:01 AM.
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JennChris
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
I know personally I couldn't carry someone else's baby because I would just get to attached... I think women that can do it are amazing!  I would only consider doing it for my sister though. I wouldn't have a problem at all with egg donation though. After being a Mom I can't imagine what women must go through that can't 
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clmj2
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
I have actually thought about this in depth...and friend of mine has mulitple obstacles holding her and her DH back from having children...I found out just after DD was born and was torn if i should offer...in the end it was just too soon after I had DD to even think of it emotionally and I dont want to have to hold back my expanding my own family at this time (selfish yes, but sometimes you do have to put your life first)...but i think that if i was done having children and could handle it emotionally...if they asked i would def. do it....it would be hard...but i would use her egg and his sperm and give them the only thing they really want that money cant buy.
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JenBenMen
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
if a close friend or family member asked me to do it..i would
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| Posted 5/6/08 8:12 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
Carry? Yes. I had very easy labors & deliveries.
The egg donor option is a moot point because I'm older. In the past, I offered it to 3 people that struggled with IF who were very close to me.
DH would have to be on board with it. That would be my biggest stumbling block.
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HillW9608
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
Wow that's a toughy, I think it would depend on the person though. I know it would be hard on me in the end but if it was someone like my sister or something like that I couldn't say no.
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luvsun27
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
Posted by BigB
Absolutely 100% Yes.......
After my 5 year struggle with IF, I had the most boring uneventful pregnancy, so that makes it a lot easier for me to decide!
ITA!
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| Posted 5/6/08 8:33 AM |
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DUCKS2001
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
I would I have known for a long time.. when my sis was having problems concieving..I totally would be her serrogate and I wouldnt even think twice about it. I would want her to have the same joys I have .. she has a daughter now.. but if she asked I would right away.
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| Posted 5/6/08 8:38 AM |
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bicosi
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
I would only do this for my sister.
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| Posted 5/6/08 8:42 AM |
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NW2006
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
I think I would, for my sister. But I don't know how DH would feel.
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| Posted 5/6/08 9:01 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
when my sister was having trouble having a baby, I told her that I would do this for her, in a heartbeat......she is the only one I would do it for though
She is now pregnant after IVF 
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