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Erica
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
most likely no - I had difficult pregnancies and c/s's so recovery was tougher and there is only a limited about I can have - since we're not sure if we are done - I couldn't commit at this point.
The only person who I would consider (since my sister has one child) is my cousin who has been struggling with IF for 3+ years.
I think i could detach myself.
i would be an egg donor for my sister
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stickydust
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
I would not do it nut only because I had such a difficult end to my pregnancy with pre-e.
Otherwise, I would probably do it - but not with my egg.
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| Posted 5/6/08 9:27 AM |
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DmarieK
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I would for my sisters only...maybe 1 friend. It would be hard as hell but would do it for them.
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| Posted 5/6/08 9:34 AM |
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JennyPenny
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
Message edited 11/22/2010 10:36:03 AM.
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jcbrownie
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jennifer
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
After carrying my baby for nine months and then going through the delivery, I don't think I would be able to be a surrogate. I just think it would be too hard for me to give the baby to someone else.
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Mkr09
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
I def would. I know it would be hard to give up the baby but to be able to give a couple a baby who can't have one on their own would outweigh those feelings.
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| Posted 5/6/08 9:49 AM |
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Foodie03
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
Even though I did not like being pregnant for the most part and my delivery was horrendous, I would consider being a surrogate. Now that DS is here I see why women do it again and again. I would want to give that to someone else if they were unable to themselves. But I would only do it for my sister or my two best friends.
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waterspout4
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
I had a pretty good pregnancy, but the delivery nearly killed me. My husband's worst fear (which he didn't tell me til after it nearly happened) was losing me in childbirth. I'm still having problems 8 months pp. We will be lucky if ever decide to have another child for ourselves. So for me, I say HELL NO!!!!
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kahlua716
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
Posted by JennyPenny
I am board crashing here- but I was very interested to see the responses to this question. I don't have any children and suffered a miscarriage last year. I have been trying off and on for about 2 years, taking short breaks to regain my sanity every so often.
My sister and I have talked honestly and openly about whether or not she could be a surrogate for me if it ever came to that, and she replied to me that she'd do it in a heartbeat. There is no greater relief to me than knowing that if necessary, that someway - I will be able to experience the joys of being a mother- the only thing I have ever wanted to be, because of her. It is the best show of love and "sisterly bond".
To those of you who wouldn't hesitate to help a sister or cousin or a close friend, I applaud you for being an amazing, selfless person. You may have the opportunity to change someone's life in an unforgettable way. There are no words to describe how much respect I have for you, and the feelings it brings to know that there are people like you in the world.
Sorry if this is mushy, but I wanted to say it
Aw... 
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| Posted 5/6/08 11:37 AM |
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saraH
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I know that God exsists, I held her in my arms...
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IF my last prenancy was normal and I delivered at term, yes, I would consider it. But I had DD 7 weeks early and am nervous about carrying another child of my own.
I don't even think anyone would ask me.
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lulugrrl
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
I REALLY wish I could do this. I personally do not have the emotional makeup to be able to. I think women that CAN are absolutely amazing and a wonderful blessing.
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NS1976
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For my sister, I would do ANYTHING!
Possibly for my brothers wife (when he has one).
Other than that, I dont think I would be able to.
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shapla79
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I've thought about this before...and I don't think I could carry a baby for someone else other than someone in my family or my SIL. My pregnancy was fine until I hit the third trimester and had to take so many trips to L&D for pre-term labor. If my pregnancy was totally smooth sailing, I would consider it. However, given how rough it got at the end I would have to say no unless someone in my family was really struggling TTC.
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ArmyOfBabies
Growing older but not up
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
If DH had no problem with it, I would do it in a heartbeat for a friend or sibling.
I think it would be hard NOT to bond with the baby, but if it is for someone I'm close to, then I would still be close to the baby whether I carried him/her or not.
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nicrae
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I applaud all of you who could give such an amazing gift to someone else. I don't think I could ever do it though. I would be afraid of bonding with the baby and then being heartbroken when I would have to give it up.
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dooodles
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I already asked if I could donate my egg to someone but I cannot.
I would in a heartbeat carry a child for her if and when she ever asked me to if it were needed.
This friend is the only one I could offer to do this for at this point in my life. My family (sister and sister-in-laws) do not need this of me so it is not something I would need to consider at this juncture.
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eroxgirl
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I really don't think I could. After going through 9 months of pregnancy and feeling every kick and turn.. I just can't imagine the baby not being MINE in the end. I wish I were a bigger person that I could say yes, I would do this for someone but honestly, I don't think I could.
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Rycois
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
MAYBE if I knew I was done having my own children and it was someone I really loved. I don't think DH would go for it though - unless maybe if it was his sister.
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lbelle821
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I would do it for any one of my SIL's and my best friend (I don't have a sister). I loved being pregnant and really had zero complications so I'd hope that carrying it wouldn't be any issue. In terms of attachment, this is why I would only do it for someone really close because I think that if I wasn't close to the baby and didn't see it all the time that might be hard on me. But knowing how amazing it is to raise a baby I think that the selfish pleasure I would feel giving this gift to someone would outweigh the separation attachment I would feel. I think I'd also want to be done having my own children before I did it.
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cjik
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
I would not, but only because I have some medical issues now that would make carrying a baby difficult. If it were not for that, I would do this for someone very close to me like my sister.
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mommy2bella
Where does time go?
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
I would absolutely do it.
their sperm, their egg and a close friend or family member would be my stipulations...
It's funny, because there was just no question in my mind when I read the OP...I immediately thought yes!
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Ambersmom
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Sharon
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
For a family member, absolutely. There were several times I was kicking the idea around while my sister suffered with infertility (turns out she has more kids than I do now ).
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jms100303
Luv my munchkins
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
Without a second thought I would carry a child for my sister. I wouldn't hesitate. For someone else, I would have to think about it.
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dandr10199
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Re: touchy/sensitive question
Posted by libby2595
now that you've discovered the unlimited joy/wonder/love of having a child:
*when you do something simple and you're their hero.
*when all they want to do is sit on your lap
*when they giggle that infectious giggle that fills your home
would you ever consider carrying a baby for someone who can't carry their own?
this question goes out to dad's too... having your wife carry the baby or to be a sperm donor.
for whatever reason, this has been on my mind A LOT, lately
So I loved being preggo and I would do it if I could.
I cannot have any more children, it would be life threatening for me.  I am thankful that I have Grace and I KNOW how lucky I am to have an amazing, healthy little girl. I sometimes wish the timing of my heart function decreasing and valve cr@ping out happened after baby #2, instead of after baby #1, KWIM?
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betty
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I think I would for my sister (although I'm getting up there in age)....I have no idea how DH would feel about it.
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