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MetsGirl07
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by hmm12
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Today is actually 4 weeks exactly since my D&C and I got to work today and someone that I haven't seen at work in a while came up to me and was like, "I heard the good news, your're pregnant" I wanted to die! I hate having to explain when people are just finding out I was pregnant and don't know about the MC. I know it is not their fault, but it just brings it back to the table all over again......I just want to leave work today Sorry...Just needed to vent
ughhh.. the same thing happened to me too ... its the WORST feeling.. i just wanted to cry right then and there. then it kind of ruins your whole day..
i said to myself , then next time i get a BFP i will NOT tell everyone like i did the last time.. then i wont have to deal with it.
honey, feel better.. i know it s u c k s. right now.. but hang in there!! 
I feel the same way...When I get preggo again, I am not telling anyone, well probably you girls but, yeah it just feels so terrible...Thanks for the kind words, I am glad it's Friday atleast! Go get busy!!! 
this does NOT make it any easier.. but i tend to look at it this way ......
now that its summer.. there is so much to do , and more going on that it might make things a little easier, and not think about things so much...
now the Winter is a different story.. i hate this time a year, and dont do much at all.. so i would be even more miserable than usual..
i know it probaby doesnt help, but i use this excuse to make me feel somewhat better about things.
and YAY for Friday!! woohoo, i love the weekends, , anything to not be at work 
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MetsGirl07
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
hi ladies... just trying to keep this thread alive.
i am feeling so upset today ... i would have found out the sex of the baby this week... i feel so empty inside.. i hate it not a good day for me
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| Posted 6/10/08 11:53 AM |
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MikesGirl323
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
im so sorry. 
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| Posted 6/10/08 11:55 AM |
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jam11308
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Ohhh - I'm so sorry Deanna I'm here if you need to chat.
I'm not doing too well today either...it all started a week ago today for me I have my post-d&c follow-up appt. today, but I'm not expecting any answers...
I'm back at work, but still getting nothing done yet. I thought that I'd immerse myself & forget, but I just don't care about anything & can't seem to get my act together here. I sit alone in my office all day trying to get going, but failing...and then feeling really guilty about it. I hope that this ends soon - I can only delegate my work to others for so long before they start to resent me...I need a good kick in the a$$ 
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sweetdreamz1181
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by MetsGirl07
hi ladies... just trying to keep this thread alive.
i am feeling so upset today ... i would have found out the sex of the baby this week... i feel so empty inside.. i hate it not a good day for me
im soo sorry Deanna This hasnt been a good couple of days for me.. i thought i was better after the D&C but i feel worse now i
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| Posted 6/10/08 12:16 PM |
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jam11308
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Ugh - good luck Jackie
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| Posted 6/10/08 12:22 PM |
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jam11308
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by sweetdreamz1181
im soo sorry Deanna This hasnt been a good couple of days for me.. i thought i was better after the D&C but i feel worse now i
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I think that the d&c makes you feel...empty...right? After everything else, it's so...final...  I hope that you start to feel a little better soon
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| Posted 6/10/08 12:28 PM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
thanks ladies... i really appreciate the support..
i just still relive the memories of me in the hospital for 9 hours 
and i was in labor and having bad contractions... but the WORST feeling of all was passing the baby i just knew it, and they wouldnt let me see it.. i regret it, because i really wanted too now im kicking myself for it.. i still think about it to this day, and i am trying to stay positive in every way, but i think im breaking down again. 
i got to just move on, but its sooooo hard ... like you ladies said.. i feel so empty inside
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| Posted 6/10/08 12:44 PM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by jam11308
Ohhh - I'm so sorry Deanna I'm here if you need to chat.
I'm not doing too well today either...it all started a week ago today for me I have my post-d&c follow-up appt. today, but I'm not expecting any answers...
I'm back at work, but still getting nothing done yet. I thought that I'd immerse myself & forget, but I just don't care about anything & can't seem to get my act together here. I sit alone in my office all day trying to get going, but failing...and then feeling really guilty about it. I hope that this ends soon - I can only delegate my work to others for so long before they start to resent me...I need a good kick in the a$$
i completely know how you feel about going back to work.. i still dont do as much as i used to when i was still PG and happy... i just drag everyday and get by. i have a desk job so i just have a lot of quiet time as well... so of course i think about what happened.
i am at least glad i have you ladies on here so i can get through it and tons of support!!
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| Posted 6/10/08 12:46 PM |
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jam11308
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by MetsGirl07
thanks ladies... i really appreciate the support..
i just still relive the memories of me in the hospital for 9 hours
and i was in labor and having bad contractions... but the WORST feeling of all was passing the baby i just knew it, and they wouldnt let me see it.. i regret it, because i really wanted too now im kicking myself for it.. i still think about it to this day, and i am trying to stay positive in every way, but i think im breaking down again.
i got to just move on, but its sooooo hard ... like you ladies said.. i feel so empty inside
Ohhhh Deanna, my heart just broke reading this Take tonight to cry - you deserve to let it all out
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| Posted 6/10/08 1:50 PM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by jam11308
Posted by MetsGirl07
thanks ladies... i really appreciate the support..
i just still relive the memories of me in the hospital for 9 hours
and i was in labor and having bad contractions... but the WORST feeling of all was passing the baby i just knew it, and they wouldnt let me see it.. i regret it, because i really wanted too now im kicking myself for it.. i still think about it to this day, and i am trying to stay positive in every way, but i think im breaking down again.
i got to just move on, but its sooooo hard ... like you ladies said.. i feel so empty inside
Ohhhh Deanna, my heart just broke reading this Take tonight to cry - you deserve to let it all out
thank you again!! yea i just feel like crying today... hopefully tomorrow will be a better day!
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| Posted 6/10/08 2:27 PM |
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hmm12
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Deanna... For yesterday....I hope you are having a better day today. I can't even imagine what you went through I hope that soon you will get your miracle! Keep focusing on what the future can bring!!!!
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| Posted 6/11/08 8:27 AM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by hmm12
Deanna... For yesterday....I hope you are having a better day today. I can't even imagine what you went through I hope that soon you will get your miracle! Keep focusing on what the future can bring!!!!
thanks so much!!
i actually do feel a littel better today! im not as upset... maybe because of the thread i just posted lifted my spirits up a little
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| Posted 6/11/08 9:18 AM |
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sweetpea0717
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Hello. After a month of waiting each week for another u/s with hope that I would see something, I decided to have a D&C last night. As of now I feel okay, I think the month of waiting really really took a toll on me it was just torture, going to the bathroom every two seconds to see if i was about to miscarry. I feel a sense of closure and feel that I can try to begin to heal. Although, I dont know how I will feel in a couple of days.
As I was leaving the hospital, my DH was walking me to the car and I turn around to see a car pulling up with a woman in labor .Her husband was putting her in the wheel chair to take her in to deliver her baby and for some reason I just knew everything would be okay and my time will come. All of our times will come. I thought that seeing that would upset me but for some reason it made me feel better.
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| Posted 6/11/08 9:57 AM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by bubbledweller
Wow...what a supportive thread to start. I just read through all the replies. It truly is heartbreaking for anyone to experience the loss of a baby....
Today was the day I would have been able to start steroids to get my babies' lungs to develop. But, instead it has been two weeks since I went into full-blown labor and delivered my twin boys. They were born at 22 weeks and 5 days. I know they are at peace now, but it's still been very difficult to get through each day.
...I'm finally starting to lose my baby belly. At only 5 feet tall, I had already looked full-term carrying the twins. It was so hard to put maternity clothes back on after being in a hospital gown for the week I was in the hospital. Going out in public has been so difficult as people still ask when I am due, so I just stay in the house...only going out if DH makes me.
I have my first follow-up appt with my OB this Friday...he'll be checking my cervix to see if I need surgery to repair it as my babies delivered through the back of my cervix and tore it, while my cerclage stitch had stretched to 8cm.
I'm still receiving calls from Winthrop hospital staff to see if I'm okay. I also sent a thank you note to my high risk doctor as he was so supportive through the process...we could not have gotten through it without him.
Guess I just needed to vent today...
i remember reading your story on the PG board i think... and i am soooooo sorry you brought tears to my eyes reading this again... i really cant imagine what you had gone through.. i was 16 weeks and went into labor as well for 5 hours.. it was he!! .
i am so glad you found our thread, it really does help and is a great support system.. to just cry,vent, talk, anything!! we are all here for each other!
i hope you are doing ok, you and your husband have to be strong and stay positive! just be there for each other! and please, if you ever want to talk i am always here!!! dont hesitate!
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| Posted 6/11/08 10:00 AM |
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MetsGirl07
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by ETAB
Hello. After a month of waiting each week for another u/s with hope that I would see something, I decided to have a D&C last night. As of now I feel okay, I think the month of waiting really really took a toll on me it was just torture, going to the bathroom every two seconds to see if i was about to miscarry. I feel a sense of closure and feel that I can try to begin to heal. Although, I dont know how I will feel in a couple of days.
As I was leaving the hospital, my DH was walking me to the car and I turn around to see a car pulling up with a woman in labor .Her husband was putting her in the wheel chair to take her in to deliver her baby and for some reason I just knew everything would be okay and my time will come. All of our times will come. I thought that seeing that would upset me but for some reason it made me feel better.
you are such a strong woman! to go through a month of torture is something that i could not do.. im glad you now have closure and can start to heal.
i also strongly believe that we will all be a mom one day! we are meant to be mommies!!
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| Posted 6/11/08 10:03 AM |
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sweetdreamz1181
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by ETAB
Hello. After a month of waiting each week for another u/s with hope that I would see something, I decided to have a D&C last night. As of now I feel okay, I think the month of waiting really really took a toll on me it was just torture, going to the bathroom every two seconds to see if i was about to miscarry. I feel a sense of closure and feel that I can try to begin to heal. Although, I dont know how I will feel in a couple of days.
As I was leaving the hospital, my DH was walking me to the car and I turn around to see a car pulling up with a woman in labor .Her husband was putting her in the wheel chair to take her in to deliver her baby and for some reason I just knew everything would be okay and my time will come. All of our times will come. I thought that seeing that would upset me but for some reason it made me feel better.
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Thank you! I believe it too...
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| Posted 6/11/08 10:08 AM |
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jam11308
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by ETAB
Hello. After a month of waiting each week for another u/s with hope that I would see something, I decided to have a D&C last night. As of now I feel okay, I think the month of waiting really really took a toll on me it was just torture, going to the bathroom every two seconds to see if i was about to miscarry. I feel a sense of closure and feel that I can try to begin to heal. Although, I dont know how I will feel in a couple of days.
As I was leaving the hospital, my DH was walking me to the car and I turn around to see a car pulling up with a woman in labor .Her husband was putting her in the wheel chair to take her in to deliver her baby and for some reason I just knew everything would be okay and my time will come. All of our times will come. I thought that seeing that would upset me but for some reason it made me feel better.
Wow - you just brought tears to my eyes. I admire your strength & your optimism
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| Posted 6/11/08 4:59 PM |
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jam11308
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by bubbledweller
Wow...what a supportive thread to start. I just read through all the replies. It truly is heartbreaking for anyone to experience the loss of a baby....
Today was the day I would have been able to start steroids to get my babies' lungs to develop. But, instead it has been two weeks since I went into full-blown labor and delivered my twin boys. They were born at 22 weeks and 5 days. I know they are at peace now, but it's still been very difficult to get through each day.
...I'm finally starting to lose my baby belly. At only 5 feet tall, I had already looked full-term carrying the twins. It was so hard to put maternity clothes back on after being in a hospital gown for the week I was in the hospital. Going out in public has been so difficult as people still ask when I am due, so I just stay in the house...only going out if DH makes me.
I have my first follow-up appt with my OB this Friday...he'll be checking my cervix to see if I need surgery to repair it as my babies delivered through the back of my cervix and tore it, while my cerclage stitch had stretched to 8cm.
I'm still receiving calls from Winthrop hospital staff to see if I'm okay. I also sent a thank you note to my high risk doctor as he was so supportive through the process...we could not have gotten through it without him.
Guess I just needed to vent today...
Oh Trish, I am so soooo sorry. My heart just broke reading this
Please vent away - we're all here for you
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michey1217
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Hi girls. Your stories are very inspirational and I truly wish all of you luck in the future and don't worry we'll be mommies soon enough. I had my D&C last Friday at 8 weeks, 6 days. We found out Thursday when I started spotting that we no longer had a heartbeat (it was clear as day the week before at my first appointment and was 143). It makes me so sad because when we left that appointment my DH was like 143.. that means I love you.. I'm still in shock and feel like a programmed machine. The few family we told are like switch doctors.. blah blah.. is it wrong if I just want to tell them shut up?!?
I go for my follow-up appointment this Friday morning and am very anxious in going. This was my 2nd MC (first was 8 years ago at 11 weeks, I have no kids) so now the doctor is thinking of doing blood work and running some other tests to see if we can pinpoint what's going on. I'm actually very scared to start this process and see what's going on. It's scary..thanks for listening.
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| Posted 6/11/08 6:29 PM |
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chattycathy
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
I am sad also that there are so many of us on this thread but I am glad I have you guys to talk to. I got pg after ttc for ten months we were soooooo happy. I went for my first sono and there was a thickening lining but no baby. I had to have a D&c and a laproscopy bc my doctor thought it was ectopic thankfully it wasnt but my hsg level still was going up so I head to get a shot of mexotrexate which made me really sick We are now this month able to ttc again. I never got an answer to what happened. I pray everyday that I get pg soon and have a healthy baby. I dont know if I could go through that again. I am thinking of switching doctors too bc my gyno left the practice and I dont really know the other doctors. Any recommendations??? I also feel my gyno wasnt very concerned and that upset me
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| Posted 6/11/08 8:06 PM |
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butterfly20
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
im so glad there is this board.. I didnt exist last year...
Last January I got pregnant(on the second month of trying), naturally mc'ed in February. I remember going to dr hanauer's office and actually puking in the garbage bin in the waiting room I felt so sick( and still had to wait an hour with an empty waiting room).
I was so shocked because my sister & mom never had a mc so i thought i was safe.
April we decided to try again and i got pregnant on the first month. In may we went to the doctors for a sono. They showed the baby but said it was 2 weeks behind the date they had estimated. I couldnt really see how it would be that off since i knew my cycle. So i started to worry. Two weeks later we went back for the follow up appt and they showed us the heartbeat on the monitor. Somehow the baby did progress although only seemed another week along. I was so happy and it was a day before I was taking a family trip to Florida. I was worried thinking i was going to need an mc' before leaving for the trip. The Family was finding out b/c we were so happy at that point. Then went for the appt 2 weeks later, they couldnt see/hear the heartbeat and I was scheduled for an mc' the next morning. I was so freaked out going to winthrop after never having a surgery/operation before. I remember wondering if they would be able to get me out of the anestesia. To top things off I found out it was a girl, and that dr had no explanation for me but was concerned about having more tissue then usual, so i had to have blood drawn each 2 week until levels were 0.
Two weeks after winthrop I joined WW with my mom. This week has officially been a year and we have both lost over 50 lbs. I feel so much healthier. I had to make something good come out of all the bad. I couldnt understand dh and i go to church everyweek and this still had happened. I went to dr a couple of weeks ago, and will be going for HSG testing this wednesday. I am definately starting to get the itch again...yet on the other hand i have to remember to be calm and have faith that it will be healthy the next time
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jam11308
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Re: TTC after MC support thread
Posted by michey1217
Hi girls. Your stories are very inspirational and I truly wish all of you luck in the future and don't worry we'll be mommies soon enough. I had my D&C last Friday at 8 weeks, 6 days. We found out Thursday when I started spotting that we no longer had a heartbeat (it was clear as day the week before at my first appointment and was 143). It makes me so sad because when we left that appointment my DH was like 143.. that means I love you.. I'm still in shock and feel like a programmed machine. The few family we told are like switch doctors.. blah blah.. is it wrong if I just want to tell them shut up?!?
I go for my follow-up appointment this Friday morning and am very anxious in going. This was my 2nd MC (first was 8 years ago at 11 weeks, I have no kids) so now the doctor is thinking of doing blood work and running some other tests to see if we can pinpoint what's going on. I'm actually very scared to start this process and see what's going on. It's scary..thanks for listening.
I'm so sorry - I missed these past few posts.
How are you holding up? I hope that your doctor's appt. went well
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