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JenniferEver
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Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Am I being judgemental because this is someone I don't like or is it totally absurd to have a baby shower for baby number 3 (after having one for babies 1 and 2)?
Does the fact that it's a new husband and different dad than babies 1 and 2 make a difference?
Should the mom be throwing this?
Is my FSIL trying to steal my wedding thunder? 
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nferrandi
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
In general I would say a shower for 3rd baby is ridiculous. But given what you said, if there's a big age difference between #2 and #3, maybe she doesn't have any baby stuff left? And I could see maybe her new inlaws throwing one because this would be their first gnadbaby from her, but I think it would be extremely tacky for the mom-to-be to host one for herself.
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| Posted 1/21/11 5:47 PM |
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MichLiz213
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
My mom had two, one with me and one with my youngest brother. My grandmothers each threw her one. Their reasoning was because there was such a huge age gap between children (My brother and I were 12 and a half months apart, my youngest brother came along 6 and a half years later).
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JenniferEver
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
ETA. Her youngest is 6. She called up FH all upset because FMIL was supposed to throw it for her and doesn't want to.
I would totally understand if her in-laws were throwing it . I think for my MIL to throw it is kind of gauche.
ETA: baby shower number 2 was for baby number 2, who is 2 years younger than baby #1, so it's already been ridiculous. I think I'd feel better if she hadn't had the second one in between.
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cateyemm
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
if she got rid of all her stuff from the other babies then maybe she could get away with it. six years old is a long time to hang onto stuff... but to throw it for herself is a total no no.
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| Posted 1/21/11 5:57 PM |
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JessInCA
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Eh, depends on the circumstances... in this case, 6 years is a big age gap, so it's not so unthinkable to have one - but I don't think she should be asking anyone to throw a shower for her. That's kind of presumptuous.
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| Posted 1/21/11 5:58 PM |
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MrsH2009
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Not a fan. I give gifts for all my friends and family's babies, but I don't think you should have a shower.
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| Posted 1/21/11 6:08 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I don't think there should ever be a big baby shower aside from the first..
MY personal feelings are that a baby shower should be for the first baby. It's when you get all the big items you'll need.
If a friend or family member wants to do something intimate like lunch or a get together for consecutive babies, so be it. But I am just not into the whole multiple shower thing...i think society is going CRAZY with this stuff!!!
**And before anyone says "but every baby should be celebrated" (Which always happens..) every baby is certainly celebrated...family and friends bring gifts/food etc when a baby is born. At least in my family they do, and I know my family would not be cool with a shower for the second or third baby....
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| Posted 1/21/11 6:21 PM |
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Daisy25
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by MrsH2009
Not a fan. I give gifts for all my friends and family's babies, but I don't think you should have a shower.
ITA
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MrsRitaB
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
im not a fan of 2 showers let alone 3
i only think 2 is necessary if there is a 5+ age gap but thats just me
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AngnShaun
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by MrsRitaB
im not a fan of 2 showers let alone 3
i only think 2 is necessary if there is a 5+ age gap but thats just me
Ditto...
i totally understand the need for a second shower when there is such a huge gap... Shaun was 16 when his brother was born... his mom definitely needed new stuff...
but having 3 showers is a little overboard
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rojerono
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I think it's weird ONLY if the woman is throwing it for herself. If her friends/loved ones want to do this for her it is always okay in my book. People who don't like it always have the option of not attending!
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MsMBV
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by JessInCA
Eh, depends on the circumstances... in this case, 6 years is a big age gap, so it's not so unthinkable to have one - but I don't think she should be asking anyone to throw a shower for her. That's kind of presumptuous.
agreed. Baby gear, especially car seats & strollers are considered obsolete after 5 years.
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DGoldfarb0776
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I think it depends on the cirucmstances. Recently a coworker of mine had baby #2 (another girl but different father) and her other girl is alreay 6 years old and she gave away all her stuff. She planned her own baby shower for baby #2 but I felt it was warranted because of the age difference in the two kids...now if she has a 3rd baby anytime soon I wouldn't expect a shower unless it's a boy.
KWIM?
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Nifheim
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
sorry a shower is a one time thing in my book.
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by maybebaby
I don't think there should ever be a big baby shower aside from the first..
MY personal feelings are that a baby shower should be for the first baby. It's when you get all the big items you'll need.
If a friend or family member wants to do something intimate like lunch or a get together for consecutive babies, so be it. But I am just not into the whole multiple shower thing...i think society is going CRAZY with this stuff!!!
**And before anyone says "but every baby should be celebrated" (Which always happens..) every baby is certainly celebrated...family and friends bring gifts/food etc when a baby is born. At least in my family they do, and I know my family would not be cool with a shower for the second or third baby....
I am w/you on this one.
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| Posted 1/21/11 7:09 PM |
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drwifettc
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Usually I'm not a fan of 2nd showers. However, in this case the fact that this is their first child together makes a huge difference to me. It's his first child maybe his family wants to celebrate the birth of the child to them it is the first child on their side. I think that because of that it makes it more understandable. I faced this dilemma with a friend who got remarried with her bridal shower. His family wound up throwing her a 2nd shower because it was his first marriage.
ETA: I didn't see your second update. I agree with you, it seems a little silly since she had a 2nd one, but with a 6 year age gap it sort of makes sense.
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mommybear
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by JessInCA
Eh, depends on the circumstances... in this case, 6 years is a big age gap, so it's not so unthinkable to have one - but I don't think she should be asking anyone to throw a shower for her. That's kind of presumptuous.
agreed. Baby gear, especially car seats & strollers are considered obsolete after 5 years.
ITA. Her youngest is 6 yo. She is going to have to buy EVERYTHING. From crib, to carseat to bottles.
Crib laws have changed (all drop sided are now illegal). And it is recommended to buy a new one passed 5 years anyway. Carseats have an expiration date of 5-6 years.
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Metsmomma
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
i think 3 is a little ridiculous!!!!! i was given a sprinkle for my twins, but my boys were also 5 and 6 and i had just had a garage sale and had gotten rid of everything and these were girls. i have very generous friends. i'm sure my IL's thought it was ridiculous too. but then again they also thought registering for the gifts i wanted was rude!!!! 
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Mrs213
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Usually I think that its ridiculous to have more than one baby shower unless there is a big age difference between the kids...
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I don't know, really.....
I mean, people do the whole wedding hoopla when they get married a 2nd or 3rd time, KWIM? and it never seems to irk people the way repeat sprinkles/showers do.
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| Posted 1/21/11 8:23 PM |
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Sweetlax22
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I this case I think maybe it is ok , there is an age difference and I think the new dad thing means a lot too.
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| Posted 1/21/11 9:17 PM |
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mosa77
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
in my family we always celebrate each baby with some form of shower nothing as big as the first baby of course but i believe each baby is special and should be able to have pics of their shower in a baby book and maybe some new toys or clothes ....although i know alot of people think its tacky but it is usually just very close friends and family and no registry or anything....
maybe because it is from a different father and this may be his first child she wants him to experience the whole shower thing?
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Faithx2
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by maybebaby
I don't think there should ever be a big baby shower aside from the first..
MY personal feelings are that a baby shower should be for the first baby. It's when you get all the big items you'll need.
If a friend or family member wants to do something intimate like lunch or a get together for consecutive babies, so be it. But I am just not into the whole multiple shower thing...i think society is going CRAZY with this stuff!!!
**And before anyone says "but every baby should be celebrated" (Which always happens..) every baby is certainly celebrated...family and friends bring gifts/food etc when a baby is born. At least in my family they do, and I know my family would not be cool with a shower for the second or third baby....
I agree
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clmj2
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
since its with a different father i dont really see a problem with it...its prob mostly for his family....if it was for the same father i would have an issure...i am not a fan of 2nd baby showers etc.
this is also coming from a person who has lost their DH and may be in this position one day. most likely not but maybe
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