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Katareen
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I personally don't agree with them. If someone wants to get you a gift for child #2, #3, or #10 then they will.
Also, if you have chidren 5+ years apart why is it other people's responsibility to buy you a new carseat or new stroller?? Buy it yourself!!
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PrincessVonTrockel
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
IMO - I think it should be a one time thing.
Also, I keep reading posts that if there is a huge age difference then it is okay.
Sorry, but my view on this is it's your kid, you buy the stuff. If you threw out your 7 yr olds crib why do you expect other people to buy you a new one? Go buy it yourself.
So to the OP - yes I agree with you 3 is ridiculous.
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| Posted 1/21/11 11:05 PM |
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thisisme
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I happen to be someone who believes in celebrating each baby with a shower. Maybe not an all out kind of shower, but a small gathering of your family and close friends.
I had a huge shower for my first and a very small party for my second. There were maybe 10 people there.
I guess being a second child myself, I have some sort of complex about 2nd (or 3rd, etc) babies not feeling as loved Just kidding.
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| Posted 1/21/11 11:09 PM |
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mlny
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by Nifheim
sorry a shower is a one time thing in my book.
i agree 100% - i would never let anyone throw me a shower for baby #2.. nevermind baby #3! 
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| Posted 1/21/11 11:10 PM |
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KittyGags
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by maybebaby
I don't think there should ever be a big baby shower aside from the first..
MY personal feelings are that a baby shower should be for the first baby. It's when you get all the big items you'll need.
If a friend or family member wants to do something intimate like lunch or a get together for consecutive babies, so be it. But I am just not into the whole multiple shower thing...i think society is going CRAZY with this stuff!!!
**And before anyone says "but every baby should be celebrated" (Which always happens..) every baby is certainly celebrated...family and friends bring gifts/food etc when a baby is born. At least in my family they do, and I know my family would not be cool with a shower for the second or third baby....
I'm from this school of thought. I'd RSVP no to the second, let alone the third.
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| Posted 1/21/11 11:11 PM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
You get one shower -- that's it in my family.
Babies are celebrated by the family & friends who come around when the baby is born and if they wish to bring gifts, they can.
In reality the baby shower for #1 is more for the MOM to get things they need like big items, than anything else.
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| Posted 1/21/11 11:34 PM |
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Teachergal
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I think it is super tacky that she is asking, and expecting, for someone to throw her a shower. I understand with a new husband and dad of the baby she wants to celebrate, but you have to wait for someone to offer to throw you a party. You don't ask and certainly don't get upset when they don't want to!
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| Posted 1/22/11 6:58 AM |
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BeachMom
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I had 3 showers/sprinkles.
My 1st was 8 years before the other 2 so by the time i had #2 we needed everything, and i was remarried, etc.
For the 3rd my SIL threw me a sprinkle. Honestly, i did think it was a bit much i have all girls and #2 and#3 were 13 months apart. So i wouldn't have asked for one or expected one. But i couldn't tell them not to throw it since it was their idea and i didn't want to upset anyone. KWIM.
IMO i think it's ok to celebrate each child as some say. But if you are having 3 showers, you need to not be invloved in the planning of it. IMO
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| Posted 1/22/11 7:57 AM |
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BeachGal
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I am not a fan of more than one shower. (Maybe in an extreme situation, like a 15 year age gap.) I got invited to a "sprinkle" for someone who had a 3 year old and I didnt go. I was too busy to attend and I usually give a gift when a baby is born anyway. I am PG now and plan on registering for gender neutral things so I dont have to buy anything major for any other babies I may have.
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| Posted 1/22/11 8:32 AM |
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megsmom
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I am only for one if the gender is different than the first two, otherwise I think it's asking too much.
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| Posted 1/22/11 9:24 AM |
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babymakes3
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I do think expecting her family to throw her shower #3 is unacceptable.
Her ILs can throw her one, since it's her DH's first baby.
This is what happened to my brother and his fiance. It was her third child, and my brother's first. My mom threw the shower for them. His fiance never asked or expected it though so there was no drama behind it.
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| Posted 1/22/11 10:16 AM |
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peanutbutter2
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I think that if someone is asking others to plan another shower, then I wouldn't really be too cool with that.
However, if someone else is throwing it, I don't really care. If I didn't want to go, I would RSVP no.
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| Posted 1/22/11 10:59 AM |
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Janice
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I have come to realize that people who do it for #2 or 3-honestly don't see the harm in it.
My family doesn't do that at all. They would think I lost my mind if they were sent an invite to a second shower.
They all get me gifts after baby is born...but no shower where i would register. tons of outfits
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| Posted 1/22/11 1:24 PM |
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Would I have one, no. Would I attend one, yes.
I do think this situation is different though, this is his first child and her youngest is 6.
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| Posted 1/22/11 1:52 PM |
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mikeswife06
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I think showers celebrate the babies not the mamas so I have no problem with multiple showers 
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| Posted 1/22/11 2:16 PM |
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MrsGmomof3
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I am not a fan of baby showers for any baby other than # 1.
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| Posted 1/22/11 2:26 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I honestly don't care.
If I was invited, I would go if I could, I love showers.
I didn't have second shower but it doesn't bother me if someone else does.
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| Posted 1/22/11 2:51 PM |
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Ladybug63
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
You know I didn't have one for my 2nd but in all honesty it would have been nice had nothing for a boy.
I think more of a sprinkle is ok. I think its more reasonable if #3 is a different gender then #1 & #2.
The bottom line is that I believe every child should be celebrated. A small gathering of close family and friends with a invite that states gifts are not necessary.
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| Posted 1/22/11 3:06 PM |
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rkoenke
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
i would be completely embarrassed if anyone threw me a second baby shower. it's greedy.
sorry.
you decided to get prego, you decide how to get your crap!!
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| Posted 1/22/11 3:16 PM |
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butterfly20
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
yeah 3 is alot.......
I could see having a second one if you had all pink stuff and are then having a boy..... or if the two are years apart.....
I think being that it is a diff baby daddy - the hubby's side is probably excited for a shower- but I don't think both sides need to have one - (ok don't flame me, jmo. and probably partyly thinking that way because my mom was stressing me out so I called my shower off for my first baby. my mom already had two grandkids and 1 shower from my sister, my MIL was her first grandkid so she had a low key one for me at her house - just their side.)
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| Posted 1/22/11 3:43 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I wouldn't want it from myself but if it were a large age gap, I would think it's fine. If the babies are one after another, then I'd say not ok.
I see nothing wrong with her close family getting together for a brunch or something but a full-shower...nope.
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| Posted 1/22/11 4:24 PM |
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MrsA1012
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by mikeswife06
I think showers celebrate the babies not the mamas so I have no problem with multiple showers
I totally agree.
ETA: I love showers, giving gifts and celebrating mom and baby. It doesn't bother me at all. However, asking or expecting a shower to be thrown for your third child sounds entitled. If someone wants to do it that is fine, but don't expect it.
Message edited 1/22/2011 4:30:21 PM.
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| Posted 1/22/11 4:25 PM |
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Cheeks24
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by maybebaby
I don't think there should ever be a big baby shower aside from the first..
MY personal feelings are that a baby shower should be for the first baby. It's when you get all the big items you'll need.
If a friend or family member wants to do something intimate like lunch or a get together for consecutive babies, so be it. But I am just not into the whole multiple shower thing...i think society is going CRAZY with this stuff!!!
**And before anyone says "but every baby should be celebrated" (Which always happens..) every baby is certainly celebrated...family and friends bring gifts/food etc when a baby is born. At least in my family they do, and I know my family would not be cool with a shower for the second or third baby....
I think you are so right about this!
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| Posted 1/22/11 4:43 PM |
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LovingLife
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by mikeswife06
I think showers celebrate the babies not the mamas so I have no problem with multiple showers
I agree
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| Posted 3/7/11 3:13 PM |
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bicosi
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by DiamondGirl
Posted by maybebaby
I don't think there should ever be a big baby shower aside from the first..
MY personal feelings are that a baby shower should be for the first baby. It's when you get all the big items you'll need.
If a friend or family member wants to do something intimate like lunch or a get together for consecutive babies, so be it. But I am just not into the whole multiple shower thing...i think society is going CRAZY with this stuff!!!
**And before anyone says "but every baby should be celebrated" (Which always happens..) every baby is certainly celebrated...family and friends bring gifts/food etc when a baby is born. At least in my family they do, and I know my family would not be cool with a shower for the second or third baby....
I am w/you on this one.
Perfectly said!
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