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Jax430
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I think 3 showers is ridiculous. Then again, I'm coming from a religious/cultural background where we traditionally don't have showers at all due to superstition. Trust me, friends and family buy gifts for the baby regardless of whether there's a shower, so I really think the third party is unnecessary.
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redbirdgirl
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
should not have it. That is a bit much.
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| Posted 3/7/11 3:23 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
She should be using the money that she would be spending on a shower, and buy the stuff she needs.
3 showers is ridiculous, no matter how far apart the kids are imho.
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| Posted 3/7/11 3:25 PM |
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RocPin
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by maybebaby
I don't think there should ever be a big baby shower aside from the first..
MY personal feelings are that a baby shower should be for the first baby. It's when you get all the big items you'll need.
If a friend or family member wants to do something intimate like lunch or a get together for consecutive babies, so be it. But I am just not into the whole multiple shower thing...i think society is going CRAZY with this stuff!!!
**And before anyone says "but every baby should be celebrated" (Which always happens..) every baby is certainly celebrated...family and friends bring gifts/food etc when a baby is born. At least in my family they do, and I know my family would not be cool with a shower for the second or third baby....
Your not alone. I totally agree.
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| Posted 3/7/11 3:32 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by cateyemm
if she got rid of all her stuff from the other babies then maybe she could get away with it. six years old is a long time to hang onto stuff... but to throw it for herself is a total no no.
Agreed.
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| Posted 3/7/11 3:36 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by nrthshgrl
Posted by cateyemm
if she got rid of all her stuff from the other babies then maybe she could get away with it. six years old is a long time to hang onto stuff... but to throw it for herself is a total no no.
Agreed.
ITA with this.
My sister and I are 10 years apart.
My brother and sister are 8 years apart.
My Aunt (my mom's SIL) through my mom a baby shower because my mom had NOTHING baby related left from my brother and I to "pass on" to my sister.
It was a surprise shower and my mom was in SHOCK! She NEVER EVER EVER expected a shower, therefore, no way did she think of throwing herself one.
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| Posted 3/7/11 3:50 PM |
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IrishLasss334
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
No shower for #3, especially do not throw it yourself.
If it's been that many years between - if someone else does something without being asked, ok.
When my SIL was surprised by #3 (5 years in between) - my MIL threw a "sprinkle" - not a full out shower - it was immediate female family only and my SIL was not told ahead of time andshe never registered.
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| Posted 3/7/11 3:59 PM |
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Beth
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I could careless....these things will never bother me
if it bothers you don't go
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| Posted 3/7/11 4:04 PM |
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Ophelia
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
ugh. I hate this topic.
why do people get so twisted over this? why "weigh in"? if you don't want to go, don't go. if you think it's bad, refrain.
I think all parties are fun. and I am going to buy a gift anyway. why not make a big frilly deal out of all of them..
there is so much yucky in this world. we need more FUN HAPPY things to celebrate, rather than go emily postal on them.
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| Posted 3/7/11 4:06 PM |
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2boys1girl
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I had 3...
1st one thrown by my friends for my DS in 2003
2 years later my Mother threw me one in her home for my DS #2 in 2006
My husband and I divorced, I got engaged to someone else
3rd shower held in a restaurant for DD in 2010
Apparently people in my life believe I deserved to have 3 showers and they wanted to celebrate the upcoming babies. Nobody seemed to have a problem attending.
I especially sympathize with the fact that this is a shower for a first child for her and this man which makes it the 1st baby so she should be able to have a shower for the DH's family to attend and celebrate for this baby. This might be something considered very special to them since its a new life for the both of them.
However many showers she had before in her other relationship should not matter to anyone...if you think its tacky then don't attend. Plain and simple.
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| Posted 3/7/11 4:06 PM |
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2boys1girl
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by Ophelia
ugh. I hate this topic.
why do people get so twisted over this? why "weigh in"? if you don't want to go, don't go. if you think it's bad, refrain.
I think all parties are fun. and I am going to buy a gift anyway. why not make a big frilly deal out of all of them..
there is so much yucky in this world. we need more FUN HAPPY things to celebrate, rather than go emily postal on them.
ITA- so many hostile people around
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| Posted 3/7/11 4:07 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by RocPin
Posted by maybebaby
I don't think there should ever be a big baby shower aside from the first..
MY personal feelings are that a baby shower should be for the first baby. It's when you get all the big items you'll need.
If a friend or family member wants to do something intimate like lunch or a get together for consecutive babies, so be it. But I am just not into the whole multiple shower thing...i think society is going CRAZY with this stuff!!!
**And before anyone says "but every baby should be celebrated" (Which always happens..) every baby is certainly celebrated...family and friends bring gifts/food etc when a baby is born. At least in my family they do, and I know my family would not be cool with a shower for the second or third baby....
Your not alone. I totally agree.
Me too.
But this is coming from someone who HATES all showers. First baby, second baby, 5th baby, bridal. All.
I feel it's women's way of torturing each other.
Slowly.
4 hours of gift opening torture.
I didn't even want a shower. I hated the idea of it.
My mom insisted and I didn't have the strength to fight her. 
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| Posted 3/7/11 4:13 PM |
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Beth
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by Ophelia
ugh. I hate this topic.
why do people get so twisted over this? why "weigh in"? if you don't want to go, don't go. if you think it's bad, refrain.
I think all parties are fun. and I am going to buy a gift anyway. why not make a big frilly deal out of all of them..
there is so much yucky in this world. we need more FUN HAPPY things to celebrate, rather than go emily postal on them.
exactly
it's a party
for a baby
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MrsA714
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by Ophelia
ugh. I hate this topic.
why do people get so twisted over this? why "weigh in"? if you don't want to go, don't go. if you think it's bad, refrain.
I think all parties are fun. and I am going to buy a gift anyway. why not make a big frilly deal out of all of them..
there is so much yucky in this world. we need more FUN HAPPY things to celebrate, rather than go emily postal on them.
ITA!
I love a party! Especially if there's alcohol....
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Pomegranate5
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I think I would mostly be bothered by her attitude about it. She is certainly not "entitled" to a THIRD baby shower. Maybe someone on her DH's side of the family will want to put together something for them.
If it was me, and I wasn't super close with her, I wouldn't hestitate to RSVP no.
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| Posted 3/7/11 4:16 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by speakthetruth
I don't know, really.....
I mean, people do the whole wedding hoopla when they get married a 2nd or 3rd time, KWIM? and it never seems to irk people the way repeat sprinkles/showers do.
This was my exact thought. Ive given wedding gifts of 300+ for second time marriages. So why not a baby shower? Its her new marriage/new baby so I dont think its upsetting.
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DirtyBlonde
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by Ophelia
ugh. I hate this topic.
why do people get so twisted over this? why "weigh in"? if you don't want to go, don't go. if you think it's bad, refrain.
I think all parties are fun. and I am going to buy a gift anyway. why not make a big frilly deal out of all of them..
there is so much yucky in this world. we need more FUN HAPPY things to celebrate, rather than go emily postal on them.
same
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rojerono
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by Ophelia
ugh. I hate this topic.
why do people get so twisted over this? why "weigh in"? if you don't want to go, don't go. if you think it's bad, refrain.
I think all parties are fun. and I am going to buy a gift anyway. why not make a big frilly deal out of all of them..
there is so much yucky in this world. we need more FUN HAPPY things to celebrate, rather than go emily postal on them.
Fabulous answer. I completely agree.
You are officially invited to the baby shower for my 3rd baby.
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| Posted 3/7/11 4:26 PM |
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maybemommy10
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I like parties, I like cake, I like babies, and given what i have been thru i think EVERY single pregnancy is a $od dam& miracle and deserves a HUGE ho down  
I don't have a sister but if lets say my BFFs had 10 kids each...i would be throwing a party for each! If someone did not want to come, they are not required to.
My DH was married before, does that automatically mean I didn't "deserve" a shower? I think not. Every baby, every bride is special and deserves to be celebrated with a party if they want one! *my opinion*!
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| Posted 3/7/11 4:38 PM |
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1stimemom
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Ridiculous or not, opinions aside, it is not for us to judge. Yes, it would have been better well received if she didn't have a shower for # 2, but it is a new husband, new baby, and 6 yrs difference...IMO, that might deserve a pass.
Bottom line... if you are happy for her and excited for the baby, then go. If you are not, then don't go.
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1stimemom
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by maybemommy10
I like parties, I like cake, I like babies, and given what i have been thru i think EVERY single pregnancy is a $od dam& miracle and deserves a HUGE ho down
I don't have a sister but if lets say my BFFs had 10 kids each...i would be throwing a party for each! If someone did not want to come, they are not required to.
My DH was married before, does that automatically mean I didn't "deserve" a shower? I think not. Every baby, every bride is special and deserves to be celebrated with a party if they want one! *my opinion*!
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MrsA1012
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by Ophelia
ugh. I hate this topic.
why do people get so twisted over this? why "weigh in"? if you don't want to go, don't go. if you think it's bad, refrain.
I think all parties are fun. and I am going to buy a gift anyway. why not make a big frilly deal out of all of them..
there is so much yucky in this world. we need more FUN HAPPY things to celebrate, rather than go emily postal on them.
I couldn't agree with you more. Beautifully said !
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Posted by Nifheim
sorry a shower is a one time thing in my book.
mine too.
my second cousin is having a baby shower for her second child this weekend. her first child is four years old... i find this shower totally unnecessary. she basically begged/threw a tantrum for her sister to give her this shower. 
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~Colleen~
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by Ophelia
ugh. I hate this topic.
why do people get so twisted over this? why "weigh in"? if you don't want to go, don't go. if you think it's bad, refrain.
I think all parties are fun. and I am going to buy a gift anyway. why not make a big frilly deal out of all of them..
there is so much yucky in this world. we need more FUN HAPPY things to celebrate, rather than go emily postal on them.
Yep, exactly!
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| Posted 3/7/11 6:11 PM |
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J9-13
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by rojerono
I think it's weird ONLY if the woman is throwing it for herself. If her friends/loved ones want to do this for her it is always okay in my book. People who don't like it always have the option of not attending!
Yeah, I'm with you. It doesn't bother me at all.
ETA: It's not a big deal to me that she is throwing it herself. If friends and family are going to get her a gift anyway...maybe a party is her way of saying "thanks"
Message edited 3/7/2011 6:40:56 PM.
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