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J9-13
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
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MrsKS
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I think I'm more in the realm of the 1 time thing...
I'm pregnant now and I purposely picked the big stuff to be gender neutral and darker colors so I could get more use out of them with subsequent children. I plan on saving the stuff for the next kids and I think that's what should be done.
I think it's cool to bring a gift when you first visit the baby.
One of my SIL's had 3 showers (her kids are relatively close in age too) and everyone always talks about her. Not saying that's right either... but you can't control what others say.
However, I don't see a problem with a sprinkle though or a smaller gathering.
I also feel to each their own... she wants 3 showers... and someone is openly willing to throw her 3 showers that's fine. If you don't agree then don't go.
However it sounds more like she's demanding someone throw her a shower... and IMO that's tacky and classless to demand a 3rd shower be thrown for you.
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| Posted 3/7/11 6:48 PM |
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MrsFrizzle
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Im in the same boat as you, I just got an invite for my cousins baby shower it's her third shower and for baby number 3. Im not crazy about the idea, I think it's tacky. Im not buying anything off the registry just a few outfits.
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| Posted 3/7/11 7:06 PM |
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KPsquared
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I would personally never do it.
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| Posted 3/7/11 8:49 PM |
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IrishLasss334
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by MrsA714
Posted by Ophelia
ugh. I hate this topic.
why do people get so twisted over this? why "weigh in"? if you don't want to go, don't go. if you think it's bad, refrain.
I think all parties are fun. and I am going to buy a gift anyway. why not make a big frilly deal out of all of them..
there is so much yucky in this world. we need more FUN HAPPY things to celebrate, rather than go emily postal on them.
ITA!
I love a party! Especially if there's alcohol....
Oh wait...there's alcohol????? Let's go!!! LOL...just kidding...ordinarily I don't care whatever anyone wants, if I didn't want to go I just wouldn't go, but OP asked to weigh in....
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| Posted 3/7/11 8:55 PM |
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MamaLeen
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by Ophelia
ugh. I hate this topic.
why do people get so twisted over this? why "weigh in"? if you don't want to go, don't go. if you think it's bad, refrain.
I think all parties are fun. and I am going to buy a gift anyway. why not make a big frilly deal out of all of them..
there is so much yucky in this world. we need more FUN HAPPY things to celebrate, rather than go emily postal on them.
ITA. 
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| Posted 3/7/11 9:02 PM |
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teaforthree
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I'm not even weighing in... just want to say trying to read through this whole topic gave me a headache!!
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| Posted 3/7/11 9:15 PM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by rojerono
I think it's weird ONLY if the woman is throwing it for herself. If her friends/loved ones want to do this for her it is always okay in my book. People who don't like it always have the option of not attending!
this is how i see it
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| Posted 3/7/11 10:08 PM |
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peanutbutter2
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by Ophelia
ugh. I hate this topic.
why do people get so twisted over this? why "weigh in"? if you don't want to go, don't go. if you think it's bad, refrain.
I think all parties are fun. and I am going to buy a gift anyway. why not make a big frilly deal out of all of them..
there is so much yucky in this world. we need more FUN HAPPY things to celebrate, rather than go emily postal on them.
Perfectly said! 
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| Posted 3/7/11 10:13 PM |
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Pumpkin1
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
If a loved one/friend wants to throw it, great. Should the mom-to-be be begging for it and upset when someone doesn't volunteer? No.
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DRMom
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Jennifer do not take this personally but really who gives a fuuuck
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| Posted 3/8/11 11:32 AM |
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heathergirl
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by DRMom
Jennifer do not take this personally but really who gives a fuuuck
Hahahahah LOVE!!!!
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| Posted 3/8/11 11:37 AM |
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imagin916
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
In the situation of the SIL of the OP, I do think its tacky. In my family everyone would be talking about her, and in any italian family I know they would be talking about her too. Having a sprinkle at someones house with immediate family is a different story, I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Whoever wants to come and bring a gift can, but I still don't think it would be appropriate to register for that either. Maybe just tell the guests the sex of the baby so they can choose what to give.
Probably the only situation that I wouldn't think it was tacky would be like this. I know someone who had a baby at 19 (never married to father, he wasnt really in the picture), and then married at 27 and had another baby at 29 with her husband. They had a shower for her, and I don't think that was tacky at all. She never really had the shower she deserved with the first baby, and she was so grateful that she even had the shower that was given as she wasn't expecting it. It was really nice, and I was so happy for her.
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| Posted 3/8/11 11:59 AM |
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I buy friends and family a gift whenever they have a baby so if there is a party also, all the better
BUT do I think it is tacky to insist your mom pay for and throw you a THIRD baby shower? Yes I do. Very.
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| Posted 3/8/11 1:11 PM |
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Faithx2
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by maybebaby
I don't think there should ever be a big baby shower aside from the first..
MY personal feelings are that a baby shower should be for the first baby. It's when you get all the big items you'll need.
If a friend or family member wants to do something intimate like lunch or a get together for consecutive babies, so be it. But I am just not into the whole multiple shower thing...i think society is going CRAZY with this stuff!!!
**And before anyone says "but every baby should be celebrated" (Which always happens..) every baby is certainly celebrated...family and friends bring gifts/food etc when a baby is born. At least in my family they do, and I know my family would not be cool with a shower for the second or third baby....
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Bridex100
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
I think it is tacky if she insists on someone throwing it for her.
If her new MIL wanted to throw one in honor of her grandchild, it would be totally understandable.
We are not on second marriages with friends yet but if a friend of mine got remarried, I would have no problems going to a second bridal shower. I don't know if that is the same thing.
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Jackie24
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by MrsH2009
Not a fan. I give gifts for all my friends and family's babies, but I don't think you should have a shower.
SAME
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tourist
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by JenniferEver
Does the fact that it's a new husband and different dad than babies 1 and 2 make a difference?
Yes. My friend had one for her 2nd, & they were about 6 years apart, but w. the 1st baby, she wasn't married & was only kinda sorta w/ the dad--her friends threw it.
The 2nd one, she was married & it was her husband's first child, so even though his mom had other grandchildren, it was still the only shower she, and her daughters would go to for that son & DIL. I was more friends w/ the dad, so I didn't go to the 1st one--I was glad they had a 2nd.
BUT, since your SIL had a shower for her 2nd too, she is probably a bit of an AW or a dolt who thinks baby=shower.
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smooney
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
nm sorry
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SweetSarj
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Re: Weigh in - baby shower for baby #3?
Posted by Ophelia
ugh. I hate this topic.
why do people get so twisted over this? why "weigh in"? if you don't want to go, don't go. if you think it's bad, refrain.
I think all parties are fun. and I am going to buy a gift anyway. why not make a big frilly deal out of all of them..
there is so much yucky in this world. we need more FUN HAPPY things to celebrate, rather than go emily postal on them.
Same. Who really cares, why bring negativity around celebrating a baby?
If ya don't like it, don't go.
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