When you come home from the hospital with the baby

Do you plan on just being there initially with your DH or do you think family will be meeting you there? I kind of want to arrive at home with the baby and my husband alone for a little bit, so that we can enjoy the moment, introduce the baby to the dog, and than family can come over later that day...is that rude if I tell that to our families without upsetting them?

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i would love to do that. i just have a feeling it wont happen. i live 5 minutes from my family so i think they're just gonna be there all the time.

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your baby, your house, your rules. i think anyone will understand to let you have some alone time at first with your new family. im sure they'll be at the hospital with you, so before you leave why dont you make a time for them to come over so its not as you walk in the house. im gonna try that.

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My mom is already in a snit because we told her that we want to come home from the hospital ALONE. Our families are MORE than welcome to come over that evening, but we want a few hours of alone time with our new family.

No to mention that our dog gets crazy when people aside from DH and I come in the house - I don't want her getting all crazy seeing them AND the new baby. One thing at a time.

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definately set the rules you want people to follow. Since you do have a dog at home, I think it is important to spend sometime with just your DH, baby & the dog. Then invite family over later in the afternoon.

As for us, depending on when I go, my mom will be staying with us, so there is a chance she will be at the house waiting for us. If not, DH & I will get settled in & then have family over later in the day

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those were our original intentions. didnt happen.

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Yeah, our families are very helpful...but pushy. I hope we make a plan to have them over later in the day to come over, not right away. I hope it works out that way too lol.

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Whatever you want to happen, I would make your wishes crystal clear way before the baby's arrival. I was very strict with when I wanted people to come over... and maybe b/c I'm usually a biitch, they all listened. Just stick to your guns. You will most likely be very tired and overwhelmed when you first get home. Tell the family that they will be contacted when they are welcome to stop by... Good luck!

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With DS both families came over later in the day. For this PG, they will be here with DS but we may ask them to bring DS to the hospital that morning so we can go home as a family. I am not sure how we will do it yet.

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I want just DH, me and baby.

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When we went home after DS no one came over the first day. Everyone visited in the hospital. Actually a coworker came by for like 10 minutes to drop off a home cooked meal which was the best meal I ever ate.

If you want them to come by, have it where they come by later so you can shower, relax and take a bunch of pictures.

ETA: They should understand and besides you don't know what you will feel like when you get home. I would say that visitors are welcome around dinner time and get some pizza.

Message edited 8/10/2009 4:40:05 PM.

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Yeah I am def. going to let each family know ahead of time that these are our wishes and they can come by either later that night or first thing in the morning, i just really want to have that time alone to remember with my DH and our new family.

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Dh and I are hoping the same thing. So Dh suggested that if anyone asks what time we are being discharged from the hospital. We are going to tell them 1-2 hours then the original time.

I thought it kinda sounded mean, but then we would be guaranteed that time. I am also friendly with one of my neighbors, so i have a feeling she will be waiting at the front door. Which I am hoping she will at least give us an hour.

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i hope its just DH our baby and I - we too have a dog and i just want it to be an ''us moment''

however if it will be the weekend - our ''us moment'' will have to include my MIL (since she stays with us on the weekends)
Unless I tell my mom to take care to her house and then they will come later that night....

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i have no idea since we live in PA and both parents are in brooklyn. My mom wants to be out here with me a few days before the due date just in case DH is at work and i go into labor. So she could very well be with us at the hospital.

If thats the case, im sure my father will be on call to get MIL and drive here. I figured they would probably come here the day we come home, but i said to DH that I would prefer for the 2 weeks he's home from work for it to be just us..to enjoy that time together, get into a routine,etc.

Then when he goes back and im alone, i'll have my mom for a few days and then his mom on a weekend. I cant have mIL here with me by myself or someone might die...

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That's what we did...it was just us....it was really great to just have a relaxing first day home.

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That's my plan, and it will happen. If I tell my family this is what I want then they will respect my wishes , same with DH's family

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I really prefer it to be just us (me, DH and the baby) when we come home.

We live with my parents, so I expect to see them. But everyone else should stay away. My sisters all have kids, so they know how it is. And my in-laws live out of state and aren't scheduled to be here when I deliver.

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I didnt want ANYONE there for almostr 2 weeks. It took me that long to feel ok and ready to see people. With the exception of my Mom, sister and Aunt and MIL.

All the aunts, etc had to wait b/c I wanted privacy to get to know my son, not pass him around etc...but I think I might be in the minority in how I felt.

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we just arrived home alone. we wanted to spend some quiet time alone before being bombarded by guests

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if you wanna be home alone, push for it. don't care what anyone says because you'll regret it later. we have 3 dogs and really wanted to be home completely alone (we live with our in laws at the moment) and we had told them way back we didn't want anyone there including themselves since we were introducing the dogs to him and it was a big transition, well his mother decided to have people over for a bbq and totally ruined the coming home experience for me. i still cry thinking about it. i never got any pics in front of the sign with the baby because we rushed in the house to try to avoid all of the chaos (one of our dogs goes nuts when people are over so we didn't want her overly excited to meet him) we didn't end up introducing them until hours later and we did it one by one which wasn't what i wanted. long story short, don't be a push over and make sure what you want is known!!

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I'm sure I'll have a tribe with me as usual but I do not think it is rude at all if you tell your fam you want to settle in first with your hubby. I actually think that it is very normal to feel this way and people with understand completely