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carissa1643
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by mommyIam
Posted by carissa1643
This doesnt work every single time. Not when his back is arched, his eyes are shut and he's whining, he doesnt listen to what I'm saying.
Its more about how you take something away, he's whining for a reason, what happened prior?
for example, "This is a computer/phone/thing. But this is not your computer/phone/thing" "You have toys, you see your toys, you have X and Y" "The computer is not yours, you can't play with it, but you can play with X or Y, which one do you want?"
Yep, I do that, I have always done that with him. Thats fine.
Its the getting in the highchair/carseat/stroller... then screeeaming when he's in.
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dajc23
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by mommyIam
Posted by carissa1643
This doesnt work every single time. Not when his back is arched, his eyes are shut and he's whining, he doesnt listen to what I'm saying.
Its more about how you take something away, he's whining for a reason, what happened prior?
for example, "This is a computer/phone/thing. But this is not your computer/phone/thing" "You have toys, you see your toys, you have X and Y" "The computer is not yours, you can't play with it, but you can play with X or Y, which one do you want?"
I have cheated RIE, and played a youtube video or two for DS, so its not like he's immune to this behavior I love the philosophy but I've never been the religious type.
oh and don't tell the RIE cult leader he'll have my head 
I always talk to my DD like she's a human and give her choices. She's a year old and really doesn't care to pay attention to the "choices" I give her. She has her good days and bad days. Today was just a very off day.
Somethings work for some but not others!
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| Posted 2/28/11 10:16 PM |
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jlk51496
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
and I thought it was magically going to disappear when he turned 2 last month....  NO SUCH LUCK!
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| Posted 2/28/11 10:20 PM |
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katiebug
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Sweet Lord. It is making me mad. And the not sharing with other kids is insane.
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| Posted 2/28/11 10:24 PM |
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shirleyotis
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Whats wrong???
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| Posted 2/28/11 10:32 PM |
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mommyIam
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by dajc23
Somethings work for some but not others!
I'm sure your right! I don't know why this works so well for us, but I'm sorry to gloat so much, maybe it will kick me in the arse one day 
Just wanted to add one more thing:
As for the carseat/stroller thing, that's not a matter of choice that's a clear boundary and that's something as a parent, a leader I set. "We are going to the car, and you will sit in the car seat, we can look for birds or we can sing in the car" Sit him down and if he's screaming, just calmly remind him "I need you to sit in the carseat and be calm, you will look at birds? or will you sing songs?" Still screaming, okay fine, "I see your screaming, I don't understand you when you scream, so I will look for birds on my own" forgot to add: Silence! I swear!
I don't know why its that easy, but it is for us.
Message edited 2/28/2011 10:45:07 PM.
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mommyIam
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by katiebug
Sweet Lord. It is making me mad. And the not sharing with other kids is insane.
is he a toy taker? or does he just hoard his own?
Really interesting perspective on this:
http://www.janetlansbury.com/2011/02/what-to-do-about-a-toddler-toy-taker/
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| Posted 2/28/11 10:41 PM |
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4PsInaPod
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
 we got it.
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| Posted 2/28/11 10:47 PM |
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dajc23
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by DPerotti
we got it.
NO Devon! We don't
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| Posted 2/28/11 10:53 PM |
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katiebug
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
He does both. He takes and he hoards. I usually don't intervene, and if I do I tell the other kids to take their toy back
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| Posted 2/28/11 10:55 PM |
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Momma2Be
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by katiebug
He does both. He takes and he hoards. I usually don't intervene, and if I do I tell the other kids to take their toy back
I can attest to this. Or should I say, Adam can
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| Posted 2/28/11 11:01 PM |
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katiebug
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by Momma2Be
Posted by katiebug
He does both. He takes and he hoards. I usually don't intervene, and if I do I tell the other kids to take their toy back
I can attest to this. Or should I say, Adam can
Poor sweet Adam. Evan is a bully. Soon the other kids will be as big as Evan and will be able to take their toys back. Won't that shock the sh!t out of Evan?
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| Posted 2/28/11 11:10 PM |
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labonnevie
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by katiebug
Posted by Momma2Be
Posted by katiebug
He does both. He takes and he hoards. I usually don't intervene, and if I do I tell the other kids to take their toy back
I can attest to this. Or should I say, Adam can
Poor sweet Adam. Evan is a bully. Soon the other kids will be as big as Evan and will be able to take their toys back. Won't that shock the sh!t out of Evan?
Adam's going to walk up to Evan one day and say "I see you want to play with my toy. You can play with this one. Now, if you don't give me my d@mn toy back..."
How's that for talking things out in the RIE way?
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| Posted 2/28/11 11:14 PM |
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OrganicMama
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by labonnevie
Posted by katiebug
Posted by Momma2Be
Posted by katiebug
He does both. He takes and he hoards. I usually don't intervene, and if I do I tell the other kids to take their toy back
I can attest to this. Or should I say, Adam can
Poor sweet Adam. Evan is a bully. Soon the other kids will be as big as Evan and will be able to take their toys back. Won't that shock the sh!t out of Evan?
Adam's going to walk up to Evan one day and say "I see you want to play with my toy. You can play with this one. Now, if you don't give me my d@mn toy back..."
How's that for talking things out in the RIE way?
I think I've reached my limit on hearing about RIE....
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katiebug
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by labonnevie
Posted by katiebug
Posted by Momma2Be
Posted by katiebug
He does both. He takes and he hoards. I usually don't intervene, and if I do I tell the other kids to take their toy back
I can attest to this. Or should I say, Adam can
Poor sweet Adam. Evan is a bully. Soon the other kids will be as big as Evan and will be able to take their toys back. Won't that shock the sh!t out of Evan?
Adam's going to walk up to Evan one day and say "I see you want to play with my toy. You can play with this one. Now, if you don't give me my d@mn toy back..."
How's that for talking things out in the RIE way?
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mommyIam
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
ok ok
what would do without a sense of humor
I'm done I'm done you wont hear it from me on here again 
sorry to have annoyed the cr@p out of you all
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LittleBlueBug
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
LOL, DS has his moments too. I'm sure he will have terrible 15's too so I try not to sweat the small stuff now
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katiebug
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by mommyIam
ok ok
what would do without a sense of humor
I'm done I'm done you wont hear it from me on here again
sorry to have annoyed the cr@p out of you all
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labonnevie
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Re: Terrible 1's ?!?!?!?!
Posted by katiebug
Posted by mommyIam
ok ok
what would do without a sense of humor
I'm done I'm done you wont hear it from me on here again
sorry to have annoyed the cr@p out of you all
Sorry Shana, you're a sweetheart and I know you mean well, and I'm glad that it 'works' for you (I still think it's a load of you know what) but if I read about it one more time I was going to literally  to you for keeping a sense of humor!
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