WWYD?

I have a small dilemma and was looking for some insight from other people.

My SIL had a baby in March and the baby will be christened this Saturday. The church is at 11 and it will be a full mass. The party isn't until 2pm. Her sister and a friend of hers are the godparents.

Normally I would go to both the church AND the party - even though a three hour stretch is going to be brutal with 2 active little boys.

HOWEVER - Robbie's last little league game is Saturday morning at 9:30 and he does NOT want to miss it. He had to miss several games this year because of graduation parties, birthdays, confirmations, etc.. Also - Saturday is my day to bring the team snack.

I was thinking of going to the game (which should be over by 10:45) and being a little late to the church and then being there for the full party.

The challenge is that I am worried that Rob's family will think I am doing it to be a smart azz. The reason is that my son's Pre-K graduation was on Saturday and Rob's parents and his sister (the one with the baby) couldn't make it because they had to be at a 'make up' little league game for the brother of the baby being christened. It wasn't a playoff or an all star game - just a plain old make up game. I was disappointed - but said nothing about it.

In all honesty, these people are always choosing everything and anything to do with their youngest daughter and her children over my husband and our sons (they didn't even come to our wedding rehearsal dinner because they had so much to do in order to be ready for the wedding - getting their grandson's suit, etc...). Maybe part of me IS driven to consider choosing Robbie's game over the first 20 minutes of the Christening because they don't seem to care much about our events.. but another part of me just sincerely wants to do right by my own kid and his team.

What do you think I should do? What would you do?

ETA: It will likely be 20 minutes late because Robbie is still T-Ball so the games are only 3 innings!

Message edited 6/9/2008 11:06:41 AM.

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I'd skip the church and go to the party

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I voted go to the game, be late to church. There's already a conflict there on both ends, so if they are going to do their own thing, I think you should too when it comes to the happiness of your child.

But do you really think it you will only be 20 minutes late?

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Would your DH be able to go to the church with your other son and then you go to the game with Robbie? Then you can meet at the party afterwards?

If that is not an option, I would skip the church.

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I would skip the church. You can try to make it but you should set the expectation that you aren't going.

You are going to have one sweaty little boy in a uniform - and if the weather stays the same, you're going to need to hose him down before bringing him anywhere.

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if it's important to you to be at the church at all, i would go to the game and be late to the church. if not, i would skip the church altogether.

please don't think i am being rude or harsh but i really think you should not worry about what they think and just worry about your own family. from this post and your last one, they sound like spiteful, selfish people to me, and there's nothing that you can do to change that.

plus, i think it would mean SO much to robbie to not have to miss another game.

you are a great mom (from what i have read and seen on here) and i know you only want what's best for your boys... seeing you put them first will mean the world to them, i know.

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as much as i believe the church is THE most important part and the party is just a party, i think you and your little guy should go to his game and show up at the church later. with a full mass at 11:00 you might just make the actual baptism. dont worry what others say. let your little guy have this time and enjoy the day.

Message edited 6/9/2008 11:19:10 AM.

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I would let DH stay with DS for his game, I'd go to the church for facetime, then meet DH and DS at home, let him get dressed then all go as a family to the party.

Personally, i'm always for being the bigger and better person and not stooping to other people's rude behaviors and going titfor tat.

I do and make decisions I have to live with and that make me feel like I did all i could. That's what i would do

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I voted to miss the church. I believe the church is the most important part BUT I wouldn't risk walking in at some crucial moment. I could never walk into a church after a mass or ceremony started.

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Posted by headoverheels

if it's important to you to be at the church at all, i would go to the game and be late to the church. if not, i would skip the church altogether.

please don't think i am being rude or harsh but i really think you should not worry about what they think and just worry about your own family. from this post and your last one, they sound like spiteful, selfish people to me, and there's nothing that you can do to change that.

plus, i think it would mean SO much to robbie to not have to miss another game.

you are a great mom (from what i have read and seen on here) and i know you only want what's best for your boys... seeing you put them first will mean the world to them, i know.

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Skip the church. Your kids wants and needs come before anyone else's. Who cares what your in-laws think... if anything they should understand considering they missed your son's graduation for the exact same reason.

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I'm torn between:
Go to the game, be late to the church.
and
Go to the game, don't go to the church and go to the party at 2.

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I would skip the Church altogether and just go to the party, I think they will understand, If Not to bad. Your kid's come first.

Message edited 6/9/2008 6:26:33 PM.

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i would go to the game and the party
honestly the last few christenings i was invited to the church discouraged a lot of people from coming because there were so many babies being baptized on the same day that the church was packed, i don't know if they do that at this church but i still would just go to the party

eta i wouldn't go to church late, imho i find intentionally going to church late (not just stuck in traffic) to be ruder than not showing up at all

Message edited 6/9/2008 6:41:27 PM.

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Take a pass on the church and then go to the party.

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I would go to the game, get to church late, then go to the party.

I would be insulted if I was having a religious celebration for my child and family just came to the party part.

I know that they have not been the most considerate with past celebrations, but it seems that you posted because you want to do the right thing - IMO, this would be the right thing.