Re: Good Manners Question - who visits you in the hospital?

I was expecting most of my family to come (like aunts, uncles and cousins) and friends. but my mom warned me not to expect many...when she had me (and i was the first grandchild) my grandma didnt even come to the hospital and when she had my sister (14 yrs ago) most of my family didnt go then either but they will probably show up at my house when i come home

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i expect both parents (thats obv) and our siblings for sure. I know my close cousin and BFF will come too. After that i have no expectations... whoever comes at that point will be a nice surprise

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We had 45 people visit us one night with my DS - it was overwhelming to say the least.

I always like to visit people in the hospital because I know how hectic it can get once the baby is home and would rather the parents rest than have to entertain me.

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when i had ds, first off we waited 5 hours to call anyone and it was the BEST thing we did because it gave us time to not only be with the child butto also bond as husband and wife who are now also parents...


as for who visited... my siblings, parents, dhs siblings, my great uncle (who is like a grand father) and three friends... and they all came at the same time..

this time around we are going to hold off on telling friends unti lthe next day because we have 30 visiters in one hour and none the next day

Re: Good Manners Question - who visits you in the hospital?

just immediate family and maybe your closest friend

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ill be the first to really have a child in our immediate family so i dont know whats "right"

BUT i really do not want a ton of ppl visiting me in the hospital. it does help that we're in li and my family is in upstate ny and nj.

i really would be happy with just my hubby, my mom, and my gma. they can report back to everyone.

my dad, mil, stepsiblings, siblings in law etc can see me at home....but i know it wont happen that way


ETA...forgot about my friends...im super close with them. theyre like my sisters since im an only child...so i dont mind if they come

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Re: Good Manners Question - who visits you in the hospital?

I would love my immediate family to come: dad, sis and bf (who is part of the family), brother and sil...... Thats about it. I know my closest cousin and a few friends "may" show up but I honestly don't expect it. My husband's family is a different story. One of his sister's "may" show. His parents are completely and utterly useless; they were barely there for my Liam. I continue to expect nothing from them.

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I only EXPECTED immediate family, but our whole famly came including cousins and cousin's wives, etc . some of my hubbys friends came too.

it was way too much , I didn't even bother trying to BF becasue how could I with all of those people there?! I don't know how I am going to go about limiting my visitors this time, I really want to try to BF. I wound up Exclusivly pumping for 4 months, which I would never do again, so if I don't get this new baby to latch before we leave the hospital it's not happening! Im already concerned w/ limiting vistors. sigh.

ETS I had people visit me in recovery after my c section I was so mad

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Re: Good Manners Question - who visits you in the hospital?

I only had my brother and a LIF lady and her DH come to see me. I lved in another state, so no need to worry.

If/When we have another, I am laying the law. Moms and Pop-Pops only. I dont want to be bothered with being perky, when I just want to rest. They (other family) can see us when we are settled in.

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I want my parents, IL's, siblings and sibling-in-laws and my few closest friends....that's really it! I don't want a parade of people that I won't be able to keep up with! This is as of NOW though lol I have a ways to go still!

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Posted by DPerotti

Family and whatever friends would like to

Re: Good Manners Question - who visits you in the hospital?

Posted by DPerotti

Family and whatever friends would like to

Re: Good Manners Question - who visits you in the hospital?

My closest friends, My MIL and my father.

Re: Good Manners Question - who visits you in the hospital?

We have a fairly large immediate family and I don't want a parade of visitors. I really just want some time for DH and I to bond with our new baby. I want some time to recover. There are some friends / family that I would want to come more than others, so to avoid confusion, I made a blanket statement, ONLY IMMEDIATE FAMILY at the hospital please. We're asked my mother and MIL to come together for the labor, but after 's born we want at least an hour alone. Then we'll call immediate family. Sorry if anyone is offended, but this is a really big adjustment and I want to be able to focus on my family.

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Omg, I had 36 visitors my first day I had no idea that it was going to be THAT many and they all came at different times, but omg, I didn't know I knew that many people!
But my family and friends are all up in each other's business, so we like it like that

Re: Good Manners Question - who visits you in the hospital?

Immediate family, including in-laws

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I really don't like people visiting. I feel yucky and uncomfortable, I am hemorrhaging, crampy and like the alone time with dh and baby.

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Posted by aliasPook

I really don't like people visiting. I feel yucky and uncomfortable, I am hemorrhaging, crampy and like the alone time with dh and baby.

Re: Good Manners Question - who visits you in the hospital?

The only people I want to see me in the hospital is Mom, MIl, and siblings. I really don't want to be a hostess after I give birth.

I don't visit people after they have a baby unless they are family, IMO it is a very special and personal time and not my place to be there.

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I am of the opinion, the less, the better! I think I might find my immediate family annoying. It really depends on how I feel. My friends know to call first with me, because you never know.

Re: Good Manners Question - who visits you in the hospital?

I had DH, my SKs for about an hour, my parents, ILs, SIL, brother and SIL and several friends visit me at the hospital. DD was in the NICU so it helped to fill up my time since I couldn't have her in my room.

This time around, I don't mind if people come visit. I suspect that DH won't be around as much since we will have our 14 mo DD at home. It didn't bother me to have visitors. I love to chat!

Re: Good Manners Question - who visits you in the hospital?

I guess I'm different that most posters ... I would like the vistors at the hospital. I would expect my parents, DH's parents and siblings. I would also hope close friends (maybe 4 or 5) people would visit.

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We don't expect anyone to come & visit us in the hospital.
I know my MIL, FIL & Cousin will definitely be there - probably never leave, but I'm fine with that. They're super excited about the baby.

I usually never go to the hospital when someone has a baby. The only time I did was when my SIL (MY Brother's wife) had her babies. Other than that I prefer to give the parents, etc their time to adjust.