Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

wow reading all these posts that say its rude to ask guests to take shoes off...I guess we are different up here in Canada! its weird when you walk in a house and someone says leave them on! you automatically take your shoes off when entering someones house kids or no kids!
I would be in shock if someone left their shoes on after entering my house, shoes are not worn inside often, maybe in the summer if you are just coming in for a second, but even ppl just coming in quick to use the washroom the shoes come off!
so no i dont think its rude at all to ask ppl to take shoes off, i think they should...but thats just me...

Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

I would think its rude, and it woudl nmake me feel uncomfortable. I would have to agree wth a previous posters, why do you think people sock or bare feet are better or cleaner than their shoes??

I would just clean up after having company over if I felt the way you do.

Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

I see all the post saying it's rude, but what specifically is rude about it and why do people have such a problem walking around in socks/stockings/barefoot?

At daycare they ask us to remove our shoes and I would never think twice about not doing it.

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I can see both sides. Also, a Sex In The City episode pops into mind

Anyway.....I dont' see the big deal either way, but I will say this, it rained the day of DS' baptism, we had th eparty in a tent outside, but people were coming into our house to use the bathroom and see DS' room. Needless to say, I was moping the kitchen, hall and bathroom floors after the party. As well as had to clean the carpet in DS' room.


I wouldn't say it's RUDE to ask that of people. I mean is it rude to ask someone to put their drink on a coaster? Is it rude to ask people not to smoke in your house? It's YOUR house.

Message edited 12/5/2007 3:56:17 PM.

Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

Posted by MsKitty1274

I can see both sides. Also, a Sex In The City episode pops into mind

Anyway.....I dont' see the big deal either way, but I will say this, it rained the day of DS' baptism, we had th eparty in a tent outside, but people were coming into our house to use the bathroom and see DS' room. Needless to say, I was moping the kitchen, hall and bathroom floors after the party. As well as had to clean the carpet in DS' room.

Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

This has been debated before.

I understand why people want to do this but I do find it rude, yes.

Ironically, I never ask people to do this and VERY OFTEN people take off their shoes anyway and sometimes THAT bothers me (depends on the person - like a contractor ). I don't wanna see your stinky feet!

Also I have one friend that this is the policy in her house but it's because her DH is Swedish and it's customary there to do this...you just don't wear shoes in the house. I totally get that and it does not bother me to take off my shoes in her house. But anywhere else... well, sorry but this ain't Sweden!

Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

Posted by MsKitty1274

Posted by Summerrluvv

Posted by Sunrise813

I would think its rude, and it woudl nmake me feel uncomfortable. I would have to agree wth a previous posters, why do you think people sock or bare feet are better or cleaner than their shoes??

I would just clean up after having company over if I felt the way you do.

People don't typically walk outside with just socks on or walk barefoot, so I really don't think their socks/barefeet are dirtier than their shoes. Maybe if they are wearing flip flops I guess.

I agree. You may not have fresh out of the dryer clean socks, or fresh out of the shower clean feet, but you didn't accidentally step in mud or dog poop with your barefeet or socks.

Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

I always take my shoes off at someone's house and I expect no less from people when they come over to our place... maybe I am in the minority here, but I think it is rude when people dont take the shoes off...

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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

I'm curious , what do you do if a guest refuses to take their shoes off?

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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

I want my guests to feel comfortable in my home, period.

Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

No, I don't think it's rude. You have a child who crawls around the floors. And even if you didn't - it's your house and you have the right to ask guests to follow your rules.

We take our shoes off in our house and ask that people do the same. My daughter lays all over my floors and I don't need her laying on the floor where you have been standing with your shoes.

I would always take my shoes off in someone's house - esp if they have kids and would not be the least bit offended to do so.

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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

we always ask guests to take there shoes off for the same reason...we also have hardwood floors and Jacob is crawling all them! Nobody has ever complained and seem to completely understand. If any of our guests insisted on no taking off there shoes, we wouldnt make a big deal out of it!

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Message edited 12/5/2007 4:11:17 PM.

Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????

Posted by BabyAvocado

Posted by Aga

Posted by stephanief

I want my guests to feel comfortable in my home, period.

maybe I am weird but I dont find sitting in shoes comfortable lol

I don't find planning an outfit with a cute pair of shoes, showing up to someone's house and then being forced to remove said cute shoes AND lose 4 inches of height because of it especially comfortable either!

What if it's summer and I'm wearing open toe - now I have to walk around barefoot on your icky floors (your cat gets to track litter all over the floor and your dog walks around on the same floor after stepping in god knows what - for instance) exchanging foot sweat and what not with every other person walking around - ew

I'm playing devils advocate a little here. I do find it rude, but it really doesn't bother me THAT much.

I think a more polite way to do this is to have a pile of shoes at the door - that drops the hint. If the guest is comfortable taking their shoes off, then they will.

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Posted by BabyAvocado

Posted by Aga

Posted by stephanief

I want my guests to feel comfortable in my home, period.

maybe I am weird but I dont find sitting in shoes comfortable lol

I don't find planning an outfit with a cute pair of shoes, showing up to someone's house and then being forced to remove said cute shoes AND lose 4 inches of height because of it especially comfortable either!




SO TRUE!!! I hate that!