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4monkeys
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
Posted by Sunrise813
I'm curious , what do you do if a guest refuses to take their shoes off?
if they didnt take their shoes off (and know that "they should have" they'd probably be happier NOT being there anyway, so the feeling would be mutual (host wanting them to leave, person wanting to leave  )
Like I said, a friend of ours did this, and it was left at that. why should it be forced ? this was a house wth no children (but with very hypocritical homeowners, so I think he was trying to make a statement..) but i'll leave it at that. (and I loved every minute  ) I wanted to join him, but I have the hubby who likes to go with the flow and not ruffle feathers, DARN  
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
hey if you leave the shoes by the door, all the people coming after you will see them and say: whose cute shoes are these? 
but seriously, it is not a big deal to me to take my shoes off, just the way I was brought up...
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| Posted 12/5/07 4:20 PM |
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bicosi
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
Posted by johnsae
AMEN! I'd be walking around the person's house in AIR HEELS! lol
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| Posted 12/5/07 4:20 PM |
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cgdg61606
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
I do not think it is rude at all regardless of whether or not you have a child crawling around on the floor. We always took off our shoes at my parent's house and I always request that shoe's be taken off at my house. When I go to someone's house, I always take my shoes off because I think it's rude not to...
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| Posted 12/5/07 4:20 PM |
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Claud
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
This is such a fine line, I think. I mean, my kids live on the floors in my house, and we are constantly vacuuming, shampooing carpets and scrubbing floors because of it. It's just what you have to do with little ones.
I don't find the whole removal of shoes rude or embarrassing...but that's me. Upon entering our house, me, DH and the kids all do the same routine...remove jackets and shoes, put on slippers and wash hands immediately. You have to do what you believe is going to protect your family and keep your home healthy.
But, I don't demand guests remove their shoes, especially b/c my house is built on a slab and in the winter, my floors are FREEZING COLD. If people want to remove their shoes, great. If not, come in and make yourself comfortable. I'll clean up later.
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| Posted 12/5/07 4:22 PM |
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stephaniea
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
I would be mad if someone asked me to take my shoes off. I always wipe my feet. I do take my shoes off if it is raining/snowing. I raised 3 kids and never asked someone to take their shoes off. I can't imagine my grandmother coming over and taking her shoes off or any elderly person, especially if they don't wear socks. Also, having a party and asking all the guests to take their shoes off. I don't know, I think it is rude. Its only a house and it can be cleaned.
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| Posted 12/5/07 4:31 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
Posted by Summerrluvv
Posted by stephanief
Posted by Summerrluvv
I see all the post saying it's rude, but what specifically is rude about it and why do people have such a problem walking around in socks/stockings/barefoot?
At daycare they ask us to remove our shoes and I would never think twice about not doing it.
I am not sure why people are getting so defensive. I PERSONALLY think it is rude to ask a guest to take off their shoes. Why? I guess if someone wants to take off their shoes, they will but to ask, or even worse, demand that they do so is rude to me. It is a personal pet peeve, that's all
The only one getting defensive is you. I was asking WHY people think it's rude aand have yet to see a reasonable explanation.
wow, really? ok then, glad we worked that out
I said numerous times, that I PERSONALLY would feel uncomfortable taking my shoes off in someone's house. I am not sure how much more I can explain that
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| Posted 12/5/07 4:36 PM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
If I go to someones house and they want me to take my shoes off I will, its there house, period! I will not think less of them or not go to there house anymore just because I couldn't wear my shoes, not a big deal.
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| Posted 12/5/07 4:40 PM |
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
I do not think it is rude at all. If you think about all the disgusting things that we walk on all day, and the fact that a baby is crawling all over the floor, it makes sense to me.
I wouldn't feel uncomfortable at all if someone asked me to take my shoes off.
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| Posted 12/5/07 4:42 PM |
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MrsBlueSash
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
I don't think it rude, but I don't like doing it. I'd just rather wear my shoes, but I have to respect the fact I'm a guest in someone else's home if they ask me to do so. Just don't expect me to be happy about it.
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| Posted 12/5/07 4:43 PM |
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
Posted by stephanief
Posted by Summerrluvv
Posted by stephanief
Posted by Summerrluvv
I see all the post saying it's rude, but what specifically is rude about it and why do people have such a problem walking around in socks/stockings/barefoot?
At daycare they ask us to remove our shoes and I would never think twice about not doing it.
I am not sure why people are getting so defensive. I PERSONALLY think it is rude to ask a guest to take off their shoes. Why? I guess if someone wants to take off their shoes, they will but to ask, or even worse, demand that they do so is rude to me. It is a personal pet peeve, that's all
The only one getting defensive is you. I was asking WHY people think it's rude aand have yet to see a reasonable explanation.
wow, really? ok then, glad we worked that out
I said numerous times, that I PERSONALLY would feel uncomfortable taking my shoes off in someone's house. I am not sure how much more I can explain that
I get that you feel uncomfortable, but I don't get why it would be considered rude for a host to ASK a guest to remove their shoes when visiting their home.
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| Posted 12/5/07 4:44 PM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
Posted by Summerrluvv
Posted by stephanief
Posted by Summerrluvv
Posted by stephanief
Posted by Summerrluvv
I see all the post saying it's rude, but what specifically is rude about it and why do people have such a problem walking around in socks/stockings/barefoot?
At daycare they ask us to remove our shoes and I would never think twice about not doing it.
I am not sure why people are getting so defensive. I PERSONALLY think it is rude to ask a guest to take off their shoes. Why? I guess if someone wants to take off their shoes, they will but to ask, or even worse, demand that they do so is rude to me. It is a personal pet peeve, that's all
The only one getting defensive is you. I was asking WHY people think it's rude aand have yet to see a reasonable explanation.
wow, really? ok then, glad we worked that out
I said numerous times, that I PERSONALLY would feel uncomfortable taking my shoes off in someone's house. I am not sure how much more I can explain that
I get that you feel uncomfortable, but I don't get why it would be considered rude for a host to ASK a guest to remove their shoes when visiting their home.
I am not sure how to explain it so you "get it"....it does not matter, I am not coming to your house so you do what works for you and your family / friends and I will do the same. I cannot say anything else, we have differing opinions on this and that is okay.....
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| Posted 12/5/07 4:50 PM |
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jellybean78
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
Posted by purplegirl
I do not think it is rude at all. If you think about all the disgusting things that we walk on all day, and the fact that a baby is crawling all over the floor, it makes sense to me.
I wouldn't feel uncomfortable at all if someone asked me to take my shoes off.
ITA. I don't think it's rude at all especially when you have kids crawling on the same floor people are stepping on with their dirty shoes.
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| Posted 12/5/07 4:57 PM |
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leighla
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
If I were to ask people to remove their shoes, I would have slippers available for them and I would warn them in advance.
That's just me.
However, if I were planning a party with people coming over, I would plan accordingly so DS wouldn't be crawling on the floor or I would be able to clean after they left.
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| Posted 12/5/07 5:12 PM |
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
I always take my shoes off immediately when I enter someones home... I would have no problem asking people to remove their shoes - I know I have in the past! Usually the mountain of shoes by the front door is a clue! 
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| Posted 12/5/07 5:13 PM |
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Bebalina
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
Posted by Aga
I always take my shoes off at someone's house and I expect no less from people when they come over to our place... maybe I am in the minority here, but I think it is rude when people dont take the shoes off...
I totally agree, and when I go to someone else's home if they said nothing I always ask and remove them anyhow.
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| Posted 12/5/07 5:30 PM |
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KristinasMama
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
Honestly, I already responded to this post, and I don't do it because of a child.... Although that's going to make it even a stronger insistence in my world....
But, does wiping kill all the germs that are all over the ground that is on the bottom of shoes? I'm no germaphobe or anything, but, did you all catch the Rachel Ray show where they did "What's on the bottom of your purse?"... and that was just a purse for crying out loud!!!!! I don't even want to think about what kind of diseases are on the bottom of shoes... 
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| Posted 12/5/07 5:36 PM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
I would be extremely uncomfortable if I was asked to remove my shoes upon entering someone's home unless they provided me with slippers of some sort.
I ABSOLUTELY HATE walking around in socks or bare feet. It's a pet peeve of mine. I can't stand the feel of a piece or dirt on the sole of my foot!
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| Posted 12/5/07 5:41 PM |
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
To answer the OP, yes, I would find it rude. However, if I was asked to, I would, but feel unconfortable - like if I had my Uggs on with no socks! Then I am barefoot!
We don't wear shoes in our house, but would never tell guests to remove theirs.
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| Posted 12/5/07 5:54 PM |
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LisaI
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
no, not rude. my friends ask us and I ask people as well. It grosses me out with shoes on in the house.
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| Posted 12/5/07 5:58 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
Posted by Summerrluvv
Posted by babybugsmum
Posted by nylisa
In our old place we used to have rugs and we always had our guests take their shoes off. In our new place we have tile floors and have never said anything but DH & I have decided that from now on anyone who comes has to take their shoes off for the same reason. DS picks up everything and puts it in his mouth.
i guess we are the minority 
i didnt realise people would find this so rude ???? i thought that knowing i have a little one people would understand
This is a regional thing because where I come from (MI), everyone removes their shoes when entering someone's home. I've seen soo many heated debates about this on another board and it gets ugly. I really don't understand why anyone would have a problem removing their shoes in someone's home but I digress
What if your feet stink?
What if you have holes in your socks?
Wat if you have mismatched socks?
What is you have a bunion that shows through your socks?
What if you don't have socks on and haven't had a pedicure?
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| Posted 12/5/07 5:59 PM |
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LisaI
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
Posted by melijane
Posted by Summerrluvv
Posted by babybugsmum
Posted by nylisa
In our old place we used to have rugs and we always had our guests take their shoes off. In our new place we have tile floors and have never said anything but DH & I have decided that from now on anyone who comes has to take their shoes off for the same reason. DS picks up everything and puts it in his mouth.
i guess we are the minority
i didnt realise people would find this so rude ???? i thought that knowing i have a little one people would understand
This is a regional thing because where I come from (MI), everyone removes their shoes when entering someone's home. I've seen soo many heated debates about this on another board and it gets ugly. I really don't understand why anyone would have a problem removing their shoes in someone's home but I digress
What if your feet stink?
What if you have holes in your socks?
Wat if you have mismatched socks?
What is you have a bunion that shows through your socks?
What if you don't have socks on and haven't had a pedicure?
I offer slippers to all my guests and visitors coming over. People who know me remove them, however when a stranger comes in I don't say remove them asap. my daughter usually does that for me
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| Posted 12/5/07 6:02 PM |
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
 ITA
My shoes are part of my outfit plus I do not particularly like to look at or smell other people's feet. My DD's 1st BDay is next week and after her party I will just mom the floor. I do not want to host a party with 30 barefoot people.
So, in my opinion, I find it very rude to ask. I also do not like it when people come into my house and automaticially remove their shoes. It is too familial and frankly skeeves me. (I almost didn't date DH b/c the first time he came over to my place he did this and I thought it was really weird  )
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| Posted 12/5/07 6:04 PM |
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4monkeys
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
another thing, what makes someone think I want to wear their slippers ??? 
Maybe THAT bothers us MORE than having shoes in the house bothers them.
LMAO
30 barefoot people EWWW
and its not so much that it's rude to ask/request, its rude to EXPECT everyone to agree and comply
youre kind of put on the spot "take your shoes off or dont enter my home" 
and for parties that are "in and out" in the summer, is it really expected that people take their shoes on and off if they have to come into the house for something ??
for heaven's sake, just clean your floors people.
ugh, Im getting more and more annoyed with this topic.
stomp stomp
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| Posted 12/5/07 6:20 PM |
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JennChris
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Re: Is it rude of me to ask people to remove their shoes when coming in my house ????
OK I'm rude... MY house, MY rules... shoes must come off... I have a baby crawling on the floor... IMO shoes are for outside, not inside
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