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itsagoodlife
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Re: is this typical for 7 year old?
I'm a 2nd grade teacher and spend my days with 7 year olds and I'm also a mom of 3.
This behavior is certainly not "typical". You are also NOT a bad parent!!
Take him to a developmental pediatrician and get him evaluated. It sounds like ADHD or ADD or some type of sensory disorder. Get him support and help and assistance for yourself.
You're a GREAT mom for recognizing that this might not be typical and for reaching out
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hmm
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is this typical for 7 year old?
Everyone likes to say ADHD or ADD, sometimes people, kids an adults just have ****** moments. jmo. To me he might be use to getting his way, but it also sounds like the family as a unit is going through a lot.
I know I posted before, I find it annoying when I hear the words ADD etc.
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itsagoodlife
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Re: is this typical for 7 year old?
Posted by hmm
Everyone likes to say ADHD or ADD, sometimes people, kids an adults just have ****** moments. jmo. To me he might be use to getting his way, but it also sounds like the family as a unit is going through a lot.
I know I posted before, I find it annoying when I hear the words ADD etc.
I hear what you are saying. The OP stated that this was not a one-time thing and alluded to this being "typical" for her child.
I should clarify that I work in a special education classroom and the behaviors she described are typical of what I have witnessed with my diagnosed students with ADHD/ADD and/or some sort of sensory processing disorder.
If the OP is concerned, which she seeks to be, she might consider a developmental pediatrician.
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| Posted 5/8/17 10:41 PM |
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Chai77
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Re: is this typical for 7 year old?
Posted by hmm
Everyone likes to say ADHD or ADD, sometimes people, kids an adults just have ****** moments. jmo. To me he might be use to getting his way, but it also sounds like the family as a unit is going through a lot.
I know I posted before, I find it annoying when I hear the words ADD etc.
Not sure what you mean by it annoys you to hear ADHD? To me, I would say it sounds more like oppositional/defiant behavior from this snippet of information, rather than ADHD per se, although I agree with the suggestion of seeing a dev ped or child psychologist if the OP is really concerned.
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| Posted 5/8/17 11:49 PM |
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JandJ1224
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Re: is this typical for 7 year old?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by JandJ1224
Just wanted to post that I have a very mature 8 yo DD. Yesterday actually, she had a melt down because I told her she couldn't go do something. It is totally out of character for her and lasted probably about an hr. But she did have a melt down including crying and kicking the seat on the way home.
I am not concerned at all. It was an off moment. Definitely not the usual. I think it probably depends if your son exhibits these behaviors on a regular basis or if it was just an off day.
I also have to say there is no way in he ll we would have gone to McDonalds if that was what the tantrum was about originally lol I'd eat anything else instead
I have to be honest, I'm 43 and sometimes I have emotional meltdowns too 
Good point I also have occasional melt down 
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hmm
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Re: is this typical for 7 year old?
Posted by itsagoodlife
Posted by hmm
Everyone likes to say ADHD or ADD, sometimes people, kids an adults just have ****** moments. jmo. To me he might be use to getting his way, but it also sounds like the family as a unit is going through a lot.
I know I posted before, I find it annoying when I hear the words ADD etc.
I hear what you are saying. The OP stated that this was not a one-time thing and alluded to this being "typical" for her child.
I should clarify that I work in a special education classroom and the behaviors she described are typical of what I have witnessed with my diagnosed students with ADHD/ADD and/or some sort of sensory processing disorder.
If the OP is concerned, which she seeks to be, she might consider a developmental pediatrician.
I did use your post but my remark was not aimed at you :) I worry, these terms are used a lot, sometimes too much. Many, many kids are labeled, once labeled its hard to reverse that stigma. Far too many kids are being given medications to control behavior that can be presenting its self due to other issues going on. Many times, parenting styles, family issues, discord in the marriage all play a big role in how children behave. It is almost always a FAMILY issues not specific to the child in the family. I know op stated its happened before, but she also stated her marriage is having many issues.
I would suggest look at everything, make sure there is nothing wrong medically, once confirmed he is healthy. Look into therapy with a good therapist and work at changing the behavior with the help of a professional. Learning to set boundaries. I see many parents that lack that ability. The family might benefit seeing a therapist too
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CookiePuss
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Re: is this typical for 7 year old?
I didn't read through all the replies but I don't think your 7 year old's behavior is not typical. I think it's very typical of a child that pushes until he gets what he wants. Based on your post, you and your husband will eventually give in to him so he just keeps on going and going and going.
I would try to develop a behavior plan and then stick to it. Once my kid started whining about McD's in the first place - it would be off the table. That is a privileged. Same with the shoes....I'm not going to fight with you because we just are not going.
I would also implement something visual with very specific rule, expectations or chores. When he doesn't do what he wants, put a sad face on it. Don't say anything but when he wants to do something, go somewhere, etc...say...let's go see your chart. If there are say, 3 sad faces, just say..."You have 3 sad faces from this week. Sorry, you can't have a play date. Maybe next week if there are no sad faces." It gives him control which is what he wants.
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Bebelove
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Re: is this typical for 7 year old?
My almost 7 year old is just like you describe. He has no iPads or screens now, and his behavior improved. We also realized when he gets backed up (constipated) he is completely off the wall and unreasonable. We spoke to his pediatrician and she asked us to get him to bed earlier. The combo of all these things have helped so much. Also, no sugar most days. He again becomes so unreasonable when he has sugar (big cookie or juice). Good luck!
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