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Ophelia
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Re: Not worth it to work?
All I can say to this thread is that I beg of anyone reading it to remember where this is coming from, and to not allow a person who's perception of life and society is so small that it cannot incorporate differences in idea, logistics, circumstance, or situation.
a small mind is NOTHING to get upset over. please remember that. and rock on with your bad selves!
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by smdl
PS: I also want your quoting option to be disabled.
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| Posted 4/25/12 12:54 PM |
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Pumpkin1
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by MrsBurtch525
DH and i made the decision not to work because my entire paycheck would go towards daycare itself and leave me with about $100/week, wasn't worth it for $100 a week to pay someone else to raise my child. I will go back to work when they are in school.
Really? You understand that it was someone else's statement "pay someone else to raise my child" that started this whole debate. Now you are making the same statement?
Message edited 4/25/2012 12:55:37 PM.
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Ophelia
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remember, when Gulliver traveled....
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Re: Not worth it to work?
I would rather work than be on a budget set by my husband. I would rather have respect love and freedom to do whatever the **** I want whenever I want. I would rather have a brain that thinks for itself and can look out into the world, see that there can be more than one way to skin a cat or raise a child that be stuck in a very tiny dark and sad existence.
the simple fact is, I rock my sons world. no one can make me believe that our situation doesn't work, that working isn't ok for us, and that I am not raising my child b/c I see evidence of how we are working it and playing our cards to the best of our ability every day.
whether you work and take hom 50 cents after childcare or 50 thousand dollars, YOU ARE STILL RAISING YOUR CHILD.
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| Posted 4/25/12 1:00 PM |
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Daisy32
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Re: Not worth it to work?
exactly
I seriously cant with these types of statements. Unreal Nothing like a good ol' slap in the face when you're trying to do what's best for YOUR family.
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MrsA1012
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by MrsBurtch525
DH and i made the decision not to work because my entire paycheck would go towards daycare itself and leave me with about $100/week, wasn't worth it for $100 a week to pay someone else to raise my child. I will go back to work when they are in school.
Be careful. I made a similar comment about " someone else raising my child", and was jumped on.
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HeathKernandez
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by DumpsterBaby
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by Pomegranate5
Posted by hazeleyes33
We are all allowed our opinions.
I promise you that your point was made. Why do you beat topics to DEATH?? You come across as just as intolerant of other people's opinions as you claim they are of yours.
I can only "beat topics to death" if someone answers me.
You never know when to quit! You simply cannot let someone else have the last word. Thats why these threads drag on. Can you comprehend that some people think it is worth it/not worth it for a variety of reasons that may or may not apply to you, make sense to you, or anything else. Good god! Stop needling every little thing someone says!
^^this.
Its like a game with the OP.
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| Posted 4/25/12 1:08 PM |
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HeathKernandez
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Re: Not worth it to work?
last word.
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skinny
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Re: Not worth it to work?
You can't argue with stupid.....
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Bearcat
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by HeathKernandez
last word.
WHY?
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| Posted 4/25/12 1:10 PM |
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HeathKernandez
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by Bearcat
Posted by HeathKernandez
last word.
WHY?
listen you little ****
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| Posted 4/25/12 1:10 PM |
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Daisy32
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by skinny
You can't argue with stupid.....
and there's ALL kinds of that on this thread.
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| Posted 4/25/12 1:11 PM |
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Daisy32
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by HeathKernandez
Posted by Bearcat
Posted by HeathKernandez
last word.
WHY?
listen you little ****
You're all a bunch of jerks
Message edited 4/25/2012 1:13:17 PM.
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Not worth it to work?
If you work someone else is raising your kid
If you are home you are setting a bad example of work ethic
and if you are a big assholee your kid will grow up to be one too
the end
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| Posted 4/25/12 1:25 PM |
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Bearcat
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by HeathKernandez
Posted by Bearcat
Posted by HeathKernandez
last word.
WHY?
listen you little ****
Well, you're entitled to that opinion of yours -- but IMO, JMHO, IME, it's wrong.
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| Posted 4/25/12 1:28 PM |
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maybebaby
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by Ophelia
I would rather work than be on a budget set by my husband. I would rather have respect love and freedom to do whatever the **** I want whenever I want. I would rather have a brain that thinks for itself and can look out into the world, see that there can be more than one way to skin a cat or raise a child that be stuck in a very tiny dark and sad existence.
Before I reply....because maybe i am misinterpreting....are you saying that this is how you view moms that stay home? Meaning we don't think for ourselves, nor have respect , love freedom to do what we want etc...?
I feel that THESE are the reasons why these posts always go horrible awry.
Why does anyone have to point fingers and say mean things??? I don't get it.
I've said this before, but there are so many other ways for intelligent women to get their points across than using generalized insults and name calling. It's out of hand and very insulting 
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maybesoon
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Hazel I just wonder, where do you live that you do not know any moms that work long hours or in NYC? Do you live on long island where property taxes are 12 k a year and houses are a half million dollars for a full renovation? these things need to be payed for somehow.
My first job out of college was a ten hour day and over 3 hour commute each day. This is reality for many working moms/ dads.
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MrsA1012
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by maybebaby
Posted by Ophelia
I would rather work than be on a budget set by my husband. I would rather have respect love and freedom to do whatever the **** I want whenever I want. I would rather have a brain that thinks for itself and can look out into the world, see that there can be more than one way to skin a cat or raise a child that be stuck in a very tiny dark and sad existence.
Before I reply....because maybe i am misinterpreting....are you saying that this is how you view moms that stay home? Meaning we don't think for ourselves, nor have respect , love freedom to do what we want etc...?
I feel that THESE are the reasons why these posts always go horrible awry.
Why does anyone have to point fingers and say mean things??? I don't get it.
I've said this before, but there are so many other ways for intelligent women to get their points across than using generalized insults and name calling. It's out of hand and very insulting
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HeathKernandez
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by maybebaby
Posted by Ophelia
I would rather work than be on a budget set by my husband. I would rather have respect love and freedom to do whatever the **** I want whenever I want. I would rather have a brain that thinks for itself and can look out into the world, see that there can be more than one way to skin a cat or raise a child that be stuck in a very tiny dark and sad existence.
Before I reply....because maybe i am misinterpreting....are you saying that this is how you view moms that stay home? Meaning we don't think for ourselves, nor have respect , love freedom to do what we want etc...?
I feel that THESE are the reasons why these posts always go horrible awry.
Why does anyone have to point fingers and say mean things??? I don't get it.
I've said this before, but there are so many other ways for intelligent women to get their points across than using generalized insults and name calling. It's out of hand and very insulting
I think she's saying that FOR HER the experience would be like that.
I know I would feel the same way if I were to stay home... BUT ONLY BECAUSE my husband and I would be VERY STRAPPED if we didn't pull in 2 incomes.
If my husband made enough to cover both of our incomes, then I would ABSOLUTELY want to be home with my kids... but as things are now, it would be a tough experience.
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maybesoon
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by maybebaby
Posted by Ophelia
I would rather work than be on a budget set by my husband. I would rather have respect love and freedom to do whatever the **** I want whenever I want. I would rather have a brain that thinks for itself and can look out into the world, see that there can be more than one way to skin a cat or raise a child that be stuck in a very tiny dark and sad existence.
Before I reply....because maybe i am misinterpreting....are you saying that this is how you view moms that stay home? Meaning we don't think for ourselves, nor have respect , love freedom to do what we want etc...?
I feel that THESE are the reasons why these posts always go horrible awry.
Why does anyone have to point fingers and say mean things??? I don't get it.
I've said this before, but there are so many other ways for intelligent women to get their points across than using generalized insults and name calling. It's out of hand and very insulting
Ok I may be wrong, but I think she has her MIL living with her taking care of her DS. What choice does she have, stay home all day w MIL? if she was in a different situation I think her answer may be very different.
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AngnShaun
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by Bearcat
Posted by HeathKernandez
Posted by Bearcat
Posted by HeathKernandez
last word.
WHY?
listen you little ****
Well, you're entitled to that opinion of yours -- but IMO, JMHO, IME, it's wrong.
what the eff is IME?
ETA: Nevermind i got it lol
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CrankyPants
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by maybebaby
Posted by Ophelia
I would rather work than be on a budget set by my husband. I would rather have respect love and freedom to do whatever the **** I want whenever I want. I would rather have a brain that thinks for itself and can look out into the world, see that there can be more than one way to skin a cat or raise a child that be stuck in a very tiny dark and sad existence.
Before I reply....because maybe i am misinterpreting....are you saying that this is how you view moms that stay home? Meaning we don't think for ourselves, nor have respect , love freedom to do what we want etc...?
I feel that THESE are the reasons why these posts always go horrible awry.
Why does anyone have to point fingers and say mean things??? I don't get it.
I've said this before, but there are so many other ways for intelligent women to get their points across than using generalized insults and name calling. It's out of hand and very insulting
I think she is saying that people like Hazeleyes (who works and is not a SAHM) are not able to think for themselves or see that there is more than one way to raise a kid.
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maybebaby
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by HeathKernandez
Posted by maybebaby
Posted by Ophelia
I would rather work than be on a budget set by my husband. I would rather have respect love and freedom to do whatever the **** I want whenever I want. I would rather have a brain that thinks for itself and can look out into the world, see that there can be more than one way to skin a cat or raise a child that be stuck in a very tiny dark and sad existence.
Before I reply....because maybe i am misinterpreting....are you saying that this is how you view moms that stay home? Meaning we don't think for ourselves, nor have respect , love freedom to do what we want etc...?
I feel that THESE are the reasons why these posts always go horrible awry.
Why does anyone have to point fingers and say mean things??? I don't get it.
I've said this before, but there are so many other ways for intelligent women to get their points across than using generalized insults and name calling. It's out of hand and very insulting
I think she's saying that FOR HER the experience would be like that.
I know I would feel the same way if I were to stay home... BUT ONLY BECAUSE my husband and I would be VERY STRAPPED if we didn't pull in 2 incomes.
If my husband made enough to cover both of our incomes, then I would ABSOLUTELY want to be home with my kids... but as things are now, it would be a tough experience.
That's fine that someone would feel that way. But you don't think there are different ways to express an opinion without it coming off as completely insulting?
I don't begin to think that all women would want to be home. Hell, some days I wish I could trade places with my husband and have some "me" time b/c quite honestly I loved to work, and i do miss it once in a while. To not have to account for another little being every minute would be occasionally nice!!
But i would never insult a working woman because I would maybe feel a particular way about it if I had to work.
I just feel like the pot always has to be stirred by some people, and I'm sorry, opinion may be just that...opinions...but they can HURT even if they aren't true.
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maybebaby
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Re: Not worth it to work?
Posted by CrankyPants
Posted by maybebaby
Posted by Ophelia
I would rather work than be on a budget set by my husband. I would rather have respect love and freedom to do whatever the **** I want whenever I want. I would rather have a brain that thinks for itself and can look out into the world, see that there can be more than one way to skin a cat or raise a child that be stuck in a very tiny dark and sad existence.
Before I reply....because maybe i am misinterpreting....are you saying that this is how you view moms that stay home? Meaning we don't think for ourselves, nor have respect , love freedom to do what we want etc...?
I feel that THESE are the reasons why these posts always go horrible awry.
Why does anyone have to point fingers and say mean things??? I don't get it.
I've said this before, but there are so many other ways for intelligent women to get their points across than using generalized insults and name calling. It's out of hand and very insulting
I think she is saying that people like Hazeleyes (who works and is not a SAHM) are not able to think for themselves or see that there is more than one way to raise a kid.
I didn't read it like that, but if thats the case then I get it. But it didn't come across that way to me.
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Re: Not worth it to work?
This is me not quoting Hazeleyes.
But in MY PERSONAL YET VERY STRONGLY HELD AND YOU WON'T SWAY ME ONE IOTA FROM IT OPINION....
If you live and work within "5 minutes" of your children's school/daycare...
you need to realize you are ATYPICAL.
you need to realize that what you view as an ideal setup for yourself, would drive me and probably a few others berserk after 1 week if not sooner.
you need to make more FTWM friends.
The world beyond your 5 minute radius is wonderful, come, join us, won't you?
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