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MrsFlatbread
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Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
Yeah, Yeah...I was one of those women who was certain that I would want to go back to work shortly after giving birth b/c I worked so hard for my career, yadda, yadda yadda...
well...I changed my mind...now that DS is almost 7 weeks old the idea of going back to work in 7 short weeks kills me...my job gives me 7 months off...but I was planning on going back to work the first week in February after 14 weeks...now I want to change it to May. I called human resources and they told me that I do not need supervisory approval, but that I need to at least inform my supervisor. My dilemma is, how do I tell my supervisor that I will be staying out of work until May without having him blow his top??? I mean I do not need his permission, but I would like his blessing... Advice please....
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Posted 12/8/08 11:38 AM  |
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
Are you sure he'll blow his top? It's all unpaid? Maybe he won't mind. I would just call (maybe after the New Year??) and be honest with him.
good luck! 
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| Posted 12/8/08 11:42 AM |
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babybugsmum
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
i also have a 7 week old .
i dont have any advice ( im a SAHM ) but i just wanted to send some support and hope when you do talk to him it goes well god luck 
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| Posted 12/8/08 11:45 AM |
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MrsFlatbread
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
Posted by SweetCaroline
Are you sure he'll blow his top? It's all unpaid? Maybe he won't mind. I would just call (maybe after the New Year??) and be honest with him.
good luck!
No I am not sure...but I would just be giving him the courtesy of informing him...I do not need his permission...but I do not want to ruin my relationship with him...
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| Posted 12/8/08 11:48 AM |
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
just tell him that you have chosen to stay with DD until May and that when you come back you will give him your all etc
too bad if he "blows his top" you need to do whats best for you and your family
when my 2nd child was born I was supposed to go back to work after 6 weeks and then that turned into 3 months and then I just couldnt go back and leave DD
I just needed to be with her .....
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| Posted 12/8/08 11:51 AM |
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curliegirl
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
I would be honest and say that you weren't expecting to feel this way and you would like to have as much time with your DC as possible before gettting into the swing of work + baby.
You'll never get these days back so enjoy them while you are lucky enough to stay home!
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| Posted 12/8/08 12:00 PM |
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Reese1106
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
Well how was he when you left for leave? I thought he asked you if you were sure you wanted to return in February although I could be imagining that completely with my preggo brain. I would just call and talk to him. Chances are he won't be that shocked.
Message edited 12/8/2008 12:07:46 PM.
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| Posted 12/8/08 12:07 PM |
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JenBenMen
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
basically just tell him that....you changed your mind and didnt anticipate feeling this way
if the 7 months is allowed---take it!!
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| Posted 12/8/08 12:08 PM |
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
I would tell him that you realize that 14 weeks is just too soon for you and instead of coming back and giving 50% because your heart isn't in it, you rather stay home and return in May when you'll be prepared to give 100%.
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| Posted 12/8/08 12:10 PM |
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MrsFlatbread
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
Posted by Reese1106
Well how was he when you left for leave? I thought he asked you if you were sure you wanted to return in February although I could be imagining that completely with my preggo brain. I would just call and talk to him. Chances are he won't be that shocked.
This was the response of my LI supervisor, not my city supervisor. Maybe I can speak to the LI supervisor first and get her advice...she was great about me wanting to take additional time.
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| Posted 12/8/08 12:12 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
i don't have any advice but i wanted to tell you good luck! you are going to enjoy that extra time with DS so much
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| Posted 12/8/08 12:21 PM |
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Reese1106
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
Posted by MrsFlatbread
Posted by Reese1106
Well how was he when you left for leave? I thought he asked you if you were sure you wanted to return in February although I could be imagining that completely with my preggo brain. I would just call and talk to him. Chances are he won't be that shocked.
This was the response of my LI supervisor, not my city supervisor. Maybe I can speak to the LI supervisor first and get her advice...she was great about me wanting to take additional time.
I think that is a VERY good idea. Let me know how it goes.
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| Posted 12/8/08 12:22 PM |
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lovemy2boys
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
good Luck!that's great, I would use the whole 7 months off!
my ds is 12 wks and I'm debating going back bc of babysitter issues. I'm scared if I have to tell my mgr I'm not coming back
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| Posted 12/8/08 12:26 PM |
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
That's fantastic that you can take the 7 months! Don't be nervous....Just look at the little man next to you and make the call. You are doing the right thing and if it does come as a shock to him, he will get over it. GL!
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| Posted 12/8/08 12:27 PM |
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wannabemom
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
I am torn like you  but on the flipside, I don't have a choice... I MUST return to work. DH is still in grad school so my income is very important. I'm also very lucky though, becuase my mom will be taking care of DS.
unfortunately, I am going back on 12/22  I'm also scared that all of my sleep deprivation has rotted my brain and I'm no longer very sharp witted  it will be an experience....
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| Posted 12/8/08 12:42 PM |
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DancinBarefoot
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
Which supervisor is it?? The male one that you are afraid of talking to???
IMHO I would just tell him what you told us - you did not anticipate wanting to stay home beyond the initial 14 weeks and now you do so you are calling him and letting him know.
OH, and I told you so!!!! 
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| Posted 12/8/08 12:45 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
I would call and be honest. I would do it sooner then later...so its off your mind and you can enjoy your time and holidays without worrying about reactions.
I think if ever there is a work situation to be expected, its this. Its not coming out of left field, you know?
My banker said once I revealed I was pregnant he knew I was a goner
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| Posted 12/8/08 12:48 PM |
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MrsFlatbread
Skinny jeans are in my future
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
Posted by DancinBarefoot
Which supervisor is it?? The male one that you are afraid of talking to???
OH, and I told you so!!!!
yes...the male one...
and ...thanks for the reminder that you told me so!!!
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| Posted 12/8/08 1:10 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
I also think saying something sooner rather than later is best.
I was vague about how much time I would take off when I had the baby. I ended up staying home for 11 months. If you can swing it financially, stay home as long as possible if you are enjoying it. You'll never get these days back and I don't regret a single second that I stayed home. 
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| Posted 12/8/08 1:14 PM |
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MrsSteflily
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
I like your plan. I pray that it works out well for you.
The feelings surprsie you , 
Before DD was born, I was determined to have it all. Convinced that I have worked so hard for my career that I would never entertain the thought of giving it up.
Now, I still cry when I leave for work (3+ months after coming back from leave) and want nothing more than to be a SAHM.
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| Posted 12/8/08 1:22 PM |
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
I would tell the supervisor that you realize you will not be ready to return in February (you can blame family situation, etc..) and you wanted to inform them asap.
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| Posted 12/8/08 1:32 PM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
We just had someone in my office extend her leave to 7 months from 3, and honestly, the people covering for her are kind of angry.
Could you offer to do a couple days a week from home? To me that shows initiative, and that you still want to keep informed/in the loop, while doing the rest of the 7 months.
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| Posted 12/8/08 1:39 PM |
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DancinBarefoot
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
Posted by MrsFlatbread
Posted by DancinBarefoot
Which supervisor is it?? The male one that you are afraid of talking to???
OH, and I told you so!!!!
yes...the male one...
and ...thanks for the reminder that you told me so!!!
From everything you have told me about him, I truly think he will understand. Especially if you just tell him the truth (and tell him your friends are all ).
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| Posted 12/8/08 1:47 PM |
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josie919
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
I would let him know as soon as you can. I dont know what kind of work you do, but if he starts planning for the new year assuming you'll be back in February, and then you tell him a few weeks before that you arent returning so soon, THAT might make him mad. Granted he can mad all he wants, you are allowed this time and def should take it if you want to. You seem like you really want to maintain a good working relationship with him and if it were me, i'd like to know ahead of time. I have also found with my previous employers that the men tend to be MORE undertsanding of these situations, not sure why, just my experince. Like they always say... do to others and you would like done to you....
enjoy your time with your baby!!
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| Posted 12/8/08 3:00 PM |
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SweetCin
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Re: Okay...I admit it...I was wrong...now I need advice!!!
Posted by Reese1106
Posted by MrsFlatbread
Posted by Reese1106
Well how was he when you left for leave? I thought he asked you if you were sure you wanted to return in February although I could be imagining that completely with my preggo brain. I would just call and talk to him. Chances are he won't be that shocked.
This was the response of my LI supervisor, not my city supervisor. Maybe I can speak to the LI supervisor first and get her advice...she was great about me wanting to take additional time.
I think that is a VERY good idea. Let me know how it goes.
I agree James, I'd see what she says first. Good luck.
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