Re: Putting a newborn down to sleep - am I wrong?

I agree, there are going to be times when you can't agree with what a person is doing and it is absolutely OK to voice that. But common courtesy should still exist. A person can say I don't think that's in the best interest of the child, or in my opinion I would not let a child that young CIO, , but to question a person's instincts as a parent or to comment about how people think they are doing something awful is not helpful. I think it's great to have a place to come and pose questions and concerns but when you are met with downright hostility what is the point? This first time mom is going to need friends and support, especially since her husband is deploying so soon after the birth of their child. Hopefully she gets the kind of friendship and support she needs from this site in the future.

Re: Putting a newborn down to sleep - am I wrong?

Honestly, as a first time mother-to-be, the tone of some of the responses on this thread make me reluctant to post my own questions in the future. It's sad because this should be a supportive place where we can ask questions without worrying about being judged.

Message edited 8/20/2009 11:45:33 AM.

Re: Putting a newborn down to sleep - am I wrong?

Re: Putting a newborn down to sleep - am I wrong?

Posted by monkeybride

Posted by Anon4this1

Posted by SweetTooth

Posted by monkeybride

Sorry but I think that is horrible, horrible, horrible to to do to a 2&1/2 week old. Look up Reactive Attachment Disorder. This is the one topic I am strongly opposed to each his own. Newborn need to be held and comforted, not left to CIO. Even a doctor will tell you that.

Geez, I think after 80 responses, the OP gets the point. No need to be so nasty.

I agree. Why so harsh? If I recall, you did not like it when some woman, a NURSE I think, berated you for your DC's crying in the store for so long a few mths back. So why would you berate this poster who thought she was doing the right thing, is new to this and just learning?Homeis4U THOUGHT she was doing the right thing. And after this, she will do what she feels is best, just as you do, and we all do.

First...why can't you post under your real name? Say what you have to say without hiding.
And second my son crying in a store while I was doing my best to comfort and soothe him is not the same as putting him in a bassinet to cry himself to sleep at 2 weeks old.
I personally don't see how instinctively that could even feel like the right thing to do. I don't think she's horrible but I do think leaving newborns to cry is horrible. I'm glad she asked and I'm glad she got a lot of responses telling her how awful it is.

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Wow I am honestly shocked by some of the ways people come off on this. When I give advice to someone who is new to this I try to think how would I want feel about my post if I was looking at it from the outside in. Maybe some of us need to be a little more supportive a little less judgemental.

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Re: Putting a newborn down to sleep - am I wrong?

I didn't want to keep this thread going but I apologized to her on the thread that was started to her today. I didn't intend to come off harsh but I realize I probably did and apologized.
I always try to be supportive and I think most can attest to that.

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I knew this thread would turn ugly from page one. Though I agree with the first few posts, but it is completely unncessary to beat this dead horse. I think the OP knows what to do now.

Re: Putting a newborn down to sleep - am I wrong?

I hope they lock this thread.

Re: Putting a newborn down to sleep - am I wrong?

Re: Putting a newborn down to sleep - am I wrong?

For all the "experts" out there, what happened on this post is the reason I would never post on this board once my baby is born.

I have moved from the IF boards to the pregnancy boards and have had nothing but support and encouragement from women when even I thought something was right and it was wrong.

Its called GUIDENCE - not beat someone down when u already made them feel like $h!t. Some women here are truly ruthless - not only are they ruthless they think they are DOCTORS !!!! Telling this woman she may have PPD!!! INCREDIBLE!!!. I would love to see some of u as first time parents instead of hiding behind computers pretending to be experts and drs..

To the OP, I am sorry for u having to read some of these posts from cruel women pretty much saying ur a bad mother to possibly diagnosing u with PPD.
You asked for a response not an attack. I wish u nothing but the best for you and ur baby! Congratulations again on ur new baby girl!