Re: Spin off to who pays (dinner)

I don't necessarily think I ALLOW them too....we try every time we are out to pay, my Dad turns us down. We usually argue over it for a few minutes then settle on "fine, you pay the tip". But my Mom still buys me clothes b/c she's crazy, I never ASK her too, she just likes too! haha

Just the other day my Mom did the march for babies walk with my in NYC...I took her out to lunch afterwards, paid and I get home, open my wallet and she had shoved a 20 dollar bill in there. I could've KILLED her. lol I ended up shoving it back in her wallet secretly.

My parents enjoy doing these things.

I of course take my parents out for breakfast/dinner/lunch and before we step foot into the restaurant I make it clear that DH & I are paying.


DH's family however, usually have us pay part of the bill when we go out.

p.s. when my kids are grown, I'd do the same for them.

Message edited 5/13/2009 12:02:05 PM.

Re: Spin off to who pays (dinner)

i don't "have" them pay per say. i really just don't have a choice in the matter unless i yank the bill away. same with SO's parents. i am very grateful and appreciative of their generosity. if i dine with just one of my parents or with SO and one of my parents or just one of his, they will sometimes let us pay. however, 9x out of 10 they INSIST.

Message edited 5/13/2009 12:24:13 PM.

Re: Spin off to who pays (dinner)

my husband and I are better off than both sets of parents.

my MIL is retired and lives on a fixed income. she lives with us and we support her. gladly. she broke her back for her kids their whole life (and STILL does. she's caring for our child for us, savng us THOUSANDS on childcare costs)

I have helped to support my parents basically since I was able to get a job. they are both young, and have jobs. I don't give them any money any more, but I know that every time I go out, I will be paying for them.

my grandparents, on the other hand...it's a different story. the ONE time my grandfather let me pay for dinner with him was Christmas 2004. he died 8 months later, so it ended up being HUGE for me, b/c of all that he did for me my whole life.

my grandma STILL doesn't let me pay for stuff, unless I threaten her with violence it's been a little harder for her after my grandfather died, and she has at least 18 grandchildren, but she's always trying to do a little something.

in return, we have done grocery runs for her and not accepted repayment.

their's a whole lot that goes in to what we do and how we do it when it comes to our families. I think as long as no one feels resentful or taken advantage of, it's all good.

Susan, you can take me out if you want

Re: Spin off to who pays (dinner)

it would be my pleasure Jess. You'd be a cheap date..no booze.

Re: Spin off to who pays (dinner)

As long as it is not setting them back at all or causing them not to pay their bills I do not mind!