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mommy2bella
Where does time go?
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by muchinluvmichi
well ...Michi made a HUGE generalization and almost an accusation...that for the people who HAVE to work to afford their LIFE STYLE CHOICE....are making some excuse
if i think that--and pple dont like it..tuff sh*t..no offense im not flaming u persay but my generalization was my opinion! every1s opinion is in fact there take on the subject therefore a general comment AS THEY SEE IT...
lets move on pple..
if it's your opinion and you don't care "tuff sh*t" then I can say IN MY OPINION I think your posts on this matter are judgmental, ignorant, and extremely hard to read...
and it makes my blood boil when people attack ANY mom's situation (SAHM, WAHM, Working mom) so I am GONNA respond.
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HollaGirl
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Michi, you should stick to talking about Prison Break
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| Posted 10/11/06 8:10 PM |
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Michi
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
whatever, gosh u girls always hafta stoop to such childish comments, please get over urselves, just b/c u dont like my opinion is perfectly fine, i dont sit here and say nasty things to anyone, i just say what i think w/o being rude--UNTIL i am pushed and pushed and then i get nasty...
u "hollagirl" shoulld really geta life and stay out of mine..and in fact i would rather discuss prison break then sit here and argue with someone who is not worth arguing with
i for one, will not be opening this thread again to comment so i am considering the subject closed..
have a good nite everyone
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| Posted 10/11/06 8:13 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by hazeleyes33
Posted by monkeybride
Posted by HollaGirl
I do not want to be a SAHM. I like working to much, and working for me, is my way of contributing to the life my husband and I live. My husband already works his a$$ off so we can have the things we have. If I stopped working, he would work twice as hard, and that is not fair to him. My ideal situation would be to work Part Time for the first year, then go back to work full time.
What is so bad about day care? Children THRIVE at daycare. They learn how to play with other children, share, read, etc. Not saying I couldnt teach my child that, but quite honestly, it is worth the money for me to drop my son/daughter off, to play with other children all day, and have a good time, then for me to sit home all day with him/her.
And I may be selfish, but I am not going to drive a jaloppi, just to have a child, or move away from my family, to have a child. Why would I take my kid away from my family?
Not saying there is anything wrong with your thinking but you might be surprised how your feelings change once you are pregnant and have a baby of your own. Maybe they won't change and that's fine too. I was amazed at how much my thinking on a lot of things changed when I had my DD, actually once I got pregnant.
Your feelings can change, but your income is most likely not going to in the 3 months of maternity leave. I don't want my dh working 2 or 3 jobs so I can stay home. I would love to stay home but I don't think it is fair (even if the dh is ok with it) to do that to your husband. If your dh HAS to work 2 jobs so you can be home, then you shouldn't be home. That is just my opinion.
I agree with that because IMO that can really cut into the quality of family time and possibly build some resentments. But of course not to upset anyone this does work for some people and that's great. I personally would go back to work FT before I would have DH work 2 jobs.
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| Posted 10/11/06 8:24 PM |
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HollaGirl
Merry Christmas !!!
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by muchinluvmichi
whatever, gosh u girls always hafta stoop to such childish comments, please get over urselves, just b/c u dont like my opinion is perfectly fine, i dont sit here and say nasty things to anyone, i just say what i think w/o being rude--UNTIL i am pushed and pushed and then i get nasty...
u "hollagirl" shoulld really geta life and stay out of mine..and in fact i would rather discuss prison break then sit here and argue with someone who is not worth arguing with
i for one, will not be opening this thread again to comment so i am considering the subject closed..
have a good nite everyone
I have a life. I dont have time to make collages .
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| Posted 10/11/06 8:26 PM |
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ggt08
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
i think it is a matter of personal choice.
I am NOT a mom, but as of now, and I know it could change, I would not want to be a SAHM... I worked very hard for my career and even chose teaching because it is condusive to having children..
even if I did have enough money, I don't think I am the SAHM type... Is that wrong to say, no.. it is my personal choice...
I think that its the quality of time you spend with your children, not always quantity. Kids thrive in many different atmospheres, be it at home or daycare..
I see my sister with her daughter, who goes to day care full time- I dont think she is suffering one bit from having a working mom.
times have changed for women as opposed to years ago. More women are in the work force, have careers, and do not stay at home. some choose to.. either way, we should not be knocking peoples personal choices and reasons why...
Who says you cant have both worlds, or at least try!!!! 
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| Posted 10/11/06 8:56 PM |
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mommy2bella
Where does time go?
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by muchinluvmichi
whatever, gosh u girls always hafta stoop to such childish comments, please get over urselves, just b/c u dont like my opinion is perfectly fine, i dont sit here and say nasty things to anyone, i just say what i think w/o being rude--UNTIL i am pushed and pushed and then i get nasty...
i for one, will not be opening this thread again to comment so i am considering the subject closed..
have a good nite everyone
I wasn't attacking you, I was attacking your comments...opinions can be heated...and you raised my temp
w/ur posts
nighty-night
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| Posted 10/11/06 9:01 PM |
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Faithx2
All good things in 2016!!
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by prncssrachel
Hmm, just reading back on the thread now. All I have to say is this....
You may think you know what you want and you may think you have it all worked out, but until you actually experience being a parent, you really don't know. And I'm not saying that's a bad thing, that's just the way it is. I thought I KNEW even when I was pregnant. We had it all worked out, but life happens and things don't always go as planned. I planned to breast feed my daughter, hell, I even had the back-up plan for using formula if breast feeding didn't work out. Well, it didn't work out, and guess what? Neither did formula feeding my daughter. Now I pay between 600-800 dollars a month just on her formula. That's not including her diapers, wipes, clothes, toys, books, etc. That's JUST her formula. So, like I said, plan away, just never say never and don't get stuck thinking you have it all figured out. Best laid plans....
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| Posted 10/11/06 9:22 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by muchinluvmichi
whatever, gosh u girls always hafta stoop to such childish comments, please get over urselves, just b/c u dont like my opinion is perfectly fine, i dont sit here and say nasty things to anyone, i just say what i think w/o being rude--UNTIL i am pushed and pushed and then i get nasty...
u "hollagirl" shoulld really geta life and stay out of mine..and in fact i would rather discuss prison break then sit here and argue with someone who is not worth arguing with
i for one, will not be opening this thread again to comment so i am considering the subject closed..
have a good nite everyone
Maybe the issue is that she doesn't know what an opinion is - what she did was render a ridiculous speculation on that people use money as an excuse for...um....wait ...because (gasp!) someone of us want to be self-supporting, role models and not stay home with our children?
I only hope that this board & I are around when she does have children to see her opinions then.
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| Posted 10/11/06 9:46 PM |
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pmpkn087
Life is good...
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
There is a huge difference between your opinion and general, hurtful comments.
Opinion: "I would like to be a SAHM", "I will be a SAHM", "I think a mother should stay home with her child if she can afford to do so."
NOT Opinion: "Mothers that work can and should make sacrafices to be home with their children", "where there is a will, there is a way", "being a working mom is a choice that you make", "children thrive more if they have a SAHM"
See the difference? It's not the opinions that are hurtful to people, it is the comments that surround the opinions.
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| Posted 10/11/06 9:48 PM |
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Faithx2
All good things in 2016!!
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
I am fortunate that I am able to only work 12 hours a week and stay home with my daughter. It is very important that my daughter sees & understands how powerful an educated women is. Yes I can stay home but I can also use a degree I worked very hard for. You do what you have to do to make it work. No one has the right to judge any women until they experience it themselves.
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| Posted 10/11/06 9:51 PM |
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Buttafli1277
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
I was just wondering for those who aren't SAHM's or don't plan on being one, who will watch your child while your at work?
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:11 PM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by Buttafli1277
I was just wondering for those who aren't SAHM's or don't plan on being one, who will watch your child while your at work?
my mom and daycare
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:12 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by Buttafli1277
I was just wondering for those who aren't SAHM's or don't plan on being one, who will watch your child while your at work?
I'm so glad you asked.....
My husband and I made the sacrifice of quality time together during the work week so that he could stay home and watch the baby during the day, while I go to work, then we switch. He works the nights while stay with the baby.
Then we have all of our weekends and holidays together.
I consider myself and my family having the best of both worlds. JT and I are both "stay-at-home" parents, just on different shifts
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:16 PM |
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steph4777
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by Buttafli1277
I was just wondering for those who aren't SAHM's or don't plan on being one, who will watch your child while your at work?
My son is in daycare full time. In the next two years, my mom plans to move to Chicago and she said that she wants to watch the kids for us.
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:18 PM |
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Eva Luna
Be kind...life's hard!
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
OMG I can't believe this is still going on. 
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:27 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by prncssrachel
Posted by Buttafli1277
I was just wondering for those who aren't SAHM's or don't plan on being one, who will watch your child while your at work?
I'm so glad you asked.....
My husband and I made the sacrifice of quality time together during the work week so that he could stay home and watch the baby during the day, while I go to work, then we switch. He works the nights while stay with the baby.
Then we have all of our weekends and holidays together.
I consider myself and my family having the best of both worlds. JT and I are both "stay-at-home" parents, just on different shifts
I think you're just making an excuse saying it's about money...
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:34 PM |
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BaroqueMama
Chase is one!
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by nrthshgrl
Posted by prncssrachel
Posted by Buttafli1277
I was just wondering for those who aren't SAHM's or don't plan on being one, who will watch your child while your at work?
I'm so glad you asked.....
My husband and I made the sacrifice of quality time together during the work week so that he could stay home and watch the baby during the day, while I go to work, then we switch. He works the nights while stay with the baby.
Then we have all of our weekends and holidays together.
I consider myself and my family having the best of both worlds. JT and I are both "stay-at-home" parents, just on different shifts
I think you're just making an excuse saying it's about money...
You know us working moms, always making excuses. I guess it comes with the territory
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:35 PM |
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Moehick
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by Buttafli1277
I was just wondering for those who aren't SAHM's or don't plan on being one, who will watch your child while your at work?
My dad watches her right now
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| Posted 10/11/06 10:36 PM |
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Nancy
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
I don't have time to read all the responses. I gave up my career to be a SAHM. I've given up a lot and some of my closest friends ( some here) know what I've given up and what I've struggled with. I, personally, wouldn't change it. Perhaps it's because I saw my parents do the same with 7 kids.
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| Posted 10/11/06 11:18 PM |
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Freddie
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
threads like these always make me sad.
We, as women, need to SUPPORT each other in any CHOICE that we make. The glass ceiling (of life in general) will always be there if we can't stand on each other's shoulders.
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| Posted 10/12/06 9:40 AM |
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unknown1
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by Freddie
threads like these always make me sad.
We, as women, need to SUPPORT each other in any CHOICE that we make. The glass ceiling (of life in general) will always be there if we can't stand on each other's shoulders.
Unfortunately it won't happen ...
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| Posted 10/12/06 9:47 AM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
I've been a SAHM for a year and a half now and it's a great experience. I'm ready to go back to work now. We need the extra money because we're buying a house and I need to get out and have some sort of life too....plus I just want to contribute to the house with the $$$$$.
I've loved staying home with my son...I've seen everything that he did...but I think he also needs to socialize with other kids and be with other people besides me...
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| Posted 10/12/06 9:47 AM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
I am going to do whatever it takes to be home with the kids for the early years. After awhile I might leave them with my mom, if possible to work part time a day or twoa week, just to keep myself going, and have some time out of the house. Or, since my work is at night, I might be able to alternate with DH at some point.
My mom was a SAHM and I also had my grandma here, and I never once in my life went to daycare or a babysitter. EVER.
I really appreciate that. I was always with family, and that's how I want to keep it for my kids.
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| Posted 10/12/06 9:56 AM |
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june262004
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
I would love to be a SAHM. When I was little I would tell people thats what I wanted to be when I grew up... BUT then I grew up. I now have a house (and A 12 year old car btw) And I "hafta" work. I can't afford to stay home. Unless my DH could make another 1500.00 a month to pay the mortgage and bills on his own. 
I have responsibilities and don't have children yet. we have been putting TTC off because of how much it cost.
You always have to think of the BIGGER picture.
NOW some people can do it and Im jealous Really I think its awesome! But its an opinion...
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| Posted 10/12/06 11:17 AM |
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