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Stacey1403
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by mommy2bellabean
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Being a mother or parent is a full time job..unfortunatly its not one you get paid for but i think the other 'rewards' are worth any money any job can offer..i kno plenty of families who make verry little and seem to survive, i think its all a matter of perception, balance, and what is most important to your family as a whole... I am not knocking women who work..and can see why some pple may be the one who holds the benefits in the family or makes more money then there hubby so they "hafta" work..but then again thats a choice that family makes when they have children..as i said if i personally couldnt stay home at least part time, then i wouldnt have children..
Honestly, I wasn't gonna come into this so late, but lord girl you keep saying you aren't knocking, but there's all sorts of judging in this and your above statements...I AM a FT working mom...
I admire all SAHM's....it is a huge undertaking (and for most women life-changing as they go from career to SAHM)
For me, I would never be able to be a SAHM, FOR ME. No matter how much money DH made or benefits he had or whatever, I have to work. I work FT and am a FT mother. 24/7 my thoughts and actions are mostly based on Bella and her needs. She is thriving in daycare and SOOO outgoing. The bond we share is unbelievable and I cannot imagine it any different if I was home all day.
I just don't think that someone who isn't TTC or expecting or has a child can really speak in definites like this...EVERTHING changes when you get PG and EVERYTHING changes when that little peanut is laid into your arms.
It's a lifetime commitment...not a job.
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Eva Luna
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by SweetestOfPeas
I just want to add that while at my former job, the kids I have seen coming out of that daycare were SO SMART! some of them are READING by the age of 3. and not just 1 word. my friend has a 3 yr old who can barely speak.
YES!!
My mom was NOT a SAHM and I too read by the time I was 3.
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CookiePuss
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by mommy2bellabean
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Being a mother or parent is a full time job..unfortunatly its not one you get paid for but i think the other 'rewards' are worth any money any job can offer..i kno plenty of families who make verry little and seem to survive, i think its all a matter of perception, balance, and what is most important to your family as a whole... I am not knocking women who work..and can see why some pple may be the one who holds the benefits in the family or makes more money then there hubby so they "hafta" work..but then again thats a choice that family makes when they have children..as i said if i personally couldnt stay home at least part time, then i wouldnt have children..
Honestly, I wasn't gonna come into this so late, but lord girl you keep saying you aren't knocking, but there's all sorts of judging in this and your above statements...I AM a FT working mom...
I admire all SAHM's....it is a huge undertaking (and for most women life-changing as they go from career to SAHM)
For me, I would never be able to be a SAHM, FOR ME. No matter how much money DH made or benefits he had or whatever, I have to work. I work FT and am a FT mother. 24/7 my thoughts and actions are mostly based on Bella and her needs. She is thriving in daycare and SOOO outgoing. The bond we share is unbelievable and I cannot imagine it any different if I was home all day.
I just don't think that someone who isn't TTC or expecting or has a child can really speak in definites like this...EVERTHING changes when you get PG and EVERYTHING changes when that little peanut is laid into your arms.
It's a lifetime commitment...not a job.
Well said
To muchinluvmichi - I do hope everything turns out for you just as you are planning.
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Beth
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by steph4777
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also I really have no desire to adjust my life style b/c I have childern- that's just my opinion
Believe me while you may not have the desire now but, your lifestyle will change somewhat when you have kids. What seems important to you now may have absolutely no importance when you have a child. It's just something that kinda happens even without thinking about it.
well I might not spend the money on myself- but I will want to spend it on my kids- that's what happened to my Mom when she had me
I can't see myself not wanting to do all the things I do- like shop, eat out, and go on trips- I still think it's important to be yourself after you have a baby
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by mommy2bellabean
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Being a mother or parent is a full time job..unfortunatly its not one you get paid for but i think the other 'rewards' are worth any money any job can offer..i kno plenty of families who make verry little and seem to survive, i think its all a matter of perception, balance, and what is most important to your family as a whole... I am not knocking women who work..and can see why some pple may be the one who holds the benefits in the family or makes more money then there hubby so they "hafta" work..but then again thats a choice that family makes when they have children..as i said if i personally couldnt stay home at least part time, then i wouldnt have children..
Honestly, I wasn't gonna come into this so late, but lord girl you keep saying you aren't knocking, but there's all sorts of judging in this and your above statements...I AM a FT working mom...
I admire all SAHM's....it is a huge undertaking (and for most women life-changing as they go from career to SAHM)
For me, I would never be able to be a SAHM, FOR ME. No matter how much money DH made or benefits he had or whatever, I have to work. I work FT and am a FT mother. 24/7 my thoughts and actions are mostly based on Bella and her needs. She is thriving in daycare and SOOO outgoing. The bond we share is unbelievable and I cannot imagine it any different if I was home all day.
I just don't think that someone who isn't TTC or expecting or has a child can really speak in definites like this...EVERTHING changes when you get PG and EVERYTHING changes when that little peanut is laid into your arms.
It's a lifetime commitment...not a job.
(Especially that last line)
I have to say something too. Because what I think Michi is not taking into account that it's not just about money if you have to work... it's not as simple as giving up a few things, it's not just about paying the bills - it's changing your entire quality of life, which carries onto your child.
You have to look at the big picture. I'm a FT working mom. Theoretically, we could sell our house, move out east, live on one car (how, I don't know), give up cable, cell phones, every possible little "luxury" if you will, have DH have a horrible commute and work 2 jobs, and maybe I'd be able to be a SAHM. But I can tell you right now that neither one of us would be happy with that...in fact, we'd be miserable... and Jake would suffer for that too, in one way or another.
Being a FT working mom is not easy and I will admit that working PT is looking pretty good right now. But I can tell you from first hand experience that finding part time child care (unless you have family around) is no small feat.
Everyone has to do what works for them. To say that you wouldn't have kids if you couldn't stay home at least PT... shows that you are looking at having children in a naive way, IMO. I don't mean that in a bad way... it's just like many people have said already - sometimes you can't say until you've been there.
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by Beth1210
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Posted by Beth1210
also I really have no desire to adjust my life style b/c I have childern- that's just my opinion
Believe me while you may not have the desire now but, your lifestyle will change somewhat when you have kids. What seems important to you now may have absolutely no importance when you have a child. It's just something that kinda happens even without thinking about it.
well I might not spend the money on myself- but I will want to spend it on my kids- that's what happened to my Mom when she had me
I can't see myself not wanting to do all the things I do- like shop, eat out, and go on trips- I still think it's important to be yourself after you have a baby
Oh of course, I totally agree with being yourself. You just plan some of those things around naps/feedings, etc... or when you can get someone to watch the baby for you to have some alone time.
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| Posted 10/11/06 2:15 PM |
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Tany
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
I was for a whole year of her life but found a job that allowed me to work and spend the rest of the day with her.
We needed the money.
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
ok.. i voted "can't afford to".... jsut because it seemed like the easiest decision maker...
in reality, if it were a huge Priority of ours... we *could* make it work, but with more sacrifices than i'm willing to make.
Honestly though, i love the idea of not *having* to be at work, b/c it seems more free spirited.. BUT, with kids, i dont think youre really afforded the option of being a "free spirit".. so that would negate my whole reason for wanting to be a SAHM.
for ME PERSONALLY (not making a sweeping generalization about ANYONE's work/at home situation)... But, i really don't think that i would feel personally Fulfilled with only being a mom. Now, i dont mean "only" as if it should devalue the role of motherhood and ALL that it encompasses... but, i've worked really hard in school- i still do, and probably always will continue in my education in one way or another- and i feel like i would wasting my talents by not exercising them in my field. NO, this does NOT mean that i think that SAHM are wasting their talent, but that MY HAPPINESS and sense of fulfillment comes from wearing many hats... and feeling like i'm making my OWN contribution to the world.
I'm sure that there will be days that i feel jealous of the SAHM's because i just want to stay home and playwith my babies all day.... and maybe my whole opinion of what important VS. what's Not...will all change when my kids are born. but, knowing my personality... i dont think i'd be able to stay home for very long before going stir crazy 
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steph4777
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by BabyAvocado
Posted by mommy2bellabean
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Being a mother or parent is a full time job..unfortunatly its not one you get paid for but i think the other 'rewards' are worth any money any job can offer..i kno plenty of families who make verry little and seem to survive, i think its all a matter of perception, balance, and what is most important to your family as a whole... I am not knocking women who work..and can see why some pple may be the one who holds the benefits in the family or makes more money then there hubby so they "hafta" work..but then again thats a choice that family makes when they have children..as i said if i personally couldnt stay home at least part time, then i wouldnt have children..
Honestly, I wasn't gonna come into this so late, but lord girl you keep saying you aren't knocking, but there's all sorts of judging in this and your above statements...I AM a FT working mom...
I admire all SAHM's....it is a huge undertaking (and for most women life-changing as they go from career to SAHM)
For me, I would never be able to be a SAHM, FOR ME. No matter how much money DH made or benefits he had or whatever, I have to work. I work FT and am a FT mother. 24/7 my thoughts and actions are mostly based on Bella and her needs. She is thriving in daycare and SOOO outgoing. The bond we share is unbelievable and I cannot imagine it any different if I was home all day.
I just don't think that someone who isn't TTC or expecting or has a child can really speak in definites like this...EVERTHING changes when you get PG and EVERYTHING changes when that little peanut is laid into your arms.
It's a lifetime commitment...not a job.
(Especially that last line)
I have to say something too. Because what I think Michi is not taking into account that it's not just about money if you have to work... it's not as simple as giving up a few things, it's not just about paying the bills - it's changing your entire quality of life, which carries onto your child.
You have to look at the big picture. I'm a FT working mom. Theoretically, we could sell our house, move out east, live on one car (how, I don't know), give up cable, cell phones, every possible little "luxury" if you will, have DH have a horrible commute and work 2 jobs, and maybe I'd be able to be a SAHM. But I can tell you right now that neither one of us would be happy with that...in fact, we'd be miserable... and Jake would suffer for that too, in one way or another.
Being a FT working mom is not easy and I will admit that working PT is looking pretty good right now. But I can tell you from first hand experience that finding part time child care (unless you have family around) is no small feat.
Everyone has to do what works for them. To say that you wouldn't have kids if you couldn't stay home at least PT... shows that you are looking at having children in a naive way, IMO. I don't mean that in a bad way... it's just like many people have said already - sometimes you can't say until you've been there.
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| Posted 10/11/06 2:18 PM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Being a mother or parent is a full time job..unfortunatly its not one you get paid for but i think the other 'rewards' are worth any money any job can offer..i kno plenty of families who make verry little and seem to survive, i think its all a matter of perception, balance, and what is most important to your family as a whole... I am not knocking women who work..and can see why some pple may be the one who holds the benefits in the family or makes more money then there hubby so they "hafta" work..but then again thats a choice that family makes when they have children..as i said if i personally couldnt stay home at least part time, then i wouldnt have children..
I happen to be one of those women who "hafta" work because I make more money and have the benefits. It's not a *choice* it is the *reality*. Sometimes you don't get a choice.
Sure, I can make sacrifices...but I think my kid would like to eat.
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| Posted 10/11/06 2:42 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by muchinluvmichi
I only will have children if i can be a sahm or ONLY work PT.. I believe that kids (especially when they r younger) need a parent who is home a majority of the time..
Personally I think pple use money as an excuse.. that the cost of living is high and they need 2 incomes, but honestly i think whatever financial sacrifices need to be made are worth it to be home with my child for a few yrs...
example..only having 1 old car, not 2 new ones... dont live in a location where living is overly expensive..
there are always some type of sacrifice to be made, in some way if someone really wanted to stay home with there kids it can be done..especially when half the time that 2nd income goes to daycare anyway..
no offense to any1 here this is just my opinion and what i feel would be good for me and one day my family
jmo hope i dont offend any1
eta: sahm until kids become school age, then id go back to work
 I CAN'T HELP BUT AMUSE MYSELF READING THIS OVER AND OVER .. YOU SEEM TO KNOW ALOT ...
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Michi
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by unbelievable
Posted by muchinluvmichi
I only will have children if i can be a sahm or ONLY work PT.. I believe that kids (especially when they r younger) need a parent who is home a majority of the time..
Personally I think pple use money as an excuse.. that the cost of living is high and they need 2 incomes, but honestly i think whatever financial sacrifices need to be made are worth it to be home with my child for a few yrs...
example..only having 1 old car, not 2 new ones... dont live in a location where living is overly expensive..
there are always some type of sacrifice to be made, in some way if someone really wanted to stay home with there kids it can be done..especially when half the time that 2nd income goes to daycare anyway..
no offense to any1 here this is just my opinion and what i feel would be good for me and one day my family
jmo hope i dont offend any1
eta: sahm until kids become school age, then id go back to work
I CAN'T HELP BUT AMUSE MYSELF READING THIS OVER AND OVER .. YOU SEEM TO KNOW ALOT ...
if you have time to read this over and over perhaps u should get a hobby
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by unbelievable
Posted by muchinluvmichi
I only will have children if i can be a sahm or ONLY work PT.. I believe that kids (especially when they r younger) need a parent who is home a majority of the time..
Personally I think pple use money as an excuse.. that the cost of living is high and they need 2 incomes, but honestly i think whatever financial sacrifices need to be made are worth it to be home with my child for a few yrs...
example..only having 1 old car, not 2 new ones... dont live in a location where living is overly expensive..
there are always some type of sacrifice to be made, in some way if someone really wanted to stay home with there kids it can be done..especially when half the time that 2nd income goes to daycare anyway..
no offense to any1 here this is just my opinion and what i feel would be good for me and one day my family
jmo hope i dont offend any1
eta: sahm until kids become school age, then id go back to work
I CAN'T HELP BUT AMUSE MYSELF READING THIS OVER AND OVER .. YOU SEEM TO KNOW ALOT ...
if you have time to read this over and over perhaps u should get a hobby
no need your post amuses me enough but thanks !
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
I'm working so my DH doesn't have to work a lick of OT and we can both spend time for the kids. So I guess I would be considered making an excuse...
Let's cut Michi a break. For the moms - we've all been there when we didn't have kids - and had plans on how things were going to go. I truly do hope your plan does work out the way you want. Often times it doesn't - make sure you have Plan B.
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Michi
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by nrthshgrl
I'm working so my DH doesn't have to work a lick of OT and we can both spend time for the kids. So I guess I would be considered making an excuse...
Let's cut Michi a break. For the moms - we've all been there when we didn't have kids - and had plans on how things were going to go. I truly do hope your plan does work out the way you want. Often times it doesn't - make sure you have Plan B.
honeslty i think its funny how pple on these boards r not aloud to have opinions, whether i have kids or not.....what i stated is my opinion..if pple dont like it its really to bad unfortunatly, i dont agree with every1 but thy r entitled to feel how they feel as am i
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| Posted 10/11/06 4:47 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by nrthshgrl
I'm working so my DH doesn't have to work a lick of OT and we can both spend time for the kids. So I guess I would be considered making an excuse...
Let's cut Michi a break. For the moms - we've all been there when we didn't have kids - and had plans on how things were going to go. I truly do hope your plan does work out the way you want. Often times it doesn't - make sure you have Plan B.
honeslty i think its funny how pple on these boards r not aloud to have opinions, whether i have kids or not.....what i stated is my opinion..if pple dont like it its really to bad unfortunatly, i dont agree with every1 but thy r entitled to feel how they feel as am i
Your entitled to your opinion but I think you insulted a lot of people hence the backlash ,,,, and to have an opinion on something you knw nothing about to me is ******* Silly
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Bxgell2
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
WHOA! Ok, people, let's try to remember something about the SAHM v. Working Mom debate - that it doesn't always, and often doesn't, come down to money. While for some it does, and in that situation, I think it's truly dismaying that a woman who would like to stay at home can't because of finances, for many others, it has absolutely NOTHING to do with money (i.e. ME). There are a multitude of reasons why someone wouldn't want to be a SAHM - for me, it's because I see myself in many roles - mother, wife, and attorney. I have dreamt of being an attorney since I was 6 years old. I worked my butt off in school and in law school, got my degree, and passed the bar in PA and NJ. One year later, I had my daughter, and let me tell you, I love her more than I could ever fathom loving another creature - BUT, my goals and aspirations that started from when I was 6 years old did not just "dissipate" into thin air the moment I delivered. I still have those dreams for myself, and I truly believe that by going for them with all my heart, I'm setting a truly wonderful example to my daughter by showing her that women CAN and SHOULD have many roles, and that she can pursue whatever she wants - that just because she's a woman does not mean that she has to put all of her dreams on the back burner to have a family. Is it hard? Yes, I would never deny that. But, I'm trugging through, and honestly, if I can do it - raise a one year old daughter, without any family to help, and as a trial attorney, well then, I think most people can do it - it just takes prioritzing - no, I don't watch TV and I have absolutely NO clue when all of the ladies on here post about the latest television series. And I don't make elaborate meals for my family, due to time, but you know what? Those things don't matter - what matters is the time I spend with my daughter is beyond quality, and the time I spend at work is also challenging, stimulating and most of the time, quality. So my point is this comes down to PERSONALITY - some women have the SAHM gene, some women have the working gene, just like some like vanilla, some like chocolate. None are better than the others... we can all kick butt in whatever decision we make!
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Michi
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by unbelievable
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by nrthshgrl
I'm working so my DH doesn't have to work a lick of OT and we can both spend time for the kids. So I guess I would be considered making an excuse...
Let's cut Michi a break. For the moms - we've all been there when we didn't have kids - and had plans on how things were going to go. I truly do hope your plan does work out the way you want. Often times it doesn't - make sure you have Plan B.
honeslty i think its funny how pple on these boards r not aloud to have opinions, whether i have kids or not.....what i stated is my opinion..if pple dont like it its really to bad unfortunatly, i dont agree with every1 but thy r entitled to feel how they feel as am i
Your entitled to your opinion but I think you insulted a lot of people hence the backlash ,,,, and to have an opinion on something you knw nothing about to me is ******* Silly
do u even have kids? lol
just b/c i dont i was stating my personal opinion and how i would do things last time i checked i was aloud to voice my opinion, just like every other person on this board..so if any1 was offedned that was not my intention, if they dont like my opinion..well then i cant help that
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| Posted 10/11/06 4:55 PM |
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by unbelievable
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by nrthshgrl
I'm working so my DH doesn't have to work a lick of OT and we can both spend time for the kids. So I guess I would be considered making an excuse...
Let's cut Michi a break. For the moms - we've all been there when we didn't have kids - and had plans on how things were going to go. I truly do hope your plan does work out the way you want. Often times it doesn't - make sure you have Plan B.
honeslty i think its funny how pple on these boards r not aloud to have opinions, whether i have kids or not.....what i stated is my opinion..if pple dont like it its really to bad unfortunatly, i dont agree with every1 but thy r entitled to feel how they feel as am i
Your entitled to your opinion but I think you insulted a lot of people hence the backlash ,,,, and to have an opinion on something you knw nothing about to me is ******* Silly
do u even have kids? lol
just b/c i dont i was stating my personal opinion and how i would do things last time i checked i was aloud to voice my opinion, just like every other person on this board..so if any1 was offedned that was not my intention, if they dont like my opinion..well then i cant help that
Acutally I am 5 months pregnant & will return back to work FT .... Unfortunately that's life ...
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by unbelievable
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by nrthshgrl
I'm working so my DH doesn't have to work a lick of OT and we can both spend time for the kids. So I guess I would be considered making an excuse...
Let's cut Michi a break. For the moms - we've all been there when we didn't have kids - and had plans on how things were going to go. I truly do hope your plan does work out the way you want. Often times it doesn't - make sure you have Plan B.
honeslty i think its funny how pple on these boards r not aloud to have opinions, whether i have kids or not.....what i stated is my opinion..if pple dont like it its really to bad unfortunatly, i dont agree with every1 but thy r entitled to feel how they feel as am i
Your entitled to your opinion but I think you insulted a lot of people hence the backlash ,,,, and to have an opinion on something you knw nothing about to me is ******* Silly
do u even have kids? lol
just b/c i dont i was stating my personal opinion and how i would do things last time i checked i was aloud to voice my opinion, just like every other person on this board..so if any1 was offedned that was not my intention, if they dont like my opinion..well then i cant help that
Hey Michi - for once, it seems that we have the same opinion.  (see the other SAHM thread).
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Michi
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by johnsae
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by unbelievable
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by nrthshgrl
I'm working so my DH doesn't have to work a lick of OT and we can both spend time for the kids. So I guess I would be considered making an excuse...
Let's cut Michi a break. For the moms - we've all been there when we didn't have kids - and had plans on how things were going to go. I truly do hope your plan does work out the way you want. Often times it doesn't - make sure you have Plan B.
honeslty i think its funny how pple on these boards r not aloud to have opinions, whether i have kids or not.....what i stated is my opinion..if pple dont like it its really to bad unfortunatly, i dont agree with every1 but thy r entitled to feel how they feel as am i
Your entitled to your opinion but I think you insulted a lot of people hence the backlash ,,,, and to have an opinion on something you knw nothing about to me is ******* Silly
do u even have kids? lol
just b/c i dont i was stating my personal opinion and how i would do things last time i checked i was aloud to voice my opinion, just like every other person on this board..so if any1 was offedned that was not my intention, if they dont like my opinion..well then i cant help that
Hey Michi - for once, it seems that we have the same opinion. (see the other SAHM thread).
I kno! lol... im trying to keep up but so many pages of threads and im getting it all confused :)
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| Posted 10/11/06 4:57 PM |
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Michi
My Love
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by unbelievable
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by unbelievable
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by nrthshgrl
I'm working so my DH doesn't have to work a lick of OT and we can both spend time for the kids. So I guess I would be considered making an excuse...
Let's cut Michi a break. For the moms - we've all been there when we didn't have kids - and had plans on how things were going to go. I truly do hope your plan does work out the way you want. Often times it doesn't - make sure you have Plan B.
honeslty i think its funny how pple on these boards r not aloud to have opinions, whether i have kids or not.....what i stated is my opinion..if pple dont like it its really to bad unfortunatly, i dont agree with every1 but thy r entitled to feel how they feel as am i
Your entitled to your opinion but I think you insulted a lot of people hence the backlash ,,,, and to have an opinion on something you knw nothing about to me is ******* Silly
do u even have kids? lol
just b/c i dont i was stating my personal opinion and how i would do things last time i checked i was aloud to voice my opinion, just like every other person on this board..so if any1 was offedned that was not my intention, if they dont like my opinion..well then i cant help that
Acutally I am 5 months pregnant & will return back to work FT ....
and thats ur choice but please dont act like u have all the answers just b/c of the choice u have made...i will have mine and u will have urs, im not saying one is better then the other but FOR ME, i kno what will be good FOR ME..thats it
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| Posted 10/11/06 4:58 PM |
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unknown1
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by unbelievable
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by unbelievable
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by nrthshgrl
I'm working so my DH doesn't have to work a lick of OT and we can both spend time for the kids. So I guess I would be considered making an excuse...
Let's cut Michi a break. For the moms - we've all been there when we didn't have kids - and had plans on how things were going to go. I truly do hope your plan does work out the way you want. Often times it doesn't - make sure you have Plan B.
honeslty i think its funny how pple on these boards r not aloud to have opinions, whether i have kids or not.....what i stated is my opinion..if pple dont like it its really to bad unfortunatly, i dont agree with every1 but thy r entitled to feel how they feel as am i
Your entitled to your opinion but I think you insulted a lot of people hence the backlash ,,,, and to have an opinion on something you knw nothing about to me is ******* Silly
do u even have kids? lol
just b/c i dont i was stating my personal opinion and how i would do things last time i checked i was aloud to voice my opinion, just like every other person on this board..so if any1 was offedned that was not my intention, if they dont like my opinion..well then i cant help that
Acutally I am 5 months pregnant & will return back to work FT ....
and thats ur choice but please dont act like u have all the answers just b/c of the choice u have made...i will have mine and u will have urs, im not saying one is better then the other but FOR ME, i kno what will be good FOR ME..thats it
No my dear you came across with all the answers not me ...Don't generalize that PEOPLE make excuses ... and you won't get the feed back you do
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| Posted 10/11/06 5:00 PM |
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Michi
My Love
Member since 5/05 31600 total posts
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
Posted by unbelievable
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by unbelievable
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by unbelievable
Posted by muchinluvmichi
Posted by nrthshgrl
I'm working so my DH doesn't have to work a lick of OT and we can both spend time for the kids. So I guess I would be considered making an excuse...
Let's cut Michi a break. For the moms - we've all been there when we didn't have kids - and had plans on how things were going to go. I truly do hope your plan does work out the way you want. Often times it doesn't - make sure you have Plan B.
honeslty i think its funny how pple on these boards r not aloud to have opinions, whether i have kids or not.....what i stated is my opinion..if pple dont like it its really to bad unfortunatly, i dont agree with every1 but thy r entitled to feel how they feel as am i
Your entitled to your opinion but I think you insulted a lot of people hence the backlash ,,,, and to have an opinion on something you knw nothing about to me is ******* Silly
do u even have kids? lol
just b/c i dont i was stating my personal opinion and how i would do things last time i checked i was aloud to voice my opinion, just like every other person on this board..so if any1 was offedned that was not my intention, if they dont like my opinion..well then i cant help that
Acutally I am 5 months pregnant & will return back to work FT ....
and thats ur choice but please dont act like u have all the answers just b/c of the choice u have made...i will have mine and u will have urs, im not saying one is better then the other but FOR ME, i kno what will be good FOR ME..thats it
No my dear you came across with all the answers not me ...Don't generalize that PEOPLE make excuses ... and you won't get the feed back you do
whatever, at this point agree to disagree b/c i think what i think..and u think what u think...and we wont agree so id rather not waste my time arguing
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| Posted 10/11/06 5:03 PM |
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pmpkn087
Life is good...
Member since 9/05 18504 total posts
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Stephanie
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Re: Spinoff to SAHM...
It's not so much the opinions that were stated. It is the fact that a lot of us have a difficult time with returning to work and the fact that we MUST return to work. Not everything is as easy as it seems. It is so easy to judge others. But, perhaps you should think of people's feelings before telling us how it "really" is. A lot of us preggos (like myself) and new moms have a very difficult time with the fact that we will not be able to stay home. If you look at the parenting board any given day and I'm sure you can find at least one post from a working mom describing how difficult it is to have to leave their child.
Not everyone CAN sacrafice things. As I have stated in a previous post, I don't think I can sacrafice food for my kid...because that is what I would have to do.
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