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Those NOT Breastfeeding
I'm going to try just to say that I tried and then I'm probably going to give up. I know the first few days are really important and in the hospital I feel like it will be easier then when we come home (plus it's an excuse to kick people out of the room). But if I don't or can't I'm not that worried about it. SIL was so stressed out about BF to save money and health she ended up not being able to.
First time mothers have enough stress around them. Don't EVER feel guilty for a decision you and DH made about your child!!!!!! Everything is different for everyone! My BIL doesn't always give the best advice but he said to us "people will start telling you things but most of the time they don't work because each kid is different. It's annoying and frustrating so my advice to you is...I don't have any."
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Posted by Alexandra17
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We did not bf, we ff. Never feel guilty! The love you give your baby is all that matters. period.the end
this!
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| Posted 12/18/12 12:04 PM |
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
straight to formula w both my girls and i will do the same with #3.....never once felt guilty.....but do get angry when certain other mothers that do bf obsess over my choice and think they have a right to lecture me or tell me how ive done my children wrong....mind your own business and dont be concerned with my boobs and my children....i have my own opinions of the latter but i would never open my mouth to these women unless they judged me first.....so watch out for these kinds of women and dont let them bother you or try to change your mind and if necessary tell them to just that mind their own f'n business
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| Posted 12/18/12 12:44 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
With DS, I wanted to try, and at 2 am when they brought DS to me to try, the nurse told me not to smother him with my boob. I told her to turn right around and go get me some formula. Never looked back. Turned out to be the best decision FOR ME because I had to go back to work at 6 weeks and DH could help me feed the baby. Even if I had started breastfeeding, I don't think I would have stuck with it, I see friends doing it and all the power to them, it's not for me.
Went right to formula with DD, and as I'm looking at all the babies in the window during visiting hours, I comment to my family, oh look, I'm the only one formula feeding. Another family chimed in and said, 'You're smart!"
Don't explain yourself to anyone with whatever choice you make. It's YOUR choice. My children are just as healthy and happy as a BF child.
When they grow up, no one is going to care how your child was fed, just that they are happy and healthy.
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| Posted 12/18/12 12:50 PM |
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Those NOT Breastfeeding
I FF from the start didnt even try BF. I got no guilt trip and didnt feel guilty. I have a very happy and healthy baby. A nurse in the hospital even comented that he was the quietest baby in the nursery and probably because he was content from the formula. Do what is best for you and dont let people guilt trip you.
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| Posted 12/18/12 1:22 PM |
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Posted by brownie
really bothers me that even formula cans tell you to BF????
I don't understand what is confusing about this. I only BF for a short time and pumped and felt guilty and when we have our next kid I will do whatever it takes to be more successful. That being said, it's a fact that BM is best so what they wrote on the can is giving the best advice.
Not necessarily. Some medications cross over into BM and arne't safe for babies.
Parents have rights to and it's a fact happy mom = happy baby!
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| Posted 12/18/12 1:48 PM |
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Posted by Melmel821
Posted by brownie
really bothers me that even formula cans tell you to BF????
I don't understand what is confusing about this. I only BF for a short time and pumped and felt guilty and when we have our next kid I will do whatever it takes to be more successful. That being said, it's a fact that BM is best so what they wrote on the can is giving the best advice.
Not necessarily. Some medications cross over into BM and arne't safe for babies.
Parents have rights to and it's a fact happy mom = happy baby!
Obviously there are medical exclusions but otherwise BM is best...that's not my opinion. Of course parents have rights, where did I write they didn't? It's not an opinion that BM is best for babies.
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Posted by brownie
Posted by Melmel821
Posted by brownie
really bothers me that even formula cans tell you to BF????
I don't understand what is confusing about this. I only BF for a short time and pumped and felt guilty and when we have our next kid I will do whatever it takes to be more successful. That being said, it's a fact that BM is best so what they wrote on the can is giving the best advice.
Not necessarily. Some medications cross over into BM and arne't safe for babies.
Parents have rights to and it's a fact happy mom = happy baby!
Obviously there are medical exclusions but otherwise BM is best...that's not my opinion. Of course parents have rights, where did I write they didn't? It's not an opinion that BM is best for babies.
Please don't start drama over this. BF your baby if that is what you choose and let other choose what they feel what is best for their baby, themselves and their family. BM is not the best option for everyone for many reasons an saying BM is best is just a way to start drama on here.
To all the moms whether you FF it BF or a combination of. You will be doing what is best and don't let anyone tell you different or make you feel bad. The love you are giving that child matters so much more than formula or breast milk and your baby will thrive on either.
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| Posted 12/18/12 4:07 PM |
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brownie
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Posted by alli3131
Posted by brownie
Posted by Melmel821
Posted by brownie
really bothers me that even formula cans tell you to BF????
I don't understand what is confusing about this. I only BF for a short time and pumped and felt guilty and when we have our next kid I will do whatever it takes to be more successful. That being said, it's a fact that BM is best so what they wrote on the can is giving the best advice.
Not necessarily. Some medications cross over into BM and arne't safe for babies.
Parents have rights to and it's a fact happy mom = happy baby!
Obviously there are medical exclusions but otherwise BM is best...that's not my opinion. Of course parents have rights, where did I write they didn't? It's not an opinion that BM is best for babies.
Please don't start drama over this. BF your baby if that is what you choose and let other choose what they feel what is best for their baby, themselves and their family. BM is not the best option for everyone for many reasons an saying BM is best is just a way to start drama on here.
To all the moms whether you FF it BF or a combination of. You will be doing what is best and don't let anyone tell you different or make you feel bad. The love you are giving that child matters so much more than formula or breast milk and your baby will thrive on either.
I'm not starting drama, I responded to one question the OP wrote...about why the formula cans had that written on there. I BF/pumped AND used formula for my first baby...I never said anything was wrong with formula. All I said was regardless of what I did, it's a fact that BM is best. And yes, most importantly is the love and care of your baby.
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| Posted 12/18/12 4:14 PM |
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Posted by neener1211
With DS, I wanted to try, and at 2 am when they brought DS to me to try, the nurse told me not to smother him with my boob. I told her to turn right around and go get me some formula. Never looked back. Turned out to be the best decision FOR ME because I had to go back to work at 6 weeks and DH could help me feed the baby. Even if I had started breastfeeding, I don't think I would have stuck with it, I see friends doing it and all the power to them, it's not for me.
Went right to formula with DD, and as I'm looking at all the babies in the window during visiting hours, I comment to my family, oh look, I'm the only one formula feeding. Another family chimed in and said, 'You're smart!"
Don't explain yourself to anyone with whatever choice you make. It's YOUR choice. My children are just as healthy and happy as a BF child.
When they grow up, no one is going to care how your child was fed, just that they are happy and healthy.
YES! 
Do not feel pressured. I formula fed both DC and will do the same for this one.
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| Posted 12/18/12 4:33 PM |
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Melmel821
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Posted by brownie
Posted by alli3131
Posted by brownie
Posted by Melmel821
Posted by brownie
really bothers me that even formula cans tell you to BF????
I don't understand what is confusing about this. I only BF for a short time and pumped and felt guilty and when we have our next kid I will do whatever it takes to be more successful. That being said, it's a fact that BM is best so what they wrote on the can is giving the best advice.
Not necessarily. Some medications cross over into BM and arne't safe for babies.
Parents have rights to and it's a fact happy mom = happy baby!
Obviously there are medical exclusions but otherwise BM is best...that's not my opinion. Of course parents have rights, where did I write they didn't? It's not an opinion that BM is best for babies.
Please don't start drama over this. BF your baby if that is what you choose and let other choose what they feel what is best for their baby, themselves and their family. BM is not the best option for everyone for many reasons an saying BM is best is just a way to start drama on here.
To all the moms whether you FF it BF or a combination of. You will be doing what is best and don't let anyone tell you different or make you feel bad. The love you are giving that child matters so much more than formula or breast milk and your baby will thrive on either.
I'm not starting drama, I responded to one question the OP wrote...about why the formula cans had that written on there. I BF/pumped AND used formula for my first baby...I never said anything was wrong with formula. All I said was regardless of what I did, it's a fact that BM is best. And yes, most importantly is the love and care of your baby.
The original poster was looking for support. You're comment wasn't very supportive and came across judgemental.
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| Posted 12/18/12 5:16 PM |
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
I was all set on BFing. I bought the pump and all the pumping supplies. I told the hospital I wanted to BF.
BFing for me lasted about 3 unsuccessful days.
DS was in NICU so that alone made it very difficult. I had a c-section so I couldn't walk down there myself to feed him (had to wait for someone to push me down in a wheelchair...was forgotten about twice by the nurses!!!).
Whenever I tried to BF he would just scream and cry. I would get so frustrated and upset. An hour later and he'd still be crying. I'd give him a bottle and he'd be happy and satisfied 15 minutes later.
At first I felt like I was taking the easy way out. I got so upset when I would read about BM being the best on the formula cans.
5 weeks later and I am glad that I made the decision to FF. I had enough stress as it was being a new mom with a baby who had just been in NICU. For me, BFing was not worth the stress and aggravation.
It also helps DH can help by waking up to feed the baby. I also don't have to worry about pumping when I go back to work.
It's great that BFing works out so well for some women. I give them so much credit for doing it. It really is hard. But the decision to FF or BF is a personal choice and you do whats best for you and your familY!
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| Posted 12/19/12 7:29 AM |
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MommaDina
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Oh god I'm so confused ... I know its supposed to be better for LO and my DH is making me feel bad by saying I'm not going to try so now I have decided I will try and I am not making any promises ... it didn't work for my first DS and the more I keep reading about it I dont want to do it but I promised DH I would give it a shot ..
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| Posted 12/19/12 9:23 AM |
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MommaDina
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Posted by Saphire01
Posted by babyvontheway
I have no desr to breast feed.... In fact it actually creeps me out to see others breastfeed. It's just something I am very uncomfortable with. I don't think I will have any regrets
I love that you just wrote this. It's so politically incorrect to say, but I feel so uncomfortable when women BF in front of me. I can't say anything ofcourse because then there is something wrong with me. That being said, I actually would like to try BFing. But, watching others- no thanks.
this is another problem I have .. so I think if I do try I will want to pump and bottle feed ... especially because I have a teenage son .. it will be weird
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| Posted 12/19/12 9:25 AM |
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Just do what YOU feel is right.
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| Posted 12/19/12 9:38 AM |
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WHO GIVES A POO WHO GIVES A FUDGE !!
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
ummmmmmmm
did i miss something. bully
one broad out of 9834823048 made a comment about bm being better. that's it. not that she's a pos for not bf.
the op got exactly what she needed and wanted. TONS OF SUPPORT!!!
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| Posted 12/19/12 10:03 AM |
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Crashing - I always knew that I was not comfortable with the idea of BF'ing even before I was pregnant. Call it what you will, I just can't get passed the idea of it all and I know PLENTY of other women who feel the same way.
The staff at NSUH guilted me into trying to BF my DS, making me feel guilty that I didn't even want to try and that I wasn't choosing the best option 
Long story short - after the 5th nurse ran her guilt lines on me all within 2 hours of giving birth to DS, I gave in and tried to BF.
The second the nurse left the room, I broke down crying unable to look at DS because I was so uncomfortable and had to have DH take him from me and go hunt down some formula for him. 
DH was so angry at the constant pushing of BF'ing that he marched right up to the nurses station and demanded that it be put on my chart to NOT bring the subject up again.
Do what YOU feel comfortable with. DO NOT get guilted into doing something you know for certain you will not want to do. There is nothing wrong with FF'ing your baby.
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| Posted 12/19/12 11:59 AM |
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BriBri2u
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Posted by MommaDina
Oh god I'm so confused ... I know its supposed to be better for LO and my DH is making me feel bad by saying I'm not going to try so now I have decided I will try and I am not making any promises ... it didn't work for my first DS and the more I keep reading about it I dont want to do it but I promised DH I would give it a shot ..
My DH was trying to pull the guilt stuff on my as well during my pregnancy. I basically told him to shove it and to come back to me when he grows milk producing breasts 
To me this was my decision alone to make, just like I left it up to him to decide if DS would be circumsized.
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| Posted 12/19/12 12:00 PM |
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Mama2Max
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Don't feel guilty! There are about a million things people will tell you is best for baby - so you might as well get used to everyone having their opinions and sticking with what works for you and your family! (and I'm imagining this doesn't stop at babyhood...)
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Posted by BriBri2u
Posted by MommaDina
Oh god I'm so confused ... I know its supposed to be better for LO and my DH is making me feel bad by saying I'm not going to try so now I have decided I will try and I am not making any promises ... it didn't work for my first DS and the more I keep reading about it I dont want to do it but I promised DH I would give it a shot ..
My DH was trying to pull the guilt stuff on my as well during my pregnancy. I basically told him to shove it and to come back to me when he grows milk producing breasts
To me this was my decision alone to make, just like I left it up to him to decide if DS would be circumsized.
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Melmel821
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Posted by MRsFaTThead
ummmmmmmm
did i miss something. bully
one broad out of 9834823048 made a comment about bm being better. that's it. not that she's a pos for not bf.
the op got exactly what she needed and wanted. TONS OF SUPPORT!!!
I just felt the comment made wasn't very supportive or accurate and I pointed it out. I don't think it was bullying.
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Those NOT Breastfeeding
Crashing - I FF both of my boys. I didn't even try to BF.
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Posted by Melmel821
Posted by MRsFaTThead
ummmmmmmm
did i miss something. bully
one broad out of 9834823048 made a comment about bm being better. that's it. not that she's a pos for not bf.
the op got exactly what she needed and wanted. TONS OF SUPPORT!!!
I just felt the comment made wasn't very supportive or accurate and I pointed it out. I don't think it was bullying.
NOT looking to start drama here, but I'm sure it will be viewed as drama...but her statement was 100% accurate. BM IS what is best for baby's health. Even the formula companies admit this - hence why they print it on their packaging. It may not be what is best for many people (and that is why formula is a GREAT alternative) but it is a fact and not an opinion that BM is best for babies.
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Re: Those NOT Breastfeeding
Posted by brownie
Posted by Melmel821
Posted by brownie
really bothers me that even formula cans tell you to BF????
I don't understand what is confusing about this. I only BF for a short time and pumped and felt guilty and when we have our next kid I will do whatever it takes to be more successful. That being said, it's a fact that BM is best so what they wrote on the can is giving the best advice.
Not necessarily. Some medications cross over into BM and arne't safe for babies.
Parents have rights to and it's a fact happy mom = happy baby!
Obviously there are medical exclusions but otherwise BM is best...that's not my opinion. Of course parents have rights, where did I write they didn't? It's not an opinion that BM is best for babies.
I just took what the poster said, to mean, that it "bothers" her like its giving her more guilt and making her re-think but not that she doesn't believe that its true.
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