Re: Big PROBLEM w/ naming our child....opinions please

I would just like to add that no matter what you name the child everyone will love it but before he/she is born you will hear a million and one different opinions about the name you picked.
for ex: DH & I are set on Victoria for our baby girl, we were since we started dating. Now all of a sudden everyone has great advice - oh she's going to be a snob, oh there are so many victorias out there, please dont name her that,
it goes on and on - in the end you cant make everyone happy. utlimately it is your and DH decision and if thats what you decided on in the beginning then stick to it. I know how it feels when people start telling you this and that and it makes you rethink everything. In the end I think everything will be ok . And as far as the MY BOY, yeah i can see how you reacted but some people just speak like that - my good friend always says to me - say hi to my victoria or something like that

Re: Big PROBLEM w/ naming our child....opinions please

I thinking naming your little boy Christopher is wonderful. Especially being you said you would have no problems with this yourself. This would be something that would mean so much to your Husband - such a beautiful thing for you do to.

Regarding your MIL...to be honest I don't believe she thinks she's going to have "her Christopher" back. I knew for a fact my MIL would be the same exact way - and last night when we told her within minutes it didn't take long for her to call it "her baby". I laughed & thought THIS is why we waited so long in telling her - because she would take ownership of this baby so fast it's actually comical.

Your family truly has no say in what you & your Husband decide to name your Son.

Re: Big PROBLEM w/ naming our child....opinions please

The MIL thing would definitely grate on my nerves, ESPECIALLY b/c you're most likely naming the baby after her deceased child - Is she going to call him "HER" Christopher? -
That would absolutely annoy me, regardless of her intentions or how she 'meant' it - so I can totally understand your concern and don't think you're hormonal or overreacting -

But the bottom line is that this is YOUR child - YOU get to decide what his name is - Not your family, not DH's family - Everyone else's opinion is totally and completely irrelevant IMO (Which is why we kept the name a secret) I don't care to know what everyone else thinks I should name my kid -

Do you think maybe you could talk to DH about it and use Christopher as the middle name ??

Re: Big PROBLEM w/ naming our child....opinions please

I think you both should do what you want to do, like someone else stated, there will always be a million opinions

Is it possible to use it as a middle name? I don't think its morbid, my brother died at 20yrs old and if we have a boy, it will be his middle name.


Sorry, I hope you guys can come to an agreement soon!

Re: Big PROBLEM w/ naming our child....opinions please

I would feel the exact same way. Based on how your MIL is acting, I think it may be better to use Christopher as a middle name. You dont want your happiness to be overshadowed by her grief from the past.

JMO though...Good Luck!!

Re: Big PROBLEM w/ naming our child....opinions please

I don't quite understand why your family is reacting the way they are - in jewish families it is tradition to name your child after a deceased relative, whether young or old. I think it is a tremendously touching remembrance for your husband and his family.

We did the same for my daughter - Alexandra - she is named after my husband's father, Alexander, who died when Dh was 13. We plan on doing the same with this baby, who will be named after my father, who just passed away recently.

I don't think it's morbid at all, I think it's a touching, special remembrance for those people in our families that we love and miss, and gives me a small bit of peace, hoping that this child will follow in my father's remarkable footsteps.

I think it's a beautiful tradition and legacy to name your child after a deceased relative.

Re: Big PROBLEM w/ naming our child....opinions please

Re: Big PROBLEM w/ naming our child....opinions please

Re: Big PROBLEM w/ naming our child....opinions please

Thats a tough situation... a name should be something mutually agreed on. i dont see it as morbid to name him after dh's brother. But if it were me i'd probably name him "Chris" instead of "Christopher", or if you name him Christopher Jakob then use "C.J." which i know you said your husband doesnt want to do... OR reverse the two names "Jakob Christopher"...