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dawnygirl25
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
I did when DD was little. Now she is school age and I wont let her miss school for it so she goes to school and I go off to work.
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2BadSoSad
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by Xelindrya
Posted by nycgirl
Though it sounds sweet, I'd never hire someone who took a day off for their kid's birthday.
So, no, I do not.
Does this come up in an interview?
So what do you find is your strong point?
Do you have any designations or licenses?
What can you bring to the table...?
Ok everything looks great.. Oh, one more question? Are you the type that takes time off for your kid's birthday?
Not even sure that you CAN ask about their family life in an interview. I'm pretty sure you can't as it would be bias, would it not? How unprofessional would it be for an HR person to be presumptuous enough to qualify me based on my family status, single, married, with kids, gay, divorced?
Frankly, I'd never work for a narrow minded highly unethical company as one who would ask such a question. I would by default question their own standards of quality of life.
We work because we are good at what we do. They hire us for the same. But quality of life is what makes us stay.
Oh and on a side note... My hubby and I split the days, evenly. And yes, we even both take off days to spend with her at the same time! SHOCKER! Ironically his office gives him a FREE day off for his very OWN birthday every year.
Its called vacation .. be it a staycation with your kid by yourself over a bowl of ice cream or a vacation with your kid by yourself over a bowl of Ice cream in Disney.. what difference does it make?
How utterly backwards to think a woman can't have a vacation day if it ends up being for their child?
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Mrs213
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Yes, I plan on always taking that day off...
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BriBri2u
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by nycgirl
Posted by wakemeup
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by nycgirl
Though it sounds sweet, I'd never hire someone who took a day off for their kid's birthday.
So, no, I do not.
I am glad I work for boss who treats me as a professional adult and allows me to use MY vacation days as I see fit .
I wouldn't want to work for someone who didn't value the importance of family.
Best answer to a ridiculous statement 
Looks like lots of FTWMs are taking off while their DH work (some exceptions of course, but dont count shift workers because of the super flexible schedule).
Wondering WHY DH aren't taking off? Vacation days? Personal days? Sick days? Do they not love their DC? Or don't understand the importance of family? I doubt it...
Like it or not, it's not viewed as professional...
You clearly have no sense of family by your ridiculous responses. I would not want to work for someone like you.
It is NOT unprofessional to take a personal/vacation day to celebrate your childs birthday or go on vacation or sit on the couch all day.
How approved time off is spent is no one's business.
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2BadSoSad
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by Sash
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by nycgirl
Though it sounds sweet, I'd never hire someone who took a day off for their kid's birthday.
So, no, I do not.
Sorry everyone is giving you grief about your statement. I think it depends on your position and the type of company you work for. At my previous jobs in banking and private equity, it would not go over well if anyone took off for a kid's birthdays. I clearly remember many higher ups being irritated at the women who took off in early September to send their kids off to school. I did not have kids back then and I do admit I thought it was unprofessional as well.
This is the very reason why I do not work full time. I would not want to feel guilty or feel like my peers were judging me. I go in late or leave early as I please now. I don't think I could go back to working full time.
Yep agree. When I was a consultant and Client Service Manager, this wouldn't go over well either. I see it similar to taking of on your birthday, its not necessary every year.
I teach now and this wouldn't be an option. But I only work part time, so if my class fall on a bday, I have to go.
Is it unprofessional to take off for your bday if you work for a great company and MAJOR corporation who values their employees and actually GIVES everyone off (paid) for their birthday? Not as part of their standard PTO (vacation, sick, personal) but as an actual seperate PTA Birthday day? Mine does, take that up with our CEO...that was his call. I guess he is unprofessional.
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2BadSoSad
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
for those that think it is "unprofessional" can you please back up your stance with WHY it is unprofessional to use your PTO, say a accrued personal day, for, oh, I dont know....something personal?
What DO YOU consider a professional reason to take off?
Why do you CARE what someone does on a day they accrued as PTO if it is theirs for the taking?
Please expand upon your stance.
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Mrs213
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by nycgirl
Posted by wakemeup
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by nycgirl
Though it sounds sweet, I'd never hire someone who took a day off for their kid's birthday.
So, no, I do not.
I am glad I work for boss who treats me as a professional adult and allows me to use MY vacation days as I see fit .
I wouldn't want to work for someone who didn't value the importance of family.
Best answer to a ridiculous statement
Looks like lots of FTWMs are taking off while their DH work (some exceptions of course, but dont count shift workers because of the super flexible schedule).
Wondering WHY DH aren't taking off? Vacation days? Personal days? Sick days? Do they not love their DC? Or don't understand the importance of family? I doubt it...
Like it or not, it's not viewed as professional...
This might be one of the dumbest remarks on LIF to date. Sorry, everyone has personal days to use as they see fit and my bosses and higher ups are more than understanding about these things. They take off on their kids birthday, heck we all even take the day off on our own birthdays, how horrible of us to take some time for our families and ourselves!
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
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for those that think it is "unprofessional" can you please back up your stance with WHY it is unprofessional to use your PTO, say a accrued personal day, for, oh, I dont know....something personal?
What DO YOU consider a professional reason to take off?
Why do you CARE what someone does on a day they accrued as PTO if it is theirs for the taking?
Please expand upon your stance.
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Sash
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by 2BadSoSad
Posted by Sash
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by nycgirl
Though it sounds sweet, I'd never hire someone who took a day off for their kid's birthday.
So, no, I do not.
Sorry everyone is giving you grief about your statement. I think it depends on your position and the type of company you work for. At my previous jobs in banking and private equity, it would not go over well if anyone took off for a kid's birthdays. I clearly remember many higher ups being irritated at the women who took off in early September to send their kids off to school. I did not have kids back then and I do admit I thought it was unprofessional as well.
This is the very reason why I do not work full time. I would not want to feel guilty or feel like my peers were judging me. I go in late or leave early as I please now. I don't think I could go back to working full time.
Yep agree. When I was a consultant and Client Service Manager, this wouldn't go over well either. I see it similar to taking of on your birthday, its not necessary every year.
I teach now and this wouldn't be an option. But I only work part time, so if my class fall on a bday, I have to go.
Is it unprofessional to take off for your bday if you work for a great company and MAJOR corporation who values their employees and actually GIVES everyone off (paid) for their birthday? Not as part of their standard PTO (vacation, sick, personal) but as an actual seperate PTA Birthday day? Mine does, take that up with our CEO...that was his call. I guess he is unprofessional.
Sheesh relax, I see where the above
Poster is coming from and I have worked for companies big and small, Fortune 500 and startup. I could see how a person wouldn't be able to take a PTO every year for a birthday. I can also see where this would be frowned up if I wanted to do it every year or maybe there is a year I couldn't because I have a work commitment.
Yes there is Personal day but sometimes you cant use them during specific times if you have work commitments unless it's an emergency.
Your company has a policy that allows it, good for you and your company. Good that they have policies that enforce a good work like balance. However, your company's Birthday Policy is NOT the norm.
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2BadSoSad
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by Sash
Posted by 2BadSoSad
Posted by Sash
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by nycgirl
Though it sounds sweet, I'd never hire someone who took a day off for their kid's birthday.
So, no, I do not.
Sorry everyone is giving you grief about your statement. I think it depends on your position and the type of company you work for. At my previous jobs in banking and private equity, it would not go over well if anyone took off for a kid's birthdays. I clearly remember many higher ups being irritated at the women who took off in early September to send their kids off to school. I did not have kids back then and I do admit I thought it was unprofessional as well.
This is the very reason why I do not work full time. I would not want to feel guilty or feel like my peers were judging me. I go in late or leave early as I please now. I don't think I could go back to working full time.
Yep agree. When I was a consultant and Client Service Manager, this wouldn't go over well either. I see it similar to taking of on your birthday, its not necessary every year.
I teach now and this wouldn't be an option. But I only work part time, so if my class fall on a bday, I have to go.
Is it unprofessional to take off for your bday if you work for a great company and MAJOR corporation who values their employees and actually GIVES everyone off (paid) for their birthday? Not as part of their standard PTO (vacation, sick, personal) but as an actual seperate PTA Birthday day? Mine does, take that up with our CEO...that was his call. I guess he is unprofessional.
Sheesh relax, I see where the above
Poster is coming from and I have worked for companies big and small, Fortune 500 and startup. I could see how a person wouldn't be able to take a PTO every year for a birthday. I can also see where this would be frowned up if I wanted to do it every year or maybe there is a year I couldn't because I have a work commitment.
Yes there is Personal day but sometimes you cant use them during specific times if you have work commitments unless it's an emergency.
Your company has a policy that allows it, good for you and your company. Good that they have policies that enforce a good work like balance. However, your company's Birthday Policy is NOT the norm.
I'm sorry, maybe I missed it. Please point me in the direction of the post that said "Do you use your personal time during a busy time or when you have a big project going on or a work commitment?"
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Sash
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by 2BadSoSad
Posted by Sash
Posted by 2BadSoSad
Posted by Sash
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by nycgirl
Though it sounds sweet, I'd never hire someone who took a day off for their kid's birthday.
So, no, I do not.
Sorry everyone is giving you grief about your statement. I think it depends on your position and the type of company you work for. At my previous jobs in banking and private equity, it would not go over well if anyone took off for a kid's birthdays. I clearly remember many higher ups being irritated at the women who took off in early September to send their kids off to school. I did not have kids back then and I do admit I thought it was unprofessional as well.
This is the very reason why I do not work full time. I would not want to feel guilty or feel like my peers were judging me. I go in late or leave early as I please now. I don't think I could go back to working full time.
Yep agree. When I was a consultant and Client Service Manager, this wouldn't go over well either. I see it similar to taking of on your birthday, its not necessary every year.
I teach now and this wouldn't be an option. But I only work part time, so if my class fall on a bday, I have to go.
Is it unprofessional to take off for your bday if you work for a great company and MAJOR corporation who values their employees and actually GIVES everyone off (paid) for their birthday? Not as part of their standard PTO (vacation, sick, personal) but as an actual seperate PTA Birthday day? Mine does, take that up with our CEO...that was his call. I guess he is unprofessional.
Sheesh relax, I see where the above
Poster is coming from and I have worked for companies big and small, Fortune 500 and startup. I could see how a person wouldn't be able to take a PTO every year for a birthday. I can also see where this would be frowned up if I wanted to do it every year or maybe there is a year I couldn't because I have a work commitment.
Yes there is Personal day but sometimes you cant use them during specific times if you have work commitments unless it's an emergency.
Your company has a policy that allows it, good for you and your company. Good that they have policies that enforce a good work like balance. However, your company's Birthday Policy is NOT the norm.
I'm sorry, maybe I missed it. Please point me in the direction of the post that said "Do you use your personal time during a busy time or when you have a big project going on or a work commitment?"
Damn, you really get your panties in a bunch if someone doesn't see things your way or agree. I was stating another reason why a person probably couldn't take a day off for a birthday.
I also clearly pointed out before that specific example, that I can see how taking off every year for a birthday can be frowned upon. So I did answer the post as well as add other input.
Please point me to the LIF rules that states I can only answer the question and not add any other details or information. Because, I forgot here on LIF we only stick to the original topic all the time.
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2BadSoSad
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by Sash
Posted by 2BadSoSad
Posted by Sash
Posted by 2BadSoSad
Posted by Sash
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by nycgirl
Though it sounds sweet, I'd never hire someone who took a day off for their kid's birthday.
So, no, I do not.
Sorry everyone is giving you grief about your statement. I think it depends on your position and the type of company you work for. At my previous jobs in banking and private equity, it would not go over well if anyone took off for a kid's birthdays. I clearly remember many higher ups being irritated at the women who took off in early September to send their kids off to school. I did not have kids back then and I do admit I thought it was unprofessional as well.
This is the very reason why I do not work full time. I would not want to feel guilty or feel like my peers were judging me. I go in late or leave early as I please now. I don't think I could go back to working full time.
Yep agree. When I was a consultant and Client Service Manager, this wouldn't go over well either. I see it similar to taking of on your birthday, its not necessary every year.
I teach now and this wouldn't be an option. But I only work part time, so if my class fall on a bday, I have to go.
Is it unprofessional to take off for your bday if you work for a great company and MAJOR corporation who values their employees and actually GIVES everyone off (paid) for their birthday? Not as part of their standard PTO (vacation, sick, personal) but as an actual seperate PTA Birthday day? Mine does, take that up with our CEO...that was his call. I guess he is unprofessional.
Sheesh relax, I see where the above
Poster is coming from and I have worked for companies big and small, Fortune 500 and startup. I could see how a person wouldn't be able to take a PTO every year for a birthday. I can also see where this would be frowned up if I wanted to do it every year or maybe there is a year I couldn't because I have a work commitment.
Yes there is Personal day but sometimes you cant use them during specific times if you have work commitments unless it's an emergency.
Your company has a policy that allows it, good for you and your company. Good that they have policies that enforce a good work like balance. However, your company's Birthday Policy is NOT the norm.
I'm sorry, maybe I missed it. Please point me in the direction of the post that said "Do you use your personal time during a busy time or when you have a big project going on or a work commitment?"
Damn, you really get your panties in a bunch if someone doesn't see things your way or agree. I was stating another reason why a person probably couldn't take a day off for a birthday.
I also clearly pointed out before that specific example, that I can see how taking off every year for a birthday can be frowned upon. So I did answer the post as well as add other input.
Please point me to the LIF rules that states I can only answer the question and not add any other details or information. Because, I forgot here on LIF we only stick to the original topic all the time.
I have my panties in a bunch? I must have posted while I was sleeping bc I missed that (particularly the part where my response was different than anyone's in this thread (at this time 49.57% of LIF respondents).)
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MarisaK
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
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I work in finance, in a high position - For one of the largest and most conservative Life Insurance/Mutual Fund companies in the world ........
I also work with IRS time sensitive deadlines ......so, yeah - If my kid's birthday fell during the last 2 weeks of the year, or in January which are MY busiest times at work ....then no, I wouldn't take a scheduled VACATION DAY for his birthday.
If his birthday fell in the middle of a major porject, or I had to meet a deadline, or was traveling ..........OBVIOUSLY I'm not taking the day off - because it's unprofessional to take a day off during those times for ANY reason .......(except if you're seriously ill, of course, before someone attacks me ....)
Some careers don't allow you to schedule your time - Ok, if you're a teacher, I'd agree it's totally unprofessional to take the day off for your child's birthday - ONLY b/c you're basically calling in sick or lying about why you need to take the day off.
But if you're in a position where your alotted a certain number of vacation days per year .............
WHY you take your time off is noone's business. You don't get a gold medal for NOT using your vacation day.
and FTR, my husband is a VP reproting to the CFO of a major NY hospital .........he takes a day off to play GOLF if he feels like it ..........is that unprofessional too?
I also am not understanding HOW anyone would KNOW your reason for taking a day off, unless you specifically told them - which, you're not required to do.
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NervousNell
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by nycgirl
Posted by wakemeup
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by nycgirl
Though it sounds sweet, I'd never hire someone who took a day off for their kid's birthday.
So, no, I do not.
I am glad I work for boss who treats me as a professional adult and allows me to use MY vacation days as I see fit .
I wouldn't want to work for someone who didn't value the importance of family.
Best answer to a ridiculous statement
Looks like lots of FTWMs are taking off while their DH work (some exceptions of course, but dont count shift workers because of the super flexible schedule).
Wondering WHY DH aren't taking off? Vacation days? Personal days? Sick days? Do they not love their DC? Or don't understand the importance of family? I doubt it...
Like it or not, it's not viewed as professional...
DH took off too for your information.
And get this- now he is RETIRED and he is a SAHD! Can you believe it? We broke the mold!
Broke that genderl stereotype that men can't help raise families.
So I am the breadwinner and he is the stay at home parent.
Wow.
Renegades right?
And for your further information- I am extremely professional.
I can work, be professional and hold a management position in a company of mostly men no less, and still be a good mom.
Go figure.
We've come a long way, baby!
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MarisaK
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by nycgirl
Posted by wakemeup
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by nycgirl
Though it sounds sweet, I'd never hire someone who took a day off for their kid's birthday.
So, no, I do not.
I am glad I work for boss who treats me as a professional adult and allows me to use MY vacation days as I see fit .
I wouldn't want to work for someone who didn't value the importance of family.
Best answer to a ridiculous statement
Looks like lots of FTWMs are taking off while their DH work (some exceptions of course, but dont count shift workers because of the super flexible schedule).
Wondering WHY DH aren't taking off? Vacation days? Personal days? Sick days? Do they not love their DC? Or don't understand the importance of family? I doubt it...
Like it or not, it's not viewed as professional...
DH took off too for your information.
And get this- now he is RETIRED and he is a SAHD! Can you believe it? We broke the mold!
Broke that sexual stereotype that men can't help raise families.
So I am the breadwinner and he is the stay at home parent.
Wow.
Renegades right?
And for your further information- I am extremely professional.
I can work, be professional and hold a management position in a company of mostly men no less, and still be a good mom.
Go figure.
We've come a long way, baby!
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Sash
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FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
You ladies are cray cray. I don't know if "unprofessional" was probably the best term, since that what seems to be getting everyone all riled up. Although I didn't use that term, I can see how it can be frowned upon to take off for a kids birthday every year at some jobs.
And if we are going to sit here and say that it doesn't happen or there isn't any organizations that will look down on a MOM or DAD taking off very year for a bday we are kidding ourselves. My sister can barely take off when her kid are sick with out going through some sh!t.
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by Sash
You ladies are cray cray. I don't know if "unprofessional" was probably the best term, since that what seems to be getting everyone all riled up. Although I didn't use that term, I can see how it can be frowned upon to take off for a kids birthday every year at some jobs.
And if we are going to sit here and say that it doesn't happen or there isn't any organizations that will look down on a MOM or DAD taking off very year for a bday we are kidding ourselves. My sister can barely take off when her kid are sick with out going through some sh!t.
You and the original poster who said it was unprofessional are missing the point here.
Put aside professionalism for a minute because that has nothing to do with taking vacation time.
People are allotted "X" amount of vacation days.
Those vacation days are meant to be used at an employees discretion.
You can sit on your couch all day and pick your nose.
You can take a real vacation.
You can spend the day in the city.
You can chaperone your kids trip.
You can go to the movies.
You can go shopping.
You can use your vacation days for whatever it is you wish to do that day and you don't owe an employer ANY explanation as to what you're doing on that SCHEDULED vacation day.
Of course there will be times where taking a vacation day isn't feasible due to deadlines, workload, etc. There are times my DH HAS to be at work for one reason or another and when that happens it's not an ideal time to schedule a vacation day(s). That's fine, no big deal. It happens.
But under ordinary circumstances, he is allowed to schedule his vacation time and use that vacation time as he sees fit.
If someone wants to use one of their vacation days EVERY year for a kids birthday, so what. I don't see why ANY employer would care WHAT you're taking a vacation day for so long as you scheduled the day in advance and had nothing preventing you from being away from the office for a day.
Would this even be a discussion if someone said they took a vacation day to go see a play? Or spend the day at the beach?
I don't think so.
The fact is, there is NOTHING unprofessional about using your vacation time. There is no "acceptable reasons for taking time off" list floating around that dictates how you should spend YOUR vacation day.
It's called a vacation/personal day for a reason. If you have them available they are yours to use without explanation. It is really NONE of your employers business what you do on your day off AND you do NOT (by law) have to even tell them what your plans are that day.
The only people on here who are "cray cray" are the two people who actually think taking vacation days constitutes someone being unprofessional. One thing has NOTHING to do with the other.
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Sash
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FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
I never said unprofessional, I said I can see where she was coming from and that it can be frowned upon. Regardless or how many times people post NO and my company or boss wouldn't do it or care this mentality does exist and I seen it first hand. I don't see what the big deal is.
Sometimes it's not so easy to take vacation days and PTO. And the "cray Cray" comment was in jest.b
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StaceyWill
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FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Yowza! I didn't know my one question would turn into this. Sorry ladies. And for what it's worth, I also think that vacation/personal days can be used for whatever you want. I don't think you need to explain or go into details when you request a day off. I do tell my boss what I have planned, but that's just because we are a small office and pretty close.
Thanks for all the replies.
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Hofstra26
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by Sash
I never said unprofessional, I said I can see where she was coming from and that it can be frowned upon. Regardless or how many times people post NO and my company or boss wouldn't do it or care this mentality does exist and I seen it first hand. I don't see what the big deal is.
Sometimes it's not so easy to take vacation days and PTO. And the "cray Cray" comment was in jest.b
It might not always be easy for someone to take vacation time but when they do take it, they don't HAVE to explain why they are taking the time off.
That's the only point everyone is trying to make.
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by nycgirl
Posted by wakemeup
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by nycgirl
Though it sounds sweet, I'd never hire someone who took a day off for their kid's birthday.
So, no, I do not.
I am glad I work for boss who treats me as a professional adult and allows me to use MY vacation days as I see fit .
I wouldn't want to work for someone who didn't value the importance of family.
Best answer to a ridiculous statement
Looks like lots of FTWMs are taking off while their DH work (some exceptions of course, but dont count shift workers because of the super flexible schedule).
Wondering WHY DH aren't taking off? Vacation days? Personal days? Sick days? Do they not love their DC? Or don't understand the importance of family? I doubt it...
Like it or not, it's not viewed as professional...
Because he doesnt get paid if he doesnt work. Luckily she was born on a holiday weekend so he was able to see her for an extra day.
My boss takes off every year for his own birthday so does at least one of my other coworkers... Both MEN!!!
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| Posted 4/9/14 10:20 AM |
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GoldenRod
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Shawn
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by nycgirl
Posted by wakemeup
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Posted by nycgirl
Though it sounds sweet, I'd never hire someone who took a day off for their kid's birthday.
So, no, I do not.
I am glad I work for boss who treats me as a professional adult and allows me to use MY vacation days as I see fit .
I wouldn't want to work for someone who didn't value the importance of family.
Best answer to a ridiculous statement
Looks like lots of FTWMs are taking off while their DH work (some exceptions of course, but dont count shift workers because of the super flexible schedule).
Wondering WHY DH aren't taking off? Vacation days? Personal days? Sick days? Do they not love their DC? Or don't understand the importance of family? I doubt it...
Like it or not, it's not viewed as professional...
I work with mostly white collar professionals, mostly men. The vast majority of us take personal time PRIMARILY for our kids. Maybe not their b-days, but vacations are for DC, random days here or there are usually for DC. I'm taking off a day to take DS to Great Adventure. I'm thinking of taking a week off to go to summer camp with DS. I've taken half days to make it easier for me to coach soccer during the week. These are my personal days to take off as I see fit, and the majority of the time, I see it fit to do things for or with DC.
We usually celebrate DC's b-days on the nearest weekend, so I don't take their actual b-day off, but most professional men I work with take off FOR their kids, and I wouldn't want to work for a company that was any different.
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| Posted 4/9/14 10:29 AM |
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maybebaby
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by nycgirl
Though it sounds sweet, I'd never hire someone who took a day off for their kid's birthday.
So, no, I do not.
I don't understand this at all.
And if I were a FTWM you bet your azz I'd be taking off for their bdays...(mind you, i would ask in advance and it would be MY day to take however I see fit..who cares the reason???)
Life is way too short. My kids celebrate this big day once/year. I'd like to think that if I'm a great employee who does a terrific job at their company my boss wouldn't care WHY I requested a day. If I were the boss I'd actually think it was awesomely sweet of my employee to want to be with their child on their special day. Your comment really irked me.
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| Posted 4/9/14 10:39 AM |
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BriBri2u
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Mrs. B
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
Posted by Hofstra26
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I never said unprofessional, I said I can see where she was coming from and that it can be frowned upon. Regardless or how many times people post NO and my company or boss wouldn't do it or care this mentality does exist and I seen it first hand. I don't see what the big deal is.
Sometimes it's not so easy to take vacation days and PTO. And the "cray Cray" comment was in jest.b
It might not always be easy for someone to take vacation time but when they do take it, they don't HAVE to explain why they are taking the time off.
That's the only point everyone is trying to make.
It really is not a hard concept to understand.
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| Posted 4/9/14 11:14 AM |
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dpli
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Re: FTWM-Do you take off of work for your LO birthday?
I think on this thread, like so many others on LIF, people are only viewing this question in terms of their own personal experience and are missing the point others are trying to make.
When thinking about the OP's question, one tends to consider it regarding jobs they have, or jobs they have had in the past. I have a job where it would not be frowned upon for me to take off for my DS's birthday, but I simply can't afford to burn a day for it. I know there are people who can't take planned vacation days for things like birthdays. If you don't work in that field, you don't get it. My brother is a partner in a law firm and often has to go to court. He simply does not have the flexibility in his schedule to make every special event my nephew has, nevermind taking off for his birthday.
There are many other jobs, mentioned in this thread, where it's not going to help you professionally to take days off like this. Yes, you get a certain number of days off per year, vacation, personal, whatever. Yes, in theory, you should be able to manage them however you want. In reality, it doesn't always work out that way and not every job is going to be OK with you taking a day off for a kid's birthday. You don't have to agree with it or understand it for it to be true.
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| Posted 4/9/14 11:16 AM |
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