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Life is totally unfair -

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Deb, I really wish I could say something of value, but the other ladies have put it better than I ever could.

You are amazingly strong and you are very entitled to feel sad, down, angry, bitter and so much more. That you are in this position is crappy beyond belief and all I can do is send you lots of hugs and say many prayers.

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Posted by ODonnell

Deb, I really wish I could say something of value, but the other ladies have put it better than I ever could.

You are amazingly strong and you are very entitled to feel sad, down, angry, bitter and so much more. That you are in this position is crappy beyond belief and all I can do is send you lots of hugs and say many prayers.

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I don't know what to say but I wanted to send some prayers of strength and endurance your way.

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I am so sorry, I wish I could say or do something to make you feel better.

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I send you my love and my prayers.

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Im sorry, I have no advice but want you to know you are in my prayers and I want to send you many

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Life is so precious. I pray that each day is better for you. I pray that your family and friends remain a strong support system for you.

You are an amazing person.

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Gosh... I don't think there is anything I can say to make you feel better or to make your decision easier... I truly truly am sorry you have to go through all of this at such an early age... BUT you really are an inspiration to us all - you have been through so much and have been so strong through it all!!! I am pretty "new" here I guess you can say, but from reading your threads, I can hear the strength behind your words... I know I could not be able to hold it together as well.

With that said, you have every right to scream, cry, kick, punch, etc... you need to let your anger and frustration out!! Scream into a pillow if you have to! I know I've done that in the past!!!

Hugs and prayers for you!

Message edited 2/8/2007 2:13:10 PM.

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all the ladies here has said it so well. I continue to pray for you and your strength.

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I don't know what to say. You are so incredibly strong. Just want to give you some and


FYI: My co-worker had a rather large tumor removed from her brain. It was pressing up against her optical nerve. She was given all the same scary scenarios of surgery as you and she is fine. No eye damage, facial damage, etc.

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Deb, my heart and prayers are with you every day.
You are absolutely entitled to feel any way that your heart feels, and express yourself. Those around you know how much youre enduring and know that, not only are you NOT being rude to them, but you are a hero and an inspiration to them, regardless of what words come out of your mouth and how angry you are, youre an incredible person, inside and out.

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All I can say is & make sure that you are talking with someone (like a therapist) who is not so close to your situation. Often times, they have interesting insights!

God Bless You and your family!!! You are in my prayers each day!

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Posted by chmlengr

all the ladies here has said it so well. I continue to pray for you and your strength.

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I can't even imagine what you are going through..I am so sorry.
Many prayers for you

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Deb you are the one of the strongest people I "know". You have every right feeling the way you do. I would have snapped long ago. Everyone in your life I'm sure has waited for this to happen. You have stayed VERY strong. Do not feel guilty for showing your fears. My parayers are with you as always. And you know we are ALL here to listen to whatever you have to say.

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There are some great suggestions above. I don't have anything add except:

It sounds like you are handling everything so much better than I could. I really hope something good happens very soon. You deserve some happiness more than anyone I know.

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Deb, I echo the sentiment of all the ladies who said it before me, you're the most amazing, brave, strong etc. woman I have ever had the privilege to "know" as far as message boards let you know someone. I am certain your family and friends do not mind in the least and totally understand when your emotions get the best of you. Please know that you can always come on here and let it out on us. You could even just FM me and take it all out on me. Just venting in some way helps to alleviate the pressure!

I have a friend who is 32 with a 5 yr old daughter who has stage 4 lung cancer and she has the same complaint that the support groups have older people in them. I tell you this so you know you're not alone. There have to be many others out there. If there aren't enough to have a support group in your area, why not try to start one on-line. Maybe even Ron could make a special link/thread on this board for you. If you're interested I could see if my friend would be interested (which I think she would).

I also agree seeing a counselor 1 on 1 with Darren would be a great way to relieve some of the guilt. My friend also told me that her sister also joined a group counseling for family members with cancer. Just a thought for Darren.

I also know that she said taking anti-depressants have helped her with the extreme emotions that come with the territory. Maybe you can try them and see if they help alleviate some of the anxiety.

I wish there were more I had to offer you.

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I'm so sorry. You have been so strong, I know I would have broken down well before now.

I'm sure your family understands why you are snapping at them, and are equally frustrated they can't help you more.

I'll continue to keep you in my prayers to help guide your decision.

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Posted by baghag

Posted by ODonnell

Deb, I really wish I could say something of value, but the other ladies have put it better than I ever could.

You are amazingly strong and you are very entitled to feel sad, down, angry, bitter and so much more. That you are in this position is crappy beyond belief and all I can do is send you lots of hugs and say many prayers.

Well said.

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You're tears don't compromise your strength. Instead, I truly believe they make you stronger.

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I'm pretty new on here but have been following your posts for a while. I'm sorry life has dealt you this deck of cards and it's not fair. I don't know what else to say except that I agree with all of the above suggestions and I'm sending you lots of prayers and hugs.