Re: How did you feel about having frequent/long visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

I had an unplanned emergency csection at 32 weeks, days. I was in the hospital for 4 nights, and I had visitors every night. I had no problem with that, my family was shocked I had the baby when I did and they all wanted to see me to make sure I was ok.

i had a bigger problem during the day because my MIL came by for the "grandparents" visiting hours. I just wnated to rest and the visit bothered me.

But I understand where you are coming from. My DH told his mom not to have everyone come I think the second night I was there. The first day was a whirlwind and I couldn't ahve stopped that if I tried.

Talk to your family and let them know how you feel.

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Re: How did you feel about having frequent/long visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

I had a csection and I didn't mind the visitors. Everyone was very understanding if I needed privacy (if I needed to nurse) and would leave the room and go to the cafeteria. But if you don't feel up to it or want the company, it is okay to let them know.

Re: How did you feel about having frequent/long visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

Posted by saraH

had a bigger problem during the day because my MIL came by for the "grandparents" visiting hours. I just wnated to rest and the visit bothered me.

Talk to your family and let them know how you feel.

Message edited 7/11/2008 10:13:55 AM.

Re: How did you feel about having frequent/long visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

Congrats on your pregnancy!
I felt the same way as you...
altho visitors mean well,
I didnt enjoy people standing around looking at me in the hopital bed while I was bleeding and in pain....
that is what happened with my 1st pregnancy, my family & DH's family & friends all came and it really was so uncomfortable for me....
for my 2nd pregnancy, I knew better and warned my DH to MAKE SURE to tell his family that I wastnt up for company-I told my family before hand and they totally understood...esp if you are having a c-section you have a valid excuse!

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Posted by InShock

Personally, I loved having visitors. It was a long stay and I enjoyed the company. No one over-stayed their welcome - and if I ever needed some privacy (e.g. to nurse or go to the bathroom), they left w/o hesitation - sometimes just waiting outside the door or getting something to eat and then returning. I think MOST people know that hospital visits are meant to be short and sweet.

Good luck!

Re: How did you feel about having frequent/long visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

I had my dd on tuesday and had visitors that day. I did feel kinda gross but the percoset buzz made me not care at all

Once I got home from the hospital, I loved having help and used it to my full advantage

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Posted by stephanief

I had my dd on tuesday and had visitors that day. I did feel kinda gross but the percoset buzz made me not care at all

Once I got home from the hospital, I loved having help and used it to my full advantage

Message edited 7/11/2008 10:20:00 AM.

Re: How did you feel about having frequent/long visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

Posted by Goobster

Posted by saraH

had a bigger problem during the day because my MIL came by for the "grandparents" visiting hours. I just wnated to rest and the visit bothered me.

Talk to your family and let them know how you feel.

Thank you..that must have been so annoying re your MIL. That would bug me too. Unfortunately where I will deliver I think anyone can come at any time. I would much prefer rigid visiting hours as to limit people, but it's not the case where I will be.

Re: How did you feel about having frequent/long visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

I had a vaginal birth, but gave birth at 5:46 am after being awake the whole entire day before and in labor the whole night through. My first visitor arrived at 1:00 that afternoon and I could barely see. I only had **maybe** an hour nap at that point. And once they left others arrived and so on until visiting hours ended at 9pm. I was practically in a coma! So for me, I could have done without visitors on the first day. But on the second day I got sick and told my friends specifically not to come. My friends were very considerate and asked me beforehand if and when they should come because they all have babies and know the deal. I only wanted my parents and DH. I specifically told my step-parents to stay home.

If I had given birth at a reasonable hour where I could have gotten some sleep it wouldn't have been so bad.

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Re: How did you feel about having frequent/long visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section?

DH's grandfather passed away literally the day after DS was born. DH's ENTIRE family came to the hospital that night...no joke. I guess the nurses gave an exception because of the circumstances, because my room was packed. It was a little weird, to be honest, because I was in pain and wearing the hideous hospital gown still, but his family coming together to celebrate the birth of our son in a time of crisis was touching and I wouldn't have had it any other way.
I myself had always thought that would hate having guests, but I actually enjoyed it, despite the pain.

Re: How did you feel about having frequent/long visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

Sometimes it depends on the hospital you are delivering at as well.
Some hospitals are very strict - and there are no 'extra' visitors allowed.
Do you know where you are delivering yet?

I know that where I delivered (st charles) they were very laxed about it.
My DD was born at 10:20 - I was probably being wheeled to my room by 12ish - my family and DH's family we in the hallway to my room so they can see me - I wasn't prepared for that.

But visiting hours started at 2:00 - and my mother, father, brother we there as well as my MIL, FIL, 2 BIL's, SIL, a neice, her friend, my nephew. I wasn't prepared for that either - but you know what - they all knew that. I would say I need a minute and they would walk down the hall and when I was ready - DH would tell them to come back. But I loved every minute of them being there.

I would talk to DH, so you both are on the same page.
When you both come to an understanding, you both tell each side of the family your wishes TOGETHER.

Like I said, I am not sure where you are delivering, but at St Charles, the baby is in the room for the day, but night hours the baby is not in the room. Therefore everyone has to go to the nursery to see the baby. If you need alone time, I would tell DH to go to the nursery and hang out with the visitors down there.

But it is up to you - I liked having visitors. I was 2 weeks late and I know they were dying to see the baby once it was born. But I know they all respected my wishes too

Honestly, I would try not to stress over it too much now. I know easier said than done

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Message edited 11/13/2008 12:46:09 AM.

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Re: How did you feel about having frequent/long visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

i didnt mind it that much, i gave birth at 5:53 AM and by 11:00AM-12:00PM the visitors starting showing up We have a big immediate family so i couldn't say yes to some and no to others, so i just said come on over. I had a great labor and delivery though. The only problem with everyone coming right away was the breastfeeding as I was trying to get the hang of it, so i would just ask everyone to leave when it was time for that and everyone was cooperative and understanding. Also i tore REALLY bad and had an episiotomy and they also cut me so i had to go to the bathroom alot, once again i just asked everyone to leave when it was time for that. I also pretty much stayed in bed the whole time and had everyone pass the baby to me/get me what i needed.
HTH

Re: How did you feel about having frequent/long visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

I had c-sec at 8:20 am - but was in labor the night before, so I didn't really get any rest the night before - so I was soo exhausted- I really just wanted to take a nap - also you can't get out of bed the first day - except for a few minutes later on... Its hard b/c everyone is so excited to see the baby so you don't want to kick people out. I wasn't in any real pain - unless I laughed.. But I would have preferred everyone wait until the 2nd day to come. After that it was fine - I was able sleep at night and before visiting hours started - it was just day 1 that was the problem. I like the limiting visitors to 30 minutes - however it could backfire if you have back to back visitors... I think you just have DH coordinate visiting times the first day - ask the nurses to help you out - by telling everyone you need to rest (DH will probably have to do this b/c you will have no privacy with everyone in the room and you won't be able to get out of bed)

Re: How did you feel about having frequent/long visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

I personally wanted my DH there at all times but pretty much noone else the first day after the surgery.

DD was in the NICU, I hadn't even seen her yet, I had a roommate who was nursing all night long, every 2 hours they'd bring the baby in for her and I hadn't even saw my DD, hadn't even tried to nurse her yet, and hearing her with her baby just broke my heart.

I wasn't in the mood the next day to see anyone.

Day 3 and 4 it was OK to have visitors, but I liked it better when they all came in spurts, and then left at the same time so DH and I could go be with Emily and be with her.

Since she couldn't leave the NICU I couldn't be in the NICU with her when I had visitors, so for me, the less time they were there the better.

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Message edited 7/11/2008 10:48:04 AM.

Re: How did you feel about having frequent/long visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

Posted by Goobster


Thank you very much for the congrats!

I can totally imagine not wanting people there when I am gassy, bleeding and in pain. I just can't see it...

What did you do for your 2nd then re grandparents and immediate family?

Thanks for making me feel sane, everyone.

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Re: How did you feel about having visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

I had a vaginal birth and I was up and showered just a few hours later. I was sore but in good spirits. Before I had the baby I let both families know that I wanted no kids visiting….we both have a ton of nieces & nephews and I didn’t want them hanging around. I also told them the hospital visiting hours and told them they had “strict visiting policies”.
IMO, it was better to have friends/family visit during the limited hospital hours. I also made sure the baby was in the nursery during visiting hours.
If I said no visitors I am sure they would have all been coming over and calling once we got home. At home I wouldn’t have a nurse /security guard to make them leave. People are excited and anxious to see the baby so just make sure if you say no hospital visitors that you won’t get stuck with everyone at your house.

Re: How did you feel about having visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

Posted by debsey75

I also told them the hospital visiting hours and told them they had “strict visiting policies”. IMO, it was better to have friends/family visit during the limited hospital hours. I also made sure the baby was in the nursery during visiting hours.

make sure if you say no hospital visitors that you won’t get stuck with everyone at your house.

Re: How did you feel about having visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

I had two vaginal deliveries. The first time, I was worried about inlaws, etc. I had a very long labor and was exhausted. My mother and my husband were there for the delivery. Everyone else came the next day and it was absolutely fine (even my MIL didn't bother me ).

My second delivery, I was induced at noon and gave birth at 8pm. It was just my husband and I until the next morning. Frankly, I "worked" really hard to have my second, and I was so thrilled that all was well, that the janitor could have been there for the pushing phase of my delivery for all I cared. But, I digress.... By day 2 I felt great and was happy to have visitors.

I think a lot depends on the type of "healer" you are. I, personally su*k at being pregnant but I heal quickly, and pretty easily adjust to having a newborn.

My BF, just gave birth to her second in Feb. She was 40 at the time and had a scheduled section. I spoke with her a few hours after the birth and called her again later that evening. We've been friends for 36 years and I really consider her "family" . If at any time she wanted privacy she would have told me and it would have been fine. On day 2 she called me and asked me to visit. My kids were in school, I brought her a latte and I met her daughter. She was pretty uncomfortable but she was wanted the company.

Sorry for the long winded nature of this posted. But, I guess I'm trying to say do what your comfortable with but allow for the fact that what you want pre baby may not be what you want post baby.

Re: How did you feel about having visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

I wound up having my CS after 8 hours of labor.... She was delivered @ 7:52 pm, and I don't honestly *remember* what time they brought me to the PP room, but I know that I had a few visitors right then....

It was helpful to me, b/c when they moved me from L&D to PP - I needed extra hands to make sure that everything was cleared out of that room. Plus, they were able to hand the baby to me from the bassinet so that I didn't have to move and strain myself.

I had visitors every single day, and I have to say that I was so thankful for it..... It was just so nice to have a break of the monotony of the hospital room. And the times that I had no visitors in the room, I took Kristina for a walk throughout the maternity ward - as far as I could walk that is!