Re: How did you feel about having visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

I had a vaginal buirth.

I didn't mind the visitors att he hospital so muc. It started to bother me when I was home.

My hormones were going crazy the first 2 weeks after giving birth and it felt overwhelming to me to have people to "entertain" all the time. In m y own expereince giving birth was so physically exhousting and the discomfort ( i had an episiotomy) afterwards was alot and I just wanted time to take it all in. BUt after 2 weeks I felt SO MUCH better and didn't mind visitors at all, I actually welocomed them then.

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I had a planned CS with DD. I had her at 1:16pm, and I didn't get back to my room until about 5:30, which is right when my parents showed up.

I didn't mind have my parents there, I even welcomed the extra help, but then DH's ENTIRE family showed up...I mean MIL, FIL, Aunt, Uncle, cousin, BIL, SIL...That was a bit overwhelming, mostly because I still felt like crap and I couldn't get out of bed. That I didn't have alone time with DD until they all left...only about 1 hour before she went back to the nursery!

AFter that first day though, I welcomed the visitors...the days were pretty long and boring, so it was nice to have someone to talk to...the few members of DH's family who didn't come the first day and a few other friends spaced out their visits.

I really didn't want everyone there that first night, but I knew they were all excited to meet DD, and I couldn't blame them for that...and they were all pretty understanding that I wasn't really up for long term company...I imagine it will be the same for the next one...

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I had DS at 2:44 in the morning. We only were allowed parents at 2pm -- then everyone else came at 6. That first night was really rough. I had just gotten out of the bed at 5 and was still a total disaster. I would never tell my friends/family not to come though. I believe one night we had close to 50 people visiting at the same time.

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I loved having visitors...broke up the day and they were all so excited to see me and Kerri

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I had a C/S - i loved having visitors!!!

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Re: How did you feel about having visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

i delivered at Winthrop when the visiting hours were still pretty limited. I had a c-section and was there for 4 days. Our situtation was a bit different, since we don't have any grandparents.

The day I had DS, I didn't get into a room until about 9:30 pm, so no one was able to come that night, but my brother and his family saw the baby through the window in the nursery, which was fine.

I basically only told immediate family and 2 very close friends the day the baby was born. Most of them came the second night, a few people the third night and no one came the 4th night. I waited a day or two to call other people (or DH did) but basically told them I wasn't really up to visitors. I was in labor for several days before having the baby and was exhausted by the time I had him. I was savoring every minute of rest possible before having to go home with a newborn with my DH being the only one around to help me. I also wanted time for just the three of us to bond in the beginning. I was also having a difficult time trying to breastfeed and became very emotional and upset after a few days. I don't regret how I handled it and would do the same thing again.

My friend delivered at NSUH and she said basically people were coming and going all day and she had no notice when someone would just show up to visit. If there weren't people there to see her, there were people there to see her roommate.

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Re coming home. See I again am the opposite there. I am the type who prefers to do things on my own even if I am struggling, so I don't really plan to take anyone up on their offers of help unless I am extremely desperate. That includes mom. I just find sometimes "help" becomes more stressful than no help with some people.

It's great to see everyone's pros and cons and perspectives!

Re: How did you feel about having visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

I had a c/s with my first, and being in the hospital for 4 days and it being my first child, I had many visitors and loved it. Made the time go so much faster and it was great to see everyone.

With my second, I had a v-birth and was only there 2 nights. I wanted to get out of there so badly, that we hardly told anyone to come visit. Just the parents and close siblings! My how things changed for the second child!!

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Re: How did you feel about having visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

Posted by patti08

Re coming home. See I again am the opposite there. I am the type who prefers to do things on my own even if I am struggling, so I don't really plan to take anyone up on their offers of help unless I am extremely desperate. That includes mom. I just find sometimes "help" becomes more stressful than no help with some people.

It's great to see everyone's pros and cons and perspectives!

I'm gathering that this is your first. TAKE any and all help, even if it's not done your way at least it's done. I'm very independent and particular too but I truly needed help. Give yourself 4 or 6 weeks and readily accept help. You'll heal faster and feel better and have more time to bond with your baby. I was able to be back to doing everything myself by 6 weeks. Except laundry but I hate doing laundry so I milked that as long as I could.

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I wanted visitors but I wanted them only when I wanted them . I was very sad that my baby was in the NICU, so I think it would have been tough if I did not have the company. But pumping was stressful and bringing people back and forth to see the baby was stressful. The NICU does not allow visitors in without one of the baby's parents. I agree with that policy, though.

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hard to answer...I never ever ever sit still---sitting or laying down is like root canal.
I liked visitors but I was in a room the size of closet! they wnted to give me a private room for the twins...talk about no air!
there were fleeting moments I wnted peace but the nurses r sure to screw that up--they r there 24-7 with temp and blood pressure

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My mom & MIL were in the hospital waiting while I had my scheduled c-section. So they came into recovery after I had a few minutes alone with DH & the baby. Then they came up to my room with me. The next few days all of my immediate family came to visit. I didn't mind at all and liked having the company. However, a friend of the family got very offended when my mother told her not to come because I wasn't up to having so many visitors. I don't think she ever forgave my mom, meanwhile, I told my mom to say that. Whatever.

ETA: I scheduled my visitors to space them out over the 5 days.

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Re: How did you feel about having visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

when I had my ds I had my whole family there since I was enduced and went through labor for 26 hours before having an emergency c-section.. I could have been better then having people in and out of my room at that time..Just because of the pain of labor and having my inconsiderate step dad there that made my labor process worse..But afterwards I loved having people visit..It also gave my DH a break from taking care of me and the little one..
When I had DD it was scheduled and no one came to the hospital to sit which was kind of sad.. And they came to the first visiting hours even though I requested that they come as much as possible to bring my son and they never did..So I got out of the hospital and went home ASAP to have my son there with me and the new baby..It was sad not having visitors the hours would come and no one would be there to see my baby..Only my brother and SIL would come after work which was nice..
With this one Im sure no one will come which is sad but Im ok with it..And Im going to get in and out as fast as I can and just enjoy the baby and Im having my kids come up as much as they can since its a different hospital my hubby is bringing them all day..

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I loved when people came to visit. As for my privacy all the people who were coming were my close family and close friends, so I wasn't embarrassed by what was going on with me. On the other hand, not everyone came to visit and it didn't make me mad or upset when people didn't make it. Instead it gave us time to bond as a family and for me to get much needed rest. I knew that visiting times are sometimes inconvenient for people to get to with jobs, family and other life obligations. So I wasn't hurt by not always having visitors and didn't take it personal for me or the baby. It worked out too because as much as I loved people coming, my room wasn't always packed with a million faces looking at me without a shower lol!
You might find that a lot of people stay away from visiting hours for a few reasons, because the times tend to be short, sometimes you only see the baby behind glass and a lot of people figure that mommy and new baby are resting and don't need a bunch of people coming in and out of the room. Also for me it was nicer when everyone came to visit at the house, where they could stay as long as they wanted and I was on the comfort of my own sofa. I think you will both enjoy having visitors as well as not having visitors! Don't stress about it and good luck!

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Re: How did you feel about having visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

I am hoping that nobody other than DH camps out all day. And even if he had to go, the hospital is down the block and he could return in less than 5 minutes. I'd like to think I would enjoy having visitors but it depends on what type of delivery I have and how I respond to anesthesia. I usually don't handle it well at all. The last time I stayed over night in the hospital, I faked sleeping so people would get the hint and leave me alone.

Those close to me, family and friends, know they are welcome but would more than likely have enough common sense to call first and ask if I am up to having visitors. If I am not, I will ask them to come see me when I am home and more comfortable. Anyone who takes issue with that, is thinking of themselves and not the person who they are visiting.

An even bigger concern of mine is not people coming to see me in the hospital so much as the day I come home. DH and I have discussed this and agree that we want to come home with the baby and not a house full of people. We would like it to be just the three of us. If people would like to be there they can come later in the day (bringing dinner if they feel inclined), or the next day. We would like some time to absorb the fact that we are parents and we have our own family now. I don't need or like chaos and that's exactly what I foresee.

Re: How did you feel about having visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

I delivered vaginally and was barely in the hospital at all. My baby was born around 9 pm, which was considered one day. So I had one other day, then I was out.

After being in labor 22 hrs. and getting an episiotomy, being severely sleep and food deprived, I was in no shape for visitors. My sister came and that was fine. Some friends wanted to come, but I told them thanks so much, but I'd rather see them when I was feeling better. They seemed to understand.

If you don't think you want visitors, I wouldn't be shy about saying so. Giving birth is tremendously draining however it's done, plus you have the baby to care for and adjust to--you'll probably want to ask a lot of questions in the hospital.

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I had an emergency c-sec on a Tuesday at 3:12pm and had visitors at 7pm (just my parents, FIL and brother and SIL's), they were there b4 I even saw the baby. I had to be knocked out after the c b/c I was hyperventalating and never got to see DD under 7:30 that night.
I have few visitors so I didn't mind until Thursday I had 12 people in my room at the same time plus the baby. It was so bad. I finally kicked everyone out and cried for about an hour (I was also trying to breastfeed and no idea what I was doing).
I liked visitors but I think there should be a limit. South Nassau in Oceanside has no limit and the baby is always in the rroom.

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I LOVED having visitors as well

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I delivered vaginally and really looked forward to visitors. The first couple of weekends after bringing her home were hectic, and we wished that we could have a moment to ourselves, but even then, the visitors were nice. People brought meals, etc - it was very nice.

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Re: How did you feel about having visitors while in the hospital after having a c-section/or vag delivery?

I had DD (vaginally) at 11am on a weekday. DH and I had a few hours with our new baby and for me to get over the shock of childbirth before friends starting coming in after they finished work. Those that did come the first day called before coming, just to see if I was up to visitors.. and I was happy to have them.

Our families are OOS, so they weren't there during the first week or so, but I would've been fine if they came in the room an hour or so after the birth. I really missed them and I hope I don't have to give birth with no family around next time.

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I had a vaginal delivery and worked at the hospital I gave birth in so I had visitors from the minute I delivered him (co-workers who swiped themselves into maternity) until the minute I went home. DH and MIL were there every waking min, and friends/family came on designated times and again coworkers coming all day long. I didnt mind it one bit! I felt like s h i t but I wanted to show off how gorgeous my DS was!!!