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NervousNell
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
I still can't believe how much some people clean. 
That is my only take away from this whole, 4 page thread!
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
Posted by NervousNell
I still can't believe how much some people clean.
That is my only take away from this whole, 4 page thread!
ITA agree as I think that is all my mother did the majority of the time lol. My godmother would dust 3, yes, THREE times a day. Dear lord, kill me first 
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
Posted by afternoondelight828
I think the less stress starts when the kids go to school full time.
I'm kinda looking forward to that, right now being with 2 LO's and taking care of the house is like working 2 jobs! 
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
I remember reading a beautiful letter from a SAHM to a WOHM acknowledging her all the hard work she does and then viceversa, the WOHM wrote a letter to the SAHM. Let me see if I can find them...
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| Posted 1/21/16 9:14 AM |
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soontobemommyof2
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
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bpmom
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
Posted by soontobemommyof2
Posted by afternoondelight828
I think the less stress starts when the kids go to school full time.
I'm kinda looking forward to that, right now being with 2 LO's and taking care of the house is like working 2 jobs!
I used to feel like this but now that two of my kids are in school FT, their activities take over our afternoons and evenings. I remember before my kids were in school, a mom of older kids said that she loved school breaks and I didn't understand that at all. Now I get it because there's no rushing to get them to karate, religion, sports stuff and we can eat dinner peacefully as a family - at a normal time.
And I can keep the house clean all day but two minutes after they get home from school, there are papers, notes, snack bags all over my kitchen.
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Posted by bpmom
Posted by soontobemommyof2
Posted by afternoondelight828
I think the less stress starts when the kids go to school full time.
I'm kinda looking forward to that, right now being with 2 LO's and taking care of the house is like working 2 jobs!
And I can keep the house clean all day but two minutes after they get home from school, there are papers, notes, snack bags all over my kitchen.
BINGO lolol. For 7 hours my house is clean. No lie, the first second they are in the house the bags, shoes and jackets are down on the floor. The snacks are all over the place, water bottles. Just a mess.
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Serendipity
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SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
I wanted to add as well, when I was fully a stay at home mom, my husband still worked ridiculous hours (I'm talking 5-6 days a week leaving at 530 and getting home 10) and at the time I didn't have family right near me. I had a newborn and a 6 year old. Believe me it was tough.... Still not the working stress tho.
Perfect example- today... My now 7 year old woke up sick. I have something big going on at work, and so does my DH.... So at 530 am we are having the "who's job is more impt" discussion. Who will call out , work from home etc. that's the stress I hate. It's very hard! ESP with demanding jobs. If I was HOME then it would be a no brainier
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| Posted 1/21/16 10:42 AM |
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luvmykids8
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
I am a FTWM who is currently on maternity leave and let me tell you staying home is HARD. I give a lot of credit to those SAHMs! Working is tough don't get me wrong...but FOR ME, staying home is harder.
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| Posted 1/21/16 10:58 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
Posted by luvmykids8
I am a FTWM who is currently on maternity leave and let me tell you staying home is HARD. I give a lot of credit to those SAHMs! Working is tough don't get me wrong...but FOR ME, staying home is harder.
I remember the 8 weeks I was home were horrific..
I cried daily.
I felt like a bottle making, bottle washing, diaper changing, machine. I missed work, I missed my friends, I missed adult interaction and getting up and having to get dressed and pretty.
I could very easily have slipped into a depression if I had stayed home much longer.
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| Posted 1/21/16 11:03 AM |
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luvmykids8
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by luvmykids8
I am a FTWM who is currently on maternity leave and let me tell you staying home is HARD. I give a lot of credit to those SAHMs! Working is tough don't get me wrong...but FOR ME, staying home is harder.
I remember the 8 weeks I was home were horrific..
I cried daily.
I felt like a bottle making, bottle washing, diaper changing, machine. I missed work, I missed my friends, I missed adult interaction and getting up and having to get dressed and pretty.
I could very easily have slipped into a depression if I had stayed home much longer.
Yes! This is how I feel!
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Posted by luvmykids8
I am a FTWM who is currently on maternity leave and let me tell you staying home is HARD. I give a lot of credit to those SAHMs! Working is tough don't get me wrong...but FOR ME, staying home is harder.
Yes, staying home with small children IS hard. Once they get older and are out of the house for 7 or more hours, it is much easier.
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by luvmykids8
I am a FTWM who is currently on maternity leave and let me tell you staying home is HARD. I give a lot of credit to those SAHMs! Working is tough don't get me wrong...but FOR ME, staying home is harder.
I remember the 8 weeks I was home were horrific..
I cried daily.
I felt like a bottle making, bottle washing, diaper changing, machine. I missed work, I missed my friends, I missed adult interaction and getting up and having to get dressed and pretty.
I could very easily have slipped into a depression if I had stayed home much longer.
Me too!!!!!!!!!!
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Bridex100
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
Posted by NervousNell
I still can't believe how much some people clean.
That is my only take away from this whole, 4 page thread!
I'm a relatively new SAHM.
I hate cleaning. We still have housecleaners come every other week. I do feel like I do laundry like everyday. It is never fully folded though. lol
I don't think I will be home forever. We live outside of DC and we had a snow day today. We also had a 4 day weekend this past weekend for MLK. I was able to spend time with the boys with no stress of scrambling for coverage.
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drpepper318
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
Posted by NervousNell
I still can't believe how much some people clean.
That is my only take away from this whole, 4 page thread!
I'm always amazed by how much people clean!
I think I must be a total slob!!
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
Posted by Serendipity
Perfect example- today... My now 7 year old woke up sick. I have something big going on at work, and so does my DH.... So at 530 am we are having the "who's job is more impt" discussion. Who will call out , work from home etc. that's the stress I hate. It's very hard! ESP with demanding jobs. If I was HOME then it would be a no brainier
This stress alone, makes me want to quit working on those days.
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NervousNell
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
Posted by drpepper318
Posted by NervousNell
I still can't believe how much some people clean.
That is my only take away from this whole, 4 page thread!
I'm always amazed by how much people clean!
I think I must be a total slob!!
I'm like, no wonder you're so stressed and exhausted, all you do is clean on top of EVERYTHING else involved in raising kids.
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
I just read this and thought of this post...Blog
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
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I just read this and thought of this post...Blog
Amazing!!! Thank u for sharing!
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
Posted by afternoondelight828
Which part do you think is hard? Just asking as the hardest part so far for me is when they all come home and mess up my house and are loud and fighting lol.
Not sure why they would be happy for the weekend either except maybe being able to sleep in and not having to deal with homework (if they still do that with their kids as mine are older and I don't have to deal with that anymore).
I love when Friday rolls around too and I'm a SAHM. I love NOT rushing around in the mornings and getting my DD on the bus, I love not having to do HW with her, I love having my DH home and being able to spend time together as a family, and I love the break from the routines and running around like a lunatic all week taking my kids to their activities. Whether you work or not, we ALL love the weekend!!
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Hofstra26
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I never understand these threads because it always turns into a competition between who works harder, who has more stress, who has it easier. My two cents..............who cares???!! What does it matter to anyone what someone else's choices are? It's hard to be a working mom and it's also hard being a SAHM...........they might be hard in different ways but one doesn't trump the other. Nobody knows what it's like to be in someone else's shoes and nobody should have to feel like they need to justify how they spend their time throughout the day whether you're home with your kids or at work. We all make our choices, we all have our responsibilities, and we are all doing what we need to for our families. Just sayin'.
ETA - And I agree with everything MarissaK said too. Everyone's priorities are different as well which obviously has a direct impact on how your day is structured and how busy you are whether at work or home.
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Posted by Hofstra26
I never understand these threads because it always turns into a competition between who works harder, who has more stress, who has it easier. My two cents..............who cares???!! What does it matter to anyone what someone else's choices are? It's hard to be a working mom and it's also hard being a SAHM...........they might be hard in different ways but one doesn't trump the other. Nobody knows what it's like to be in someone else's shoes and nobody should have to feel like they need to justify how they spend their time throughout the day whether you're home with your kids or at work. We all make our choices, we all have our responsibilities, and we are all doing what we need to for our families. Just sayin'.
ETA - And I agree with everything MarissaK said too. Everyone's priorities are different as well which obviously has a direct impact on how your day is structured and how busy you are whether at work or home.
I agree. It's interesting to hear both sides though as long as it doesn't turn into a pissing contest
All I kept thinking was, sahm or working mom - everyone has been either abandoning kids or work by participating so much in this thread (me included!)
On a side note... As far as work, chores, errands, gym time , whatever - whether you work or not, we all manage to make time for what we *want* to make time for, if that makes sense. I sometimes neglect one thing to deal with another. Just not enough hours in the day!
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
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Posted by Hofstra26
I never understand these threads because it always turns into a competition between who works harder, who has more stress, who has it easier. My two cents..............who cares???!! What does it matter to anyone what someone else's choices are? It's hard to be a working mom and it's also hard being a SAHM...........they might be hard in different ways but one doesn't trump the other. Nobody knows what it's like to be in someone else's shoes and nobody should have to feel like they need to justify how they spend their time throughout the day whether you're home with your kids or at work. We all make our choices, we all have our responsibilities, and we are all doing what we need to for our families. Just sayin'.
ETA - And I agree with everything MarissaK said too. Everyone's priorities are different as well which obviously has a direct impact on how your day is structured and how busy you are whether at work or home.
I agree. It's interesting to hear both sides though as long as it doesn't turn into a pissing contest
All I kept thinking was, sahm or working mom - everyone has been either abandoning kids or work by participating so much in this thread (me included!)
On a side note... As far as work, chores, errands, gym time , whatever - whether you work or not, we all manage to make time for what we *want* to make time for, if that makes sense. I sometimes neglect one thing to deal with another. Just not enough hours in the day!
For sure!!!.............I always say I can use an extra day in my week and WAY more hours in my day. lol There never seems to be enough time to get everything done!!!
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
Posted by Hofstra26
I never understand these threads because it always turns into a competition between who works harder, who has more stress, who has it easier. My two cents..............who cares???!! What does it matter to anyone what someone else's choices are? It's hard to be a working mom and it's also hard being a SAHM...........they might be hard in different ways but one doesn't trump the other. Nobody knows what it's like to be in someone else's shoes and nobody should have to feel like they need to justify how they spend their time throughout the day whether you're home with your kids or at work. We all make our choices, we all have our responsibilities, and we are all doing what we need to for our families. Just sayin'.
ETA - And I agree with everything MarissaK said too. Everyone's priorities are different as well which obviously has a direct impact on how your day is structured and how busy you are whether at work or home.
I don't mind these questions if they are just out of pure vanilla curiosity. What I don't like is when people comment in such a way that's insulting, or my way is the right way. Not sure why OP posted , she is returning to work anyway so it doesn't really matter what other people do.
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Re: SAHM's with Kids in Full time School
Posted by justbeachy
Posted by afternoondelight828
I have been home and I have to tell you, I don't get what people complain about being home when the kids are in school full time.
I can definetely see when the kids are younger and you are constantly taking care of them.
You don't need to deep clean everyday, once you organize, that is not something you do everyday, it just becomes maintenance.
Cooking, yes, you can do that but who is cooking for 7 hours? lol
How about we quit with the subtle shaming of other women's life choices?
And before you respond- go back and re-read your post.
"I don't get what people complain about..."
"You don't need to..."
"Who is cooking for..."
"Lol"
It really bothers me when women make other women feel insignificant - and you managed to do that with your tone. Maybe it wasn't your intention, but it came across as incredibly insensitive (and I don't consider myself to be a sensitive person).
Very much agree with this. It comes off as rude. She also has to go back to work , so what is the purpose of these type of comments?
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